 Hello everyone, welcome to another NARC's Viva Live video, just out here at the park today. Thank you all for joining me, thank you all for your support and yeah, many of you may be watching this because they seem to have slipped away, you're wondering what's going on, you're not hearing from them anymore, they're not responding to your texts, they're not answering your phone calls and you want to know why, you want closure, you want an explanation and that is perfectly understandable after everything you've been through with them, the trauma bonds, you want to know what's going on, you want answers and that is why I have decided to create this video to help you to get those answers that you're looking for, so I just like to thank you all for tuning in today, I appreciate your support and yeah this is it, if you want the narcissist to come back all you have to do is this, take your attention off of them, stop focusing on them so much because that's what you're doing, you're waiting for a response, you're waiting for them to contact you, you're hoping that they're going to come back and make everything alright, that they're going to give you the answers that you're looking for and you really need to give those answers to yourself because you already know the truth about what happens so you just need to remind yourself of everything that you went through and then after you've done that you need to put the focus back on yourself and your own life, the things that you like, the things that you are passionate about, the things that you were interested in and when you do that they will sense that your energy is slipping away from them because you have to remember they are predators, they're always looking to see where your attention is and they want your attention to be on them, they want to be the most significant important and relevant thing in your life and when you don't let them to hold that position anymore they will immediately sense it just like as they say a shark smells blood although I don't know if that is completely true I'm not sure if sharks actually can smell blood if you do know about that you can let me know down in the comment section I'd love to know more about it but yeah with these narcissists it is really like they can smell your blood they can smell that vulnerability they know when you want them to come back yeah they know exactly when you want them to come back they know that they know when you're bored they know when you're lonely and that's is when they will deliberately hold you out they will make you wait because that's their way of punishing you and you may be thinking punishing me for what but that's the thing you never know what you've done wrong because they are very sensitive you may have just said or done something and they didn't like it and then now they're holding you out but that's the thing you have to stop looking for answers that is the mistake that a lot of you make you're constantly looking for answers you're looking for an explanation you're trying to figure out why things don't make any sense when really you should just see it as though just accept it just tell yourself okay things don't make any sense and I'm okay with that and you shouldn't expect them to make any sense because you're not dealing with a logical sane sensible person and it's as simple as that because when you have that mindset it will make it that much easier for you to move on because that's really what you need to do you shouldn't be waiting for their texts their phone calls or some message on social media whatever it is you shouldn't be waiting for that you should be as my advice putting the focus back in yourself with your own life for a start and not only that you need to continue doing that not just because you want them to come back because you want answers whatever it is but because you know that it's better for you to do that it's a much healthier option for you to focus on yourself because I know many of you I hope all of you are logical sane sensible people and yeah so it's better for you to put your energy there rather than directing it towards someone who's not making any logical sense I mean sometimes we just have to tell it like it is I mean you know I've put out so many videos but that's just really how it is that just don't make any sense you know a lot of them are borderline crazy like they are on the edge of insanity and that's why so many of you are racking your brains you're trying to figure out what the hell is going on and it's not gonna make any sense to you because you're trying to understand it from a logical sane sense of mind when it was created by someone who's not coming from that same mindset and that is all you really need to know so stop trying to figure things out stop trying to figure out what went wrong don't worry about it just keep your head up and move on because that's the thing when they see that they got you you're confused and you're trying to understand then they're just gonna throw even more at you and then that's just gonna confuse you even more so that's why at some point you just have to pull your energy away from it you got to put it back in yourself your own life you got to realize how valuable and important that is because for some strange reason you're making them more important than you and of course I know that's all part of the manipulation but you know at some point you have to take responsibility for that as well so do keep that in mind yeah but I do know that this is a question that a lot of you have so I wanted to put that out there because I know a lot of you think about it and you're looking for answers and that really is the one thing that you can do if you do want them to come back as I said before you know that's not something that I advise I mean if you really believe that you are dealing with a narcissist you shouldn't want to come back of course as an empathetic person I can understand I know you want answers you want an explanation I get that back is your reason for what I'm back so that's why I decided to create this video as I said if you want them back you've got to put the focus back in your own life and then they will sense that the energy is slipping away and then they may come back but even if they do you shouldn't let them back in after how they treat you we need to find that respect for yourself when you respect yourself you won't let anyone disrespect you just a quick video today for a nice walk this park get back to the car now so yeah that's all you really got to do if you want them to come back take your attention off of them you've been focusing on them for too long if you worry about them wondering where they are who they're with what they're doing just got to forget about that for now worry about what you're doing is when you do that they will come back anyway as I said you shouldn't want them back should move on focus on yourself your own life it's more important it's more valuable you have to you have to see it as an investment everything in life but it comes down to it it's all just investments where are you investing your time your energy your effort are you investing it in things that are gonna give you a payout or are you are are you investing it in a selfish narcissist who doesn't give a shit about you because if you're doing that you're not gonna get a return you're gonna feel disappointed you're gonna feel like you lost something you're gonna feel like you gave everything out and got nothing back it's much better for you to invest your time energy and effort into yourself because at least then you're gonna get a return you're not gonna be left feeling disappointed because that's the worst part that disappointment where you're hoping you're gonna get something back but you don't get anything all that happens is you lose everything you've got you waste your time and that time could have been spent on something better something that would have been good for you so think about that keep that in mind that is my message for today and I do 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