 Hello everyone, welcome to another NARC's Fiver life video and for the first time in a while, it is the second one in one day so Yeah, I'm happy to jump on here and do another one Talking about what happens to the narcissist Once you moved on Of course it is very interesting Because a lot of you you don't actually know what is going on with them once you've left them behind But yeah, as you can probably see I am On this swing right now Just being enjoying my evening relaxing. I'm in a good time and To shame you can't be here with me right now. We could stand together Yeah, this happens to the narcissist once you've moved on Be talking about in this video Because I'm sure many of you you may have loved of their social media Maybe you saw their Facebook their Twitter their Instagram Maybe they tick tock they have one of those and Yeah They're like they're just riding off to the sunset Having a great time without you and living their best lives Doing all of these fun things together without you Keywords without you and Yeah, it looks like they're having a good time But if you look closely It's not what it seems Because there are things going on underneath the brain now Things that you may not be fully aware of but if you pay close attention to it You will see that Something is not right. You kind of need to be trained you'd have experience in recognizing these signs and You know, I think dr. Barmanee said it best in one of the videos You don't know dr. Barmanee is a lecturer at the I say a university in LA. I'm not sure the exact use the LA And she's also a clinical psychologist. She said that on Social media profiles such as Instagram When you see people's posts their pictures and videos their relationships The more perfect it looks the more toxic it probably is in reality And to be honest, I don't think I could have said it better myself. That is very true And it's the same thing with the narcissist that you were dealing with You go in there Instagram Facebook Twitter, whatever it is and it looks like they're living their best lives You don't really see what is going on behind the scenes You don't see all the arguments the fights. You don't see any of that What you do see is what they want you to see What they are trying to display to you And of course they want to make it look good. They want to make it look like they're happy without you Because they want to punish you. They want to hurt you because they look at it like you Didn't want them you eject them Some of you you did that unknowingly You thought that they discarded you but nine times out of ten. It is actually the victim who initiates the discard And you do that by your attention away from them You're not interested in them as much as you were before And the reason for that is probably because you were being manipulated and abused be deceived And you caught on maybe you started questioning and confronting them Well, maybe you didn't do any of that, but they could just sense that your energy had shifted They knew that you Didn't really want to be around them anymore. They went that appealing to you as they used to be Of course that does hurt the narcissist very much. They are very sensitive to rejection. So yeah Of course they want to jump on Instagram Take it on Twitter whatever it is and show you Are you made a big mistake? They want to make you feel regret now. Do I make you feel small? So that they could look down at you Feel like they're powerful. There's something significant better than you. They got the last laugh final words Yeah, that's what they wanted to think But the reality is Although it may look like they're riding off into the sunset with this new person the truth is that It is just Get another scheme another deception And you've only got a look back at how they did that to you many times They love bomb to you in the beginning. They idealized you they put you on a pedestal They told you whatever they thought you wanted to cure They showed you whatever they thought they want that you wanted to see and in the beginning You were deceived and you thought you were having a good time with them, but it wasn't even real It was fake By now you should be aware of that Should be pretty clear to you by now Because of course as I've said before if it wasn't fake Where are they now? If they really cared about you, why could they leave you? Why did they discard you? You need to remember that Because it's how you will know that If they didn't really care about you, how can they move on and care about someone else? They had all of that time to show you how much you truly meant to them, but they failed to do that Instead they abused you they put me down they insulted you they did all of these things to you And the reason why they did that is because they lack empathy And that's not something that they're just suddenly going to learn now. It's too late You can only learn that earlier in life so yeah, they're not just gonna move on and Be happy with someone else. It's not gonna work out that way for them. Although that is what they want you to think and believe Yes, they want you to think that they've moved on and they're so much happier without you and Something was wrong with you. You were the problem Yes, they want you to think that and the reason why they want you to think that is because it supports their false narrative It supports the illusion Then they can exist in this fantasy bubble where everything is Perfect at least for a moment because it's fueled by you Well fueling the illusion by sending your energy to it Which is why you will already notice that if you do pull back and all you have to do is It doesn't even require a physical action All you have to do is pull back your energy focus on something else And you will start to see About these posts begin to fade away Now suddenly they're not posting so much on Instagram Twitter or Facebook They've stopped doing that and you haven't even Contacted them message them You haven't Did anything like that? all you've done is Take your energy back and since narcissists they are predators. They can instantly sense it And now that energy of yours is no longer fueling the illusion So they have no incentive or motivation to continue with that because the whole Basis the foundation of Next relationship it's fueled by you You are fueling the illusion of love and passion You take that away and they've got nothing because they lack empathy So they can't even simulate the Love connection or intimacy without that They need to have someone Who's got what you've got? And what you've got is empathy about empathy is what fuels the false narrative the illusion That's why it's so important for you To always care about something that they're doing Why? Why is it so important for you to do that? Of course the reason why it is because it fuels the illusion So you should already know that right now Of course once you take away your empathy take away your Your care then the illusion begins to fall apart Well, at least it would but then they will start very angry and then they may even come after you because that energy But life force that you have is very powerful and it is so powerful that it is keeping a lot of fake people together And on good terms with each other And that may be not only the Nazis, but they're flying monkeys and enablers that other sources of supply They are bonding over your destruction and you are fueling it With your energy and your empathy with your love and also with whatever negative emotions you may have that they are inflicting on you I don't know some of you you may feel Envious jealous guilty May feels desire to have them back Which is why it is so important that I put out this video Because I can tell you that there is nothing For you to be envious or jealous of There is nothing for you to feel guilty about Maybe that you didn't leave earlier there is nothing you to desire from the narcissist Because it is all an illusion What you are seeing on their social media profiles it is fake And you should know that it is fake Because remember you are with them They didn't care about you You could tell that they liked empathy that is how you found my videos So yeah, when you become aware of that it makes it so much easier for you to move on What people are saying Thank you, Melissa. I'm glad to hear that I'm glad to hear that I am helping you SKK Corey Says called my narcissist out Told him what you was and what you did and I figured him out Game over I'm still healing not an easy thing Yeah, I mean I I don't personally recommend calling them out Because you have to remember they are narcissists. They can't self-reflect So the last thing they're gonna do is take accountability for their actions if anything they're just gonna get mad at you calling them out So it's not really gonna solve anything anyway Which is why it is better just to keep it to yourself, but of course I can't understand I mean For some things that you just want to get off your chest. Of course I get that I do Lana from Serbia journalist I'm glad you like the view and I wish you could be here, too And rink. No, I'm not in Dubai. I Was actually planning to go to Dubai a couple of years back, but because of the COVID I Couldn't get there But maybe in time. I will go to Dubai as well. I Can't tell you exactly where I am right now. That is confidential information, but I can confirm that I am somewhere in Asia If that helps SKK yes He or she says I love the empathy in my soul. I can hurt bad at times Yeah, that's so true. I can completely understand that I mean, of course there's someone who is an empath Someone who has very strong empathy. I Can say that sometimes it really does get to me Certain things really hurt me especially anything to do with animals or children and Yeah, I can hurt sometimes it can but then at the same time I'd rather that then If I had no feelings like a robot Like a narcissist, but they just don't feel anything. I can't imagine anything worse than that I can't even imagine what would be my Motivation for even existing without these feelings So I am glad that I'm an empath and I'm very proud of that and I do of course use my empathic abilities to help us many people as I can Because that is really my mission in life. So I Hope that encourages you to Continue strengthening your empathy and sharing it with the world Because there are plenty of people out there who do deserve it Can't receive it and we'll welcome it for me They'll even reciprocate some back to you and rank. Yes, that is so true being embodied It's true freedom It really is I mean it's good at the same time You know to care Of course you should care you should have empathy for Family your children people who mean the most to you people who care about you As I've said before Someone has shown you that they don't care about you You need to match their feelings for you That's what you need to do Because otherwise they will have power over you And most likely they will misuse that power and they will use it to hurt you so of course at times It is best to just remain unbothered To not give a shit Sometimes that is the best thing to do And it is for your safety and Protection at times for you to do that If you hear my cat in the background My room is actually just Think it allowed noise. I think she can hear my voice actually wasn't part of the plan for the video. I didn't Anticipate this happening. I think she's going quite now. I just don't like it sometimes. I know what I hear my cat Now in in the background. I don't know what it is I think she's just maybe she's scared because I'm outside the room She thinks I've forgotten about here or something. I don't know who knows what it is But I always have to run when we get back onto the topic You know, I understand many of you when you move on You're an empath you will experience regrets You'll feel like you're missing something lost something. That's just how it is sometimes, you know when you know yourself You know your abilities You value yourself Sometimes you just want to see the best in other people Even us, I see the people that abused you Of course I've been in myself Of course, I look back some times and I Wonder and I think maybe did I make the wrong decision? You need to have confidence in the moves that you make in life You need to look back or remember that at the time For whatever reason you justified that decision you did You felt like it was the right thing for you to do So there's no point looking back and regretting it now And if you know that you were worth a narcissistic individual They were never going to care about you They were never going to give you that love that you wanted from them They were never going to give you that so when you see that they have moved on And I don't know if you see it on social media Maybe you've seen them in person with someone else and I get it at first that might hurt You may feel like Now they've got something that you haven't got Something that you wanted a little long It's like they refuse to give it to you and I was certainly you see them and it's like Do it everything that you wanted someone else Of course, I can understand I also understand at this point Yes It is nothing more than an illusion there is no possible way that it is real that's completely impossible and For me to compare that to you right now We never have to be approved Pretty easy for me to do that at this point my viewers experience research And it's quite simple as the fact that I think you already know You've seen them You've looked at their social media These posts They're intended to hurt you and why would someone go out of their way to try and hurt you They're truly happy if they've really moved on Have a think about that because you know within yourself that when you're happy You don't wish anything bad on anyone when you've really moved on When you've got something good going on in your life Isn't that the truth? Because I know that's exactly how I feel When I'm living my best life every day of my life The last thing I want to see is anyone hurts Whenever I put up my videos my posts on Instagram That's intended to motivate and inspire people that's meant to make things better for people I'm not trying to hurt anyone I'm not trying to make anyone envious or jealous with anything that I do in my life Because I can honestly say that at this point in despite everything that I've been through I Would say that I am genuinely happy with myself And I'm confident in myself and that doesn't mean that everything's perfect all of the time Like you might see on These Instagram stories no, of course not my life is not like some fairy tale Magical story no, of course there are ups and downs Most of the time I do feel like I'm living my best life I feel really happy really inspired and motivated to Make these videos for travel And I'm not just coming on here to say that to brag or to boast It's not about that I'm saying it because it can happen to you too And not only that but it should help to recognize that these narcissists are full of shit It's when you're really happy Really living your life and having a good time Don't feel any need or desire to hurt anyone That is the truth that is a Psychological fact hurt people hurt people The narcissist is acting like they've moved on but at the same time they're trying to hurt you The reason for that Is because they're hurts You can only get people what you've got You can only share with people the feelings that you have inside And Yeah, they're giving you what they've got They can't just give you something else They haven't got it So that's what we're getting upon them Getting them pain, their hurts, their misery Quite possibly Even when they're trying to triangulate you It's their jealousy of you Because they see you as an object, as a possession As something that's meant to belong to them So they feel like you're taking something away from them Because you're constantly doing things that are outside of their control And Rink, yes, that's very true What you've said there A healthy and secure person Does not put up with the Nazi BS Let alone get involved for years Or form a family with them That is very true That is When you heal yourself And you become happier Emotionally Develop Emotional control discipline Then you won't want to get involved You won't want to be involved with any narcissist Any people who appear to be self-absorbed Will lack an empathy You won't want to be involved with people like that anymore And As you've said there, you may be shocked yourself To see that they are trying to form a family And that is really the craziest thing When you see that the narcissist Is trying to move on to someone else They're trying to start a family Maybe they got married And it just seems crazy to you Because you know After everything you went through with them There's no way that they can move on and do that It's never going to be successful Because they're missing that key ingredient, the empathy They don't care about anyone but themselves So yeah, what you've said there makes perfect sense It's very true Again, I'm not going to stay too long on here I think Marla is waiting for me inside the room She knows I'm out here But that suggests we turn to the view for a moment We do love this view here It was the first thing I saw When I first came in, knockout sadly I am sitting Of course I move around so much I do so many things But I do lose track very easily When I look back through the Pictures and videos Of my phone It constantly reminds me that Wow, I have made some Amazing memories Of course I've got pictures in my mind as well That I will never forget So many amazing places So many amazing people That's what life is about It's about exploring Connecting with people But that's why I just love getting on here Connecting with all of you Sharing this information Sharing my experience And I can quite honestly say that there is nothing That makes me happier than that It means the world to me To do this and be there To know that I am making a difference in people's lives But yeah, that's it for today Do hope that you have enjoyed This play video And think it was helpful for you Please do give it a thumbs up Down below That will help the YouTube algorithm And it helps to support our community Let me know your thoughts Down below in the comments below I will be checking the comments When I wake up in the morning And share the video if you can On your social media Maybe you have some friends or family And then if you've seen it And if you would like to speak to me one on one I am available to you You can book a session on my website Which is Narksbiker.com And there is also my Instagram It's Narks I'll be doing for Instagram I've got a few pictures and videos Every day on there A video that I recently posted I think it's got 600,000 views now It's my old video So there's a lot of 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