 When the narcissist regrets losing you Regrets is feelings of sadness remorse and disappointment Over something that one has done or failed to do narcissist do experience emotional pain But not in the same way as other people The emotional pain a narcissist feels is usually related to underlying selfish needs It's when they feel empty powerless and shameful But they will display it to you as though they regret their actions and decisions As though they feel bad for you Always though they want to make things right When really They're just trying to assert their control over you They're extracting fuel and they're maintaining their deceptive outward appearance Which is why you may often see their crocodile tears You may see their insincere expressions of sorrow But it isn't real It's just something they choose to display to you Narcissist cannot feel sadness for other people So they cannot feel regret They cannot feel remorse Because in their minds they never do anything wrong It's always someone else's fault Because if they really believe that they were deserving of blame And that they were required to justify their actions or decisions That would affect their ability to control and Their ability to control is one of the most important things to a narcissist Which is why they don't reflect upon their own behavior They don't understand or share your feelings and they don't admit what they've done or what they feel to do They're never going to reach the verge or brink of doing that They're never going to reach that critical or decisive moment It's just not going to happen for them They're never going to feel or express and see a regret or remorse about their wrongdoing Because they don't think they've done anything wrong But they know how to put on the show They know how to pretend They know how to lie to you They can give you a fake apology They can tell you that they're going to change But it's not genuine So it doesn't last long Because they lack the ability to understand and share your feelings It's just a manipulation tactic It's just something they're using to control you To use you to their own advantage The narcissist may act like they're disappointed with themselves They may act as though they're disappointed With something that they have done or something that they fail to do But that is not possible Because it would affect their ability to control They can be disappointed in other people If they believe that other people fail to do something that needed to be done But they cannot be disappointed in themselves They just see it as though it's your fault, it's your problem You caused it to happen Even if it was their decision Because they believe that you caused them to do it They will only be disappointed in other people They will never be disappointed in themselves Despite what they may say They're just saying that to make you feel bad Or to get you to feel pity for them as fortune There will never be any genuine acceptance from a narcissist There will never be any disappointment They cannot settle things that way They cannot pursue that particular course of action Instead They will shift the blame onto you Because they never feel any regret They never feel any sadness for other people Because if they did They would be holding themselves back They would be making it difficult for themselves to achieve something They would be hindering their own progress It would affect their ability to control And they always need to have that control It would also affect their ability to gain fuel And they need to have fuel But they can imitate sadness They can imitate regret Because they've seen other people Authentically experience these emotions So they can give you the impression of it And they can tell you that they feel regret But if you believe it You're just being manipulated again Because the narcissist Will never regret anything Thank you for watching I hope this video resonate with you Please like, comment, share, and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching queries You can email me at coaching.narc-survivor.co.uk Thank you for watching