 I hope everyone is ready for another episode of Hashtag El-Anti. You guys know what number episode it is? If you've been following up, then it's episode 18 of this very special show, Ramadan special show coming to you live from the Holy City of Karbala, of course, myself, Ahmed Ali. Now tonight's episode is very special. If you have a high temper problem, then tonight's episode is right for you because I'm going to give you some tips for the night. So what you guys have to do is wait a little bit to go see what's trending and we'll be back. For me, I'm calm right now, but I don't know what's going to happen in five minutes. But let's go check out what's trending and come back very shortly for this stage. Once again, welcome everyone for joining us tonight. Now once again, I do welcome you to another episode of this special show. Now you already know we are the coming live from the Holy City of Karbala. Now there are new promising news that research scientists are able to find out in early stages if a person has cancer or not through new biopsy tests which are available out there. Now ten cases were revealed that early stages of cancer and it's very easy for people to get treated. One great idea is always go do get checked especially if a person within your family got forbid has cancer. So do go and check within your clinics, your hospitals and stuff. Very important for you guys and as everyone knows getting detected early stages is better than later stages because it's very hard to get treated. Now another topic or another what's trending which is unfortunate, E. coli is back in the States, killed five and 197 right now are struck with this disease and it's unfortunate that it came back but in Arizona the guy five people died and it's unfortunate as I mentioned but let's hope the cure is, so the reason behind this is because of romaine lettuce I'm not going to say why because if you know the agriculture and how lettuce is grown you probably know why E. coli is back but let's go and jump in and see if I'm going to be angry tonight or not so let's go and do that. Now as we all know humans and animals go through mood changes I mean if you don't treat your dogs and your cats well they're going to be upset so give them those treats. Humans on the other hand when they accidentally drop their phones in water or when they're about to hit a car coming high speed in their way just like what happened to our co-producer Ali Jassim you know he drops in Nahr El-Hassaniye with his phone the Huawei the phone is dead now he's angry he's pissed but you know the guy he's he's he's cool tempered so he didn't get angry but when humans do get angry they tend to start swearing a lot whatever is near them they throw it out of anger and sometimes they end up beating up their friends or the person that made them up angry but sometimes and majority of the times a lot of people regret what they've done after a while which is it's it's it's very common to see that a lot of people say some random stuff and then they regret it after on the other hand a lot of people say that when I do get angry and I express my anger it relieves it because keeping it inside is sometimes it may it might be dangerous because it might kill some brain cells now anger is a problem that a lot of people a lot of people in this world face and tonight we're trying to talk about something very important we're trying to talk about how do you manage your anger not your question for tonight how can you manage your anger now if you have special tips that you use appropriate tips of course you can let us know at plus nine six four seven seven four zero six seven eighteen thirty six everyone that participates through the WhatsApp of course or free free that there's no charge call via WhatsApp voice message text message everyone that does that their names will place in this fishbowl right here for a chance to win a free trip to Karbala we're also live on Facebook so do go on Facebook at Imam Hussain 3 TV check us out there give that thumbs up comment all the people that comments answering tonight's question not Salam Ya Hussain answering tonight's question their names will be placed in this fishbowl for a chance to win a free trip to Karbala exclusive on our house along with other giveaways hopefully in tomorrow's episode we'll have those we'll have those gift giveaways and giveaways on this desk right here to show you guys but let's go take a break and come back to talk more about how you can control your anger welcome back give yours now before the break I was just talking a little bit about how you can manage your anger and a lot of people use the excuse that might relieve them when they do express their anger now we do remind everyone to call in and participate in tonight's episode and let us know how you manage your anger and what tips you use to manage your anger number shown at the bottom call us text us send us a voice message all that good stuff but anger it's a normal emotion it's not something that a person you know only specific people go through it no no no everyone has faced this problem once or twice or 50 or million times within their lives the people that mostly get angry and I don't know is it safe to say the married ones sometimes do get more angry than than the than the single ones because of the children the stress and then the response to be done so we'll get to talk about that later on but it's it's it's a normal emotion that a person goes through but what's important is to deal with it in a positive way where because as I mentioned earlier a lot of people when they do say something it's it's impulsive it's not it might not be themselves and sometimes an action might lead to you know certain things so we have to always look at some tips that's why we have for you guys 10 tips today how to manage your anger number one is think before you speak and that's very important thinking before you speak is one of the tips that you know I need and everyone needs because sometimes I do get angry and so right there it's it's it's basically what what you what you need so think before you speak if it's true so T as in is it true H is it helpful I is it inspiring and is it necessary K is it kind if you don't know how to read I just read that out for you guys I don't know why but you know I just like to be nice to guys but yeah so and a wise person once said I wish that my neck was as long as a camel's so I would think twice before saying something if you think or if you know who that wise person is very very very famous person and very high-respected person do comment and let us know who you think that person is because you know a lot of people did just just to quit a lot of people say why not as long as a giraffe's neck it's longer no no giraffes don't have voice camels have voice this person is the wisest person has ever seen but this brings us to the other tip once you're calm express your anger so what do I mean by that you know you're expressing your anger and then you're calm at the same time yes when you're calm you're able to think more you're able to solve problems you know in a safer way you're able to think better in a situation a tough situation especially if it's family related if it's you know friends related and so on and so forth this brings us to the third tip which is do some exercise when you're angry just run out of the house just jog out of the house or you know just keep like a jump rope in your pocket just in case you get angry and start skipping some rope do some jumping jacks and you know run like this guy run out of the house no I'm kidding but do some exercise because honestly and this is very important and very effective as well exercise really helps the person relax and changes the mood a lot but but but three times we just have received a text message from Sarah D from India anger is a normal emotion however it can get you in trouble if you can't keep it under control well for me the best way is breathing out as per religion terms evolution okay breathing out a balloon okay terms evolution is the best way to deal with anger okay so she means will look okay so she she she means will look so she does evolution religious will look before prayer that also if it works for you that's beautiful if it does work for you everyone else if you're angry go try that if it doesn't work try something else we'll get to find out what but but yeah sorry forgot to write your name Sarah Sarah D okay thank you very much Sarah for joining us tonight from India your name will place in the fishbowl first name for today now we were just talking about running away not running away from how from home but just taking just doing exercise when when you're angry or according to Sarah go do a little because it might help for you guys but another tip take a timeout you know don't think if you take a timeout you're a kid now no no no taking a timeout is something good you know you're you're when you're angry sometimes you get like a kid you become like a kid you start whining over stuff so do take that time out especially if you're going through a rough day you know the when a person goes through a rough day especially in a mawan people's tempers are out of the roof you know any small thing can get on a Muslim fasting on on their nerves so what you need to do is breathe in inhale from your nostrils exhale from your mouth so join me as you want to only inhales a shim as the the producer just said but we just received an audio message from how rough I'm camera what is how I say I think anger is a very strong emotion it is an emotion very hard to control or manage I think one of the ways to manage anger is through saying Allah Muhammad or Muhammad or just kind of calming yourself down and understanding the situation you're in and is anger really gonna help you solve that problem I think that when you're in a problem and then you get angered it will only make matters worse so I think just being calm during frustrating situations and understanding the situation is one of the steps into managing your anger thank you thank you very much Hawra and if that works for you as well that's beautiful saying Salat Muhammad or Muhammad so let's all say Salat Allah Muhammad or Muhammad Hasan Mustafa everyone join me Allah Muhammad Ali Muhammad but Hawra to my right yeah I know that I can see but yeah Hawra Hawra from Canada your name is going into the fishbowl all right thank you very much for joining us tonight now a so another tip from Hawra we got is saying Salawat Allah Muhammad or Muhammad when you're angry and trying to solve the solution when you're calm instead of when you're angry and your actions are all impulsive you just want to fight back you just want to prove your anger improve your emotions so do stay calm now another tip is identify problem solutions so if a person is irritating you which sometimes a lot happens to me people sometimes irritate me in certain things you know especially well I don't want to go there but if someone bothers you or he or she try to ignore them go somewhere else where they're not there don't look at them if they have to be there if you're in a car don't just like parking in the middle of the road and just go to the car no no just ignore them that's very important as well and there's an Arabic saying specifically that says the air close the door from which the wind blows and relax so what means is that if there's a headache coming your way from a certain person ignore them ignore that person you don't have to you know continue on being there and listening to what they have to say not some point as well now another tip tip number six stick with the I statement and this is very important as well always try to calm yourself down by maybe saying to yourself sometimes maybe I was the person that caused that problem maybe I was the reason so keeping that in mind and thinking about going back to possible solutions thinking about different solutions might calm you down and it's a high chance that it will tip number seven don't hold grudges towards anyone and this is very important as well you know it's mentioned in the Bible it's mentioned the Torah it's mentioned in the Quran that a person who forgives he's actually doing a trait that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has the all forgiving so when you do when you forgive that's number one it's relieving your stress because you know that if you and there's a hadith for that as well by Mumsada who says whoever forgives Allah forgives his sins so do forgive when someone angers you do forgive it's it's something very very nice we just really we just received another text message from Ali Caldome from the United States he says for anger what works on me is reading salawat three times and sending salatations to Imam Hussain or reading do I'll forage okay if that works perfect perfect Ali Caldome okay okay so Ali Caldome from the United States thank you very much for joining us tonight now before we move on to the eighth tip let's go and check out the Islamic counselor aka Barak Hussain the Islamic counselor psychotherapist joining us tonight talk about other tips of how you can manage your anger so to that we'll be back very short Salam alaikum this is sister Barak Hussain psychotherapist the Muslim counselor let's talk about anger and how it affects us and what are the responses that we have to it it's a natural phenomena that happens to us when we become upset with something and it's a natural response that comes out of us when we are triggered by something and it's important to understand and learn how to manage it better so that we don't come out with explosive emotions that could hurt ourselves and people around us so step number one to managing anger involves researching your anger so this means looking at the triggers that cause you to feel angry or upset or irritated so sometimes it's a physical response such as clenching or tightening of the jaws or sometimes our stomach gets upset or sometimes we start speaking louder or we speak lower so it's really important to understand what are your personal responses to anger sometimes it could be an emotion and we replace the word anger with let's say irritation or upset or annoyed or bothered so it's really important to recognize what are those triggers ahead of time so researching that and also writing a list perhaps of what are your triggers to understand that are talking it over with somebody who knows you or who lives with you to give you a better perspective of that so step number one research your anger know what your triggers are step number two is to cool down which is probably very very hard step number one looked at looking at those triggers ahead of time so you have more opportunity to catch your anger before it gets to that point so when you have that awareness then you can cool down so during this step we all have different responses to how we can cool down very effective techniques include deep breathing so breathing in through your nose holding your breath and then exhaling out through your mouth this has proven to help with stress lowering the stress response in our body because what happens when you get angry is that your heart starts pounding you start sweating you just it becomes really hard to think properly because our frontal lobe which is where our emotions are situated in our brain and our amygdala in there they become really triggered and it's hard to think clearly when you were overstimulated like that so doing the breathing technique muscle tension relaxation perhaps going for a run writing a letter ripping it up or perhaps punching a pillow the point is is to get that excess anger out of your body physically and emotionally and mentally so that you can start cooling down step number two step number three involves after the cooling down is after you thought things through of course by the way for step number two cooling down also involves stepping away from the situation so leaving the room telling the person I need to go cool down and then I will speak with you later so step number three now is after you've cooled down and you've managed to you know do your deep breathing or whatever it is that you need to do to cool down is to set up a time to talk about what are the things that are upsetting you so you can talk about your partner your friend or your colleague sibling whoever it is so set some rules basic rules such as no name calling no being rude or anything like that and you want to have a very effective discussion and where it would contribute to solving the issue so for example when you are having this discussion you don't want to have accused accusative type of statement so you don't want to accuse the person so using I statements so for example I felt very upset and unheard when I didn't get to finish what I wanted to say rather than saying you interrupted me you did not let me speak this right away puts the person on the defense so when you bring it back to you and say like we said you know I didn't get a chance to finish what I wanted to say and that made me upset taking ownership of that gives the opportunity again for the other person to hear you and be listened to is all sorts of other statements that you could make that could bring it back to you and you can cool down the situation and open up the communication with the other person where you're actually discussion discussing these issues and finally it's really important to understand that it's never okay to be abusive or violent when anger is involved so if you're in a situation and it's getting out of hand like that it's really important to understand that you have no right to give that kind of negative response to people around you it's never okay to be violent or abusive and of course if you are at the receiving end of it is to try and get out of that situation so the three steps we took a look at in terms of managing anger are researching your anger cooling down and actually having an appropriate time and place to discuss this with somebody so key thing in all of this is to understand awareness being aware of how you respond to anger so that you can learn to catch it on sooner manage it sooner and it is very possible I mean I see a lot of clients who come in I want to learn how to manage my anger you know I have a really fiery temper etc etc and with practice with meditation with breathing it becomes really possible inshallah to to work on your anger that way and of course any other habit or maladaptive behavior that we want to change inshallah till next time take care sister Barak Hussain for joining us tonight the Muslim counselor from Ottawa Canada thank you very much once again and very beneficial tips hopefully everyone can learn from them now we'll go to the Facebook comments and we'll read some of them out to see what ways people are using now Iman Zahra she says or sorry he says I really don't know if it's a he or she we can control anger by performing with okay so and by acquiring patience or either when you are angry if you are sitting you can control your anger or by standing and vice versa Iman Zahra from Kashmir Iman Zahra Facebook all right thank you very much we're over here thank you very much Iman Zahra for joining us tonight another person new person Jawad Jawad he says on a person becomes angry whether as a result of provocation or not he has the choice to control his anger by responding to it in a way sanctioned by the Quran and the traditions of Prophet Muhammad or he could give into the wave of emotion and behave in a way that displeases God but delights Satan thank you very much Jawad for joining us tonight but if you can message us telling us where you're from so we can write that down as well let it down later on but Jawad thank you very much Jawad for joining us tonight back to this camera all right tomorrow inshallah we're going to give a special shout out to everyone that has continuously participated in the show so we're jot their names down fully we have I think ten people joining us every night and participating and joining us but participating every night so we'll give them a special shout out into more episode inshallah but going back to the topic about for those we are getting a few Facebook comments we'll get to them but whatever comments during the live show your names will also be placed whether in the show or after the show if we don't get to them after the show definitely into the fishbowl now going back to the topic we talked about the tips number nine tip number nine we got to tip number nine practice relaxation skills if you guys have watched bad boys too not giving a shout out but you know if you guys have watched that and and they do the when when they rub their back of the ears if that works for you they go ahead man go try it out but tip number ten know when to seek help and that's very important because a lot of people tend to get over angry and over emotional we have a few guys but you know we don't want to give names but you know they get over emotional we call them a sass more you know exaggerate so go and get help when they're angry they start cursing and stuff go get and they get angry very easily go get help it will help you a lot and it will make you a better person now moving on to the third segment of today and that's looking at the narrations of the Islamic perspective of how a person can manage their anger now from the hadith you have Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam who says I like that shot today sharia to mustafa Nazir and sharia to Hassan Allah on my on my left but Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam he says anger spoils faith as honey spoils vinegar so let's repeat that anger spoils faith as honey spoils vinegar so it's very dangerous for you another narration by Prophet Muhammad says anger is an enemy so don't let it control you you know in a fight you don't want the enemy to control you you want to control your enemy now with anger as well it's a fight so don't anger control you another narration he says when anger comes over you then overcome it with forbearance and dignity and that's very very important for tonight very important let it let us be or let us have the trait of forbearance and let us have the trait of dignity because all of us do need that but for tonight we're trying to tell everyone just chillax you don't need to get angry because life isn't worth it you know if you lose a million dollars um I would get angry but you know just don't get angry and just just follow the tips that we mentioned and do follow the tips of Sister Barak Hussain who has joined us again in tonight's episode finally finally I would like to say thank you for everyone for tuning in tonight and we are live every night up until the aid aid is where we do the final draw for everyone that has participated and we'll get the names for one name wins a free trip to Karbala and other many many giveaways to those who participated in the show. Thank you very much. This is Ahmad Ali live from the whole city of Karbala. The late night talk.