 But have we failed? The mother cut a pitiful picture. I wondered if I had been the mother. Would I have been a picture of composure? As she relate to the whole world, the heinous crime that had befallen her daughter, referring to a viral video. The interview blew the scandal white open and the viewing of the video skyrocketed. I was outraged. I wondered how 10-year-olds could be involved in, well, for their age, such despicable acts. The mother must have been distraught as she referred to the contents of the video as rape of her daughter. The law would only prosecute the boys involved as participating in juvenile sex and send them off to some reform house. It was just 10 seconds that turned out to be 10 seconds too long for me. I didn't sleep that night. I was shocked by what I had watched and could not watch the rest of the 36-second video. These 10-year-olds, I still find it hard to believe the ages of these children involved, just as others do, were presently engaging in acts that are reserved for adults. I was deeply hurt as I watched this 10-year-old child engage in acts that will haunt her spirit, her soul, her self-worth, and much more if she ever understood the import of what she had done. I wonder painfully, what had happened in her childhood that made her numb, made her think that she was of no worth dignity value and that what she was engaged in, including having it filmed, was worthy of good viewing. It hurt to think that she had once more been filled by the adults in her life as her mother told the world and untruth and exposed the fact that she had been left to her devices for too long, that someone had grown her to the point that her innocence had been cruelly taken away from her. The mother's media miscarried led to self-appointed investigators to indig and they found the girl on social media with a healthy following as she seductively directed her way into more and more followers. The final tragedy was when she released the statement asking for forgiveness, that is the girl and announcing that she will be off social media for some while. They said that there's always a silver lining in bad situations if you look for it. If the mother had not made that video crying rape and people had not watched it and debunked the rape story, what would have happened to the boys? Really, what would have happened to the boys? What will happen? Who failed this girl? Have we failed our children? Can we find our way back home? If yes, how soon? When this happens again, because oh boy it will, will we be ready to help these children psychologically, emotionally, physically and spiritually who have been caught up in the wickedness of adults. As it is, there's no playbook to deal with the aftermath of such devastation. Okay, over to you guys. Yeah, I've said my mind. Hi there. Nigeria has one problem. And that is the failure. Among the many. Among the many. I believe we can tackle this singular problem. A lot of other things will fall in place. And that's the failure of the community. Community leadership. You see, when we were growing up, I told people, and let me link this to all the corruption and everything we speak about in Nigeria, when we were growing up, I told people that listen, corruption has always existed. Not just in Nigeria, everywhere in the world. People have always embezzled. But they had this concern that if I go back home or my name is mentioned, how will the guys in my community treat me? You see, there's that self-worth, that camaraderie, that togetherness that is missing now. It is, parents need to look for food, like we say. We need to go to work. But in your absence, is that uncle and uncle? Just after this incident that we're talking about, a few, about last week there about, I was taking a walk down my estate and I saw this guy, he should be in his 30s or late 20s. There was this school that was having their entire sports, so they were using a field next door. And because of that, the students were all walking, some were walking and stuff. And these girls, they were clad, they were wearing sportswear, not tights. But they were young girls, maybe 15 or so. And this guy that was walking ahead of me worked for about 20 feet, so about 50 yards, let's say. And all he did was look back and stare at the girls. And that is somebody's uncle. It's just messed up. The community now, so many things are wrong. Absolutely, I mean, to answer your question, comfort. I mean, the simple answer is yes. Okay, that's the question. We are filled, we are all filled. And you know, I had this conversation with my wife, it was, I mean, even just thinking about it now, it still breaks my heart. I didn't watch those videos. I didn't watch any of those things. I couldn't get myself to, I mean, I have an eight year old. I mean, she'll be 10 in two years. Well, you know, close my eyes, she'll be 10. So, I mean, I couldn't get myself to watch. But you know, I remember a phrase growing up. This is why I say we are filled, the answer is yes. You know, when we're going to school or going to our parents to say to us, remember the child of who you are. Remember the child of who you are. You know, just that sentence, that phrase was enough to keep you in check. But all they were saying to you is, as you leave this house, remember everything we have taught you. Remember the values. Remember the discipline. Remember the things we have taught you. How many of us parents today, parents, guardians, uncles, aunts, can say that confidently to our children as they go out. Remember the son of who you are. Remember the daughter of who you are. The reason is simple. We haven't taught them anything. What have we taught them? We haven't taught them anything. Yeah, personally, I agree. The thing we have done is, sorry. The thing we have done is expose them to YouTube, TV, and the madness of the world. Get them busy. While you do your search yourself out. Get them busy. We've shocked in our responsibilities. It's really that simple. It's not blessing. And because we have shocked in our responsibilities, we must go back and pick up these responsibilities and just do the right thing. It's as simple as that. And let me just ask what you're saying that. The reason they can't tell the kids to remember the son of who they are is because they don't even remember the child of who they are. They don't even reflect. They don't reflect what they want their children to be. Yeah, exactly. Let's say to my daughter, act the way exactly the way I act when you go out. Can you say to your son, when you go out act the way you see your father act. That's what it means when you say remember the son of who you are. But he printed a picture. They gave us something to look up to. Do we still have those kind of parents? No, that's old school now. You know what I mean? You know what I mean? No, that's the way it's branded. I'm not agreeing with it. I'm just telling you, when you desk it at outside, it's that old school. I'm sorry. There's so much on my mind. There's so much on my mind. Talking about Aviv Field, yes, we have failed. Now, while growing up, we had mothers that really, we had mothers and fathers really, not just about mothers now, because these days we need to realize that parenting is joint effort, not just the mother or just the father. So while growing up, we had mothers, teachers setting things. It was just automatic. It was, you just get to grow into it. I taught people the kind of secondary school I went to and people ask me, how are you a good girl? Because a lot of ladies in my school were smoking, but I didn't smoke. Now, it goes back to your kind of foundation I had. Yes. My mom never told me don't smoke, but I just knew that it was not something that I should do. You know, just knew that it was something I should do. And now these days, we have the internet, like you mentioned YouTube and all of that. So while growing up, I remember I never watched cartoons. I think I watched Super Ted and maybe Voltron. You can pretty much say what day you're born. Yes, yes. The cartoons you watch. Or Sesame Street, you know. I really know, you know, and these days even cartoons need, you need to watch cartoons. Like, I was watching a cartoon on. I was even working, I was at home. I was working on my laptop and my kids were watching TV. And I just saw that the cartoon they were watching on Disney Junior, they actually kissed. And I was like, what did I, yeah, I was surprised because I don't even watch cartoons. They're doing way worse things now. Yeah, and they kissed. And you know, in these days, you see when you're watching cartoons, you hear things like, I'm gay, are you gay? Because you're excited about being gay. You're excited about being lesbians. And even this lady, there's this Nickelodeon program. This popular Nickelodeon program, she's a superstar. She's one of the stars of Nickelodeon. She went online to say she's now part of the LGBT community. And that she really liked. Hannah Montana is in there. Yes, exactly, Hannah Montana. And you know, I was so disappointed. Like a lot of young girls today in Nigeria, 13, 14, look up to this girl, like Hannah Montana is a role model. So you now see somebody like that telling you that being gay, being lesbian is a beautiful thing. It's the, in fact, she expressed with so much joy that her life has changed and she's been so happy with it, with the new face of her life. And you know, you're looking at her like, are you normal? Are you okay? We don't know what plus TV stand is on these issues, however, because clearly the media has an agenda. Exactly. And it's very clear. You know, the agenda is very clear. It's now a question of you as a parent, or you as a guardian, or you that has been put in charge of the child to determine what you want for your child. You know, I'm not going to tell you what to tell your own child. Of course. But monitoring your values. I can tell you what, I can tell my child what she should do, what she shouldn't do. You know, I expect that, like you said, without having been told comfort is gone. Let me let you guys start it. And you see, and you see, so that just, you know, to run it off. As you said, the parenting had never been taken away. We just became, as you said, we just lost it. And we lost it because one thing, we're following what is money. That's the truth. It's the issue of money. And because we want to go to those places where the shoe and travel look, slay look, everything, we sacrifice the children on that altar. Parenting had always been between, had always been, I don't know where the narrative is coming that we are leaving parenting to the mothers. It was supporting women are the ones at the primary. We can fight it all we want, but women are the ones that are endowed to nurture. What the man will do is, you will do the nurturing when it is time for the big gun to come in, to go to the father. Yeah. So we balanced, balanced it absolutely. Yeah, it was a balanced approach. Yeah. Yeah. It's not the children that will say that they knew that they could not sit in head and made it look as if parenting is one new, both parents have been involved. It's just that because the world has decided that all of us should just come out and leave the children at home, men too are checking their responsibilities. Number three, this issue of technology is a monster. I don't understand why we just decided to outsource our children to TV, tablet, iPhone. You actually hear parents give us what you are made to do. It's the world, it's where they should be at home. I don't understand that as you said. How many, we were controlled even TV when we were growing up. Because parents knew that you needed to read, you had to ask before you go on TV. You needed to socialize and I wasn't TV. We had said times, why did we leave such a monster that is even controlling us adults? In the hands of these children, the mother in this case is who I want to flow because she had no idea what was going on with this girl. Comfort, I know if you continue. Sorry, sorry, sorry. All right, so may God help, I don't know what that is, may God help all of us or whatever may be anyway. Up next is Shalan still with us.