 Hi, I'm Matthew coast head dating coach and founder a commitment connection calm and today we're going to talk about Whether a guy is a player or not so is he a player and if you're having Trouble figuring out whether guys are players you keep falling in love with players or you know, whatever the situation is Here's how to figure out where whether he's a player first off so First there's two different types of players out there right and you need to know Which one is which so the first one is guys who are open and honest about being players Right and this is a lot of times women will get into trouble with this one because they will They will ignore all the signs and signals They'll ignore the fact that he's like I just want something casual and she'd be like oh, yeah I do too, you know secretly thinking in her mind. I'm gonna win him over and you know Which rarely happens it happens once in a while, but it's rare And the second is guys who try to hide it right and Most guys are really bad at hiding things You know if if he acts weird about talking about things like Relationships or marriage or kids, you know a lot of women are like guys don't like talking about kids and marriage and relationships The truth is that guys that are interested in marriage and kids and relationships. They don't care They will talk about that stuff and it's okay for them guys who are Not interested in marriage and kids and relationships Those are the guys that are weird when you talk to them about those things And so if a guy's acting weird, that's a huge red flag that he's hiding something So it's something that you want to know and so just to let you know most men aren't players Most men are not players it takes you know The reality is is that if you're not naturally a player as a guy which most men aren't it takes a lot of time to Figure out how to be a player and so a lot of women think that guys like all guys are players and it's just far far from true And the next thing is is you like if you meet one of these players make sure that you Don't fall in love with his potential, right? So a lot of women they fall in love with who he could be not who he is You need to take a good look at a guy and say, you know if nothing changes about this guy Could I love him? Forever just the way that he is and if the answer is no to that then you need to not be with that guy you know go find somebody else guys don't want you to change him and You know that trying to change a guy or thinking that you're gonna change or thinking that you're gonna fall in love with him And and be with him who he will be that's just a bad Bad situation and last thing I want to say is don't ignore your intuition, right? you women are blessed with the ability to have a better intuition than guys do and Listen to it. You know your intuition Can be a really powerful resource for you that will tell you whether a guy is a player or not and so so listen to that intuition and You know be mindful of it So that's it for today If you want more information on how to attract mr. Right into a committed secure loving relationship Make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take my quiz there I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon