 Question, I can't get over my ex-fiancé of 12 years ago. It doesn't help as we work together since 2018. How do I know if he doesn't, how do I know if he doesn't love me or is just afraid? You know, why is it about him? Jez, I don't know, Miss Johnson. Why is it about his feelings? What about you? Why are you pining for someone that ended 12 years ago? Answer me that question because you are most likely in a fantasy about him. You have a fantasy about him. Hey, because you guys haven't done anything for 12 years. You're just holding it. It's called unrequited love. Do me a favor, Miss Johnson. Google unrequited love. Hold on a second. Hey, Google, what does unrequited love mean? Unrequited love or one-sided love is love that is not openly reciprocated or understood as such by the beloved. Okay, so either, you know, you have to get a handle on your fantasy. I'm sorry to be blunt, okay? That's just my style, okay? But you're operating from a fantasy. It doesn't matter about him. What matters most is you get into your empowerment, read his book for gosh sakes because you'll recognize that it's you that are giving your power away. Remember when I said women give their power away, they drop their boundaries because you're caring about what he's thinking and you're not actually expressing yourself. And I know, but Jonathan, I love him. I just love him so much and I want him back. That's because you're operating from the premise of I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. When you love yourself, you don't need him to love you. And then you can operate from a place of actually seeing if this is real or not. And the fact that you work together, look it, I'm sure he's been sleeping with other women the last 12 years. I'm assuming you've been dating other men in the last 12 years. So either have a conversation with them or move on. Have a conversation with them, move on because unrequited love is the definition of insanity. It's dreaming over and over again, the same thing and expecting some different results. I'm sorry I was tough on you, Ms. Johnson, but I think, does anyone agree with me? Say Jonathan, I agree with your assessment of this situation.