 So most guys When they're going into qualification, right? They're like first of all, they've got qualification written down like some routine And they say something like tell me three interesting things about yourself that make you unique now I Ask you if you were at a party with like mutual friends and is like oh, this is my bro Dave You're like hey Dave has it gone and Dave's like so tell me three interesting things about yourself that make you unique You'd be like the fuck is this douchebag? That's a really weird way to speak to people like people don't speak like that normally So any qualification routine that's something like that Not gonna work So the way that most got the place that most guys are coming from in my experience anyway is from here They go right so at the beginning of the interaction. I'm obviously here, right? I'm at the of this is like value or whatever, right? I'm I'm Worthless and pathetic Right, and I'm all the way. I'm a zero and the girl of course because she's so beautiful is right here at a hundred and My job Right. I need to get it to invest. I need to get it to you know become attracted to me I need to I need to drag her down Right. I need to dent her self-esteem Yeah, I need to you know uh question herself and by you know negging and At the same time I need to raise my value, right by saying cool stuff by DHV by proving how awesome I am and That we know when we get to like equal or when she's a bit below me then it's okay To ask for a number or say that I'm interested now I don't know about you, but I think that's a pretty shitty way of viewing yourself and your own self-worth for me The way I arrive at the interaction and why qualification just happens naturally without me having to think about it and do stuff Is because I arrive in the interaction here Not because I'm not saying by the way That oh, she's down here because I'm better than I'm better than her like I'm better than women I'm not saying that but I'm saying I start the interaction up here. Why because I know My own value I'm aware of it and My own value why I'm up here is based on the things that I've achieved Who I am as a person what my core values are all the things that I've gone through all the struggles that I faced and Come out the other side all the things I want to be all my goals Right all of that stuff you guys know all of that stuff for yourself Right unless you're suffering from like serious amnesia you should Right, so you're coming to the interaction knowing all of that That's why you're there She's here wine again not because you're better than her but because you don't know any of that about her She hasn't told you any of it All she's done is be attractive to you Right, okay, that gets that's good that gets you to be interested enough to want to have the conversation to find out about her But the rest of this To me is very simple All I'm doing once I'm there once I've expressed Right how I feel in that moment how she's making me feel Right what about her? I'm interested in why I want to have this conversation right opening From that point the interaction everything all the stuff in qualification. It's real simple. It's giving her the space to allow her To tell me all the cool stuff about herself that would make her go from here to here That would make me feel like wow actually I Wasn't I wasn't expecting you to have all this real cool stuff and a lot of it we share and a lot of it I'm real interested in and boom you're up here or Not or disappoint me by not having anything cool about her in which case I end the interaction bid her a good day and leave And that's something most guys are just not willing to do to walk away Because they're so focused on what's the next step and how do I get this? How do I get this number? How do I get this outcome so? what I'd like to Encourage you guys to do is Dispense with anything that is Implanting those limiting beliefs in your mind That's telling you That you're not enough and you need to prove yourself to other people That's telling you to repress who you really are and Not express it for fear of being judged and go out Be that billionaire and focus your self-development journey on the question how in This moment can I express who I really am as authentically as possible?