 Decreating scarcity so a fire can't grow if you're always smothering it And so what you want to think about his desire and his interest and his being in love with you is is kind of like a fire and so You want to let it grow you want to give it oxygen you want to give it air You don't want to completely leave it alone, which is what some women say a lot of times when when I say stuff like this They're like oh become scarce and they completely disappear. They're like abracadabra and they're gone, right? And all of a sudden they're gone and they're like, oh, I never contact him. I never reach out to him I never respond to him and you're like, oh, I couldn't imagine why he's not trying to talk to you anymore Right, so there there's a there's a middle ground here There's always a middle ground for all of these things that we talked about But what it is is most women come to us and they're in a state of being needy and clean and smothering and so They're smothering a guy trying to talk to him all the time I send him messages every single day, you know, 12 times a day and he doesn't respond and it's like, okay Chill out create some scarcity pull back a little bit. He can't miss you if He doesn't experience life without you there And so if you want him to miss you You've got to pull back a little bit and allow him to miss you give him some space to miss you Give him some space to wonder what it is that you're doing. What's she doing right now? Is she out with other guys? Why is she you know? I sent her this message yet at 8 p.m. On a Friday and she didn't respond until the next day what why was that right and it's because You have other things going on in your life, which is what you want to do, right? We we value and appreciate things because of the contrast between Experiencing it and not Experiencing it so it's we don't value and appreciate things because it's there all the time We value and appreciate it because of the contrast and so that is what causes us to miss it And so stopped sending him good morning texts every single day Stop right and stop doing things where you're just trying to constantly reach out to him and figure out What's going on with him and talking to him and smothering him all the time and finding out? You know what's going on with you? Are you mad at me? You know all that kind of stuff stop doing all that stuff and chill out lean back relax a little bit You know let there be some space for him and some room for him to come to you and pursue you Start having other things that are going on in your life that allow you to have time space and attention away from him give him the gift of Missing you by creating space in scarcity But like I said you don't want to leave the fire because the fire is gonna go off and burn in other places What you want to do is just give him some room give him some room to breathe give him some oxygen and Allow him to kind of build and grow that flame of desire and love that he has for you