 Hello family. Welcome to another NARC Survivor Live video. I'm just on the swings by the sea, just playing around. I do like to get on the swings when I can. It's a high vibe activity, raises the vibrations, makes me feel good, motivated, and inspired to bring these messages to you. In this video we're going to be talking about when the narcissist knows they can't meddle with you anymore because they've been meddling with you all of this time. They've been playing with you, messing with your mind, manipulating you, abusing you, exploiting you, draining you of everything that you are and have, and they've been doing this to you for a very long time. It may have been for months, it may have been for years, and they did a pretty good job of hiding it as well. They kept a code of silence. They did it under the radar to where people did not suspect it or believe it, to where people did not realize what was actually going on. And that's really sad because the worst part is not only are you being abused but you're being gaslighted and you've got no support. People don't even realize what is happening to you. So no one's there for you. That's why I'm so glad that I have the job that I do. That I am the one who gets to bring you this message and makes you aware of what has been happening to you so that you can then protect yourself from further harm. So when is this point? When the narcissist knows that they can't meddle with you anymore. I can tell you that it could be when you finally heal and move on and you're no longer susceptible to them in ablation, but of course as we know they will still try to pull you back so you do need to set strong boundaries. You do need to separate yourself from them and not just physically but also mentally and emotionally. You need to detach yourself from the trauma bond. You need to heal your traumas and even then that may still not be enough when you set strong boundaries and even when you heal. They may still try to come back so you may need to get a restraining order to prevent them from keep coming after you because that's typically what they're going to do. Once they view to you as an extension of them as an object that exists to serve them they're going to hold on to you for their lives because they're using you to regulate their emotions. So yes you may need to get a restraining order. You may need to call the police and even file a court case against them and I know many of you are empaths that may be the last thing that you want to do but unfortunately it may be what you have to do and even then when you do that they may still not believe you as we know narcissists tend to thrive in the courts and they are the ones who may even take you out you to courts and you may get arrested. It's really sad but this is what happens a lot of the time. So what really helps more than anything else is when you're no longer isolated quite possibly the biggest threat to a narcissist is when you have a support network and people don't talk about this a lot but it's the truth because certain strong boundaries healing and moving on even getting a restraining order and I'm sure in many of your experiences that was not enough to deter the narcissist. I'm sure most of you who are watching my videos you don't have a support network. If you did then you probably wouldn't be suffering from this so much anymore because they target people who are isolated. People who don't have many friends they don't have a supportive family so that's really what works more than anything else and that's when they know they can't meddle with you anymore. When you do have a support network of course that's easier said than done and I know a lot of you you prefer you're alone time you're an empath of course you do. You don't like being around too many people but that's the thing that's what makes you a target so for your own self-care and self-protection I do advise if you can if you know some people try to make some friends with people who you can trust people you can confide in people who will support you and won't judge you people who haven't been brainwashed by the narcissist narrative and they will take your sides they will understand you they will get to know you they will listen to you they will cure you kind of someone like myself but in real life someone who's actually there someone who actually cares that's the type of person that you need in your life because someone like that they're gonna be there to protect you they're gonna be there to listen to you they're gonna care about you that's really what you need you need some friends some people who will be there for you and I know I get it I'm an empath myself I completely understand a lot of times that's the last thing you want especially after you've been abused for all of this time it's like you just want to be left alone you just want to sit in your room at home for as long as you can and never go out you don't want to go out into the world you don't want to talk to anyone what could help us maybe find in an online community people who you can talk to in your area of course I know there are charities out there people who you can speak to in person if it's not enough for you to fuck a coaching session with me one-on-one well that's really what helps more than anything it's at least one friend or maybe a group of people who you can go out and spend time with and engage in fun and uplifting activities because up until this point everything has been so serious you've had to deal with all of these problems all of these duties and responsibilities you haven't had any time to have fun that can be a problem a lot of times because as I've said before one of my most famous quotes is that life is meant to be enjoyed not endured and I am a firm believer in that of course I do get on here a lot and I give these messages and everything sounds so serious but actually in real life I do like to travel and explore I do like to have fun I like to go to the beach as you just saw over there like to play in the swings as well I just like to do lots of fun stuff and I find that it's very healing for me when I do that and I'm sure it could be healing for you as well I'm sure many of you are just cooped up in the home every day you're never doing anything fun probably the best things you get to do is like maybe knitting reading a book watching a movie you've got to get out outdoors and do some fun things and I know it can be scary after you've been abused it can seem like the world is such a scary place and I'm not here to say that the world is safe of course narcissists are everywhere people are out there and they're looking to take what you've got your light your energy your love yes they want that for themselves and again this is why I advise finding a support network people who you can trust people who are going to be there for you when you find people like that you can go out into the world you can have fun you can have a good time with them they will be there for you they will keep you safe they will protect you so I guess that's really the message that I want to get across in this video because people don't talk about this enough but that is really what will help you and it will prevent the narcissist from meddling with you anymore I mean they may still try to come back but when they see that you have friends you're not alone you're not isolated then they're gonna think twice before messing with you because I know these knocks may act tough but in all honesty they are pussies they're cowards they can't even fight you one-on-one they've always got to manipulate other people they bring in their enablers and fly monkeys they try to turn everyone against you because you may not realize it but you're actually stronger than they are that's what they've got to bring all of these other people into it that's why they've got to do that and typically whatever they do whatever they put out whatever you see from them that's typically what they're most vulnerable to so if you see them and they've got their flying monkeys they've got their enablers they've got all of these people against you that's typically what they're most vulnerable to that's what they're most afraid of if you have other people who are on your side because they can dish it out but they can't take it I guarantee if you had a group of friends a group of people who are around you supporting you on your side they would have messed with you anymore they would leave you alone in peace and that's how you know yes they're pussies they're cowards they don't want no smoke they really don't it's only when you're on your own and even then it's not one-on-one they've always got all of these other people who are coming after you and even then it's like when you do develop a support network it's not so that you can send them after the narcissist so that you can attack them because we're not predators we don't do that instead it's going to be so that you can defend yourself because they're the ones who are coming after you they're attacking you they're the perpetrators so yeah if you can do that if you can develop a support network that would be a greatest asset and protecting yourself against an artist and not only that but to create a safe space for you to help you to heal and finally move on so that's really what I advise you to do because a lot of times simply healing certain boundaries and even getting a restraining order that isn't enough to deter these narcissists so yes I do advise you to do that and what I also advise you to do is to continue watching these videos and staying updated on this information because I'm still researching this every day and I'm always finding out more things so there's always new information that you can learn in order to protect yourself and that's really my mission that's my life's purpose is to research this and also through my experiences as well so that I can provide you with this information so that you can then protect yourself because my values my beliefs are that no one should be subjected to something that they don't want to be subjected to even if it's not always physical abuse sometimes it's like mental rape and you're being forced to experience things that you do not want to experience and my core belief is that that is wrong I have a firm belief in that and this is the mindset that you need to carry as well in order to protect yourself because the things that they do the things that they say the names that they call you when they put you down this is wrong it's abuse harassment and you deserve to be treated better than that you really do but people like this they don't respect themselves so they're not going to respect you you need to learn to respect yourself and walk away set strong boundaries get a restraining order heal and move on and develop a support network because that is how you will protect yourself and even if you can't do that for whatever reason if you're experiencing a spear campaign or gang stalking let my voice and my videos guide and protect you when you're going out places maybe you're around other people got flying monkeys coming after you remember my face remember my voice and let it provide you with a comfort that you need wherever you are all right so I hope this video has brought you comforts I hope that you have found it helpful and if you have you can show your support down below by giving this video a thumbs up let me know what you think about this message in the comment section if you would like to donate you can go to my PayPal it is PayPal.me slash mark survivor or you can also donate through the super chat or the super thanks in the comment section hit that subscribe button 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