 Ladies and gentlemen, let me see here. Good evening to y'all as well As y'all know, we don't have a whole lot of time, but we're gonna let this here thing See if I could get this here set up. My son is at soccer practice. So I'm in my mobile office While he practicing So we probably got an hour and 20 minutes To a chat and kind of following up on what we talked about last night, but if you're not in class If you're not in class Saturday Got the mid-year check-in Saturday. I put the link in the description box You could grab your seat Seats are limited. We still have a little more space. I need to check to make sure See how much space we got but we do have some let me see here Yeah, we got some seats left So when it fill up, it's closed Class is Saturday. It's only 25 dollars My wife will be on there for the first 30 minutes to an hour kind of sharing a few things with us and Then we're gonna be going from there I'll be teaching a little bit and then hopefully get some time for Q&A. We got soccer Saturday, too So might not get too too too much time But want to pop in now Those y'all going to Bali. Hopefully y'all still could make it. That's coming up June 2nd through the 9th and then London June 11th is the London meet-up It's a full day training in London But those y'all who went to the life coach certification. I'm working on getting the certificates Design so we should have those within a week so y'all will get an email here from me here soon Just been a little busy a little tired up And not able to get over there to that now Last night we were talking about Something that I came really too much remember but right before I got on this I saw a video Of a man talking about Being having a girlfriend and his girlfriend having a daughter and him paying for the wedding But the daughter won't hurt daddy to give her away and then the father daughter dances is with her real daddy But she's been with this here man for 10 years and He's paying for the wedding And it said a couple things to me for one That's what he get for having a girlfriend for 10 years Your butt need to be married if you want to have some say so otherwise you're just a dude boy And so you might as well get married but then two It just goes to show the usury And this what we got to be careful of because Social media is highlighting a lot of usury social media highlighting this usury and Witness it's going to take and turn men more and more against women because what's getting the attention is What's getting the attention is women use a man So if All the attention is going to the women that's using men for money then Men are not going to take that lightly and men going to start Moving a little differently And instead of being protectors and providers men going to start going in and looking for What they can get and going to go in with resentment for a woman Even though that woman ain't did nothing to the man the man going to come in with resentment because of What's being promoted online? So as women you have to be very careful with That right there angle when you're dealing with good men You got to be very careful with the with the entitlement and feeling like A man only job is just to spend money And that if he ain't spending money he ain't worth nothing but see because of the the music you got the trending song on Tick tock well the the girl talking about she got a white boy on the roster and he's something staking lobster And giving her money cash out for zeal And so we don't understand the power of the subconscious mind When people hear that it's literally going to be a whole plethora of thousands of women that start trying to get a white boy on the roster and wanting lobster and then thinking he finna be cash app in ozela And we just think that it's music We just think that these are just videos online We just think that It's nonsense, but that stuff affects the mind It affects the mind greatly and so with this usury that's out there And what I want women to understand is What I want women to understand is Silvery was not silvery See a lot of women thinking that silvery was just about men Being men like opening doors And pulling out chairs and all of this stuff What you have to realize is that silvery was like food stamps and Medicare Because women were oppressed So because women could not vote And women had no voice That's why silvery was created to try to give women something Because women had nothing Had no rights had no voice and was literally just Molly made in the household A lot of women could not work If a woman did work she was not paid fair and just taken for granted and so women over time as women started to get Women started to get degrees and started to get jobs Things started to change Now women do not need men financially A woman can make her own money But now a woman wants a man Don't need a man but want a man And a lot of women want a man financially for financial stability But now men are starting to look at it differently and say well You don't need me financially So why am I being silvery? If you could do everything I could do And then what are you going to do for me? That I could do for myself if you want me to do for you What you could do for yourself And this is where that contention is coming in This is where the contention is coming in So if a woman comes with an attitude of entitlement Instead of an attitude of gratitude That's going to turn this generation of men off And there is a give and take So what's happening Is because of what's going on In society Because of what's going on in society With men and women What's happening is There's this Button of the head So with this give and take The woman is saying Hey I want you to provide financially And the man is saying Hey I'll provide financially But I'm going to need you to put out I'm going to need you to come off something But because of the narrative of men are only good for money A lot of women are saying Provide financially Take care of everything But even in marriage I'm not going to be sleeping with you like that Because I'm tired Because I got a headache Because I got this and that But keep providing financially And that right there Is not fair So if a man A man don't feel like going to work and providing So if a woman don't feel like sleeping with her husband If the man doing something he don't feel like doing Then the if the husband doing something he don't feel like doing Then the wife got to do something she don't feel like doing Both got to get out the comfort zone And both got to serve each other Both got to meet needs But we going into the society where it's one side or the other And it's one person taken And The other person is just Giving giving giving giving And so it has to be Equal Love souls god bless you But what's happening is Is it's becoming unfair And it's either men trying to get over on the woman Or the woman trying to get over on the man So I heard a man say well, what can you do as a woman Other than sleep with me And then the woman was like oh well I turn a House into a home and I do this and do that, you know, basically you become my child and that was a stupid answer That was a terrible answer Because I I'm cooking I'm cleaning the man like that's only hundred dollars a week, which is a lie Ain't no hundred dollars a week. Let me know he never had to pay for that and So now we trying to just minimize each other The man trying to put a dollar amount on what A wife brings to the household And then the woman trying to Make the man just about providing And that disrespect between the genders Is what is costing us our relationships Because we don't fully value Because honestly what we bring is priceless So even like the example where This guy Has a girlfriend for 10 years And he pays to put the daughter Through college and it's not his daughter And then he's going to pay For her wedding But she wants her real father to walk her In the wedding to give her a way in the wedding and do the father daughter dancing with her What that shows Is the power And the presence and the importance of a father That here this young lady Who just finished college Does not have a real relationship with her biological father And instead of saying I want both of y'all to to give me away And I want both of y'all to dance with me like I dance with you on this song dance with you on this song Dance with both of y'all on this song instead of her doing that She looked at her momma boyfriend as a check As an ATM and she want her daddy Now what that need to teach men Is that we have a responsibility To be in that role And also as a man if I wasn't there for my daughter and another man was I tell my daughter You need to make room for that man Because I ain't really been there like I should have been and he done been there You need to make room for that man. That's what a real man would do But obviously her father is not a real man and that's why he's not there That's why he's not consistent And that's why he want to come in at the last minute and get all the glory When not everybody there will know that he's a dead be dad They'll be giving him credit like oh, that's so sweet So he's not a real man the daughter She know her daddy is a sucker But she want a relationship with her daddy so bad And she want to look whole and presentable to her future husband that she want her biological dad to give her away So now when men seeing this Men looking at like whoa, so we suckers So we suckers so this how I'ma get played Okay. All right. I got something for you. So now The strike that that mama and that daughter have against the mama boyfriend Now that strike becomes two strikes for every man that see that who getting ready to go into a relationship Getting ready to go into a marriage So now them men gonna go into their relationship with this other couples strikes In his mind And he finna say no I'm keeping my guards up. I ain't doing nothing I ain't doing none of this right here because D women will use you They'll drain you out your all your money and then taking good credit to somebody else So now That right there where we think oh, that's just a video No, that's actually finna shape relationships Where we think oh, that's just music. No, that's actually finna shape relationships So that's why we have to be intentional about this work And I gotta gotta be intentional about this knowledge So that we fully know and understand What we up against and so that when when we go into a relationship We got to be We got to be in a place to where when we in this relationship We are Building on a firm foundation and we communicating Through all of the other messages the combating messages. That's out there in the world And we're talking through it Because if you do not confront The information that has been put into your subconscious mind With your conscious mind The subconscious information will rule and reign Because the subconscious mind does not have the ability To decipher between fact or fiction That determination comes from the conscious mind So you can't just listen to things and watch things and not sit down and talk to yourself Or talk to your partner if you're in a relationship about these things that's being said online And about this music that's being listened to Because this stuff will take hold and it will be a stronghold In the relationship or in your mind in your life. And so what you're seeing and hearing If you are not careful it will take your image of the world So you will go into the world and you will say All women are gold diggers All men are trash Because you're not confronting the toxic messages But what you have to realize about the messages is that Ignorance will always be promoted more than intellect Because of the ignorance it is entertaining So because ignorance is entertaining It's going to get the most play in the airwaves And that right there has to be understood And if you don't take the time to understand that Then you're going to be duped You're going to be duped So you have to know that they're still good men You have to know that they're still good women And you got to tell yourself that And you got to become what you're supposed to become Because otherwise you're going to get played So Understand That that's what we are up against That is what we are up against today It's going to have to be more balanced because he listened It's it's women who they want the man to pay the bills And if they're not paying the bills then what they're going to do they're going to cook every day They're going to make sure they're man taking care of sexually And they're going to bring what they're supposed to bring to the table But then it's women who Don't want to do what they're supposed to do but want the man to pay the bills And then it's men Who don't want to do what they're supposed to do But then want a woman to be sleeping with them So see we got to understand that There are responsibilities in a relationship that have to be adhered to Got to be taken care of and if it's not It's going to be a problem It's going to be a problem And that's why We lose that's why we losing today So listen to me What's going to happen Is We are about to go Into a space where There's going to be much fewer marriages And the man and a lot of marriages that happen are going to be business deals And that's going to Ruin society to a degree So we have to be intentional about the way we live our life the way we carry ourselves And the messages that we share with the youth With your children with your nieces with your nephews Got to be very intentional I was just talking to my wife today and I'll say you know what I want our son to start charging his devices his laptop and his phone in our room So that he can't get up in the middle of the night And go get that phone And turn on some pornography and go to masturbating Because that's what's happening That is what your teenage boys are doing today And so they're becoming addicted To fantasy at a young age And that's why this next generation is not going to be getting married I see all these memes Not memes I see all these posts Of women talking about how long They husband be on the toilet Now yes, the food is terrible and people bios ain't regular but The other reason why husbands and boyfriends be in the bathroom so long Is because of pornography That's the other reason A lot of women ain't even think about that They just think he and they're with above a gut so constipated. No He ain't choking the life out that chicken He ain't no slow-scroking He and they're with bumblebee triple x On their phone Wanned it out And guess what D boys They starting that at 10 11 12 13 14 15 That right there is going to give a sense of fulfillment and completion And it's going to stop men From desiring marriage Because of sexual immorality So parents have to be extra vigilant About preventing that because if you if you lay the ground The groundwork the foundation Of preventing that even when he goes out on his own It's going to be so foreign to him that If he's devil and dabbler, he's going to know how to get back home He's going to know how to get back the home base So that's what you got to understand And i'm gonna take some of y'all questions In and out of what i'm talking about Is it possible to talk to someone who was in prison? Platonically or wait to vet him until he gets out will be out in two years You're wasting your time You're wasting your time because When you talking to somebody that's in a cage You don't know him When he get out that cage and he got the whole world in front of him all of these women at his disposal You're going to see the real him So you're really wasting your time because you're going to be the built love and you're going to be the feeling love And he's not really falling in love with you He's just using you because he ain't got nothing else to do My 27 year old boyfriend broke up with me because his family said i'm bougie and quiet. I only met them twice. I'm hurt by this It ain't all his family. That's just it's also him is that ain't why he broke up with you though Sometimes we listen to family, but if he like you he'll get his family's behind the kiss So he just he don't feel you a fit either God today stated he doesn't do girlfriend only friends Is this really true or a way to get to know someone without the expectation? Another guy said the same thing but actions show differently, but inconsistent. Yeah, move on about your business Again, that's me and that's programmed by this society I'm recently divorced after 17 year marriage. How long do you think I should wait until actively Start dating It's no time limit on it, but Because your marriage could have been dead a long time ago. So you need to Wait until you can love like you've never been hurt before So until you could go into a new relationship Until you could go into a new relationship without having so much from your marriage Then Stay single Been having a lot of sit down with friends family men in respectful ways. I'm usually passive aggressive I end up feeling like I fall out with them. How how they react should I continue this or stop? train You need to stop You turn the mole hills in the mountains A lot of single men don't desire relationships. Do you think women play a huge part of men not wanting to commit? Women play a part in it And so it's a mixture. It's a mixture of social media Putting so much pressure on men to Be financially stable and able to provide all of a woman financial desires That's one part of it. The other part of it is pornography And the other part of it is the easy access to women So because there are so many women and you can access so many women so easy Then you have to realize that It's hard to Sell it down and lock in on one woman I went to the bank and got approved for a loan for a car And had I just went and picked out a car and applied at the dealership That would have been the car or when I went to the bank and got approved But there's lump sum of money Then it was too hard to pick a car. I'm like, whoa That's how it is today with men and women And it's both ways men and women women are meeting men And afraid to settle down and lock in on that man because they don't know if another man could do more for them Or gonna be sweet and more romantic or more this or more that and then men getting with Women and afraid to lock in because they don't know If that woman gonna be everything or they see this woman Then they see another woman the next day who has something that other women don't have Is a 44 year old woman And 58 year old man a good idea been dealing together for eight to ten years No, it's not a good idea It's not a good idea Not at all My boyfriend likes a lot of a long time, but I value quality time together. How should I go about this? If he liked more a long time, then he likes together time He's not meant to be in a relationship and you need to think about If if that's what you want to stay in Hi, Mr. Guys. Can you speak on men bashing single mothers, please? I see a lot of videos of men saying single mothers lose their value and are for recreational uses only It's a tad discouraging Well, you got to understand who's saying that And you got to ask yourself is this the type of man that you want to marry So when you look and you say, okay, that's that type of man I would ever want to marry then you can't really take that to heart You can't take the heart And so Men saying that as another way to deflect As another way to stay in their pornography And another excuse to stay single So you got to understand that My boyfriend and I have been dating for less than one month but friends of three But friends for three years We're both trying to become more financially stable. I go dutch with him in order to help him out advice That's a personal choice And if he's accepting of that then hey That could be something that could mean something but To each their own I'm not sure that's going to help him be financially stable But I mean if y'all going out on a lot of dates then that that could make sense If y'all going to build together, but the thing is is you don't know if y'all going to build together You have no clue. Whatever whatsoever What's your stance on right person wrong timing? Not no such of a thing because Love transcends time love transcends distance If you are the right person A man will let nothing stand in the way of you being the right person so That right there is not a thing now if y'all Go apart then y'all should be coming back together If it's intended to be and if not then You'll know that too And so this will have to be understand what these relationships because We're looking into this and we want to come together. We want to have these relationships, but what we're not doing is we're not Building Together we're not building together. We're not trusting each other and We are not trying to see the other side instead people coming together And people are looking for what can I get the man looking for what he could get the woman looking for what she could get And that right there automatically puts us at odds And so now we have these men and women Who are not really looking for love not really looking for a relationship But looking for somebody to lay down with So when you're looking for somebody to lay down with and you're not really looking for love You're not really looking for a relationship That right there is what's hurting us Because we're not actually building on something healthy And that's what we have to understand So what you're going to have to do is You're going to have to start confronting every single message that you see Even if you are single And you are talking to no one When you see a message when you see a podcast You need to sit down and you need to talk as if you are on that couch on that podcast Do not listen to what people are telling you You need to formulate your argument. You need to pause the video Formulate your argument and you need to rebut what you just heard Because if you don't rebut what you just heard Your conscious mind will follow in line with your subconscious mind that just heard that lie So now when you hear that lie You'll end up moving in step with that lie that you heard because you didn't confront it So you're going to have to be very intentional about what you refute when you listen to the radio If you hear nasty lyrics You got to pause it or turn it down and say that is disgusting. That is nasty You're nasty for writing that you nasty for saying that you nasty for putting that on a beat and thinking that's cute You're but nasty. That's what you need to do because we are being programmed By the devil We've been programmed day in and day out By the devil through the music through these videos that's going viral online We're being programmed TNT God bless you. Why do most men refuse to go to counseling because Men don't want the light shined in the darkness every man Who is doing wrong? No, he's doing wrong Every woman who is doing wrong. No, she's doing wrong We don't want that to be exposed in counseling because when somebody on the outside look in They're gonna pull them black them blinders off our partner And that's why people don't want to go to coaching and counseling because they don't want to be exposed I don't have a lot of people coming to coaching and counseling with me and the woman coming saying Hey, can you fix him and then when we get in the conversation? I say well actually the problem ain't with him. The problem is with you Huh, what you mean Tony? What do you mean the problem with me? I say the problem is with you because you talking to him like a child You disrespecting him you you done castrated the man you snipping this you snipping this ball You you done gave the man a A verbal vasectomy So how you expect this man to want to love you and provide for you and respect you When you talking to him like the bubblegum on the bottom of your shoe The problem with you And so a lot of times I see that And that's another reason why men don't be wanting to go to counseling because they don't want that That light shining that darkness on the other side that They getting pumped And then when when whoever's in the wrong definitely don't want to hear about it So we run from that But today what the biggest thing is today I'm gonna tell you the biggest thing today The biggest thing today is men are afraid Because I'm gonna tell you something As men we are not created to be alone So a man gonna be with his favorite porn star on that phone or on that computer screen Or he gonna be with his dog His dog finna be his lover Or he finna be with his stuffed animal Or he finna be with a jump-off and random women But men are not created alone You almost will never See a man Who is single Abstinate And not into pornography To see a man who is single Abstinate And not into pornography You it's like seeing a unicorn And when have you seen a unicorn? Never So even men who are virgin Can be wrong From when that thing out They be down there That thing be wore out From handula Because men are not created to be alone But I'm gonna tell you why marriage is decreasing with men Marriage is decreasing with men Because men are turning to pornography because of fear Online men are inadequate Men are inadequate because men Cannot make enough money to please a woman And it's so much talk about a woman having a man who could provide and who could do all of this And women be saying stuff that is unrealistic Women be saying stuff like, you know, I want to be in a relationship and I want to be with a man who I just got up in vacation when we want to up in vacation. That is not realistic 70 percent Of americans Cannot touch $1,000 70 percent of americans cannot touch $1,000 and it's not just in america. This is round the world. I'm doing a full day intensive training in london and Not a single person was able to pay $547 up front That is the situation that we are in financially in our world We are underpaid and over spent Right now if you look into your bank account If you can touch a thousand dollars You in the top 30 percent of americans and you in the top 1 percent the 5 percent of the world So with that being the case How can women then say they want a man who is financially secure? Because there is no such thing as financial security Because guess what? Even when you see a man Like a grant card on Who took thousands of people money to put into his fund? When them thousands of people Hit that threshold where they are allowed to withdraw their money If they no longer feeling him if the economy has changed they feel no withdraw their money When all of them people withdraw their money this quote unquote almost real estate billionaire will be bankrupt And if the market crashed and his money is in real estate This man who stood on the stage and said that a man who made 400 000 do not make no money that that ain't no money This man with one Financial crisis this man will be bankrupt There is no such thing as financial security, but every single woman online Is saying that they want a man who is financially secure I am a millionaire and I go to bed broke And I have to wake up rich There is no such thing as financial security Bill Gates ain't secure Warren Buffett ain't secure Jeff Bezos ain't secure If one thing happened wrong They could be bankrupt overnight So what happens is? Men have now been scared out of marriage and because and because that porn star Is only asking him for three dollars and 99 a month He is choosing a fantastical woman On his phone over a real life woman That's what he chooses I'm married And my wife just said to me the other day. She said if we had money She said if we had money Now here are meals now a million now Not not Stike stike stike stiked up, but here are meals now In the top 1% Of earners in America and my wife said if we had money I say oh lord I say oh we broke it But that's the kind of stuff that women is saying So when women go into a relationship Y'all to mesh around and get under your breath and be like Oh, I want to fix up the house, but we just always so tight And then we just got the cash in an envelope I'm tired of having the cash in an envelope It's just such a such get to spend what she want to spend And she got a platinum American Express And it's like every time I turn around You listen to Dave Ramsey Dave rounder Dave rounder Dave rounder and Dave rounder making 55 million dollars a year Selling you a budget And talk about financial peace university and this feeling like financial scarcity junior college And then he going around here and all the churches got this financial peace university And this is what women be saying in the relationship So men hearing this and men like you know what? I don't want nothing to do with no marriage I don't want nothing to do with no marriage because all it means is I am a checkbook That's all it means I am a checkbook So what men is hearing is that They're going to be a checkbook And the woman going to be have a headache and can't have sex That's what they hear And you know what they hear that Because the good women who don't think like that The good women who want to bring something to the table Meaning the good women who want to have a mutually beneficial relationship To where she want to figure out what she need to do for the household If she want to figure out what he need to do for the household Those women don't have a podcast Those women don't have a podcast because they too busy Working They working or they building a company or they building a brand and they don't have a podcast But then who have a podcast Is the broke busted and disgusted women And the broke busted and disgusted men And so then they say, you mean to tell me that I could sit on YouTube and talk out my booty hole and make $10,000 a month. And so they will say something stupid and it will go viral. And then they will say something that makes sense and it'll be crickets. So then they say something else that's stupid and it goes viral. So now they are trapped to just only saying stupid stuff. So the light-skinned boy with the braids or the dress and the little beard, every single video I see of him, he is saying something stupid. But it is going viral and he making money. So he is going to keep saying stupid stuff. And he will only bring women on the couch with him who cannot say something that makes sense. So therefore he will not lose one of his staged arguments and he will keep making money. And that narrative will go out into the world and what it will do is men who do not have common sense, who do not have a father who was married and faithful to a mother, those men will believe this man who probably deep down wants a man and want to be with a man. They will believe this man. And then the women who watch it, who got sense will then lose hope because they will say this is the mouthpiece for men. And what he is saying is absurd, I give up. And now the goal of the adversary has been accomplished. So we're coming into a time and a generation where people are lovers of self. So when you are a lover of self, you cannot see the other genders power and position and their worth when you are a lover of self. So women are loving themselves, men are loving themselves but not in the good way, in the bad way. So we now have no respect and we have no value. So therefore when we go into a relationship, it is tumultuous. And so because the relationship is comprised of two people who are lovers of self in a selfish way, the relationship is tumultuous. And so they come to the resolution, the resolve that the relationship should be a business deal. So now when they go into a business deal of a relationship, the relationship is easy to walk away from. And that's why the divorce rate is 50 to 60 percent because people are getting married in a business deal. A business deal is much easier to walk away from than love. If you've ever tried to walk away from real love, it is extremely, extremely hard. When you are in love, you want to stand and you want to fight for your love. So the narrative that a relationship is a business deal is a lie from the pit of hell. It is a trick of the enemy because the adversary knows there is no strength in a business deal. And that business deals will end in arbitration, in court, in litigation, in court. And that is why marriages are ending in the court, in litigation, because they were built on business and not on the foundation of love. And a part of the foundation of love is friendship, respect, loyalty, honesty, trust. So when you build on a foundation of love, you now are building a firm mansion on something that it can stand. When you build it on the premise that a relationship is business, now you are building a relationship, you're building a mansion on the sand. And when you build a mansion on the sand, it cannot stand. So what we have to do is we have to come to the place where we have a healthy respect for the opposite sex. We need to have a healthy respect for the opposite sex and we need to count the value of the opposite sex. We need to look at each other and we need to see the intangibles. We need to realize that our presence and our power and our work is priceless. So when we look at each other and we realize that we are priceless, understanding that priceless is not worthless. A lot of people don't know what priceless means, meaning there is no dollar amount that you can put on a man or a woman who comes into a relationship operating from the right place. But when we come in and we try to put a dollar amount on a human, we lose. So a woman puts a dollar amount on a man and says, if you don't make $100,000 a year, you are not a man. A man puts a dollar amount on a woman and says, what you do around the house and in the bed is only worth this amount of money. So because we don't value each other as priceless, we then put a finite number on each other and we go into the relationship with a lack of respect. And it may be a mutual lack of respect. And because of that lack of respect, that is why our relationships end because we do not know the value of one another. And that is the case because of the narrative that is online. And I saw a post the other day where the lady was saying, we are arguing about hypothetical situations that are not even real in reality. And then content creators are exacerbating the situation by talking about stuff and staging skits and staging text messages that are not real. And they are forming these fake text exchanges and posting it online to go viral. But it is putting this narrative out about relationships that relationships are toxic and unhealthy. So then people say, I might as well break up, divorce or stay single. Not realizing that we were not put on this earth to be separated. We were put on this earth to come together because we are stronger together than we are apart. But because of the messaging in our world, we are afraid of love and we are afraid of marriage. We are afraid of heartbreak. So what you have to be able to do is you have to have a healthy respect for the opposite sex and you have to have a healthy respect for yourself, a healthy self-love, not a selfish self-love, a healthy self-love. Then you go into the relationship and you love as if you have never been hurt before. So when you love as you've never been hurt before, that means that you are open to winning in love but you are also open to losing in love. But that is the only way that you have a chance to experience the fullness of love is if you build on a firm foundation and you have a healthy self-love and a healthy respect for the person you are dealing with and you build on that and then you understand that if you get hurt, you are dealing with a human who did not approach the relationship the way that you did. But understanding that that is possible, you then realize that you need to take your time in dating and not fall in love with the idea of love before there is actual love. So when you approach a relationship, you are not rushing, you are not panicking, you are patient and you are building and you are communicating because communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life. So now that you are communicating from a healthy and whole place and you are ready and willing to love as if you've never been hurt, now you can talk to this person and you can make sure that they are in the same place that you are in and that they're operating from the same place that you are operating from. And if he or she is not operating from where you are operating from, then you are able to say, hey, this is not going to work. This I'm not going to waste your time. We are not a fit and we are going to, and we are going to, we need to move forward with our life because we are not a fit. So you got to be in that place and see what people don't realize today is that you don't attract what you are. You don't attract what you want. You attract what you are. And people don't understand that. People think that because this homeless man approaches them, that that means they attract in what they are. No, you attract what you are means who you settle down in a relationship with is a reflection of you. It ain't who approaches you. It ain't who you go on a date with. It ain't who you talk to on the phone is who you settle down in a relationship with. That is a reflection of you. So when you become healthy and you become whole, when you sit down to have a conversation, you can tell if this person is healthy and whole. They say money, no money, healed, nose, healed, healthy, nose, healthy. So you will only settle down with a reflection of you. If you are broken, you won't be able to recognize that he or she is broken. But if you are healthy and whole, you will be able to recognize if he or she is healthy or whole. And this is how we have to start building. So what I'm going to start doing, and you share this with your friends and family, I'm going to start teaching on healthy and real love so that we are prepared for healthy and real love. I'm going to get loud and the reason why I'm going to get loud is because the devil is loud. Thank you for that cash out. Somebody sent me a cash out. God bless you. The devil is loud and the devil getting too loud. So we got a lot of loud dummies and they're talking about love and relationship and they never had love or relationship. They have had relations but they never had real love and yet they talking about something that they do not know what they're talking about and they are lying on love. And because they're lying on love, they crucify on love. They crucify on love and they block in love and they hindering the progression of the people and unfortunately at this time it's pretty much only black people. And this is what's sad in our society and this is what we have to recognize and we have to realize and you have to remove your eyeballs from foolishness. Because think about this, what does the algorithm give black people ignorance and entertainment? When you look on YouTube is so many white creators who are talking about stuff that is boring. They are talking about credit card arbitrage, real estate and the stock market. Those creators are blowing up and getting millions of white subscribers and Asian subscribers and they are making $100,000 to $500,000 a month from YouTube whereas with black people we have to talk about other people business or stupid relationship takes in order to be relevant. So black people are pushed and promoted drama and ignorance and entertainment that is not healthy. But whites and Asians and I don't know what the Hispanics is getting because I really don't see a lot of Hispanic creators because they working. The Hispanics be working now, they be out there working. Hispanic approached me the other day, hey, you need me to do this long? I'll say what you charge. He beat the white man price by 20%. I say, boy, look here, boy, you don't have been out working on Hispanic now. One thing you can do out working on Hispanic. Hispanic, it ain't many Hispanic creators because they working. But now, black people, we come from slavery. So now what we want to do is get on the internet. We want to get on the internet, but we want to be on the internet and be unproductive. We want to be gossip and ignorance and drama because that's an easy check like welfare and wick and food stamps. So we will sell ourselves out with ignorance and drama and gossip to get an easy check. And then watch the other races share information that will push your life forward. And we don't catch it. So we have to start removing our views from ignorance. From drama and from gossip. And what we take and do is we shoot ourself in the foot. We cut our nose to spite our face. YouTube shows creators what our subscribers watch. So it show me that my subscribers watch me, then go watch toxicity. So it's like taking a shower, then going and rolling in the mud. So YouTube is showing me this what your subscribers watching. They watching you and then they going over here and watching this, which is the polar opposite of you. So your subscribers is righteous and ratchet. And that is why so many of them are stuck and they are just over broke because of what they are feeding themselves. They planting a seed and then they watering a weed. They planting a seed and then they watering a weed. They listening to a married relationship coach. Then they going to listen to a single, fornicating relationship coach. They listening to a married relationship coach. Then they going to listen to a red pill, woman hater. So your audience is coming and getting cleansed, then going and getting dirty. Congratulations, Tony. You ain't doing nothing. And then I get on the phone with my audience and they say, Tony, I've been listening to you for years, but I just took a strange man's dangling out of my mouth. I've been listening to you for years, but I'm in fornication. I've been listening to you for years, but I'm dating and sleeping with a married man. I've been listening to you for years, but I've been dealing with the same on and off relationship for 10 years. So we cannot advance if we are unwilling to change and to sacrifice. If we are unwilling to do what's hard, to do the real work, then we cannot grow and we cannot change. And so this is the thing that's happening and we wallowing. So it's a lot of people who will pretend to listen. And then as soon as a hard dangling or a wet vagina is in their face, they forget everything that they have been learning. And that's where we fail the test. And we can't be this real in the church. Now, I've been an overmill location and I'm going to start having Bible study, but we've been to go there and it's going to be real. And I ain't going to call it no church just so we can go real because that's what we got to get to is you got to sacrifice. You have to become what you say you want every single day. I talked to somebody and they say, Tony. I want a man. And I say, are you at your goal weight? And they say, no, I say, then you don't want a man because what do you want in a man? I want a provider. I want a man of God. I want this. I want that. I want this. I say, what do you think that man wants? He wants a woman who is taking care of herself inside and out. So if you are not what he wants, then it does him no good to be what you want. So and then every single day I talk to people and they say, Tony, I want to work for myself. I want to leave my job. I want to leave my job. And then I say, well, do you utilize social media to promote your side business? And they say, no, then I say you don't want to leave your job then because if you're not doing what it takes to get what you say you want, then you do not want what you say you want. You want to talk about it, but you do not want to be about it. Listen to me. It's time that we take action. I created the consistency clothing line for me and just decided to share it with you because I had to tell myself, Tony, if you want what you say you want, you have to be consistent in every area of your life. And so listen, I'm in the trenches and I'm working and this is what I want to share with you. You're going to have to get uncomfortable. If you are in fornication, you will always be broke, busted and disgusted. If you are eating bad, you will always be broke, busted and disgusted. If you are not building something that you cannot be fired from, you will always be broke, busted and disgusted. If you are spending more than you earn, we will always, because I'm in that one with you, we will always be broke, busted and disgusted. If you are watching and listening to things that are not edifying your spirit, challenging you in a healthy way and encouraging you in a healthy way, you will always be broke, busted and disgusted. Growth is painful. Growth is painful. That is why it is called growing pains. You cannot grow without pain. Growth is painful. You cannot change without pain. You have to go through the chills. You have to go through the shakes. You have to go through the shivers. You have to go through isolation. You have to go through alienation and separation. They all one in the same, almost. You have to have some lows in order to climb higher. You are going to have to experience the lowest of the low to experience the highest of the high. You cannot be changed if you remain comfortable. You have to make a plan and you have to stick to the plan. You cannot get it all overnight. You cannot rush it. Nothing worth happening comes fast. Nothing worth happening happens fast. Everything worth happening and worth having, it will be a marathon and you got to be okay with that. So it is time to curate your circle. To curate your space, God bless you. And it is time to start to decide. I am going to tell you something. I am going to tell you something. You don't want to hit me though. I am going to tell you something. If you have five friends, people talk about the five people you hang around or five people you hang around, look who made that famous. Who made that famous? Will Smith. Let me ask you this, would you trade places with Will Smith? Absolutely not. If you got five friends, you are doing something wrong. If you got five friends, you are mediocre. If you have five friends, you mediocre. Because listen, excellence is not common. Greatness is not common. You could be an amazing friend. You could be an amazing person. But when you start growing and you start changing, you are going to lose people. You are going to lose people because people do not want to be better. People do not want to grow. Listen, I don't know one person. I probably know one, but I don't know if it's for real. I know people who don't curse when they're talking to me because they know I don't curse. But I don't know one person who does not curse. I don't know a man who does not watch pornography because if a man don't watch pornography masturbate, that is a badge of honor and he going to brag about that because he know 99% of men do it. So guess what? I know men who don't gamble. I know men who don't smoke. I know men who don't drink. But if a man don't do all three things, then he probably eat bad. He probably don't want to work out. He probably don't want to pursue his dreams. He probably afraid to launch. So what happened is when you start working on your life and you start tweaking your life and you start working on yourself in every area, what you're going to realize your circle is going to shrink. Your circle is going to shrink because you're going to meet people where you ain't judging them but you want to be like what you be around. You're going to be like what you be around. So if I'm with somebody and I'm trying to eat healthy and all they do is eat bad, I got to get around them. If I'm with somebody and I'm trying to have a clean mouth and all they is is potting mouth, I got to get around them. If I'm with somebody and I'm drug free and they want to smoke weed, I got to get around them. If I'm with somebody and I don't want to get drunk and all they want to do is get drunk, I got to get around them. If I'm with somebody and I don't want to gamble and they want to gamble, I got to get around them. If I want to be in for an occasion and they in for an occasion, I got to get around them. But now when you move, when you remove getting drunk, when you remove getting high, when you remove profanity, when you remove pornography, when you remove gambling, when you remove unhealthy eating every day. Now you're gonna, you might slip hell. You're a cheat meal here and there. When you remove unhealthy eating every day, when you remove not working out, when you remove these things, that's seven things I mentioned. Every one thing that you remove, you're gonna have to cut somebody off. When you remove gossiping, you're gonna have to cut somebody off. When you remove backbiting, you're gonna have to cut somebody off. When you remove spending frivolously, spending more than you can afford to spend, you're gonna have to cut somebody off. When you remove partying, you're gonna have to cut somebody off. See, greatness is not common. Excellence is not common. So if you got five friends, that's why it let me know when somebody say you are the sum of the five people that you surround yourself with, you surrounding yourself with two-minute people if you surrounded by five people. Because you got two-minute vices in your life if you could have five people around you. You hear me? You bless if you got one person around you. And I'm gonna tell you something else. Your spouse ain't gonna be on the level that you own. When you start growing and changing and going to that next level, your spouse ain't gonna be on the level that you own because that's how rare the air is at the top of your mountain. And that's what you got to realize. You ain't gonna be able to get along with two-minute people because when you step into excellence, you gonna make people uncomfortable. They gonna be like, oh, oh, you thank you. Oh, you thank you too good. Oh, you thank you better than me. No, you thank I'm better than you. And you thank that because I'm doing what you're unwilling to do. So don't put words in my mouth because I'm trying to be better than who I was yesterday. And if that's better than who you is today, then that's your problem, not mine. So you need to get on your grind because I ain't finna dim my light and stop my shine because you wanna cry and whine while you drunk off your wine and eating all that swine and riding the pine and want me to sit and play dumb and be kind because you don't wanna hear the truth in a line. Listen to me, I ain't even have to rhyme. But see, when you get to the place the way you have clarity, then you could do that. Cause see where God bring clarity, the devil gonna bring confusion. Now I the one created that not everybody's saying it now. So that let me know that the message ain't falling on deaf ears. So what you got to realize is start climbing and watch how many people fall off. Start climbing and watch how many people say, yeah, I ain't gonna be able to do that, that hurt. This climb hurt, I'm tired, I'm thirsty. I'm finna go back to the valley. I'm finna stay in the valley. I ain't worry about a mountain top cause that climb hurt, that climb scary. That climb is hard. You're gonna lose people. You hear me? You're gonna lose people. Trust me when I tell you. Hey, this Tony Gaston, I'm at my son practice. That's why I'm in my mobile office and he about to get out of practice in three, supposed to be three minutes. Man, they be late. I'm like, hold on, I'm not a season body over. Now what y'all doing? Y'all be running overtime, man. Listen to me. You gonna have to start working on yourself and you gonna have to get better. That's why I created the consistency line and I'm about to drop, I'm about to drop some more guilt here soon next week, Lord willing. But it's time to get ready. It's time to get ready. It's time to cut off people that don't wanna grow. It's time to stop listening to messages that's not edifying you. Stop chasing entertainment and start chasing education because you got one life to live and ain't no do-overs. And so you do not wanna be on your death bed with regrets. So stop hollering about what you don't like, what you don't wanna do, what you scared to do and do what you have to do when you have to do it so you could get what you say you won't because you can't have what you say you wanna have if you are unwilling to do what you need to do. And I'm gonna tell you something. Stop worrying about a relationship, God bless you. Stop worrying about a relationship. Stop worrying about friends and start worrying about your purpose. Why are you here? Why were you born? What life are you supposed to touch? What gift are you supposed to use? What are you supposed to create to let the world know that you were here? What is it gonna be? And you have to stop letting people waste your time. When you get on this hill line and you listen to ignorance and you listen to entertainment, your life is stagnant. You are standing in quicksand and you're sinking. You got to make moves and keep moving. And when you make moves and you keep moving you are going to get what is for you and only you. And guess what? When you sacrifice in areas that others are unwilling to sacrifice in you will receive rewards that others are ineligible to receive and they will look up at you and they will say how do we come from the same place from the same bloodline and you got something that I do not have that you're gonna be able to tell them I was willing to sacrifice what you were unwilling to sacrifice. And I'm sorry that it sound like that but the truth is what it is. So you're gonna have to be willing to sacrifice. You're gonna have to be willing to be separated in order to be elevated. You're gonna have to be willing to change in order to receive change. And when you do that, your life is gonna change and your life gonna change for the better. And see listen, we all have areas that we need to grow in. We all have areas we need to grow in. And everybody's struggle is going to be different. You gonna know people who got your saying struggle but everybody's struggle gonna be different. So where I struggle, you might not struggle. Where you struggle, I might not struggle but none of us is ever perfect but perfection is the goal. The pursuit of perfection is the goal. You will not catch perfection but you will catch excellence. You will catch greatness. You will catch that is what for that, what is for you? That is what you will catch when you willing to change and you willing to grow. You willing to be different. You willing to sacrifice. And I'm gonna tell you right now, it's gonna hurt. It is going to hurt. I've been getting up here every morning and I've been working out. I got goals. I know my wife got goals. So because I'm not alone, I'm not one and I know she got goals, I've been asking her where if I wouldn't ask her, she probably go work out some kind of way some days but I've been asking her, I've been asking her every day, I said, hey, baby, can we walk? And she carving out the time and we making and we going to walk. And what that's also doing is building my relationship. And what I realized how I have to do, I also got to keep building my relationship. I got to keep building my body. I got to keep building my business. So you got to look at what you got to do and you got to put non-negotiables on your schedule. And when you put non-negotiable on your schedule and we got class Saturday, Saturday morning, 9 a.m. My wife gonna be over there for the first part and then I'm gonna be on there and take it on home. And it ain't even about the class. It's about the investment in yourself to where when you sow a seed, you reap a harvest. You sow a seed, you reap a harvest. What all it is, it's a mindset shift. You going and you telling your mind this my season and I'm working on me. And when you willing to do that, that's when you see the change happen because you're going from a scarcity mindset to an abundant mindset. And when you go to an abundant mindset, you also go into a mindset of expectation. And what you expect is what you receive. What you believe is what you receive. So what happens is we take the wool off our eyes. When we start to work on ourselves, we start to invest in ourselves. We start to see things differently because we say, I'm working out every day. So I'm expecting this body to change. And now we start to see the change. We say, hey, I'm investing my money. So I'm expecting my money to grow. And we start to see our money grow. Hey, I'm investing in me and my mind and my business. So I'm expecting a return on my investment and we start to receive a return on that business investment. See, a lot of times a blessing is staring you in the face, but because you have not worked for it, you're not even looking for it. You're not expecting it because you don't feel you deserve it because you have not done the work that needs to be done. So therefore you're not in expectation of it. And that's what you have to realize. And once you realize that, things start to change. See, you got to do the work and then you got to be in expectation of blessings. So when I'm sitting there and I got a need, I'm sitting there and I got a need. Let's be better, God bless you now. God bless you, so it's a show right now. So it says you've been in a show right now. When I'm sitting there and I got a need, this is what I say. I say, I don't know how it's gonna happen. I say, I don't know how it's going to happen, but I know it's gonna happen because I know who is going to make it happen because I've been diligent, I've been faithful, I've been sacrificing, and I know that I can't put in good and get out bad. I know that I'm in line for a blessing. I know I'm in line for a blessing because of the testing, because of the lessons, because of the work that I done put in, of blessing on the way. See, when you start to change and you start to sacrifice and you start to work, you start to look different, you start to feel different, you start to expect different. And that's what I want you to realize and understand. I want you to realize that and understand that. And as soon as you get that in your spirit, as soon as you come to that place, your life gonna change, your life gonna change. See, listen, it's all here, it's all here. You hear from somebody who put in the work, I put in the work and you could Google me and you could see what I'm doing, but I don't have a mentor, I don't have a team, I don't have a college degree, I don't have entrepreneurial parents, it's just your mindset. It's what you are willing to work for and what you know you deserve and what you know you are going to receive and you gonna see it happen. And what you got to realize is like, I meet people every day who are more cut out for a platform and success than me. But what they don't have is tenacity. They're afraid to fail. They're afraid to try cause they're afraid to fail and they got every single thing to win. I want you to look, I want you to think about this. I want you to think about this. Think about when you see somebody online and they 400 pounds and they making content and they making money and then you'll see somebody who is 150 pounds, 180 pounds, 200 pounds and they sitting in fear and they afraid to make content cause they questioning themselves, they questioning their worth. So they sitting on top of a vault full of money and they have the cold in their hand and they're afraid to put the cold in cause they think it's gonna blow up in their face. It's like the man who had them, the boy who had the class Saturday is nine o'clock. If you can't be there live, you get the recording, the audio recording. I might do the video if it's not too big. It's like the man who got to ask your hands. Here that boy is, this boy, his skin color is the color of his hat. They tell us the darker you are, the less worthy you are, the less valuable you are. Their boy's skin color is the color of this hat. His hands, they as long and they was ashy. He goes on TikTok and he showed what somebody doing that's ignorant and then he showed them little ashy hands. The long ashy hands, he don't say a word, not that man making a million dollars. I think they say that man get 750,000 off of every TikTok he posts. And when he started making the videos, he could have, sometimes the background looked like he was in rural Africa. Sometimes the background to me looked like he was in a township in Africa. It didn't look like he was in Beverly Hill, Houston, New York, Atlanta. He went on there just doing that, 750K per TikTok. See, we got to get out our own way. We got to get out our own way. If you say, Tony, how you built your brand? I made a post on Twitter 17 times a day when Twitter was the hot thing to be on, 17 times a day. Now he ain't collab with Hugo Boss, Hugo Boss collab with him. Hugo Boss paying him millions. When Twitter was the thing, I made a post 17 times a day. So when people say, Tony, how you got what I ain't got? I did what you ain't do. I did what you ain't do. Oh, I don't like Twitter, me either. Me either. Tony, how you did it? I post on Facebook pages twice a day. Two quotes a day and then four quotes a day when Facebook pages was the thing. I don't like Facebook pages, Facebook toxic. I agree. It is, but I got to do what I got to do. Tony, how you built your YouTube? I post every day. I started out posting three times a week when I got serious, then I went to five times a week, then I went to seven times a week. Ah, I don't know if I could post every day. You don't want it then. You see what I'm saying? You got to do what you don't feel like doing. If you say you want what you don't have. Hey, it's Tony Gass. I got to drive. God bless y'all. Class is Saturday. I put the link in the description. B, L, B, SQUELL. If I don't see you, don't ask me for nothing. So, hey, hey, hush, son, before you be walking. Boy, that's our old club, saying from the 90s into 2000. B, L, B, SQUELL. Hey, God bless y'all. I got to drive. I don't want to be driving on line because I got to arrive alive. Hey, God bless my son back there breathing hard. Yeah, he would have been throwing up when he heard my full rhyme I did earlier. Hey, God bless y'all. We'll talk soon. See you in class at then.