 it takes a man and a woman to get a child, it therefore takes a man and a woman to bring up a child. I know I'm talking to guys who may not agree with this, but I think i am reasonablily informed in this area. He doesn't have to be there. She doesn't have to be there, but it takes two, the mother or mother figure, the father or father figure to bring up a child who is straightforward. It takes two.