 So what would you call like the root of seduction then? Self-acceptance. Yeah, you know, it's almost like you have to seduce yourself first It's like you have to figure out, you know, what do you really want? Who are you? What are you really comfortable? Who are you and what are you comfortable doing? And it really took from like me being like 17 years old and doing stand-up comedy Develop, you know getting to a certain point up till when it was like, you know Whatever late 20s and then getting in a pickup and then really going much much deeper in the lessons And I think it's really just shows you that it doesn't matter where you are You're always developing. Yeah, but you just have these points where you just go Oh, I'm a different person now or this has changed or this has changed I think it can be I can have a dark and a light side because we've certainly seen plenty of guys who got into seduction and our coaches still today who it's really reinforced masks and Actually made them lose their soul essentially because even if they become effective at kind of hustling drunk girls into bed or You know having some basic level of yeah of results They've they've totally lost their personality and it's it's just buried under this pickup Yeah, I had a guy come up to me today. Well, not today yesterday yesterday last night In in tears like he was trying to tell me something He was you know He's on the verge of tears and there were a couple of tears and he was just saying hey do man I used to do all this really weird Routine-based indirect shit and and I and I would get late and I'd feel fucking horrible because I wasn't being me And then I saw your video of you just running around being a dick and just doing your thing and he said and I just You know just completely, you know He just he was crying telling me this that he just changed his life And he just realized he could just go and be himself and just not fucking do all that shit They didn't like and it's like That was really powerful, and I've never had a fucking cry before so it was kind of cool. We sing plenty of tears You've seen me cry. Yeah, sure sure I was jealous once because at the first directing summit somebody came up to Alan Roger Curry and Said to him that he was their father figure and the guy's father had actually been killed by You know because he had an affair and some dude literally he had an affair with some dude's wife And somebody came and fucking killed the guy's gonna happen father No seriously and then he and then he never had a dad and Alan and Alan had been this guy's father figure for years And he like broke and he told a story and I was like holy fuck This is crazy and I was like I never gonna need crying guys coming up to me. So finally At some point you'll probably be sick of it. He was like, okay We have that on you know there's always there's always a couple on Euro to her breakdown because they realize that they've been living a lie essentially Yeah, yeah, I mean I think that's that's something to be wary of in any kind of personal development pursuit because you see that in like kind of hippie circles or Sure spiritual circles where there's spiritual narcissism happens where I'm so spiritual or you know in in worlds of Personal development where it's like I'm positive I'm positive positive or I'm always effective And these kinds of things where people layer on top of themselves The modality in the method and then and then lose sight of what the point of the method is which is always to come back Understanding yourself and developing yourself from a you know a deep core internal place And then when if seduction is done well or personal development is done well Then yeah, it's gonna be raw. It's gonna be heavy because you're gonna have to face your demons before you you know You step into the light That's the thing and that's that's what I think sucks about the the way most people get into this Which is like reading the game or something like that. There's no depth. There's no deep. It's it's just like here's a bunch of great There's just no real depth and and I think real coaching and real, you know It really comes down to dealing with deep internal fucking shit and getting through it and becoming a better person And when you really again accept yourself and you're like, okay, I've dealt with that It's cool and you move on then only can you really go out there and have amazing experiences with other people? And quite quiet and just he was just very good at the you know sexual pressure and the tent Really big time that's unlike that So crazy if you're not already More understanding of your mortality and so that was a big thing. It's up to us. They're becoming normal against that are already kind of being documented Yeah, and make money at it. So why wouldn't I do that? so some so same thing getting my book out got a couple of products lined up and As I came more into kind of loving me and accepting who I am and just being okay with myself Just be careful If I had that on my balls, I'd be telling you you're pressing in London And was madly in love with this girl like just completely head over heels and like right the girl for me It was crazy and then I meet this guy and we have this great thing and we're just like wow This could be so much fun. We're gonna do and whatever and he's like