 Hello, and welcome back to another Aughty Time stream, autism stream. Place to be for all questions, autism, self-improvement, mental health related things. How are you guys doing? Ah, it's um... It's been a funny week this week, and I have been not doing so good with my nutrition at the moment. I need to get back on things. Hi, Joshua. How are you doing, man? Hi, Angela. Yeah, it's um... Things are a bit, still a bit tough, but I'm crawling through. Um, I wouldn't like to say powering through, because it is very gay, you know, it's taking some time to get back to things. Yes, we are finally back, Mr. Joshua, our hydration manager of the stream. How are you doing, Angela? Konstadina Zafiri says, good to see you again. I lay upside down, BRB, no worries. Hello, Mr. Austin. How are you? How's the gym going, man? Today I have been to the very lovely place called TK Max in the UK, to try and find some bargains. I'm trying to like, upgrade my style a little bit at the moment in prep for when I go to America and I start doing all these podcasts and TV shows and stuff. So, trying to get on point with things, really. Mark Dragunov says, hi, Tom. Nice to see you, man. Nice to see you too, Jack. How are you doing? As you all know, I am at the moment taking a bit of a step back from social media, from doing my regular posts. I have made like one since I did that post, but that was just kind of like, I just wanted to make that one. You love TK Max, yeah, it's a good place. Hi, Julian. How are you doing? It's been a while. I'm liking your infinity badge. Well, yeah, what was I saying? Yeah, life being very up and down at the moment and I'm just trying to kind of get to a point where I'm stable and there seems to be like, a lot of things that just like propping up everywhere that are just like, preventing me from self care and you know, doing all that stuff. I wouldn't like to say preventing, but it's definitely for in like a spanner in the works, I'd say. Audiences and Ways says, how are you doing in the summer heat? It's actually not too bad. It's pretty like, it's warm, but it's not like overwhelmingly warm at the moment. TK Max is good, yeah. Hello, Nathan. How are you doing, man? Looking Henshah's tag tank. Well, I'm trying. Like, it's only been like recently, I think about probably like three months ago that I started to do some like proper arm isolation work and it's starting to show a little bit. I've always been like really arm and shoulder dominant and just not really having any chest muscle at all. So I haven't really been focusing on like, trying to build my arms up as much as usual, as most people would. But I'm kind of getting to a point I want to like, maximize everything. Bree says, we have TK Max in the US, not a lot of clothing now. Well, there's a lot of stuff, a lot of stuff, TK Max in the UK. Angela says it was an emotional day week, emotional week, but feeling much better today. I'm glad that you're feeling better. What's been emotional about your week? Hi, Jordan. How are you doing, man? Joshua J. Williamson says, I hope you haven't been getting too much rain, Thomas. There's been like a little bit of like drizzle at the moment. So yeah, it's not too bad. It's a refreshing drizzle. You look great. Thank you very much, Brady. Jordan says, all good, Tom. How are you? Yeah, as I said, it's not doing the best at the moment, but I am trying my best. I'm going to the gym later. I'm going to try and like answer my emails that I've left for like two or three weeks and try and answer some DMs and stuff. But yeah, I'm trying to take a step back. I mean, if you're on YouTube, like I did release my podcast Monday this week, but I haven't been that good at like clipping things. But I think I'm going to leave the podcast clips for like the week after so that when I'm releasing a podcast, it's not just like that podcast and then like a stream of like the same clips from it. I'm going to leave it like a week a little bit. I'm going to put some streaming clips out that I did a week or so ago in the next couple of days. And I think I'm going to do like a proper stream at some point. So if you are interested in watching me commentate on autism content that's on YouTube, whether it's from the autistic community or from like mainstream creators, independent creators, that's what I'll be doing. It'll probably be like two to three hours can say it and chill and talk about different things and some questions, things like that. And that is over on my YouTube if you are on Instagram. It's terrible here for rain. Brin says I'm glad you're taking time for your mental health too. Well, yeah, I mean, it's like as part of my job, I work at charity and I work with quite a lot of young people with additional needs. So that could be autistic people, but it also could be various among different people. And I haven't really been able to go to any of like the in person events that we've been doing at the moment, which I felt really bad about. But, you know, I do a lot of like, we have like an hour every every couple of weeks where we can sit down. It's like this this whole peer support kind of thing. And it's really lovely and I often kind of share a lot about my experience in hopes that it might help. I talk a lot about like expectations that they may have themselves and things like that. And they also talk about like taking it taken easy on yourself when things are difficult. So I've got a, you know, some degree I've got to be like I've got a model like what I'm suggesting that people do when they're in a bad place. So it's kind of it's kind of good and kind of bad. But, you know, as life is streamed Diablo that for Diablo four, I don't think my Mac would be able to do that. To be honest, Austin, I think the most that my Mac can really handle is probably like RuneScape or like some some indie games or something. Maybe is messy autistic. I have no idea. Could very well be so I don't know. I'm not really into the lake. I'm not into football or for any Americans soccer. It's not really my cup of tea. Bree says that I've been struggling with hopelessness about the future not wanting to deal with school or work or talk to people and just being burnt out in life. How do you keep going as normal? Well, I suppose if I'm, you know, going to be open and vulnerable about it, I'm not doing the best at the moment. And I'd probably say that I am, you know, in a similar count to you, Bree, with things, it's difficult. And I think for me, it's all about those small wins, you know, trying to try to get yourself back up to the standard that you want is always going to be a tough thing. And if you put too much pressure on yourself to just one day, like flick a switch and then get back to that place, it's always going to make you feel bad about things. Got to think of some small things that you can do each day that you can work up over a long period of time. Yes. It's tough. And I wish you the best with that because it's definitely something that I'm experiencing at the moment. Simon says, my guy, I'm a you're struggling to fill and record yourself. That's tough. Yeah, well, it's, it's, it's, it's a work in progress. If you look at any like top YouTubers, like I'm not by far not a top YouTuber. But if you look at any top YouTubers, you know, go back to the like first videos and stuff, you know, I think there is a tendency for us to feel perfectionist because, you know, it's when you start off, you are putting a video out on the internet and you want to put your best foot forwards. But sometimes the best thing is to just start off and just keep, keep, keep going with it. And each time that you see something or you learn something, you make improvements and just keep going like that. Because if you enjoy it and that is the main thing, then you'll continue to upgrade the stuff that you're putting out over time. Dude, RIP for you. Upload more shorts. Oh, tip. Yeah, yeah, I know I'm, I do need to upload more shorts, but I am taking a step back from social media. So I usually put my reels out on Instagram and stuff. And then I will, you know, put obviously the amount of shorts and stuff. Yeah, definitely. Yeah. All Ali Ups are dancers. Why is it always so hard to take your own advice? Because often the advice that we give people, we give them, you know, we often treat other people better than we do ourselves. Like we think we're some kind of, well, I think I'm like, you know, I'm different. You know, I don't need to take on this dude, do these self-care things because I can just deal with it. And, you know, I think one of the best steps that I've made in terms of my self-care is by recognizing that I am not that. And that you got to kind of treat yourself like you are a friend, someone that you really care about. You know, are you going to put that much pressure on your friend to get out of like a really difficult situation and suddenly like get back to how they were in like a day? You know, it's not, it's not always going to be like that. And it's hard but, you know, taking yourself seriously and caring about yourself is difficult. You know, it's boring sometimes. You know, like for me brushing my teeth, having shower, going to the gym, sometimes, you know, I'm not like wanting to do that. But it's, you know, yeah. Yeah, yeah, I'm running two streams, one on Instagram, one on YouTube, yeah. Bree says, I've been trying to do things I know that I enjoy like hiking and camping, but even that is hard. Thank you. Yeah. And that starts the issue with burnout, depression, things like that. It's going to make you enjoy things less. So it's tough. Like, but over time, as I said, getting those small wins in, having a bit more compassion towards yourself, you know, you will get out of it. It's just, it can sometimes be frustrating when you know what your potential is when you're doing well. It's tough. Build about what he says. Hi, I'm Wendy. I'm an adult who's autism. Nice to meet you and listen to your podcast and Spotify. Thank you very much. Nice to have you in, Wendy. Absolutely, yeah. Bree says, and thank you for being vulnerable for us. It truly is helpful and means a lot. Well, it's, you know, it's, it's someone, someone's gotta be open about like doing badly with things like I am not doing the best with this all getting out of the burnout thing. And it's not, you know, we don't all, there's no like special person that does everything perfectly. You know, it's often we put our best foot forwards and, you know, it's gonna be difficult. It's not, it's not always the reality of the situation, you know. I know, right? I've not brushed my teeth in 20 years. Surprisingly, I still got all of them not perfect, but lucky, I suppose my place is a mess. Yeah. That's the executive function thing. Build about what he says. I don't like teeth based or brushing my teeth. I get that. Um, what one trick that I found is, you know, because, you know, I confided in everybody that I've been struggling with something that I think might be BDD. So body dysmorphic disorder, which is body dysmorphia, but about your face. And so I'm, I'm quite preoccupied with it at the moment. And I got this toothpaste that I think it was called like high smile or something. Basically it, it whitens your teeth like immediately, like a couple of shades higher. So as part of somewhat somewhat riding on my, my vanity to improve my appearance of my face. I am, you know, I have that kind of immediate sort of response, immediate result from brushing my teeth, which has actually been quite helpful. And they also come in like some different flavors. I'm not sponsored. I got like a watermelon one and like a mango sorbet, you know, you feel furry after I feel like like having too much sugar makes my teeth feel furry. Brushing my teeth is like, it's not too bad. And the actual, the actual experience of brushing my teeth is not good. And the executive function it requires to do it is a lot. But you know, it's, it's something that goes up and down. And now that I've taken a bit of a step back with the things that I'm doing, I am managing to brush my teeth like the recommended amount of times per day. Not always in the morning, not always like last thing at night, but I do do it. And it's, it's, it's one of those self care things that I think, you know, it's important to do, but it's not fun. It's boring, you know, it's, it can often be like a lot of sensory distress as well. Kenzie Flies says that I might be autistic. What should I do? I'm a young, younger minor. My dad was making stereotypical autistic jokes about me, which made me notice that I might have level one high functioning autism. I definitely go, I definitely look into it more. I don't know how old you are, so I don't want to give any recommendations, but I definitely talk to your doctor or talk to anyone that you can and do some research about it, follow some actually autistic accounts, read about their experiences, see if that's something that you feel quite strongly. Maybe look at sort of the basic outline of what autism is in terms of diagnosis. You can try that. Yeah, it's a tough time and there's a lot of, as you said, like the, you know, the way that people are telling you is free jokes and it's often not like it doesn't have the best like stigma around it. It's to anyone outside of the autistic community or to anyone who doesn't have a very positive view of autism or a neutral view of autism. It can definitely feel like this kind of ugly label that's kind of put on you, but it's not like that. There's a lot of nuance to it and it does make it tough. It does make it tough to kind of accept that you are and feel okay about it and even tell people about it. It's just something that, you know, I mean, when I was diagnosed when I was 10, so I went through my teenage hood pretty much just despising the fact that I was autistic. You know, I put like all of the negative experiences that I was having onto myself and because I was autistic. Whereas it was a lot to do with the adjustments and the environment that was around me. So it's just kind of a little bit of a frame shift and as I got older I understood it as more as something that's not just social sensory problems. You know, it's a lot more nuanced than that. Cmonkey Lads says, I also get a sunken stomach feeling in trains weird. Yeah, sometimes the sensory sort of, especially like the executive function about travelling can be quite hard. I'm 25, haha, you're good bro. I don't go doctors. Even then, even registered, I never get sick enough for her. Well, that's good. I know a lot of autistic people really hate the hospital just because of how difficult the sensory experience can be. You know, you've got a lot of contrast, the bright lights, you've got a lot of noises and smells and like all that kind of stuff. Bree says, I tried to play a song I like brush to the beat. That's a good idea. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't happen. Yeah, I think I found use like in, so I have a routine where I go to the gym and then I come back and I have a shower because I'm sweaty and I need a shower. And after I've cleaned myself, I try to like brush my teeth in the shower. That seems to be a lot easier for me to work in. The only problem with that is that, you know, I have to go to the gym beforehand. And if I miss a day at the gym, I might be like, oh, I don't want to go for a shower and then I don't brush my teeth. And, you know, so I'm a habit of, I'm a creature of routine and habit. Joshua G says, I hope you're having a great day, Thomas. It's been not too bad. As I said, got some some cool clothes from TK Max. Andrea Dion and this says that I've been told I don't look autistic in my best chasing music voice. What the F does that mean? It means exactly that, but it's it's balls like you look autistic. It's crazy. Yeah, I mean, it's a lot to do with the stereotypes that are out there and the stuff in movies, stuff in TV shows, stuff in the media, you know, like they pick people who look a certain way because that's how they think autistic people are. You say a lot. It's something that's called like typecasting. I know some autistic actors who can't even get like an autistic role because they look too handsome or they look too good. And they just work out for that kind of thing. Now they want these kind of white male, nerdy, weedy guys. Nothing wrong with that, but that's what they look for in terms of like what autism looks like. And then that propagates this this annoying stereotype. It's very very annoying. Thank you tiny habit creator for buying a badge. Much appreciated. I think someone someone else bought a badge and I might have just got caught up with. Yes, Joshua J. Thank you. Thank you for Joshua G rather. Thank you for the badge as well. I appreciate that. Exactly boring also. I mostly hide from others. You know, I mean, yeah. I mean, I definitely used to do that. I'm trying not to as much in adulthood because I'm I think in general and I'm a bit of an I'm kind of like an ambivert. So I'm like in the middle of introvert and extrovert like I find relaxation in both of them. But the issue of being autistic is that usually my social battery is pretty flat. So it leaves me in a weird situation where I'm craving social interaction. But at the same time I can't handle it and it's not good for my like mental health. So it's it's it's a weird balance to strike. I think I very much like socializing conjugate tasks. Yeah, that is good. Have you ever tried neurofeedback? What were the kind of results? The feedback once. I think it was this like this headband that I put on at university that you basically monitors if you're thinking. So like it's linked to this meditation app. And if you're thinking a lot, then like the music that it relates to you is really stormy. And then as you get more children or more relaxed, you do you stop thinking about things so much. It becomes like bright and sunny. And if it becomes bright and sunny for long enough, you get like little birds tweeting and stuff. So I tried that and it was actually really cool. I think it's biofeedback can be really important because of the aspects of elixifying me. Definitely. Tabi Habit creator says that you are such an inspiration to my daughter and I both recently diagnosed autistic. I am so glad that makes me really happy to hear. Makes me really happy to hear. Thank you for the badge. Tabi Habit. You got one early. Yes, she did. I'm sorry. I missed it. Seamunkey lads says I have neighbors downstairs and they received my Amazon package. But I didn't want to disturb them for asking for my stuff. I feel bad and getting butterflies in my stomach. That's the way I was looking for. Yeah, I mean the rate of anxiety among autistic people is quite high. And because of our negative social experiences, we can often feel a lot of social anxiety. It's hard to know exactly how to approach it because it's a very long term thing. I think sometimes we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to perform in social situations. Like I definitely did when I was younger. When I was in group situations, I was like, right, I need to talk and be social and to be extroverted so that people like me more. It's not always the case, you know, and sometimes just sitting back listening in and chipping in. Now and again, not putting too much of yourself forward all the time. It can be a lot more comfortable. And some people appreciate it more, you know. Not everybody wants to be friends with people who are like talking constantly all the time and being extroverted and like pulling the group in together, you know. Hello, Alyssa. How are you doing? Would you guys be interested to see what I got from Tiki Max? Bree says, I use someone who has a lot of friends or just want to very close friends. I do have like one or two kind of really close friends. It's a bit weird because most of my really good friends, we don't really talk very much, but it's like when we meet up with each other, it's like, you know, it just kind of flows and we get on really well together. I do have a lot of friends, I would say, maybe. I don't really know about like how to classify like people that you know really. I don't know if that's, it doesn't feel very comfortable to me doing that. See, Mungi says, I'm good, but I try hard with new people. It's good to put your best foot forward, I suppose. Angela says, yes, you would like to see my new clothes. No, don't worry about it. Don't worry about spam, you know, it's all good, man. Well, Bryce family, how are you? It has been a while. Okay, right. Well, I am going to go get my new items of clothing, but I will be back in like 30 seconds. You can time me. Let's go. Is that 30 seconds? Did I, did I get it? Okay, right. Here we go. First item of clothing, which is annoyingly attached to some shorts that I don't think will fit me. But it's, it's a real pain to like try and find clothes that fit. Okay. I counted 24. Okay. Right. So I did it properly. Right. Okay. I can just, so first item of clothing. So I'm very, I'm trying to, I'm trying to get some more shirts that I like. So I've gone with some, it's a bit like, like the actual large version of it was really, really loose. And the only had a small, so I have like, um, yeah. So this is the first one. It's like a weird graphic smiley thing. I'm trying to find, it's, it's also difficult because I have to find something that fits me first, but I also have to find something that fits my very dark alternative aesthetic. I've got some shorts as well. I don't know if they fit or not because I did get like the small version of it. They might do. We'll see. We'll see. So that is item number one. Feel like, I feel like I'm doing one of those, um, do you know, like those shows that are on TV at like late night that sell and they're like bid off different items of clothing. Have you seen it? I can't remember what they called. You think less. I feel your pain. I'm looking for new swimwear today. Totally. Thank you, Ali. Okay, next thing. This is what this is like my favorite thing that I got today. It's another shirt, of course, because I have too many t-shirts and they don't have a lot of shirts. QVC. Yeah. That is it. Bit like the shopping channel. Yeah. Me and my mom used to, um, we used to like watch them late at night when we couldn't sleep. And, um, it was, uh, it was funny because I just like the way that they speak and they're just like trying to like describe the clothes in different ways without like saying the same thing, but they just come and they have to do it with like 20, 15 minutes straight. Here we go. This is like the best fitting one that I've got. So it's like properly like fits me well. Sort of the arms are obviously going to be a bit tight. But what can you expect? Here we go. I think it looks pretty good. You like the dragon one? Good. I think it's my favorite one. This one, I think I'm going to wear it on its own. The, like the, this one. These are shorts, but that shirt. I'm going to try and like wear it on top of something. Okay. I got some shorts. Just kind of black shorts. Not very interesting. And I got this one because I don't really go for patterns, but because it is black and white, I thought like, you know, I'll give it a go. I'll try it on. And it fits really well. Actually, it's just, I think the stomach area is just a bit like too loose. It looks quite good. I like it even though it's very flowery. Too many gains. Flex time. You used to watch those as a kid when you couldn't sleep too. That's so funny. We'll see monkey. It's, uh, I do, I do a lot of like public speaking and I've done a lot of podcasts. I think of my time. I genuinely just really enjoy doing the streams. I really enjoy it a lot. That's why I'm thinking of pivoting my channel to be like a podcast stream hybrid thing. Yes, you like the dragons. When are you coming to the US? Um, I think probably in about a month or so. Then we around like less Las Vegas area. I watched the weather channel when I couldn't sleep. Do, do, do, do, do. Jettler Lads says loving the new clothes. Man, you look great. Thank you very much. Um, it's, it's definitely like I am trying to find some things that I can wear that are a bit more like nice, not just t-shirts and gym tops and joggers like I usually have. I mean, I'm obviously going to be wearing like I didn't manage to find any bottoms apart from my shorts. The last one that I got is a bit kind of out there. I think I'm thinking maybe gym top, maybe sunny weather kind of thing. If I can fit it over my neck. This is the, this is the issue because I because because I do neck training for like when I get back into combat sports and stuff. I have like, um, my neck is very thick at the moment and it is sometimes hard to know if it makes it difficult to have like clothes. I mean, obviously, like, look, it was nearly, but it's a bit too tight around the neck, but I like it. Um, it would look like this if I didn't have my top on under. If you, if you can see, I have like loads of bumps everywhere. I think it's something that I think I might have got like sick or something because of my anxiety levels at the moment. There we go. So this is, this is the, the other one, which I like. I love the hood on that. Also, it's just a great shirt though. I hate things touching my neck totally. Okie dokie. That is, that is all of the clothing items. We'll take some bids on what we want going one, two, three, seven to the bidder in the right. Oh no, headphones gone off. Where have they gone? For anyone who doesn't know, I like to listen to music pretty much all the time. So yeah, um, I'm glad you like the little clothing whole thing. Mary says it looks good. Glad. Joe Z Rock says you are so cute slash hot. Believe it yourself. I'm trying to some degree to take on board positive criticism about my appearance, but it is not. You know, it's, it's a bit tough at the moment. The BDD is in full swing. I don't actually mind videos so much, but it's definitely like a, like a problem for me with photographs. It's one of the reasons why I haven't been posting as much because it just kind of like, I just, I just can't have a picture in my face. I suppose I could do like images and text and things like that. But I do very much like to keep a routine to like the type of posts that I do. Seamunks dad says my own catchphrase are made up means showing off in a good way. I see monkey letters as well. I heard did someone say music? I know a perfect song. Land of confusion by Genesis. Okay. I'll give that a go. Land of confusion. I'm not going to appear on the stream, but I will be listening to it. There we go. Oh, this looks, um, a bit, uh, metal-y. I was right. I've got it on now. You love the Cliven Hall, Joshua J. G keeps in J. Ally upside down says, uh, you're listening to music just now. Yeah. Um, well, that's brilliant. It's, uh, it's really regulating for me. You know, it's, um, I have, I think, like some people, some, I did see some research or some like, um, some suggestions by like, scientists and doctors and people, um, about, like, setting the scene for when you're in work mode and when you're in sleep mode. And for me, um, the way, just because I like listening to music, but also when I listen to music and I have my headphones in, it puts me in a, in a place to be like in speaking mode. You know, I do it when I'm doing public speaking. I do it when I'm doing videos, um, podcasts, live streams, any, anytime, um, that I'm going to speak. Um, and then another reason that I have them in is because I actually find my voice to be like a source of sensory distress. Um, quite a lot actually. You know, um, so when I have these in, it reduces. My perception of my own voice a little bit. It's kind of got that noise reducing aspect of it. Um, so it allows me to speak louder than I usually do as well. It's very interesting thing to have to be like put off by your own voice. So people will be like, Oh yeah, you're so quiet, Tom, like talking to me out in the public. Um, but yeah, it's, it's, it's literally because I don't like setting myself off. It's crazy. It's crazy. Uh, Bree says what kind of music is your favorite? I like alternative classical and rock. That is a very good combo. Um, I like everything really. I don't really have a specific like if it's a good song, I'll listen to it. You know, I don't tend to listen to a lot of songs that are in the mainstream just not because I don't like them. Um, but just because I hear them a lot. And any song that I hear a lot when I don't necessarily want to listen to it, um, it just kind of grates on me. You know, um, but I listened to a lot of dark trap music, um, rap, metal, um, a lot of alternative stuff to be honest. Um, but I do have a playlist of kind of chill, um, perhaps a little bit downbeat. Melancholic kind of music that I like to listen to a lot. Uh, Angela says me and my boyfriend love listening to music all day and he's a very good music set up. So the sound is so good. I love it. That does sound like the thing. Yes. Yeah. I don't know if I'd be able to get it past copyright, but your land of confusion song. Very good. Um, I think I've heard sons of plunder from disturbed before. Which I really liked, but I will add this to my, to my playlist. So thank you. Um, music is my way to regulate my emotions and relax. Yeah. Same. And also some, sometimes, uh, if I'm struggling to really process something that's getting me down quite a lot. Um, it might sound a bit weird, but I tend to put on really sad music because, um, sometimes I'm not always aware of how I'm feeling. And it allows me to be a bit more cathartic with like releasing my emotions. Like I find it very difficult to like cry and, um, get upset about things. Um, so a lot of the time, if I'm wanting to process, get past something, really understand how I'm feeling about something. Um, music does a lot for me to like bring it to the surface, I guess. Uh, ginger Pisces. What is that? No worries, Daniel. Uh, it will be, um, in the, uh, the, what's it, um, there will be a replay of the stream. If you want to go check it out. Um, I will be doing at some point, as I've said a little bit earlier, um, a longer stream. Um, probably what be tomorrow, not sure if it'll be Sunday. It might be quite late, late on Sunday or maybe, uh, Monday, uh, any, any point. I will be streaming at some point in a while. So thank you very much for sticking by. See monkey and all your questions and comments and stuff. I really appreciate it, man. Good luck with your channel. Hello, mistaken millennial. How are you doing? Chat. The lads says, uh, how do you manage relationships? Okay. When you're struggling with mental health, it can be so different for everybody. Um, I think, I think when I'm struggling with my mental health, I tend to be perhaps a little bit more independent in the way that I approach life. Um, don't worry about spamming. Um, Daniel says, uh, not like we sleep much anyway. It's Sunday. Sounds good. Totally. Thank you, Mr. Austin for a gifted, uh, sub to Mr. Curious. Thank you very much for that. Austin, you are a gem. Absolutely. Thank you, man. Um, but yeah, no, I think a lot of the time when I'm struggling, I need to have a bit more focus on myself. So I tend to sort of become a bit more pull, like pull back from friendships, relationships, things like that. And trying to focus on myself and, and implement a lot of self care. Shout out to actual logistics. Indeed. Shout from the roof. Uh, good luck. Good luck. A melon says, I hope you're good. What would you say is the best way to set up a good surrounding to decrease sensory struggles? Like how to reduce the effects of it generally. Um, we can do two things. You can like adjust the things that you have around like your lights. Um, if you have the money for it, you can soundproof places. Um, you can get a fan, which I do a lot, which kind of overrides background noise a little bit for me. Um, or you can just get some accessories that you can have anywhere. So like ear defenders, sunglasses, blue light glasses, um, noise cancelling earbuds, like I have, there's, there's the things that helped me a lot. Um, and if you're wanting to, I would definitely recommend auditing the things that you have around because you might have some appliances that have like an electrical buzz to them. And that can cause a lot of distress for me. Definitely. Um, other than that, you know, doing little things for me, like having lights, colorful lights and things around. Um, just show me how a lot. You can get like these galaxy lights as well that have like a projection on your ceiling, which I find really relaxing, especially if I'm having like a meltdown or a shut down or something, you just stick it on and it's, it's good. It helps me regulate a lot. Ally upside down said that's super interesting for sure. Thanks so much for explaining. And the idea I will try it as well. You're welcome. Remember to stay hydrated. That is the Joshua G hydration reminder for y'all. Um, bro, before you're off with the day, bless you. Thank you very much. I appreciate that. Hello, George. You okay, man? So we have about two minutes and then, uh, you needed the hydration reminder. Yeah. Joshua. Joshua G is the man for the hydrations. Um, it is very important, especially when it's a little bit warmer. So much, much appreciated Joshua G. Uh, yeah. So we've got two minutes left to the stream. Um, if you've got a question that you want to ask that's burning to be tongue, uh, go for it. And, uh, we'll get through them and then try and wrap things up for this week. Wow. That sounded Dutch. What sounded Dutch? Ladies is the best city. You like leads? I mean, I'm not really much, much of a city person. To be honest, I do like my towns and villages. 10 minutes. That sounds Dutch. I'm just enjoying listening to disturb now. Try not to like head bang. I get stressed out driving in bigger cities. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, you grew up in Jenny fields. Oh, you're quite close, son. That's cool. Denny fields a cool place. Uh, orders and ways has come to Copenhagen if you want. Thank you. Uh, Joe, uh, said rocks as a, what advice would I think you might have sent that a little bit too, too early there. Uh, I hate those straws that get stressed out being in the passenger sheet on the M 25. Interesting. I, um, I find like car journeys, like being in the passenger seat really relaxing and regulating for me. Like some, sometimes if I'm really struggling and I'm like unable to sleep, like I'll, I'll ask like my parents come around and take me, take me for a little drive, which always helps a lot. What advice would you give to a mom? Hmm. It depends. Like is this mom autistic themselves? Do they have an autistic child? How old is that child? You know, there's a lot of factors involved in that. Hate traffic. That's why I never bothered to drive. Yeah. It's definitely other people that, that calls me the most problems in life. I think that could be said for a lot of light autistic issues that, that we might have. Right. Um, it is being absolutely lovely to chat to you all today. And, um, as I said, we'll be off making posts. Not so much, um, lately, uh, but we'll be back on it in a couple of weeks, maybe three weeks. Um, and I will get back to you. Uh, if you have enjoyed the stream and you want to support my work, uh, make sure to give it a like and consider being a member. 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Um, and I will see you next week. Five, five, 30 PM BST on Fridays. Take that guys and YouTube. Thank you for, for joining in. It's been lovely to have you again. And it's really nice that we're, um, yeah, it's being really cool. Um, I hope you, you guys had a good time. See you later, Julian. Thank you. See monkey, Angela, Daniel, uh, mistaken millennial for, um, coming and chilling out. Thank you very much, Austin. Oh, that's brilliant. I really appreciate that a lot. Really, really appreciate it. And, uh, anyone else that I haven't said goodbye to yet? I think that's everybody. It's nice to see you again, Julian, by the way. See you later, guys.