 like I feel like I'm pretty stable and I haven't had great success in relationships either. Okay, let's go for it. Why do you think that is? I think I might be too independent. I think my dad has raised me to be like that so I'm a homeowner. I'm in a doctorate program right now. I think that's difficult for a lot of people. How old are you? 36. Okay, so it's like one of the things that is difficult is why so many women, Western women, have delayed marriage. Anything that you've done, could you not have done it while you were married to a man? I think dance specifically, it's a little tricky to do that when you have kids. You're giving up something, right? So you see even celebrities that are dancers like J.Lo, right? They're not having anything. Yeah, so it's a sacrifice. I have to completely put anything that I want to do on hold. So how far do I want to get along the dating and the marriage line if I'm not prepared to like have kids right then? Because that's an expectation, right? Well, it's like first thing I think about is Las Vegas and New York. How did women 40 years ago navigate these things? Showgirls, dancing on Broadway, how they navigate, still having families. That's a good question. I don't think I have that answer. But they did though, right? Because those women were not. Yeah, they did. Right. So if they could do it, that will be a template. That's what I mean, because my first thought is nothing that a woman is doing today necessarily precludes her from having a husband and children outside of a desire to find a solution. There are women who were showgirls back in who who did. So but here's the thing. The older you get, the more stuff you have. You have a home. You meet a man that has a home. That's a problem. Yeah. So I'm finding, right? Or their home is their mom's home. Like that can't be my problem. Or but the real problem is there's nothing new. At 36, you're a homeowner. You got a car. You got this. You got that. What can a man do for you at 36 that you can't do for yourself? Family. All right. But outside of that, you go to a, but arguably, there's no there's what magic is still left in a relationship outside of children. That's the one thing. How many kids do you want to have? I'd be happy with one, but I'd go for two. Well, I will tell you at 36 years old, something happened to me 10 years ago that shocked the shit out of me. I started getting emails and inboxes from women I knew from college and my career. And this is when baby packs start coming out. I didn't know what these things were. And everybody asked me, Hey, would you basically be the father of my child? Do you have any male friends that you have? Because I'm because if you're waiting to do it the old fashioned way, you see the baby pack or matchmaker because you're up against time. Yeah, I want to disagree with you. I think another problem too, is that who I'm around for dominantly are women and gay men who's in circles. So it's very difficult to just beat someone who's straight. Well, I work in image and style and I will tell you I get it. And this is why women like yourself who are in arts are going to have to either deal with the patrons of the arts or said matchmakers because you allow yourself to get to a point to where time is against you. And that's why I said I believe much in love. We don't get love at our age. We get respect and companionship. Love is a 27 and ouch. Why? You can grow to love somebody. I mean, wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute. Why don't we say ouch? I have friends. I mean, you can actually our grandparents didn't get love. They met each other and courted for 90 days. They fell in love over a lifetime. This Disney stuff ain't done too well for us. I'm expecting a fairy tale, but I don't know how much I want somebody to grow on me. Well, you can always buy a cat or a dog. They'll grow on you either way. But you can't get everything, ladies. Now you're at a point in life where you got to make tradeouts. The older you get, the more tradeouts you have to make because what you're asking somebody to grow on you, but they're also accepting an older wife and only one child. They don't get a young, they don't get the young 25 year old you and 10 years of your own. So that's why I say self-awareness, gratitude, humility and empathy. Modern women need to put themselves in men's position and realize what men want and what men are giving up or willing to accept by dealing with modern women. We don't get Phyllis Schlappley and that Sally, your homemaker and the babe and the brev. We still got to pay the bills. That's why I say 2021, the more you ladies can put yourself in the position of men, I think the more realistic the decision and expectations will be. Thanks a lot. Appreciate it. Dance on.