 So like my man Vince Vaughn so greatly said it's wedding season sandbag and son of a What is up everybody this is chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution so first before i get this video started i have a little thing to confess i hate getting the mail i hate bills and stuff like that well especially because like most of my bills are electronic so why they send me paper and kill these amazing trees i just don't get it anyways so i go and i check the mail and there's just a ton of mail i'm like right but anyways i go and i didn't get one i didn't get two but i got three wedding invitations okay and i wanted to make this video because like i want to make it very clear for all of you who don't know me if you are new here or you don't understand like i used to be a terrible hot mess of a person okay so i i can do nothing but express so much gratitude for the life i live today based on the fact that people are actually inviting me to their weddings like i am a drug addict and alcoholic who destroyed so many relationships and because i've stayed on the right track right just by staying clean and sober that's one part of it but i think a major part of it that i don't convey enough especially to anybody out there who's recovering from addiction but all of you anybody out there who's watching this like i have greatly worked on my mental health and working on my mental health is is a wide variety of things that's why i make so many videos working on your mental health is not only managing your anxiety managing your depression but a lot of it is managing your anger a lot of it is being grateful for things a lot of it is having good healthy relationships you know what i mean because you could take all the drugs and alcohol away from me and i can still be a real garbage person you know what i mean so i really wanted to make this video and just kind of discuss why each of these wedding invitations is awesome okay and like it's also important to like say like i didn't used to get invited to weddings because if you had an open bar chances are i was going to ruin your wedding you know what i'm saying but anyways let's get started this first wedding invitation right here is from jacklyn okay i call her jackie so this is actually my best friend's older sister who has known me since i was yay tall and her family and my best friend's family has been like my family growing up being the son of an alcoholic mom and my dad was constantly working and he was kind of doing his thing like my best friend's family invited me in on every single holiday thanksgiving christmas hell easter halloween like everything like his family is like mine so jackie is kind of like a sister to me you know what i mean and like they stuck around um throughout my addiction and everything like that and like i'm so happy for girl if you watch this i am so happy for you getting married but like this this means a lot to me like it's so amazing like realizing like i was a kid and now she's all grown up and i'm all grown up and she's getting married and doing her thing i love it i freaking love it so let's get on to invitation number two this comes from my good friend tori so how i met tori tori is actually one of the best friends of a very good friend of mine named nicky who was a co-worker of mine who became a very close friend nicky actually was my roommate for a while and that girl is awesome she broke her ankle why she lived here and by the way fun story real quick for any of you addicts and alcoholics out there who are like oh my god i can't be around drugs or alcohol forever don't be around that stuff in the beginning but nicky broke her ankle she had pain meds in my apartment and i wasn't going to bed laying there all night like oh my god how am i gonna get these pain meds right but anyways back to tori tori is one of nicky's best friends who i developed a friendship with and she is getting married to this awesome dude named philip and that's gonna be taking place later this fall and i'm so happy for you girl if you happen to watch this it is awesome and i'm so lucky to be invited to this gorgeous occasion and last but not least is this one i don't know if you can see this but that right there it says mexico so this is the last wedding of the year and this this one means so much to me and here's why this invitation right here is front of one of my best friends okay aka little shawn so how i met little shawn was when i got sober when i got sober i went into this sober living house and i met this guy little shawn and he was just so happy and full of life and uh and he immediately like just showed me nothing but unconditional love and gave me a hug i'm like get away from me you weirdo like he we often laugh about that now too like he thought i was weird you know what i mean but we were we were in the same sober living house when we first got sober the reason why he's called little shawn is because i met one of my other best friends big shawn in that same sober living house but anyways all of us managed to break the odds and we're all still sober today um all of them will be celebrating six years this year i'm the youngest of the bunch i got sober last so we all hit our birthdays like boom boom boom boom and it's crazy like you guys do not understand you do not understand like i often share this type of story with every recovering drug addict and alcoholic who thinks that things won't get better like this means so much to me like you need to understand me shawn shawn and jason like we were flat broke oh not jason so much but me shawn and shawn we were flat broke like we're talking like none of us had a car none of us had jobs we were taking the bus we were slumming it we were lucky if we can get some coffee just everything was just a hot mess as it should be when you first get sober because you destroyed your life and like as time went on as time started going on we started getting jobs right and as time went on we got our own cars you know we started to get our own places and now like shawn is getting married to this amazing woman i've met her multiple times and she is awesome you know what i mean like man like it's just crazy look back at where we were even five and a half years ago and where we all are now like it is so incredible and now i get to go be a part of his wedding i'm actually in the wedding too like what well not only did i not used to get invited to weddings but i sure as hell wasn't going to be in a wedding you know what i mean and i get to do these things today it is so incredible and like man it just it was maybe a blessing and disguise that i never checked my mail because i was able to get all three of these at once and it was just like boom boom boom and like it's absolutely awesome and like to end this video i just kind of want to say like one of the biggest things that we can all do is just stay grateful like be grateful for these little things and i did a video the other day which i will link in the info card up here about perspective okay like if this was me five and a half years ago i would have been looking at these wedding invitations like how come i'm not married right like my selfish self-centered brain would have immediately been like me me me me me but now i can be happy for other people like i'm not married and i'm stoked i love going to weddings weddings are awesome people are there to have a great time you get to see love happening i get to go to mexico like weddings are amazing you know what i mean and like it's just this whole mindset and so many things have changed for me so like if nothing else if you're here still at the end of this video like if nothing else practice gratitude work on your mental health because i guarantee that things will get better i am living proof and if you think this video was dumb i'm sorry but share with somebody else so they can be grateful all right do that for them quit being selfish all right but anyways if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new here my channel is all about mental health so make sure you click the little round subscribe button if you got some time check out some of those videos right over there you can click or tap on one of those all right so thanks so much for watching stay grateful today and i'll see you next time