 I mean if you've ever watched a movie where you just watch the end and you're like, okay, well What does that mean? What does that do? You can't just have the climax exactly Guys it's Lloyd here with a single guy and I have a very special guest here miss My name is Anna Elizabeth Grace and I'm the founder of Valor Awesome. Thank you so much for joining us today Anna So tell us a little bit about what you do with Valor and we were talking a little bit earlier about Relationships and kind of a masculine feminine energy, but tell us a little bit about what you do Valor really was birthed out of my working with men and women as a matchmaker and in the dating industry doing date coaching and I realized that there was a polarity between men and women and I really wanted to fill that gap and have men and women come together in their strength in their power and Maximize what they contain And yeah, that's a pretty important thing especially in today's day and age where people are kind of getting away from that People are getting very very individualistic and they're not kind of That's they're having a sense of identity crisis going on so you talk a lot about helping people find their identity, right? Yes, I do So really learning your own identity is what's going to help you maximize your relationships when you can connect to yourself Connect to your source your higher power You're able to connect with the opposite sex in a really dynamic way that frees you up to be yourself Freeze them up to be themselves and you can maximize your energies. Yeah So that's definitely true, you know with some of my clients I get some of the younger guys or I'll get some of the older guys and some of the older guys I'll get let's say I get like a Guy in his 40s who's a virgin never been with any woman in her life So he feels very self-conscious about that. He's like, well, you know, I don't know if I could do it It's been so long. I have zero experience Why would any girl want to get with me and I'm like well You actually have a lot of great qualities as well older men actually know themselves a lot better Than younger men do and so that's one thing that I try and tell them a lot Is that look man, even though you don't even though you're starting out out at like a level That's not the same as everybody else. You still have a lot of good things going on So I find my older clients tend to work better in my program because they know themselves a lot better But let's say you're you're getting a guy can we talk about practical tips a lot on this channel Let's say you're getting a guy who's kind of in that position I guess what sort of advice would you give him or what sort of steps should he take? To really start making progress with his relationships. I think first and foremost Understanding what his strengths and his weaknesses are it's not about being perfect But it's about being authentic and that's the a and valor authenticity and really helping being Authentic to yourself and who you are Realizing that you're never going to be perfect and you're not going to meet the perfect woman either and then Focusing on what you said what you said about okay my generation What do I bring to the table that the younger men don't have you have a lot of life experience? I think the other thing is leaving past relationships in the past Maybe you learn some things from those relationships take what you learned Implement it in your next relationship, but don't hang on to the things that you failed in just say okay I learned from it. I'm moving forward. I'm gonna maximize my next relationship in this capacity. Mm-hmm. Yeah, you mentioned Getting over past relationships So I see with a lot of guys who have just gotten out of a divorce Just gotten out of a like a bad relationship or something like that What are some steps that they can do to get past those those bad relationships? Well, I definitely recommend either a counselor or a coach somebody that can keep you accountable to your goals and saying okay What went wrong in my last relationship? Divorce doesn't mean you're done with love. There's always a second chance or a third chance But I think it's really important to wake up and say this is a new day I get to be who I want to be I get to rewrite my story with another person And there are so many beautiful people so many beautiful men and women out there There's got to be someone that you can connect with the point is Focusing on who you really want to connect with and what your goals are going to be together That's a That's good. What your goals are going to be together. I like that especially you know I had one client who when he got he went through a divorce and he felt like oh I think that was the only woman he had been with at that time Okay, and so he had no other experience with the relationships and he felt like his whole world is crashing down And so what we did was we talked a little bit about his strengths his weaknesses and stuff And I found out that he's really good at playing the guitar That's one thing that he really enjoys and so what I recommended I was like dude go to these open mics that are going on and you're gonna find a girl who likes you Likes your passion that you're showing with that sort of stuff So I think being able to help people find their strengths help people rediscover themselves I think is super important So we talked a little bit about the masculine and feminine energy. How would you define those things? Wow, I mean, I think each person is an individual So there's no one masculine energy that you can just plaster on all men or feminine energy that you can put on all women But I think in general what we need to understand is that men really need to pursue they really need to work They really need to work for the woman and and that's ingrained in their DNA and when we understand masculine design There has to be a healthy of respect for that and I think unfortunately We've kind of flipped the the roles and women are wired to attract to woo to seduce And a lot of my work with men and women is kind of getting back to that innate divine blueprint Mm-hmm of letting men be the pursuer and women being the attractor the seducer And really getting into that and becoming comfortable with that. I know that's not popular right now in our culture Yeah I'll get some I'll get some guys who though they'll tell me hey Lloyd. I'm having trouble with this girl And I'm like well, what's going on? I'm like well, she won't text me and I'm like she won't text you Have you texted her and they're like well, I said hi and I'm like you said hi And you're expecting her to bend over backwards to try and get that's not how it works I mean like so many guys are always looking for that thing. Oh, I want her to pursue me I wanted to do this well if you're a real man and you value yourself You're gonna feel confident enough to go after her but too many guys are I feel like they're too insecure For those kinds of things are there some of the problems that you you feel like you find with your clients Yeah, I would say first and foremost a lot of men haven't had a good male role model. They haven't yeah We're talking about that too. Yeah, they haven't seen what it looks like for a man to pursue We have a lot of fatherless homes and so they lack that male role model The other thing is and I'm certainly a feminist in certain aspects But I think the feminist movement has really done some damage to men and understanding that That pursuit is different than being predatory I don't want to diminish that, you know, there has been abuses But being a pursuer is different than being a predator and we really need to make a distinction between that and the other thing is You know, I really think it's important for men to understand how to bring substance When they're talking to a woman not just saying hi But having open-ended questions and reaching into her soul and when you understand as a man that the feminine energy Takes a little more of that wooing that pursuing that talking that reaching into her soul and not just into her sexuality You know that that's foreplay for women is talking getting into my heart getting into my mind And then when when you've primed a woman that way and you've really shown interest in her and you want her trust Then she's more willing to give you other intimacy. Absolutely, you know, I always talk about this on my channel I say if sex is like a movie it's like an hour and a half long Like the foreplay doesn't just start in the bedroom like it starts at the dinner It starts when you're talking even maybe when you first walk up and so women care a lot like if the last They say the last five minutes is the sex the actual sex the first hour in 25 minutes is super important Women care a lot about that hour in 25 minutes. Otherwise the last five minutes means nothing But too many guys want to fast forward through the first hour and hour and a half to get to that last five minutes And that's not how it works. I mean if you've ever watched a movie where you just watched the ending you're like, okay Well, exactly. What does that mean? What does that do? You can't just have the climax exactly Well, cool, it was great to meet you and I'm happier my users got to meet you too Hopefully we'll be able to get you at the seminar that I'm doing next Thursday and Santa Monica. I'd love to have you Cool, if they want to find you how can they find you so you can mainly find me on Instagram one Anna Elizabeth Grace And I also have a website www.purevalley.com I'm going to be posting content on there. So thank you for this opportunity Of course, yeah, if you guys liked what you had to say, please check her out on Instagram or a website. Thank you so much, Anna Thank you. Let's let you guys good luck out there