 My name is Tim, and I write a blog on the internet, righthandmanifesto.blogspot.com. So some people know me as Right Hand Man. And basically, I'm a father, son, brother, former husband, and sometimes a lover. And I write a blog basically dealing with men's relationships with women. There's a lot out there that's written in glam or vogue on Oprah. And I think I bring a little bit different twist to it, just from the perspective of a man being a leader. And I think that man's got three roles. That's to lead, to hunt, and to protect. My inspiration for re-entering the dating world came from my divorce. I got married young. I kind of followed a traditional pattern in America. You go to school, you study hard to get into a good college. Study hard in college, so you can get a good job. You can get a good job, so you can meet a nice girl. You meet a nice girl, you marry, or have kids. And that's a scenario that plays out for millions of men. My scenario like that ended up at the end of all that little course of being divorced. And since I got married at a young age, I really knew nothing about dating. I mean, I did it 25 years ago. And the whole game has changed now. The biggest surprise for me when I jumped back into the world of dating was how little I knew about it. Everything, my perspective on dating, from 25 years prior, it's just reinforced all the stuff that still goes on that you see in movies, and you read in books, and you see on TV shows, is the traditional form of American dating. Boy sees girl, boy sees hot girl. Boy likes hot girl, boy asks hot girl out. And the whole thing is what surprised me is how much chasing was really involved in that. I'm the guy, and I've got to chase some prize. Well, that's kind of backwards. I'm successful. I've lived a successful life. I've got a lot of great things going on in my life. But I end up chasing a woman act, and I've got nothing on the ball or on the stick. So the biggest surprise was trying to change that mindset, that I'm the prize, and I bring a lot to the table. The catalyst for the change in my approach to women really came out of two things, desire and disgust. I desired to date a higher caliber of woman, what do you want to call that, personality, looks, success, the whole combination of that. And then I was also disgusted with all the pursuing and chasing that I was doing, all the phone calls, and it felt like I was always after the woman, and it wasn't reciprocated. So that really changed my approach. When I got divorced, I probably set the record for a number of coffee dates. I mean, I literally went out with over 100 women. A few of them got second dates. Some of those turned into relationships. It was good. But I realized that I could short-circuit all that time that I was spending trying to chase women who really weren't going to be that interesting to me or that interested in me myself. So I kind of had to change my approach to the whole dating scenario. And I had to find a way to put myself out there, but put myself out there with high value. So the woman could see who I was, and if she was attracted to me, then she's gonna do just as much pursuing as I am doing of her. What inspired me to start helping guys with relationships with women or become a dating coach is I really had the desire to help guys. And mostly it came through watching friends and acquaintances struggle and their relationships with women. I saw them do a lot of chasing, a lot of pursuing. I saw them being the ones always trying to make get the woman's interest in them. And then I saw a lot of women jerking these guys around, yanking their chain, giving out little bits of interest and then reeling it back in. And these women really were kind of playing a game with these guys. So I wanted to provide them some real practical help of how to have a more successful relationship with a woman and success in their terms, depending on what the guy wanted. If he just wanted to meet a lot of women and have a lot of women in his life, have him doing fun activities with, who's the guy looking for a girl that he wants to date seriously. Those kinds of things. Helping guys, however they define success, be more successful with women. The first influence I had when I was frustrated with what was going on in my relationships with women or finding women or dating women, I started Googling the internet and somehow came across a guy by the name of Neil Strauss that wrote a book called The Game. Went to the library and I got it. I think I basically read it in one day. Couldn't get enough of it. Found it very interesting. Opened my eyes. Really, there's a world out there like this. It doesn't have to be how it's portrayed in TV and the movies. Of you got a data girl, take her out to dinner, buy her flowers, go to a movie, call her, pursue her. So that was the first thing. I read The Game and I thought I had to be just like that guy. So I went out and bought some, well I didn't, but I thought I gotta go out and buy some magic tricks. I gotta buy some flashy clothes. I gotta learn some flashy things, some flashy lines. I gotta go out and put those into practice. And after reading that, I discovered this little community that these guys had underground community. And I found out there were other guys that wrote books, e-books. So I got Juggler's e-book and I read that. Went online, saw some websites and read what they had to offer and saw that there's a lot of guys, a lot of advice. And it's interesting because you try to take it all in. It's kind of like drinking out of a fire hydrant. Can't just get a sip. It almost blows your head off. That was pretty much the start of it, of the change. So I started trying to read all the resources that I could get my hands on and trying to determine how I could fit this into my personality and my style. So I had some buddies who we went out and just started experimenting with these things. We would go out and, hey, what if you say this to a girl? What if you try telling this story? What if you ask this question? And we would always discuss and measure the response and say, hey, wow, look at this. This is pretty cool. Look how she responded. That was a good response and that was a bad response. So we just started talking about all these experiences and what worked, what didn't work and discovered that a lot of it really wasn't just a particular technique but was more the mindset and the confidence that you had when you went out. I think at a certain point after trying a lot of the things that I read in the game and trying it with my friends, I realized that we were more of like a dancing monkey or an entertainer and that's the last thing I wanted to be. I don't wanna go out and be the guy who's trying to entertain women because women are so fickle. If you're out at a happy hour or at a bar or a social event, a gathering and her interest in you can switch like a breeze changes. 30 seconds, she's really into you and the next minute she's off looking somewhere else, bored with what you have to say. So that's really how the book, the game affected me. It kinda got me started. It was a little bit of a jumpstart like battery cables sparked me to life but I realized that a lot of that stuff I didn't wanna be the entertainer, the dancing monkey. The progression into the dating coach came about when I looked around and realized that a couple of my friends and myself had a lot of success when it came to women. Had no problem meeting women, finding the ones that are interested in us and getting those girls to hang out with us. And I looked and I thought, you know what, I got a fair bit of success with this and I've helped out some of my friends. Why not make this available to other guys that I meet out there? Because it's just frustrating to go out to a bar, a restaurant, a happy hour and see me and in fact my friends and I go out now and we watch guys and they're doing all this crazy stuff to get attention from women and it's just, it's pretty laughable. And what I thought is rather than laughing at those guys and seeing their frustration and going, wow, aren't I, I'm lucky because I've got no problem with this, we turned around and thought, what if more guys were out there and they were more confident and they were more laid back and they acted more like a leader and less like a follower of a woman. Now how great would the world be if you went into a bar and women knew that, hey, I'm not gonna have 40 guys chasing me, I'm not gonna have 20 guys trying to buy me a drink. Now I actually have to have some personality and talk to this guy and show him some interest and I thought if more guys were like that, the whole traditional dating in America would be so much better. So I thought if I can change my little corner of the world, influence the guys that I'm around, at least maybe the venues that I hang out with are gonna be a lot more user friendly. You know, my style of coaching is more of mentoring. You know, I think that there's a lot of value in gaining new information and having a new idea shared with you and trying to go out and implement that new idea. But I realize the problem with a lot of guys who read a book or get a DVD or even go to a boot camp, they realize, hey, I've got like a mountaintop experience and this is really cool and it's great to go out and see these guys and be super successful with women. Because those guys are doing things they've never seen before. You walk them to a bar and you talk to a girl and two minutes later she's buying you a drink. You know, that blows a lot of guys' mind. That's a pretty common occurrence. I don't get that in eye. In fact, sometimes you go out and think that's expected. So my approach to coaching is mentoring. Let me show you how this works. Let me show you how this can be your lifestyle. And I really believe that it takes more than a weekend. It takes more than going and implementing 10 points that you learned in the DVD. It's more than being able to recite some lines that you learned or funny story. I think it comes down to how you carry yourself as a man, what your expectations are when you walk into a social venue and you see women there. What's your expectations? And I think that that changes in a guy over time. It can't be changed overnight. It's almost like going and working out. I mean, you're gonna start out with some lighter weights and you're gonna get stronger and stronger. Now three months you look back and go, I can't believe I started out with such a light weight. Now look at what I'm able to lift. Look at my duration. So I think it's the same thing. It's a muscle that's gotta be exercised. It's a mental state that's gonna grow over time. It's a confidence that starts out really, really small. A little seed and maybe a year later this guy's got a pretty healthy tree that's grown. Some of the things that I highlight when I'm mentoring guys and their dating relationships with women. So first of all, how to approach a woman, how to talk to her. What are some things that you wanna say to get conversations going and show that you have some interest and yet you're not the typical guy at the bar who's trying to chase them or pursue them. Second thing is how to follow up with these women. How do I get myself in a different environment where she can get to know me a little bit better but I'm not asking her on a date and paying for it? And the third thing is, is great. Now I've got this woman who's interested in me. I think I'd like to have her be a part of my life. And then I'm gonna share with them the things that they need to do of how to get her involved in your life without taking over your life. How she can be a compliment to what you got going in your life and not necessarily a distraction. My motivation for mentoring guys is really not the money. I mean, with economy right now, I mean, there's not a lot of dating guru coaches that are making a lot of money. And it's not about that but I think if guys don't pay something for change, you put a little price on it, they take it for granted. It's kind of they think they get what they pay for. Hey, if this advice is free, I'm really not gonna heed it. But if a guy goes out and drops $1,500 to improve an area of life, he's probably gonna follow up a little bit better. But ultimately I'm really interested in seeing guys change, have a better life for themselves. And also I'd like to see the culture change. I'd like to see guys embrace the role of being a strong leader, not being a guy that chases a woman just because she has a pretty face. Yeah, I have some pretty interesting ideas on marriage. I grew up in a very traditional household. It was really good and I think it was a great experience and my parents have had a great marriage. In fact, my parents just last year celebrated their 50th anniversary. So I've got some traditional views that I was ingrained in me but having been married and having given it my all and having been a faithful husband, a diligent father, staying home, my ex wasn't a golf widow, being a really good guy and you end up with zip goose egg at the end of that. In fact, you end up negative in the whole. It makes you change the way you approach things and I think the problem with traditional marriage is that you're dealing with American women and we live in a very feminized culture where girls are taught to be princesses. Now I've got daughters and I never used that word that they should be a princess but a lot of women grew up thinking that they're a princess and guys have to treat them as such. Got to chase after them, got to buy them nice gifts, got to take them places. That whole dating thing translates into a marriage where a guy is always trying to make the woman happy and basically as you mature as an adult you realize that you can't change people and yourself can make no one happy. People have to be happy on their own. So my idea of traditional marriage is that in American culture it's pretty faulty. The guy is always, is still chasing, he chased her to get her, he chased her to get her to become his fiance and to buy her a big ring, playing this really expensive wedding. Got to take her on a nice honeymoon and it goes after that. Now he's got to buy her a nice house, he's got to buy her a nice car. She may work too but it really comes down to she still feels like she's entitled to something and that's the biggest problem with American marriage in my viewpoint is that the man is still trying to bring things to the table to win her favor, to win her affection. A lot of women use sex as a weapon. You see it in situation comedies. The guy is a little bit of a doofus, everybody kind of picks on him, whether it's the dad or the guy that's trying to pursue the woman and he's always, in every situation comedy the guy is right, he never gets laid. He's always looking for the sex and the woman's always kind of holding the cards and it's laughable but it's really sad and you laugh so hard I cry because that's pretty typical of American culture. If the woman still has this, what the guy wants and he's still got to perform and jump through hoops to get it and she's gonna give up a sex when she feels like it and if he's been on good behavior. So that whole chasing idea is perpetuated into marriage. I think a lot of guys should try to rewrite the script and when they first meet a girl they don't establish it as that I'm chasing you and I'm trying to win your favor. It's not like boy sees hot girl, it's like hey hot girl, did you see hot boy? Or hey girl, look at me, this is what I have to offer. I think a lot of guys should reconsider that whole American model of getting good grades, getting to good school, to get a good degree, finding a good job, to get a good job, to get a good wife, to have good kids and they have to make a decision if that's really how they want their life to be played out. A lot of guys have a decision to make if that's something that they want to pursue. As you get older in life, you realize there's a lot of things you could have done when you were younger and you didn't because you bought into this trap of materialism and going the traditional American path. But a lot of guys discover later that they like to travel, they like to experience different cultures. There's some things that they wanna do that they can't because they're married and have kids. A lot of younger guys should consider this. What do they want their life to look out? Do they wanna travel the world while they're still 20 and unencumbered? That's a great time to do it. You're not stepping on anybody's toes. You have to worry about this. Gosh, I got a car payment, I got a mortgage payment, I got a job that I just can't walk away from because if I have a gap in my career they're never gonna hire me again because I think I just checked out. A lot of things that young guys gotta consider now how they want their life to look. And I just think that the role of traditional American marriage is something that they should stay away from. What I'll find is guys who travel, they experience it, open themselves to other cultures. If you go out and you try to meet women who are raised to adulthood in a foreign country other than the United States, of course that makes it foreign, but these women have a total different take on relationships. They have a total different take on how to treat a man. They have a total different take on their role in marriage. And once a guy travels and sees that he goes back and go, wow, I can't believe I bought in to that whole ideal. Where I think the younger generation, the next generation's been a lot of stray is through our culture in America. If you check out my blog, you'll see that my interest says we live in a very feminized society. And now when I grew up in the 70s, it was still fairly traditional. But what happened is that we live in a culture where everything is, everybody is hypersensitive. Everybody needs therapy. And I think it comes from a lot of kids, especially men being raised by moms. My dad kind of checked out. He's either too busy at work or he just checked out of the scene and didn't live with him. But you got a culture where every kid who plays any kind of a sport gets a trophy. There's no more winners and losers. Every kid gets a trophy. Uh-oh, we got to watch out for little Johnny's feelings. He's got to be more sensitive. And I think as a culture, we've led men astray. Men don't know how to be leaders anymore. Men don't know how to lead, hunt and protect. We live in a feminized society where our hunting's kind of looked down on. How many guys grew up where their dad or their grandfather took them out and showed them how to hunt down an animal? And a lot of, in our society, that's frowned upon. It's kind of a macho thing, but it's still pretty cool to be able to go out and hunt something down and kill your own meat. But the supersensitive culture, this feminized culture that we live in, all the stuff that a guy's, a guy being a man, everything has changed in the past 20, 30 years. You know, whistling at a woman, looking at a woman. You go to another culture, you go to Brazil, you go to South America, go to France, go to Italy. Guys act way different than they do in America. And what's the funny thing about that is that every woman loves a foreign guy. He's intrigued, he's intrigued because he's macho and he acts like a man, you know? But in America it's feminized. So I think that's where everything's been led astray and part of my coaching that I provide to guys and part of what I try to write about in my blog is this ideal of, you know, taking back your manhood, acting like a guy, not acting so fragile, like you're gonna get hurt. I mean, you shouldn't be the guy crying over a lost relationship. You know, and come back to modern culture. Situation comedies, the man, the dad has always pursued, is always perceived or portrayed as being kind of goofy. You look at the hit show out, Modern Family, that's on ABC now, not to pick on that. But the guy's doofus, he's kind of goofy and it's the mom who's in charge and that's the way American families have become. Mom's in charge, mom's make the decision. And I think it's rooted back in how girls are treated when they're younger, they don't have really any good role models to see a strong father type. And also when guys date them, guys stick women up on this pedestal and act like, oh, you're some great prize versus, hey, you know what? I'm the leader, I'm the guy who hunts. I've got a good career, a good business. I'm the one who protects. It's kind of backwards. We want guys now to be so much more of a nurturer, but that's really not our role. What I think needs to happen is that there's gotta be a change in mindset among men. The women aren't gonna change because they're just gonna respond to what we do as men. But I think the only way to change the culture is one guy at a time changing. And I look at it this way is that if you go to any port around the world, especially in the Pacific Northwest where the Columbia River comes into Pacific, there's like really treacherous waters. So when a ship comes in, they always got these guys that shoot out in these small little boats, they're called Harbor Pilots, and they come in and they help the big ship navigate through treacherous waters. Well, I think that's what more experienced guys or guys have some success in life need to come back that to a younger generation and help these guys navigate some of the treacherous waters. Hey, watch out for that sandbar. Oh, if you're gonna go there, you know, that's the bad area of the shallow water. There's where you're gonna run on the rocks. That's where you're gonna hit the reef. And I think it's gonna take two things. One, guys that have a measure of success in their life, especially with women and relationships in a good way, in a positive way, in a strong way, need to actually mentor younger guys and show them how to avoid these things. You didn't have this problem, you know, 50 years ago. My grandfather didn't have this problem because you know what? His wife understood her role in the relationship. She wasn't trying to be the man and the woman at the same time. But these days, with the feminization of our society, you've got women that wanna be all and end all. That's why you'll find women in their mid to late 30s that have never been married. They're still waiting around for Mr. Perfect, but it's the Mr. Perfect that the culture has told them. They're waiting for some guys that gonna accept them, their career, the fact that she wants to start having a family at age 40. I mean, all this stuff is crazy. It's very American and it's very dysfunctional. In my opinion, the community started this way. You've got guys out there are hungry for some change in their life and they're frustrated with what's going on. They're frustrated with their relationships or their lack of relationships. They're frustrated that they're still a virgin in their 20s, you know. No one ever sat them down and told them how to do this. And they don't like the status quo. And I think their desire led them to form little groups of guys who'd get together and talk. I've got friends and just as a natural course, we talk about dating and relationships with women. And I think guys who do that just kind of banded together and said, hey, you know, there's other guys and they start forming little groups where they're gonna get together and talk about this. I think the community evolves because there's a little life cycle. You take an average guy that's either frustrated with his inability to meet and date women or you take a guy that's gone the traditional route and he finds himself in his late 30s, early 40s and he's divorced and he doesn't know what to do. He finds the community. He's enthralled with all these new ideas. You see these guys when you go out to clubs because you always spot them. They've got their sleeves turned up once and they're wearing some kind of medallion around their neck and they've got their hair gel. And you think, oh, this guy read the game. But once they get in the community, they find some success with it. And they realize that, hey, I've got a bigger life than outside this little community here. And they start to embrace some of their other activities. And once they've had the ability to meet a woman and ask them out and get dates, basically pick up women, they kind of leave the community. They get bored with it and you find the guys that are there. There's still a lot of infighting. There's a lot of pissing matches about what works, what doesn't work. You should try this method. You should try that method. And I think that's one of the things that turned me off the community. I just got tired of hearing guys spouting off and personally I knew them. And I knew that they really had very little success with a woman and they got a bigger kick out of just spouting off about it. So that kind of turned me off to some of the community stuff. What I think that it's going to change is that you're going to find guys looking for more normal resources. Brent Smith with the Brent Smith lifestyle. There's a dating coach. There's a guru who talks about having a high level of success and portraying yourself as super successful and going out to clubbing and playboy parties, cruises where it's full of hot single women. And there again, it's the same thing. A lot of guys don't live in that world and a lot of guys aren't going to live in that world. And it sells a lot of expensive boot camps and there's nothing wrong with that. But I think I'm trying to reach or trying to get a message out to the average guy who he's not going to live that lifestyle. He really doesn't want that lifestyle. He'd like to meet women. He'd like to have the ability to have a lot of options to pick and choose. He doesn't necessarily want to live a jet set lifestyle, flying off around the world. And that's a tiny, small percent of the population that aspires to be like that. It all looks good in the rap videos to have the bling and the champagne parties. But when it comes down to your everyday life, you know what you'd like? You'd like to be able to talk to attractive women. You'd like to be able to know what to say to them. You'd like to be able to, hey, how do I follow up with this woman? What kind of level of communication should I have with her? You know, I don't want to chase too much, but I need to let her know I'm interested. That's where 99% of the guys live. That's where most of the guys need help. And I think the community is gonna kind of still be a little awash in trying to find the best guru available. I think every guy will come to a point when he realized that he's overcome his fear of talking to women and he's realized that he can go up and talk to a woman. At that point, you realize it's really not about the method that you learn it from. It's not about what you're wearing. It really comes back to a confidence that you have on the inside that you're able to express and comes out in your attitude, your actions, and the way you carry yourself. You know, all the pickup artists that are well-renowned, especially if they have TV shows about it, you know, mystery. There's other guys out there like that. What's interesting about it, yeah, it works, obviously. People wouldn't be paying them big bucks to come see them, to learn how to do it, to make a TV show about them if it didn't work. But I think for the average guy out there who doesn't wanna wear a funny hat, guy who doesn't wanna dress like Elton John and go out, you know, the normal average guy that's got a good job and he doesn't wanna run into his boss and he's wearing a feather boa around his neck, you know, that guy needs some real practical help for somebody who's gonna approach it from just a really low-key, high-value type approach. So those guys are great in what they do and I think that they inspire a lot of guys to go out and be bold and to talk to women in a bar or in a club. I think they inspire some bold behavior that every guy needs to embrace at some point, but I don't think you can make, most guys aren't gonna make a lifestyle of taking one of those guys and trying to be a mirror image of him. I heard about the 21 convention through the big guy in charge, Anthony. I met him a few years ago and became acquaintances and in the past couple years we've become better friends and I've got to know him through that and that's how I found about the 21 convention. But what I think is great about the 21 convention is that you're taking a collection of different perspectives. You're taking a lot of strong alpha guys. They have some very strong ideas about what they do and you're putting them all in a forum where they can share that with a new generation of guys. You come in, you get access to all this great information, you get access to actually meet this guy that wrote the book. You get to see this guy who you've read his blog. You actually get to hear from this guy that you know that goes out and has great success with women. That's what I think is great. You take this, there's nothing else like it out there. I mean, when it comes down to the three things I think that a man's role in life is to lead, hunt and protect. I think the 21 convention now is starting to look at answering the questions that guys have in those areas. You know, how do I get healthy as I can be? Now you've got him bringing in experts on health and fitness. You can, you know, how can I have better relationships with women, how can I have more options with women? He's got guys coming in who really know how to answer those questions. And then even you got, hey, you know what? My job is to hunt economically. You know, in our society you don't hunt anymore, you don't hunt animals to feed, but you gotta hunt economically. You've gotta be out in the marketplace and be a hunter. Now you got guys coming in talking about how to be successful with your finances, how to be successful in your career. You know, I was interested in having a bigger audience for the voice that I was trying to want people to hear through the things I was writing about in my blog. And Anthony invited me to come and speak at the 21 convention. And I thought it was a great opportunity. And I've spoke for several years now and I think he's expanded to cover even better topics. He's got a higher caliber of information, a higher caliber of the presenters for coming. And it makes a better event. It makes me feel privileged that I get to come and share my ideas with these guys. I'm really enthusiastic about the comprehensive content of the 21 convention. I think Anthony's done a great job of expanding it to being more than just about dating, finding women, pick up, and expanded to cover those areas that are invaluable. There's not a lot of resources out there that are all put in roll into one where you can go to one event or one website and find out all this great information from these guys who are wildly successful in their different areas of life. You know, it's called the 21 convention, but I think that the content that's provided, especially coming down to some of the fitness and health issues that are brought, that's timeless. That's a guy who could walk in the door and be 18 years old, 21 years old, could benefit greatly from it. A guy who's trying to get himself back in shape in his 40s, 50s, even 60s, needs to hear the stuff that's being shared at the 21 convention. So I think it's pretty cool. You know, I kind of consider and mention to it somebody today as, hey, this is a young man's success seminar or convention. But really the ideas that are gonna be shared, any man, any adult man can have an aha moment. You know, there's a business philosopher, Jim Rohn, that passed away last year, but he kind of mentored me through his DVDs and tapes. And he always said that, you know, the book that you don't read or the meeting that you don't go to aren't gonna help you. So I think if a guy takes the time to put himself in the seat and to hear these ideas that are shared from these guys who have wild success in these different areas of life, they're gonna have some really good moments that a light's gonna come on their brain. They're gonna have an epiphany about something they're doing that they need to change or something that they were afraid of pursuing that they needed to put into their life. I think whenever you wanna make a change in your life, there's a certain amount of humility that you gotta embody. And that's to say, what I'm doing right now isn't working for me, or it's not working for me as well as it could be. And so you gotta have a little humility to take a new idea and understand it and try to ingrain that new behavior in your life. And that's one of the great things about the 21 convention is that there's an opportunity for guys to come in and to hear from somebody who has a great measure of success in a certain area tell you a new perspective, a new idea. And it takes a lot of humility to take that idea in and it takes a lot of humility actually to put yourself in a seat and say, hey, I'm gonna open myself up to listen to some advice from somebody besides myself or my small circle of friends. I've been invited again to speak at the 21 convention in 2010 and Anthony asked me what I was gonna speak on. And I think that the topic of my presentation will be the top 10 mistakes to avoid in your 20s. And really it's gonna cover a few areas that's gonna have a lot to do with dating and relationships. But it's also to come from things that I've learned in business, some mistakes that I've made personally, some mistakes that I've seen people make. I think the guy in his 20s pretty much has the whole world in front of him. He's got his whole life. And there's a lot of things, my friend and I joke about this. We said if we could get our hands on a book that was all the things my dad never told me, and we could read through those things and see, wow. You know, I thought that that was a really good ideal, a really good goal to have, but not so much. That wasn't maybe the best idea. I think it would take a lot of different areas of life. It could show you the things that the biggest mistakes to avoid in your 20s. You know, you can make small mistakes and recover. You can kind of run off the path a little bit, get your wheel out in a rut and get it back on. But there are really some big mistakes that you can make in your 20s that are going to impact the rest of your life. I'm pretty content with where I'm at in life right now. I think I learned the secret is you've got to be content with who you are and not necessarily with everything you think that you want to have in your life. But over the past few years, I've learned how to have the kind of relationship I want with a woman, and I'm pretty happy with how that's worked out for me right now. In the future, you know, I don't know if I'm actually gonna see myself ever being married again, but I certainly feel like I've had enough good experiences and been able to figure out enough that I can share this with guys that are in my life, friends, even guys that I mentor and coach. I can help them see some of these things and come to the point where they can have the kind of relationships that they want to have in their life. And it's not necessarily about getting in everything that you think that you want, but being able to figure out who you are and what makes you happy. A few short years ago, I went from a guy who was divorced and really had no clue about dating women to a guy now who has the kind of relationships that I want in my life with women. And I think a lot of guys out there get into this and they get a little nervous because they think it's Mount Everest. How am I ever gonna be able to talk to women? How am I ever gonna have the kind of relationship I wanna have with a girl? I'm always gonna be like this. And I'm kind of like living proof that you can change. If you sit back and think it's a Mount Everest, it's gonna be too painful, it's gonna take too long, or you don't have the friends in your life that can help you make the change. You've gotta change that mindset. There's really two things that you need to have. One is discussed with your status quo and then you need to have a desire to have a much better life than you're living right now. It's doable.