 فبطّه آدك الأيام فتّى وتنحى إن الحمد لله نحمده ونستعينه ونستغفره ونعوذ بالله من شرور أنفسنا ومن سيئات عمالنا من يهده الله فلا مضلله ومن يضلل فلا هديله وشد الله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له وشد أن محمد عبده ورسوله يا أيها الذين آمنوا التقوا الله حق تقاته ولا تموتن إلا وانتم مسلمون يا أيها الناس التقوا ربكم الذي خلقكم من نفس واحدة وخلق منها زوجها وبث منهما رجالا كثيرا ونساءا والتقوا الله الذي تساءلون به والأرحام إن الله كان عليكم رقيبا يا أيها الذين آمنوا التقوا الله وقولوا قولا سديدا يوصلح لكم أعمالكم ويغفل لكم ذنوبكم ومن يطع الله ورسوله فقد فاز فوزا عظيما أما بعد فإن أصدق الحديث كتاب الله تعالى وخيرا الهدي هدي محمد بن عبد الله صلى الله عليه وسلم وشرى الأمور محدثاتها وكل محدثة بدعة وكل بدعة ضلالة وكل ضلالة في النار My beloved brothers and sisters الله سبحانه وتعالى He placed over our shoulders a lot of responsibilities الله سبحانه وتعالى when He brought us to this world He placed different responsibilities over our shoulders and rights that we have to fulfill and we have to come with it and that we will be questioned the day of judgment if we do not give its rights and its responsibilities the way it should be done one of the things that the people are heedless of and they are unaware of and they do not come with its rights and responsibilities is the responsibilities pertaining to the household and so insha'Allah سبحانه وتعالى today in this khutba I want to talk about this topic because I find it to be very very strange that a community who live in the west do not understand this concept and it has not digested in their minds and their brains correctly the house Allah سبحانه وتعالى He made it مكان القرار والاستقرار the place where we reside we live we find comfort and tranquility and Allah سبحانه وتعالى He made the house a way in which we can protect our souls our religion our money and our honor the things that we do in our households nobody knows of it behind on the other side of the house and Allah سبحانه وتعالى in a great surah صورة النحل in which Allah talks about the blessings that He blessed upon His servants one of the blessings He mentions is the house قال تعالى Allah says والله جعل لكم Allah has made for you من بيوتكم your households سكان and a place of comfort and Allah has made your house a place of comfort for you and the eyes go on until He سبحانه وتعالى He says يعرفون نعمة الله they recognize the blessings of Allah ثم ينكرونها and then they come and they reject it واكثرهم كافرون and the majority of them are what واكثرهم الكافرون and the majority of them are disbelievers the house my beloved brothers is when trials and tribulations takes place on the streets our houses are the places we result to is it not sad that your house is probably worse than the streets or your house is probably worse than the most filthiest places the Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he said in a hadith which is حصل اللي غيري الامام الطبنان he narrated in his وسط and in his صغير and in his وسط that the Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he said طوبة prosperity and good لمن ملك لسانه the one who takes control over and save God his tongue ووسعه and he suffices him بيته his house وبك على خطئته and he cries over his shortcomings may good and prosperity be for that individual one of the things that the prophet mentioned is what his house suffices him meaning when trials and tribulations hit he has a place to run to also the Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he said in a hadith which is حسن if all the chains of narrations are brought together it becomes حسن that the Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he said سلامة الرجولي the peace and the good for an individual is in what فيلفت نتي the times of trials and tribulations is أن يلزم بيته that he stays in his household he protects himself from the trials and tribulations that hit so what does that show you the Sahabahs who the prophet was first addressing they had a household in which when trials and tribulations hit they can save God their religion they can save God their children and their families well it's a fishadid it makes a person sadden about the reality that the Muslims are living in today is some people's households it's better that they don't even stay in it because of the corruption and the arm that they brought to their own households إخواني the house is what لبنة الأساس it is the strongest foundation in which a society للمجتمع المسلم a Muslim community who want to find good want to solve their problems they have to have a strong foundation in their households and the house brothers it takes the position of what it's like the heart and the messenger he told us that the heart is what فإذا صلح القلب if the heart is good it's in a good state صلح الجسد كولو the whole body is good if the heart is good and it's healthy then the whole of your body is healthy and if your heart is filthy and it's dirty then the whole of your body it becomes and it follows the heart so the household is just like that if the Muslim community don't get control over their own households and they don't protect their households then the community is dead and they won't live for long a lot of Muslims complain and they mention that they don't find happiness and comfort in their households they don't find that they don't find that and they don't know what's the reason why can't I find it I hope to answer that question the first thing that is needed for a household a community for them to overcome the problems that they have the first thing that everyone has to underline in his mind is that we base our household God's consciousness our household is a place where Taqwa reverberates that's what a household should be like المسلم العاقل the smart clever Muslim is the one who wants to find happiness in his households first and insha'Allah تعالى by taking the path that was paved and that was set by our messenger my beloved brothers and sisters we could all sit down and ask each other do we have problems and everybody would say yes and that is one thing I can say that we unanimously agree upon it's محلو جمع that we all agree upon that we have problems but where we may differ on is what where is the solution where should we start from and the truth of the matter is we need to start from our own households we need to start from within behind closed doors what we're doing we need to make sure that our house is income which is حلال and that we don't taint it with filthy money the messenger الله سبحانه وتعالى وكلوا وشربوا eat and drink الله is saying that ولا تسريفوا and do not exceed your limits إنه لا يحبوا المسريفين الله does not like those who transgress and who exceed their limits one of the money that you bring to your house make sure that you use it for a right cause and what is needed in the household people are bringing money into their households and it's extravagant in things that are not needed الله also is saying سبحانه وتعالى ولا تبذر تبذيرا إن المبذرين كانوا اخوان الشياطين وكان الشيطان لربه كفورا do not go overboard and exceed in what you don't need for verily those who exceed their limits in what they don't need الشيطان is a disbelief of his Lord our messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he said انا ابن ماجأ احمد او narrated the messenger said a person is rewarded in the provision the risk he brings home he's rewarded for it if he comes with the intention he's rewarded with Allah سبحانه وتعالى كلها all of it إلا فترابي except in the dust أو قالع or in another narration he said I will be now in the construction what does that mean ألمان محافظه من حجة ابنه بطال they all mentioned that it means anyone who brings to the household income and uses it in something that is not needed that individual he won't be rewarded for that so it's upon us my beloved brothers and sisters that we make sure we bring حلال income to our households that our young children that we have our wives our parents we're giving them حلال money our income it comes from somewhere حلال or else we're going to be like the people that the messenger said أشعة أغبر يمدوا يديه إلى السماء يا رب يا رب ومطعمه حرام وملبسوا حرام وغوذية بالحرام he's in the middle of the desert he doesn't look appealing he's tired he asked his lord but he used to eat that which was not حلال he was raised upon حرام then the messenger said when that one's dua be accepted your children when you die they make dua for you but the dua won't be accepted because you raised them upon حرام the other thing that is needed my beloved brothers and sisters is that you marry a righteous wife and the wife she marries and she uses a righteous husband a person who's going to aid her in the remembrance of Allah not one that reminds her of the dunya and diverts her from the from the religion الله سبحانه و تعالى و أنكح الأيام منكم والصالحين من عبادكم و إمائكم الله said marry from the women the religious ones the ones that are remembering Allah and that they have God consciousness with them the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam told us at dunya mataa this dunya is a short time of joy it's not very long و خير متاعها and its best of its joys is المرقة الصالحة a righteous wife that when you come home she's concerned about what have you increased in your religious ethics what have you earned from the remembrance of Allah the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam also said this is something that the people do when they choose a woman they are marrying her for one of these four و لما لها her wealth و لحسابها her lineage و لجمالها her beauty and her religion then the messenger said you will find comfort in your household if you've got a woman who remembers Allah who would aid you with your religious practice who would help you learn more knowledge that woman you'll find comfort the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam also said one of you should take a heart that remembers Allah when he's in a state of gratitude and his tongue is always remembering Allah و زوجة مؤمنة and a righteous wife that aids him in the affairs of his religion she's helping him why haven't you prayed your qiyam last night why are you not praying the Jama'a in the masjid why are you at home all the time she asks him about his religious ethics she helps him and Ahmed narrated that my beloved brothers and sisters الله سبحانه و تعالى لآية that I mentioned before سورة النح لآية 80 الله سبحانه و تعالى و الله جعل لكم من بيوتكم الله is made for your house is a place of comfort and Allah also made the wife a comfort imagine if you get those two comforts و من آيات أن خلق لكم من أنفسكم أزواج اللي تسكنوا إليها و جعل بينكم مودة و رحمة و يجب أن يكون لديك جيد في المساعدة يعني أنه يجب أن يقوم بعمل المساعدة و يجب أن يكون لديك محبا فالساعدة ما سنعود منه من المساعدة و الحساب المساعدة سنعود من المساعدة و المساعدة who doesn't يتطلق في طريقات يتكلم كل شيء و سلاحه لا يتعب with him يتذكر أن الله لا يتعب with him هؤلاء الذين يجبون و إذا كانت أحدهم يحدث بشكل و يجب أن يأخذ حرام و يأخذ المساعدة و إذا كانوا يقولون أننا نقوم بعمل الله و نراه في حسابنا و نراه في المساعدة و as soon as you open the door the wife is complaining لأنهم لم يأخذوا الأشياء that were needed from them so what is the situation the person who has a house on mortgage who beautifies his house with haram who marries a woman that has no religion how is he going to taste comfort and happiness in his household my beloved brothers and sisters the second thing that is needed if you want to have a good household is what the second thing brothers is to make your house a place where you're always remembering الله سبحانه وتعالى in it your household your tongue your wife yourself your children always your tongue is not one still except you're remembering الله سبحانه وتعالى الله سبحانه وتعالى و الذاكرين الله كثيرا و الذاكرات يا عبد الله لو مغفرة و اجرن عظيمة the male and the female who remember Allah a lot Allah has prepared for them forgiveness and immense reward also الله سبحانه وتعالى يسأل يا أيها الذين آمنوا or those of you who believe اذكروا الله ذكرا كثيرا remember Allah a lot سبحانه وتعالى and the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he said مثلوا البيت الذي يذكر الله فيه the likes of the house in which Allah is remembered so the prophet is giving us a parable how is it like the house where Allah is remembered and the house Allah is not remembered the prophet said مثلوا البيت الذي يذكر الله فيه the house where Allah is remembered و البيت الذي لا يذكر الله فيه and the household in which Allah is not remembered is like what الحي والميت a house which is alive and a household which is dead a household which is dead and a household which is life so the person should make his household a place where Allah is always remembered سبحانه وتعالى how should we do that brothers a practical way when you leave your house when a person should make when he leaves his house the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he said if one of you leaves his house or he or she they should say بسم الله in the name of Allah توقلت على الله on Allah I rely ولا حولة ولا قوة إلا بالله I have no strength I have no plans also the person says اللهم إني أعود بك أن أضل أو أضل أو أزل أو أزل أو أظلم أو أجهل the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he said anyone who says for me to misguide or for me to be misguided or Allah I seek refuge he is saying this dua every time for me to be oppressed or Allah I seek refuge for me to be ignorant or for someone to be ignorant on me also the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم if one of you enters his household he should say the prophet said إذا دخل الرجل بيته if a person enters his house فذكر الله when he enters his household and when he is eating food he remembers Allah and they say لامبيت لكم today there is no way to stay and there is no food to eat the shayateen say this to one another وإذا دخل فلم يذكر الله but if he enters and he does not remember Allah the shayateen look at one another and they say today we have caught up the right place this is the house we are going to stay so they stay at that house وإذا لم يذكر الله and the shayateen say ولعشا today we have somewhere to sleep and we have food and the shayateen relax him and getting food it's energy he is going to put towards you and you are going to be weak for your عبادة and he is going to weaken you when it comes to the remembrance of Allah so many of us don't remember these simple things we don't remember it the person remembers Allah just before he goes to sleep براي بن عازب بخاري ناريته من حديثة مليمان that the messenger he said براي if you come to your bed do a ablution just like you are going to pray salat when he jumps to the bed and throws a duvet of himself and he sleeps he doesn't remember that there are things you need to do just before you sleep he makes work he does a wudu just like he is going to pray when you say this du'a before you make the du'a you lie on your right side and the messenger said he says أسلم تنفسي إليك I have surrendered my soul to you ووجهت وجي إليك and I have directed my face towards you وفوذت أمري إليك and my affairs I have handed it over to you you control my affairs وإلجأت تضاري إليك for me رحبة ورغبة in state of fear and state of hope I do all of that لا ملجأ ولا منجأ there is no place to run and there is no place to find safety إلا إليك except to you أمن to our Allah I believe بكتابك the book الذي أنزلت which you have sat down ونبيك الذي أرسلت and the prophet you have sat down the prophet said وجعلهن آخر ما تقول لا تقول باقي أو تكتبك على phone دعوك تقول then when the believer wakes up and he opens his eyes what does he say الحمد لله الذي أحيانا he praises to the one who gives us life بعدما أماتنا after we had died وإليك النشور وإليه النشور وإليك نشور إمام البخاري he narrated it there is dua in the households that you need to make also the prophet said there is a dua that the man and the woman they make when they are doing intimacy that he says اللهم جنبنا الشيطان or distance and protect and divert from us the shaitan وجنب الشيطان مارزقتان and also protect shaitan from the children that you give us also when the person enters the toilet he says or I seek refuge بك من الخبث والخبائث from the male and the female shaitan I seek refuge from them and when he comes out he says or I ask you for forgiveness and we doubted until he narrated this my beloved brothers and sisters remembering Allah every moment and every minute of your time in the house one of the rights that the household has on us which is the third one and I am going to conclude with this one is that we purify our households ومن المخالفات الشرعية the things that are prohibited in the household don't break the house take distance from your households ومن المخالفات الشرعية and the things that are in oppose opposition towards our شريعة in the households which the people have nowadays is immense and it's a lot from them is اتخاذ التصاوير في البيوت وتعليقه على الجدران pictures that the people have and they're attaching it on the wall and this what does it protect my beloved brothers and sisters وهذا يملع الدخول الملائكة في هذا البيت the angels will not enter that household whether those pictures are from memories from when you were young or your children the angels my beloved brothers and sisters they do not enter it that household the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم لا تدخل الملائكة to the angels do not enter بيتن a house and the dog is in it ولت تصاوير and pictures are in it angels do not come to that house متفقون علي بقال المسلم both narrated that عائشة رضي الله تعالى عنها she said that the prophet said to me ان اصحابه هذه الصور the people of this picture عائشة the people who made this picture you عذبون يوم القيامة they will be punished the day of judgment and it will be said to them you قالوا لهم and it will be said to them بقال ملائكة to the pictures you have taken وإن الملائكة and the angels لا تدخلوا بيتن فيه الصور and the angels or عائشة they do not enter a house where there are pictures in it متفقون علي وإخواني الصورة هي what التي تملعوا دخول الملائكة هي الصورة للدوات الأرواح if you take pictures of trees and the sky no problem but taking pictures of animals and human beings it is impermissible and it also encompasses photographs they all come under this one of the things that also اخواني مخالفات شرعية that take place in our households is what اختلاط free mixing داخل البيوت within the household and it's very common within our culture the cousins and their brothers and sisters and our شريعة has taken a very strong position regarding this matter and what do they call it nowadays? يصمونه بالجلسات العائلية they call it family gatherings that's what they call it حقيقة الأمر it destroys a lot of matters the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam he said إياكم stay away from إياكم is a word that is used للتحذيل stay away from it ودخولوا علي النساء to enter upon the women go to Adwa ul Bayan by محمد الامين الشنقيد رحمه الله ايه وإذا سألتموا فسألوهن من ورائي حجار محمد الامين الشنقيد رحمه الله he comments on this hadith in a page and a half رحمه الله a page and a half and the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam when he said this إياكم الدخول علي النساء be cautious on entering upon the women not free mixing only just entering upon the women the man he said يا رسول الله افرأيت الحموأ the hammu is what وهم اقاربوا زوج it's the relatives of the man it's the relatives of the man the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam he said الحمو الموت he's dead he's the one who causes the biggest because you don't suspect your brother to do anything wrong but my beloved brothers it is not suspicion of your brother or your wife it is suspicion of shaitan within our culture we believe if you say this to your wife or you say to the brother your brother don't come to my house when I'm not here people will say this is your brother are you suspecting your brother are you suspecting your wife no wallahi I trust my brother and I trust my wife but I do I never trust shaitan the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam also said in حديث بخارن the muslim both narrated لا يخلونا رجولون a man should not be alone بمراءة اي ومن إلا معذي محرمين except there is a محرم with her this is our messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam my beloved brothers and sisters one of the things that are also prevalent and they are apparent in the muslim household is what my beloved brothers play men you need to pray sallallahu in the masajid and the jama'at and when you do pray the sunnah and the nafila in the household so the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam he said اجعلوا من صلاةكم في بيوتكم ولا تتخذوها قبورة some of your prayers the voluntary prayers pray inside your houses and it's a good sign for your wife it's a good sign for your children when they see their father praying the sunnah and they see him praying in the in the praying inside the household and the sallah here my beloved brothers is not meant by the obligatory prayers the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam he said صلوا أيها الناس our people pray في بيوتكم in your household the men فإن أفضل الصلاة المرئة في بيتي إلا صلاة المكتوبة the best prayer for the man is to pray in his household unless there is an obligatory prayer أقولوا ما تسمعون وأستغفر الله ولكم رسائل المسلمين من كل ذنب فاستغفره إنه هو الغفر رحيم الحمد لله رب العالمين له الحمد الحسن وثناء الجميل واشدوا الله إلا الله وحده ولا شريك له يقول الحق وهو يهد السبيل واشدوا أن سيدنا والنبينا محمد صلوا الله عليه وعلى آله وصحبه والتابعين لهم بحسان إلى يوم الدين أما بعد my beloved brothers and sisters these are things that are missing from many of us our households and there are things that we have taken very lightly and nowadays anyone who even tries to tell the people these are the things that need to be done these have to be met for our households that person is looked at as a stranger a person who has come from a different world a different universe a different planet this has all become strange if a person comes to his family and he tries to tell them these are the points that need to be followed for Allah to save the Muslim from their problems he's looked at strange and this is no doubt something that our messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم had told us before my beloved brothers والله the countries that we're in today which are not Muslim countries from where I'm from the UK it seems like we're more closer to the religious ethics than here when I come here I see that it's more distanced from the religion and that this is something I could say my beloved brothers and sisters we need to take very serious that our households are places where we remember الله سبحانه وتعالى a lot and the religion is shown الله مغفل لنا دنوبنا وإصرافنا في أمرنا وثبت أقدامنا ونصلنا على القوم الكافر الله مغفل لنا هزلنا وجدنا وخطأنا وعمدنا وكل ذلك عندنا يا رب العالمين اللهم لا تجعل الدنيا أكبرها مننا ولا مبلغا علمنا ولا تصدط علينا بدنوبنا من لا يخافك فينا ولا يرحمنا ربئات نفوسنا تقواها وزكها أنت خير من زكاها أنت وليها ومولاها ربنا آتنا في الدنيا حسنة وفي الآخرة حسنة وقنا عذاب النار أقم صلاح