 The school of Ahl al Bayt, you don't just say divorce, divorce, divorce and it's over. The community gets together, you get two judges to sit with each other. Two people of respect, don't go to two Maulanas by the way, yes? You don't have to go to Maulanas, get two people of respect, two people of wisdom. Because not everyone with knowledge has wisdom. Anyway, so, you get two people from the community together, you sit them down, you sit the couple down, you have a separation period. Don't show the way in your ta'la. Separation, don't live with each other for few months. See if you miss each other or not. If after that they don't want to be together, then the school of Ahl al Bayt says ta'la can be done. Now, nikah in the school of Ahl al Bayt, how many witnesses do we need in nikah? How many witnesses need to be in the mosque for nikah? Two, four. No, you don't need any witness for nikah. These two, you just make them feel important that day, yes? Come here, sign, the poor guy is not known for anything, you make him happy that day. In the school of Ahl al Bayt, nikah, you don't need anyone. Ta'laq, you need two. Ta'laq, why do I need witnesses? Why can't I just do ta'laq quickly? Because Allah doesn't want ta'laq to go that quick, yes? Think back, sit back. I tell you and I'm sure the Maulanas here will tell you. We've been in more than enough cases where you'll find someone that may ask, why the girl is not allowed to have ta'laq in her hand? I've dealt with cases where if the lady was allowed to have ta'laq in her hand, I promise you there'd be a ta'laq every day in this world. That's not me attacking women. A woman Allah gave her attributes that man can never have. The warmth, yes? The compassion, the emotion. But sometimes that emotion could go overbearing. Tell him I want ta'laq, tell him I want ta'laq, tell him I want ta'laq. Then a few days later, tell him I love him. One minute you're telling me I want ta'laq. Now you're telling me I love him. Yes, I was emotional, but you could have finished the relationship. Ehli al-Bait said what? There has to be two witnesses. Those two witnesses shouldn't just come straight away and say, okay, where do you want me to sign Maulana? No, I should ask. Who are the two getting divorced? Try and patch them up. Try and make, you know the only time, one of the only times you're allowed to lie is to make two people come back together. Lying is haram, correct? When it comes to marriage references, for example a person can do ghiba, otherwise normally ghiba is not allowed. When it comes to making two come back together, you can lie. You could say, do you know how much today he told me he loved you? He didn't say anything, the guy, he was quiet the whole day. But you make her feel like you want to come back together, you're allowed. Ehli al-Bait said what? You're allowed two witnesses, the two witnesses come there, and even further than that, what did they say? They said after the two get divorced, there is an ida to be observed, correct? In that ida period, the two of you are allowed to still come back and get married without nikah. Your sister and her husband get divorced. If the ida is Raji and you can return, does your sister need to do another nikah during the ida to get back to her husband? No, just a touch between the husband and her. They're back together. Do you know how many people in the Muslim world don't know why ida was there? ida number one to see if there's a pregnancy from the marriage, yes? Number two to try and hopefully within those few months, the two can come back. If you as a parent can see that your child wants his wife back. Your son wants his wife back. Your daughter wants the husband back. Don't put your emotion ahead of theirs. You see the boy wants to help him get back. I send this as a message to every parent. You could see your boy misses his wife and you know who caused the issues. Don't let your ego get in the way. If you see your boy is sad, go talk to him, let him get back. ida was there, not so that three of you, that it's over. ida was there so that you may reconcile. Come back. Try and find a way you two can talk again. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala didn't want you to forget each other. He wanted a chance for both of you to possibly forgive each other. But some ladies tell her and say, well, we, can we have the right of divorce? Of course you can. A lady in Islam can divorce her husband. In which situations? One situation is the khul'a divorce, yes? The khul'a divorce, what is it? The khul'a divorce is a lady may come to Rasulullah like she did, like Jamila or Rabi'a bin Pasoud came to Rasulullah, said, Ya Rasulullah, I, my husband is a good man, but he's short and bold. I don't have any attraction to him. Can I divorce him? Rasulullah said, are you willing to give back the garden that he gave you? She said yes. He said very well because she said, I can't fulfill my Islamic duties to him. There's no physical attraction. She was allowed the khul'a divorce. Khul'a means what? The woman asks for the divorce, but she has to give mahar back and expenses possibly above mahar. Then there's a second time of divorce, what is it? The maharah divorce. The maharah divorce, what is it? When the woman asks for the divorce, her and the husband reach a stage of aversion to each other. They don't want to be around each other. And she says that I'm willing to give my mahar back. Khul'a will be mahar and more because the husband may demand more. And the maharah, no, you may say for example, according to different ulama, the maharah will be given back. Then there's a third, which is what? What if my husband is being a devil in this relationship? He hits me and beats me and hits me and beats me. We take it to Mawlana. He says, Mawlana, I love her. He gets back home and he says to her, you see, Mawlana number one sees that I love you. Number two, my family has and your family doesn't. But we have him in our pocket. You can't win. She can't win in this world, you're right. Qiyama, she'll win. Oh, you be a dictator in this world, don't worry. This world was made for you to be a dictator. Keep being a dictator. There's a Qiyama, you'll be shown like this. The ulama realized there are many husbands when they are hurting their wives, not giving talaq. Is it fair that that lady, the husband five, six, seven, eight years is away, doesn't maintain her? She keeps going to a different Mawlana. One after the other, Mawlana says, sorry, I can't. Mawlana, but that man is not looking after my rights. I can't. It's his duty, his rights. He's the one who can give talaq. Until ulama, like say the sistani, may Allah lengthen his life. And others came and said, listen, if the husband's not giving the divorce and he's not maintaining the wife, and there's no way of even changing him, if the local Mawlana is not giving you, come to the representative of the marjah, he will allow the haqim al-shara'ah to give talaq for you. In the past, no one was informed of this. And therefore, many wives lived under zolm, daughters lived under zolm. And instead of the fathers, you know there are fathers out there and all they say, doesn't matter if he hits you, I just don't want there to be a divorce because what all the people say about us? Your daughter is being beaten and you're concerned about the people. So say the sistani has a ruling that if you are not being maintained and your husband is not giving you talaq and no one's giving you talaq, come to the representative of say sistani, wherever he may be, go there, you're right. They'll call the husband, if he answers and he says there's a chance to change, they'll try and work together. If not, that haqim al-shara'ah will be the one who will say divorce done. In other words, those who thought the woman has no chance of divorce, think again. If a woman wants to divorce and give her mahar back, give other expenses back or even go to haqim al-shara'ah, then the woman is able to do that. And that's why you find Rasulullah would try as hard as to tell the people. Divorce may be allowed, but it's the worst halal in the eyes of Allah.