 The last thing I'll get into before I ask some questions here is I call it like kind of the Jersey Guido persona or in Europe I always use like the Italian macho man is the same type of idea and it's like okay Well, why why is this guy good? Why is this guy because you know you see that guy you're like the natural Why does he get the girls? You know and what it is is when he goes up I always say it's kind of like he's got this internal hip-hop track of him being like I'm the boss I'm the boss. I'm the man. I'm the man. Holy shit. Oh, yeah, I'm amazing. Look at my tan. Look at my muscles Right all that so he's like and what it is is he's Usually what I say is that guys that come to these type of things events and like learn about this stuff Is you're too smart for your own good, right? Why are the guys that are kind of stupid kind of get a lot of girls? It's because they're completely oblivious to any social feedback. They're just like she's like fuck you He's like nice playing hard to get I'm the boss. I'm the man. I'm the man I'm the man, right? So he's so stupid. He doesn't even ping off of that, right? Whereas guys were like we're a hypersensitive. So we're like, oh my god. She looked away. She twirled her hair What does that mean? Does that mean she likes me? Does that mean she doesn't like me? What do I do? Holy shit, right? And like right everyone's kind of like yeah, yeah, yeah So it's like how do you cross that threshold and the thing is is or how do you become the Jersey Greedo or the macho man? And what it is is you can never really turn that stuff off But you just have to realize to not put any value in it whatsoever So it's like I can't turn that off. I'm like, oh man, she's looking away That's an indicator of things not going well But I know if I feed into that or like start meditating on it and thinking about it even more it's only going to be that self-fulfilling prophecy and so much of social dynamics in general is like a Self-fulfilling prophecy whose frame is stronger, right? And I'm saying like one of the best kind of headspaces to be in is that like We'll say gorilla, but it's more just like entitled headspace like I feel entitled assume attraction I'm the high value one. I'm here and you're gonna love me I'm the coolest dude here and the coolest guy are gonna meet tonight and let's do this and again, it sucks because If only it was that easy to just like flip the switch But that's actually a good thing because then you'd be watching TV and they'd be like there's aliens outside You'd be like there's aliens. Whoa It's like you have that you have that in your head that your mind is smart enough that you can't really trick it Quickly, but it's all about like forcing that frame forcing that frame and then using some of the kind of like cheat codes I talked about earlier to kind of get some of those reference points, but again what it ties back to is long-term Remind me to bring up hotter girls if I don't bring this up again like other girls Yeah, long-term you want to get it to the point where you're just getting those reference points And it happens naturally and I totally that wasn't even what I was talking about but what I what that made me think of is a Lot of times when who here is like decent with like the average girls, but it's looking for hotter girls I mean here like no, I need all the girls The problem that a lot of guys they're like I can give the sevens, but it's just it's different I don't know something's different and and sure there is the whole your internal headspace thing that you got to deal with Which is one side which I talked about before but then the other thing that is really interesting that when you get with a more attractive woman is That you're not going to get as many IOIs you're not going to get as much positive feedback from the girl right the example that I use is Let's say You're walking down the street and right you find like a thousand pound on the ground. You're like oh Thousand pound shots Let's do it right whereas like if Bill Gates was like oh sweet And he's keep on going like he wouldn't even carry like yeah another person not starving in Africa Like it's not a big deal to him It's the same thing for like an attractive woman like like when like the seven if you come up and you start Developing these like high-value traits which happens pretty quickly if you're just going out is that like a seven? She's like oh my god. Yeah. Oh the cool guy. Yes. It's like my one chance for love Right whereas like when like like a very attractive woman. She's like oh sweet. This is cool This is how it should be. Yeah, cool like she likes it. She's having fun with you, but she's not gonna be like All this stuff so guys are like it's different. What's going on here? I don't know and the thing is is So many times especially when you're in the media stages you don't have a lot of experience You just kind of like you're going up and you're like oh at least I'm talking to her. Yeah, she's laughing cool This is good. This is going well. Oh, and you're too busy like Be in the cellar instead of the buyer does that mean you guys understand that frame like you're trying to sell yourself as opposed to like What do you got? Right, so you're too busy on the seller side like oh, what does what did you think about this? Does this work? Am I should I say this oh damn it? I don't have anything else to say here Oh as opposed to being on the other side. We're just like what do you got? cool really Interesting I don't care which is kind of where the girl falls into not because she wants to because you set that frame, right? And again this ties into when you're entitled it happens naturally, but you just want to get it where your frame Stronger than hers. I guess I'll just kind of say this because this is one of my favorite things to talk about too is um is That same kind of frame thing that's going on. It's actually going on right now Talk about mine. I'm mind fucking you right now guys. It's going on. You don't realize this What it is is when you talk to the girl again, she's got her frame like yeah, I'm having fun And then you have yours and you're like I want you whatever it is. That's obviously a bad one It's the same thing when I walk in this room and I walk in and I'm like What's up guys and you're all like Right, it's who whose reality is stronger, right? So I walk in mine's like I want them having fun I want this to be cool, and then if you guys are like I hate RSD. Who are you? You have long hair, right? I'm gonna be like So if I ping off of you, and that's like 30 people here or many people here It's gonna be like oh Where I have to be like no my frame is stronger It's the same thing if I'm teaching boot camp and the student comes up, and he's like this place is really hard Yeah, the girls are so mean and I'm like you're right. It is really hard. Oh, I didn't even notice Right, I can't have that frame. I just see what I'm working. So I get like no dude. This place is awesome Let's do this. Come on. Let's go