 if you build your resilience skills or your emotional fitness then you can prevent stress from developing in the first place and we know that your level of resilience isn't something that's fixed, that you're born with it and that's all there is. It is something that can grow and be developed. So I think of it like a tolerance level if there's a bar and the more you develop your resilience skills and your coping capacity the more things you can handle before you hit that bar and it takes a lot more for something to even register as a problem for you.