 Ladies and gentlemen y'all give me one second here, you know, I just Ran in the house. I'm just getting home just get home. I set my life cuz I miss my Video today been out taking care of some business So want to pop on and do a quick live tonight probably just be on here About an hour tonight cuz I got my good shirt on so I really don't want to sweat sweat out my shirt So, you know, I just came in the house And I had to throw my hat on cuz I ain't got my head a lot on straight I had to put my hat on so now remember tonight put your hashtag queue in front of the question So that I can identify the question in the chat and I try to go in order the best I can but sometimes the chat just kind of You know, it'll go up by itself. I don't know how or why it does that but I try to go in order as you post your question and I didn't post a video today. Hopefully I get to post one tomorrow and Yesterday video was for the fellas just felt the need to do that been dealing with a lot in these You know Coaching sessions and just hearing so much just so much going on with the men out here Right now the day that I need to speak to the guys So I'm gonna see First question pop then how do men view women who dress provocative? You know, unless that's like for a photo shoot or something like that a man typically sees it as low self-esteem and Attention-seeking I know a lot of times women say it has nothing to do with that And that is just because they like their body or just because that's how they want to dress but We really don't do anything just for ourselves Because we live with around other people So everything is to a certain degree for other people because if we just did everything for ourselves We wouldn't even put clothes on but we put clothes on for a reason. So when a woman is dressing provocatively, you know Provocative you got to look at the root word to So a man sees that as attention-seeking, you know and that she wants to be sought after or praised for You know the assets that she's showing and whether it's right or wrong. That's just how men interpreted If a man inbox Me and send a DM with his phone number and you message them back and they don't call Why should a woman call a man when he sends his number? Nope, you shouldn't call a man when he sent his number How should a woman handle rejection from me and she likes? You got to see that as you know, like you dodge the bullet because if you like a man, he don't like you bad That means that you would have just got drugged through the mud You know imagine holding on to somebody's shirt and they trying to get away from you If somebody pulling this way and you holding on to their shirt They just gonna drag you and so that's what it looks like when you want a man Who doesn't want you? Y'all hold on Maryland God bless you now. I know you say that men change for their women But I don't see a lot of men growing up and changing although there are good women out here. What does this mean a Man change for the woman. That's for him So if a man is not changing for a woman that woman is not the woman for him He doesn't see that woman as his woman You might see them together, but that doesn't mean that's his woman because to be honest with you Just the way the numbers fall You may bump into or date ten people before meeting the one some people may date a hundred people go on a hundred dates Before meeting the one so just cuz somebody together don't mean that they meant to be together So that that's what the issue is right there. Let's see My good friend wants to set me up with a guy she dated in college over 15 years ago thoughts I wouldn't do it. I wouldn't do it. Anybody she'd have had that sloppy seconds And a lot of time they want to do that just to get back in touch with the person And she just don't want to get back in touch with him on her on her own name So she won't throw your name on there now tell her you are at your weight on the Lord Do you think it's smart to start a relationship with a co-worker? Only if you willing to lead a job so if you willing To get a transfer or to quit the job if you build a strong soul tie and then y'all break up Because it'll be torture going to that job if you got a soul tie with that person and y'all don't work out Tony I am doing the work to get over the X, but I want to be over him already. We only dated four months Will say that we had a lot of deep combos and spend a lot of time together. So maybe that's it Keep doing the work. Keep doing the work. You can't put a time limit on it. Can't rush it, you know Keep doing the work. Let me see Michelle God bless you. I have a long time friend who's now married and he insists on staying in touch with me. Um You got to ask yourself What is it doing to your spirit and how kind of in touch is he staying with you? If it's happy birthday, then that's different if it's Merry Christmas, that's different But if he trying to text you or call you every week now, you know, he doing the most, you know He's looking for that outside energy Miracle a what is your cash out? It's my name It got the money signed in Tony Gaskins the way it's spelled some people spell my name wrong door Don't leave it's on there. Somebody sent me a blessing that day and I just want to tell you bless you somebody sent me a blessing and Said no need for a shot out, but I got to give you a shot I ain't gonna say your name not just in case your cousin on here and ask you for some money Yesterday, but thank you that show bless me now Lady E bless you. Thank you for your obedience man of God Red both books have been to the seminar changed my life. No question. God Thank you for that Kim bless you now bless you. Thanks for that video yesterday. Mr. Gaskins is just what I needed To show my son as a single black mom and couldn't put into words myself the way you spoke really calmed my spirit and hopefully my son Thank you. Bless you. Thank you. Thank you for that support of that video. I Turned out the advertisements off on that video. So it'd be no interruptions and I really appreciate y'all who checked it out and shared it especially Roxy God bless you now blessing to you and the first lady bless you now Roxy Nigel maybe that's your name Blessing I'm trying to forgive a guy who used and abandoned me. He's 34. I'm 26 He texts me He missed me I called and this 19 year old girl picked up and was yelling at me I keep thinking of revenge, but I want to let go let go. Let go. That's the best thing You could do is let go start the healing process now Learn from it now see what you have to do when you go through something like that What you got to do is you have to sit down and you got to look at everything that transpired and you have to Get the lessons if you can't understand it then you may need to work with a coach go on my mentor dot life and book a coaching session and Go through it and learn every red flag that you miss every mistake that you made and Write it down write it in your journal and get it in your spirit so that when it comes up again You won't fall for the same thing because that's what we do wrong so often is We fall for the same thing because we don't take time to look at what we did wrong so When you think about a relationship from the past what you have to do is think about What you did wrong and what you could do better next time and what you have to do is get the lessons from it So that why while it's on your mind. It's just not taking up space rent free you getting something from it So make sure make sure you do that now. Now, let me see. I'm gonna see if I can Get in this hill chat grab some of these questions. Lady. God bless you now Why is my soon-to-be ex? Making fake Facebook profiles and pretends to be another man to see if I might respond It's been a lot of DM, but I know it's him because he has a signature phrase. He uses He he probably is looking for something to hang his hat on he needs something to Be able to say this why this why it didn't work out. She's a cheater. She cheated on me She was cheating on me. He also want to see that if you if he's about to be your ex He also wants to see if it's because you're talking to other men See some men look at you like boo boo the fool Some men think you look like who shot John and forgot to kill him So sometimes a man will look at you and say ain't no way in the world She finding the strength to leave me unless it's a unless she entertaining other men So that's why he's trying to trip you up Another thing is, you know, men just hate failure My ex got mad left nasty messages Texting voicemails today because I won't be with him. I told him leave me alone He's still texting leaving messages Tony was I right for not responding anymore? You're absolutely right. You did the right thing Can a guy come back out of ego the first time but then come back another time out of heart Anything is possible. Anything is possible, but you got to look at the guy You got to look at the guy so it depends on his character depends on his integrity Why did y'all even break up to begin with and how do you know it was ego the first time? And how do you know his heart the next time? So typically if a guy is genuine for one if he has to come back he coming back out of heart point blank period So if a guy comes back out of ego the next time he coming back He's still coming back out of ego, but he now he knows how to disguise it as coming back out of heart So it's it's possible, but it's not probable Geo God bless you now Tony my ex is my co-worker now I have healed and I know my power he knows my standards and We are able to work together with no animosity should I keep my distance? Yep Y'all to keep your distance because when you round him, he's still gonna trigger that that part of your energy To a certain degree and he could end up blocking your blessings and he could be talking to you and Somebody else another woman another guy could be looking at you That could be your husband and a woman over here could be oh That's her. That's her man. I guess they got back together Just cuz you talking to him So now he don't block your blessing because tall dark and handsome was watching you getting ready to holler at you And could have been your husband But now because you dealing with them cuz you talking to them and y'all got history somebody else and said oh I guess they back together boom So that's why when you leave your ex cut them all the way off cut the ex all the way off Angela God bless you my ex told me he isn't good enough for me. He has been Now he left but said it was me who left and now he told me to fix it Two and a half years with two kids. I feel like he wants me to chase him. You feel right. You feel right Your ex slapped crazy. Okay, your ex slapped crazy So you need to get down to the child support court soon They open it up on in the midst of this hit 19 get down under that child support court You finna get double for your trouble cuz you got two of them You finna get double for your trouble get on down there because you're dealing with somebody that's You're the cuckoo for the cocoa puffs. So you need to get down there a Sal you hit me Monday morning be it be open help open the door Monday morning be down there seven Thursday open a Carmelita God bless you. I bless your carmelita bless you now. That's so now you showing up Luna moon bless you now from my heart. Thank you. Love for 11 years. I know my word Luna Stay strong keep going now Akira I was ghosted accused of something I didn't do and Ignored by a man. I dated briefly. He was a good guy and very consistent Should I keep trying to plead my case or just leave it alone leave it alone leave it alone leave it alone leave it alone Don't ever try to please your case unless you in the court of law because you dealing with a man and He playing blues clues and then he putting stuff on your name that you did not do So that let you know that you're gonna have your hands full and this while he young and healthy You see what I mean? So now if he put stuff on your name that you didn't do and he young and healthy Imagine growing old with that man and he started to get see now Now he wrapping you up in Luna for When he's 65 70 years talking about you working for the government and you spying on him Wrap you up against the bed post in the woman for you see what I mean So when a man you dealing with a man like that early and he started to blame you and accuse you of stuff Yeah, he he he got issues. So this is what I try to tell y'all now. This is what I try to tell y'all Recognize crazy early Recognize crazy early and I'm always reminded of that because when I watch the news I will see Somebody a lady lose her life to a man in a very Vile way and I know in every case it's precursors Well, there is antecedent behavior. It's little red flags That's why I say recognize crazy early. Do not play with it. Do not play with You see it man cuckoo for cocoa puff gone about your life Cheryl in God bless you Tony you are so diligent with your work I want to work for myself to one day. How do you find motivation to go hard every day outside of God, of course? Well, I tell you what the Bible say if you don't work you don't eat So it's kind of hard for you to want to work for yourself and go hard when you're working for somebody else So I was balancing in two 40 hours for them 40 hours for me eventually I was able to go full-time for me because I was working hard because I wanted to work for me And so now this is my job So it might look like I'm diligent, but you have to realize that I've been building for 13 years. So When I do a hour video a day Imagine doing one hour video a day versus working on somebody's job for eight to 12 hours When you put it in perspective, you know, I had to grind a lot of years, but now it's not as hard as It was and I show up and I go to work, you know doing my work coaching writing Producing online courses, you know, because I also got to feed my family So beyond serving my purpose I got to feed my family Now and speaking of courses the life coach certification because it's got a lot of life coaches on here right now tonight Aspiring life coaches the pricing increase Monday So June 1st It's another price increase because we creeping back up to its original price because the country opening up people going By the work so we slowly the course will be creeping back up towards original price You don't need a coupon code It's already set with the discount and it's on Tony gaskins academy calm Tim God bless you. I don't have asked can I break up be? Emotional painful. Yes, it can that's that's what it's gonna be even if you will sleep with somebody it's still an emotional time I've been talking To for over a week. He shared with me. He lost his mom over the weekend. Do I give him time? I'm confused and this is awkward You could say your condolences Oh, I'm so sorry about your loss and then over the next couple of days being that he lost his mom You can check in. Hey, just checking in on you. How are you and you could do that just in light of things, you know for a few days and Then he's still he should pick back up after about seven days and start to initiate the contact But if he rides this out and he doesn't come back around and he don't start initiating the contact then keep it more Remember to put hashtag Q in front of your question put hashtag Q in front of your question and only questions in the chat Only questions in the chat so I could Identify him easily What does it mean if a man says him or you are not leaving the relationship? But in the same breath says you should move on and find someone to treat you better Daddy crazy and you need to do the ladder move on and find somebody to treat you better If a good-looking accomplished guys having trouble finding a woman when there are women everywhere Is he looking for someone specific Like a wife Yes, he's looking for something specific and guys can be picky and the longer a man is single the more picky he becomes Just like some women Well, now all women come sometimes start to go the other way But the longer a man is single the more picky he becomes But the other thing too there are women everywhere There are women everywhere, but a lot of women today being turned over to a reprobate mind And I don't actually know what that means But that's what the bible said and it just in the context sound like crazy And from what i'm seeing in my comment section Is a lot of women losing their mind and so I was talking to a good guy today Single going on 30 take care of yourself great money you know It man of God and he really struggling to find a same woman That is just you know and and women have gone through so much That is so much insecurity is so much hurt is so much pain. That's why i'm on here doing what I do That's what I do what I do trying to help heal hearts trying to help ease the pain trying to bring new knowledge Because just as sorry as men getting out here today. You got to realize it's another side of that If you got sorry men that you can have broken and hurting women And so now when you have a good man It's so many broken and hurting women that the good man having problems meeting A good woman And so I told him I said man I said bro. Hey god bless you, bro. I I'm glad I'm out the game And I'm I'm married because I I see it ain't easy. I'm I'm seeing it. I'm seeing it Because I coach people every day. I coach two to four people a day um and I just I see in all the struggles that's going on, you know on both sides So it's real out here. So that's why you got to equip yourself with the knowledge Bowlet god bless you now. Hey tone I just want to give you a little tired and all from because you're pouring into my life and So much I've been using all you teach and I believe and I believe I have a prospect God bless you now that shoulder be a blessing if you do Hey, Tony, no question today. I lean bless you now bless you. Let me find my next question Is it okay if a man doesn't text during the day but call And text after work. Thank you for all you do. Yes, that's okay. That's actually That's totally fine. If he working, you know, you got to work And some jobs don't allow you to have yourself on out, you know He got to make sure he secured a bag now. So that's that's totally fine As long as he reaching out to you every day and y'all talking an ample amount of time, you know, 30 minutes or more Then you're on the right path Bridget green god bless you now. Thank you for that blessing Bridget Miss old bless you. Hello, Tony What's the name and version of the study bible you read please? I just read the bible app It's an app on the phone called the bible app and it got a brown bible as icon And then in there it has the different version. So I I read the um The new standard version. I think it is nsv And um or the international Standard version. I think it might be called I read the one that's kind of written in more plain english And then sometimes I flip back to king jane version just to see how Weird they said it and then I flip it back to nsv to read it more in plain english Love knows a god bless you now My dad is cheating openly. My mom is choosing to ignore but my siblings are affected emotionally by his cheating and her silence How can I help? What you can do if unless your daddy come from the old school to where if you step to him He's gonna swing on you Then you could you need to speak to him send him a text message Send him a text message that speaks to his heart That he could read over and over and over and said dad, you know, you raised me and I always thought you were superman But now to see how you live in your life. I am disgusted. I am hurt. I am shocked and I am appalled Some days I feel almost ashamed to be your daughter How can you come to this point and still call yourself a man and treat our mother this way? If you want to cheat then be man enough to leave you said I mean sometimes you got to speak truth to power You don't have to curse him out. You don't have to yell at him You only you got to step to him face to face sometimes it's on you To speak truth to power because a lot of times people don't see nothing wrong with what they're doing until somebody That loves them calls them out about it. So that's what you got to kind of look at Well, I gotta be mad if you don't make out, but you're okay with kissing What difference is that? Um, should you tell a guy you met? That's constantly texting you. I've been thinking about you You're not romantically interested in him only two days And no conversation of substance Should you tell a guy you met that's constantly texting you I've been thinking about you You're not romantically interested in him only two days and no conversation or something Yeah, you don't have to say it like that. But you know, you can't tell him. Hey I've been meaning to tell you I'm just not in a place to date You know or anything like that and I don't want to waste your time and lead you on and I don't want to waste my time So it's been great knowing you but I really just would rather You know bow out gracefully so that you can go on and meet your wife without Me being a hindrance Say something like that. So it's kind of in a way. You saying it's me. Not you type of thing Um chari avery god bless you. Now my ex calls me still we was together eight years He is with someone of six months. I got mad pull the knife drop charges. Should I do 14 day rule No, I don't know what that money sound the lno is now I didn't take that class or miss the day on abbreviation university for that one um What 14 day rule you need to do the 140 day rule Y'all was together eight years Okay, he already moved on. He another relationship He pushed your button to the point that you didn't pull a knife on You could have took his life. He could have took your life. You could have went to jail He could have went to jail. Listen That's a fatal attraction. So what you need to do cut him off all the The way And move on about your life. Don't worry about no 14 days. You need to take 140 days Then you need to take another 140 days You need you got to move on with your life. So if you got to do coaching whatever you got to do You got to move on with your life My family is dysfunctional and toxic, but I've been working on myself every day When is a good time to tell a guy I'm dating or boyfriend about my family? Uh, that's not really necessary You know, he'll find out he'll find out about it Just make it by chewing him because a lot of people don't care about family You know, my family messy and toxic a lot of times Most of the time and me and my wife going on 14 years of marriage now And she see it, you know, and just kind of like wow really But people Don't really care about family as long as your family ain't trying to you know, put hands on him or Slice his tires or put him in bodily harm and danger Then them just being messy. That's something you deal with if you got to block them If you got to start responding to them, whatever you got to do you deal with that? That's your family You ain't got to put that on him And because when a person with you they with you so everybody kind of expect The other person's family to be a look off to a certain degree Recently talking to someone he didn't reply to my texts, but watch my ig stories. Should I address it? Or is he just playing games? um Well the thing with ig stories is he could have been watching somebody else story before yours and it just rolled to your story And then since it had rolled to your story, he just let it keep rolling So you can't take it as if he intensely was watching your story So that because that's how it just works on there because I done been watching the story And I done somebody'll post something at me and I look at it as soon as it's over it go to the next store And i'm like, oh lord, they gonna think i'm watching all these stories because I see how y'all be asking me about somebody watching y'all's story So that's for one thing and then two If you talking to a guy, he's not responding to your text and that means y'all no longer talking So it ain't about playing games. It's by he trying to send you a message like move on with your life So that's what you got to realize move on with your life Because you can't build something with somebody if y'all not communicate That make sure you put the hashtag q in front of your question so I could see it and uh only put um Questions in the chat for right now Should I do the life coaching if I am not all the way together in my life? Or should I just sign up for self-love you courses until I feel more confident? Um, it's a personal choice with the life coaching. You don't have to do it right now You know, if you just if you sign up for it because you want to claim the the discount For this 19 that we going through and that's why I got a discount You just want to claim the discount you the courses self-directed you could take it in january of 2021 With your new year's resolution. You see what I mean? So it's no deadline on when you can take the course But in january 2021 it's it's going to be a whole nother price. So that's why I say it's self-directed It's on tonigactionacademy.com and then self-love you That's only if you just need a payment plan for the courses But the same courses that's on self-love you are is on tonigactionacademy.com But self-love you it's cheaper because you can get the courses I think the the life and love courses for 1999 a month and then when you finish them you can cancel your subscription miss Marie God bless you now bless you But y'all remember now right now tonigactionacademy.com because that course going up on monday And some of y'all be right there. Oh, can you take it back? No, the system them went on forward now You should have Bart money from your grandma and then pay her back on monday or two than when you get paid So they're asking me to up in my whole business and try to turn back the hands of time. No it going up on june 1st All right, wait on it play with it Azula T. God bless you now. Love your last video on black men. How Can you heal the relationship? With my dad when it's one sided try to express how I feel about Him not being in my life, but he's ignoring it But telling me to build Well You're gonna have to try a different approach. Everybody don't communicate the same way So you may have to say it in a different way You may have to build Without talking about it right now just build he may be saying like listen Let's not harp on the past and how you hurt And let's focus on the present so we could build a better future us harping on the past It's nothing I could do about that. I cannot change that. I don't have the words to express What I did and why I did it see some men just cannot communicate like that Because men are not taught to communicate men are raised shut up Bit boys don't cry suck it up So some men don't even have the words to satisfy A woman's mind or heart and this your daddy. So just focus on building go bowling Not not literally because it got 19 on the bowling ball, but go out to eat, you know or curbside delivery and Just sitting talk talk about his dream talk about his goals You know talk about that and then the deeper y'all get the more you start to build You may find a time To to bring up how it affected you, but it might not be a day one conversation or right now conversation Uh, me. Oh, God bless you now. God messaged me on facebook exchange number Text the convo. We're in two different states. He has not called yet. Just met tuesday red flag want to meet Well, it's just friday now It's just friday man on work for the phone service For the telephone company now. So y'all y'all talking y'all talking in the in the message Y'all in two different states the more so than him not calling yet the the bigger things that y'all in two different states So with that being the case you might just be wasting your time period Sarah e god bless you now New boyfriend is coming over tomorrow For a moving night how to create atmosphere Non-sexual how politely reject any advances. Well, you can't play with fire and say how can I play with this fire and not get burned How can I stick this fire stick down my throat and not let it burn my esophagus? You see what I mean? So he don't need to be at your house Special right now with this his 19 out there because it's still alive and well We ain't got no cure. We ain't got no cure. So he come in your house coughing Come in your house coughing talking touching your toilet stool handle when he got to use the bathroom touching all over your appliances Touching all over and then next thing, you know Two weeks from now you going to meet the lord You you having a moving night with the lord because you let a man come in your house when we just got out of lockdown 24 seconds ago. You see what I'm saying? So first you got to be Okay, it's a 19 what y'all need to do Is get on phase time And put Netflix on and y'all watch it together He watch it at his house. You watch it hit your house. Say you do what you need to tell him tonight. You know what? You know my immune system is feeling a little compromised and I just I would never forgive myself You come over here and I cough on you and so I just think it'll be best like maybe we could get on the phone and we could pick a movie and we could hit play at the Same time and you have popcorn. I have popcorn and let's just be creative just because I'm also asthmatic and because you might be asthmatic And if you come over here and you are asymptomatic and I'm asthmatic those two a's do not go together And so let's just give this a couple more weeks So just take your time on this situation and this is what you've got to think of the ounce of prevention Instead of the pound of cure. See love. God bless you now. God bless you Counsel a cst today Uh, I don't know what cst. Maybe customer It was the best finished certification and want to start but have a full-time job In school and raising two-year-old So don't have much time but helping others is my guess suggestions on how to fit in coaching too Well, it's not it might not be the season right now So with coaching what you could do if you have a day if you got two days off Maybe on one of those days off you can make one hour available So what that also does is it creates scarcity? So when people bump into your profile on my mentor dot life They they see that you only got one hour available on one day of the week that creates scarcity They like whoa, she she she booked you hit me She booked let me get on her let me get on her books So maybe just start with one hour On one of your days off and that hour could be The hour that your two-year-old is napping or that your mom is can come over and watch your two-year-old And just just that one hour start with that That's how I started Donetta God bless you now my ex is toxic the relationship was toxic He is turning our 17 year old son against me On Donetta. I answered your question the last time you asked that question on the last Q&A So what you're gonna have to do is go back to the last Q&A and watch and watch that Q&A over again Because I can't remember what I told you and I don't want to tell you something different this time But I answered your question on the last one now you probably asked the question and then started cooking or something or So got a phone call came in so go back to the last date. I think it was Wednesday night think it was Wednesday night that I answered your question God bless you now Um W a we'll go with w a thank you. God bless you now my ex is in Is that minnesota or minneapolis and it's black We and it's black Oh, is that black be okay? We ended on bad terms six months ago. I blocked them Now I decided to reach out and ask if him and the family are okay Now he has been continuing convuls. What should I do? Conversation I keep it moving Because y'all ended on bad terms six months ago and I blk I don't know if that's damn for black but from what I know that's damn for black So if you put black that means you must be of another race Um, and he up there where the rioting is Yeah, he probably needs somebody to talk to now, but If he didn't six months ago, he ain't come chase you I go about my business because if he wanted to he would come chase you You know, but you wrote him and so now you Curious about entertaining it you shouldn't even have that in your mind If you if you would genuinely write in him to see if he okay That that should that should be all you want to know Okay, you all right. All right. Good to hear from you. Nice. Thank you. Well, great great. Okay. Thank you All righty. We'll take care now And so and then go on about your business because he'll he'll slip back in there and You'll be hemmed up in a 12 months or not um Bloom jazzy god bless you. I'm being heavily pursued By my neighbor his wife just left him two months ago He's 53 I'm 42. How do I let him down easy and remain friends without misleading him Well, what you have to do on a situation like that Is just say hey, you know, I kind of can sense that there's a little something here But I'm just not interested in dating someone that I live by Because I'm not in that kind of space and I just don't believe that This can work with you being on the rebound after just losing your woman two months ago So I just I never date a man inside of six months of a breakup Sometimes 12 months and especially someone I live by because if things don't go right now I'm dreading coming home To the place that should be a oasis So you put that in whatever kind of words you need to but that's what you let him know Because if that was your man if he was meant to be your man, you'll feel an overwhelming Peace about it in your spirit Dominique god bless you nine. Hey tony. Thank you for all you do. What is my ex subliminally trying Why is my ex subliminally trying to impress me and get my attention on social media? He also seems like he's trying to be in competition with me Why what is he trying to do it? That means that he's hurting That means that the soul ties strangling sometimes y'all hear me say the soul ties strangling So when you think about a soul tie, it's emotional But if you make it a physical thing it would be like Wrapping a rope around somebody's waist and in pulling it like this right here So you're going you're going that way He's trying to go that way But because of that emotional tie while you're going that way it's tugging on him And then sometimes it'll slip on up slip on up slip on up You hit me and that soul ties start to Sprangling meaning that He just started to think about your whole lot more start to miss you start to just Reminisce start to go through stuff and he's feeling hurt But too egotistical to admit his wrongs to let you know that he was wrong to apologize So he started to do other stuff Okay, I see like no other Now what that mean y'all you texting this from your phone. That's your signature on your phone She read every pop back in here. My god bless your ex and I sleeping together still just last week He had someone called yesterday. No answer. This hurts after eight years Yeah, that's where you're gonna need coaching. You're gonna need coaching that's deeper than this here q&a You're gonna need some coaching Because right now you're playing yourself like a game of Monopoly so you're gonna need some coaching system. You don't have to Get that on together in our end. Thank you for delivering wisdom. Hey god bless you now Sabrina god bless your height Tony Is it likely for a man to be genuine when he calls me sis and tells me he loves me He said and tells me he loves me and not wanting anything more and can you read my pick? Thanks for all you do No, I can't read your picture because I can't zoom in tonight on here I don't know how my poor sitting on me. I ain't did my face treatment So I ain't gonna be able to slide in on you tonight But um, yeah, he lying the man lying And he trying to soften you up. He trying to soften you up so he can get you on your back So he lying because there's no nobody to be When we go to playing about that, I love you and all that You know that just Unless he like you know, he married and faithful and man of the Church and you know, it's a sisterly love like a real devout christian and his love you see it's like that But if he's saying love in a different way, you probably wouldn't be asking that question and uh Brooke god bless you now and from your picture what I could see Now here your little indian not but you could be Black or hispanic or what have you? And you look like you put up with too much the way you got your hair dropped with the curl It looked like you put up with a whole lot It looked like you got standards, but you don't state your standards So You have a a round of face. So round represent naive like mine. I just got a beard right now So you can't see but see I got big round eyes So people look at us as naive And they play on us. So that's what this man think he doing He trying to play on you to sneak in because he think you don't see what's coming And then he gonna try to get you on your bike And when I be telling y'all about this here, okay Pay attention No, she's a can read you can't read your picture knock down there in the regular line Go up here in the vip line Df god bless you my boyfriend used to be so into me, but I wasn't Emotionally intelligent or as mature as I am now. Can I make my boyfriend fall back in love with me? You possibly can it depends on how he was raised You know, so if he it depends on how he was raised if he's like an introvert And he is a passive guy Then yes, you can if you've changed and you can love his socks off But if he got any kind of savage in him he got any kind of dog in him You will be playing yourself So if you know he got a little bit of savage or a little bit of dog in him And you trying to go back and bend over back with the the winded love after you was disrespectful You're gonna you're gonna get hurt Gabby god bless you now Read a woman's influence in one day. Wow You really can read now And read and make it work now I'm realizing that my fiance may not be able to give me what I'm worth Should I give him a chance to work on things after our break is over? Okay, so that's your fiance and y'all on break You got to ask yourself is how many chances have you given him? If if the next time after break if that'll be his second chance And he willing to read a woman's influence and make it work with you and talk through it with you and You know, you do a session individually. He does a session individually Then y'all do a session together if he willing to go through that process Then it's worth giving it a shot one one last shot Now if this the third or fifth chance, then no going by your business going by your business Is it possible that I'm an experienced woman? happily married But still learning Using your advice for my daughters need them to be on their toes I don't know what you mean by is it possible But um, yeah, you still could be learning now We always learning and I'm glad you on here. I'm glad you're on here I want y'all married folks to feel like y'all welcome to even though I'm mostly talking You know to those dating But a lot of this stuff can apply to marriages too Um, let me see. Hey, I got 15 minutes now. Um To my moderators y'all caress y'all caress y'all could take the rest of the night off and You know enjoy the chats unless somebody get out of hand not gonna put them block them time out whatever you Your your things let you do but y'all y'all don't have to You know Work the chat like that. I appreciate y'all support and y'all help on here I got pregnant. He didn't let me He didn't let me go back in my country. So we got married After two months. I found out he cheated with a fixed woman He cheated me again Another with in my last month of pregnancy Sis if you got a few dollars to your name If you don't you need to start working from home, uh, or get your job somewhere But yeah, it's gonna be time for you to go It's gonna be time for you to go. Let's say god bless you 90. Now you're in the chat Now you're in the chat. I let the moderator take the last 15 minutes off Now make sure you put hashtag q in front of your question still Um And y'all when somebody asks a question, don't y'all answer the question people don't like too many people answering they question now, so I don't mind you chatting but don't don't don't be because sometimes y'all answer a question It'd be the opposite of what I'm finna say So now who know what they talking about? Okay Um felicia j. God bless you now dated a man eight months things was great things went downhill when He is losing or changing his job. I surprised him With a christmas gift. His sons was there whom I haven't met He stopped communicating for five months, but checking my facebook. What to do going about your business is Going about your business. Okay Man to start communicating with you for five months going about your business all the way over It's all the way over So all is it smart to collaborate as a new coach? Is it smart to collaborate as a new coach? instagram live or zoom Um It can't hurt if you can kind of look at what the coach is doing and see what the coach is doing And you kind of can see they brand I did that when I was building my brand I don't collaborate anymore because just a brand alignment is so it's so tricky because A lot of people don't take care of their brand and treat their brand the right way So you kind of got to be mindful of that But if it looked like they've been around for a while You know and they have some consistency and they willing to collaborate with you Which a lot of times they won't be because y'all not on the same level if you just getting started out So you kind of got to be careful with the collaboration Because a lot of times it's not going to benefit you but it could hurt you because if you collaborate with somebody like I collaborate with somebody That y'all think is legit But you don't actually know the person just like you don't actually know me So all you're going by is what you see online So I could collaborate with somebody But then that person could be putting hands on a woman That woman that he putting hands on could respect me And listen to my message But when I collaborate with him and I don't know him personally And been around him now I lose Every single woman that he has that he's mistreating I lose them From hearing my message So that's why I don't align my brand with people unless I know them personally Then spend time with them then look them in the eyes Then talk to them for hours and even then I still get fooled sometimes Yes, I meant black. Thanks, Tony. I will be taking your advice. Thank you. Okay So you are a different race then And y'all ended on bad turn six months ago Yeah If my ex says that I'm his wife and will do whatever it takes to make it work But when I check his account, I can see hotel receipts Is that something to be concerned about even though we're not together? Uh, no, it ain't nothing to be concerned about because y'all not together So He's not going to be faithful to you if y'all not together because y'all not together. So what he's doing is not cheating Now if you say, yes, let's work it. Let's work it out Let's get back exclusive and let's focus on one another and then you find a hotel receipts And he wasn't away on no business trip. No, you got an issue Now you got something going on pretty tars. God bless you now New god says he's very interested in me FaceTime daily says he's open to a relationship but wants to make sure I'm not crazy first Red flag. Thanks for all you do um If a man FaceTime you for one, that's a good thing because that means he thinks you're pretty Because man's not gonna FaceTime a woman that he thinks it looks challenged So if he FaceTime you that means he thinks you're pretty Now on the I'm waiting to see if you're not crazy That is kind of a red flag because for man really like you he's not gonna let that come out his mouth Even if that is what he's saying he's not gonna say that So when a man says that it kind of puts him in a position of power like he is the prize Like and so but then why that even came up, you know, the bad part is it is If you ask him does he want a relationship and what does he want and what is this? That's where you went wrong So then you came off as desperate by bringing that conversation up And so he said well, I'm open to a relationship, but I'm waiting to make sure you ain't crazy So now that's where you came off desperate you got out of him When you should let him initiate that conversation And so now you put him on a pedestal put him in the in the power position saying do you want me Then he said well, I might want you but you might be crazy. So let me hold off So now you put all the power in his hand instead of him pursuing you like the prize now He think he the prize Um broke god bless you now broke look like you don't know what you're doing Um, because you you sent a blessing now. This is your second blessing on here. Then you just wrote tony And you ain't right nothing else Okay So this uh, this might be broke first time on this a lie Oh, okay, okay, you black as well just from africa y'all see all these caveats and nuances with each question You need a session You need a session. Okay He black you black too. Yeah, cuz you from africa. You still black Africa you black you black too both y'all black in america y'all going through the same thing in america You might go through worse than he go through I'm thinking you might uh end in Talking about he black i'm black too. I'm just from africa that play God bless you. God bless y'all But it get hard working with y'all ladies and y'all got some caveats and nuances you hear me Leave her god bless you now 15 months together Engage in the beginning talk every day now a combination of video talk text But talk every other day meets my standards and preferences. Should I still marry him? 15 months together it sound like he on his way out sis it sound like he on his way out because 15 months by By that 12 month mark is where he asked you to be his wife Now, okay, so yeah, y'all engage. Okay, y'all engage but see now that y'all talk you don't talk To your wife every other day So it sound like disengagement about to come to an end. So T. West god bless you So I would I would look a little closely into that And um, I would check him on that because see you've got the right to check him because this your fiance This ain't your boyfriend. This your fiance and say hey What is what's going on with the communication because I've never known a married couple to talk every other day And when you are engaged that means you are in waiting Of your wedding date and that's the other thing. Do you have a wedding date date because listen Engage don't mean nothing Engage don't mean nothing. Okay. She'll say bro ask her question Two times Two posts before she sent the money Now bro, when you send that blessing nine you supposed to type the question in now Because I don't see all the chats, but if you send a blessing I'll see your question with the blessing you see how other people send you see how this right here You see libra davis how she put the question with the blessing. That's how this how this here work. Okay, bro All right, so going forward when you hit That blessing to send that 999 That's where You type your question at Okay, after these 14 days bro question is after these 14 days How do you know if he really wants to change you won't know What you what you'll know you won't know just If he want to change how you find that out is You have your stipulation. So when you take a man back What you're doing is you're saying hey if we're going to work on this I think we need to get some knowledge for a healthy relationship. So Let's read this book Let's take this online course Let's do four sessions of coaching with a coach from my mentor dot life So you have stipulations in place when you say this is what I'm gonna need to build trust to get back with you now If he's if he wants to be with you, he's gonna say, okay, cool. I'm cool with that I'm all in But if he says no, we don't need to talk to anybody and why we got to read the book man He's probably cheating on his wife or she probably cheating on her husband Why we got to read somebody else's book we we could write the book We done been through another write the book what you want to read somebody else's book for if he got Excuses for why he doesn't want to do what you're saying you need then that's what lets you know He's not ready Boyfriend of a long time says he's gonna stop talking and more doing to grow But then he's showing me off on video chat Somebody asked a question and your question disappeared on me I will write that on the question too Okay, let me see Showing me off on video chat D near naked to his boy He just met broke it off. I'm hurting mad. Let it go boyfriend of a long time Showing you all about how naked to a man. He just met It sounded like he liked me It sounded like he liked me And he liked to turn out straight man. So he's trying to turn this boy on by showing him His woman trying to turn this boy on get him excited So he could feel that energy of his boy being excited But it ain't no man in the world That is straight all the way And love his woman gonna show his woman off on video chat Have naked to another another man Yeah, he might like me Ashley P. God bless you. Hey, this is my last question. Now, this is my last question Come to my time up here Ashley P. I have scoliosis. It affects my posture often feel like men don't see me for me I'm working on correcting it but often feel judged because of it. How can I change that? Can you read my picture? No, I can't read your picture because you from a side angle But you can't see a lot of times we get caught up in our head You know, we get caught up in our head and we judging ourselves And we looking at something and we saying oh everybody judging this. Oh, this is not good. Oh, this is something bad But people may not actually be thinking that And then you also got to say, okay, this is what I'm living with Are you okay with somebody who living with the same thing? Sometimes when it comes to the foundation of things We might be built for somebody who has experienced it may be a man Who has corrected his and he sees you and he knows exactly what it's like To to be in that position and be correct and working on correcting your posture And he knows what that's like Now if you looking sad down depressed because of what you telling yourself You're going to look too down and out or you're going to be walking too fast For him to even catch up to you or to approach you or you're going to be looking unapproachable So you can't beat yourself up in your mind instead. You got to be like, okay. Hey I'm all right. I'm gonna meet my husband. I'm gonna meet my husband I'm blessing highly favored and you still got to have a good presence about you and be pleasant So that when you walk across the man That's meant for you. He can see Your your natural true beauty Mama listen, thank you for all you do a blessing now blessing Hey, I said no more questioning and here y'all Let me let me get that question in real quick Del v. God blessing our high tone and my boyfriend and I have opposite schedules We can't spend much quality time together. We have a few minutes each day. Is this worth it? That's a personal choice says me personally I don't know if I'll be able to do it but That's a personal choice on that one said But um, because they I'm pretty sure stranger things have happened So you just got to ask if you got the heart if you got a heart to deal with it And y'all maybe got to be creative in a different way Or one of y'all change y'all shelf You know, I'm saying nobody put no To your head to tell you to work this shift So y'all might need to try to one of y'all try to change that shelf I know it's sometimes you got to stay on that shelf for an extra amount of time but Submit it to the lord and prayer if you feel like that's your husband submit it to the lord and prayer Take it to the balls Maybe see somebody on another shelf that might want to change because they might need to flip their shelf because of their relationship You know start praying about it Because and and you might bump into somebody that want to switch shifts but That's a personal choice the writer sigh God bless you Hi, I want to remain single until my kids are grown. They are in elementary Any tips with loneliness? I'm still healing um You won't be lonely Or hurting if you make your children your complete world So you invest everything you got into them you study and every day with them hour two hours You take them to the museum when they open up you take them see different parts of the country Even if it's a road trip you you putting them in extracurricular activities You might have to sacrifice 15 $20 an hour for a couple hours a week for a nanny to help you out if you need that You might need to you know be very creative and make them your everything Make them your everything And right i don't know when i'm gonna do that calling show again I don't know if i'm gonna do that again because you know i coach throughout the day Paid coaching sessions. So when I get on that phone at night talking to people that just want to talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk And that's what I get paid to do as a profession now I don't be having the energy this right here is just a question. I just can read the question just go I just go on about my business Hey, God bless y'all. Thank y'all for being on here Remember for y'all aspiring life coaches go to tonygaxacademy.com You don't need a coupon code. I just set it at a discounted price So you don't have to worry about trying to find a coupon code, but the price increased monday So now i'm telling you now I'm telling you now the price increased monday God bless you. I i'm gonna try to get a video up tomorrow and uh my sunday sermon lord willing Everything go well. God bless you and I appreciate your your love and support Will be in touch