 Aloha. Welcome to Keys to Success, which is live on the ThinkTech live streaming network series weekly on Thursdays at 11 a.m. We are your hosts. My name is Danilia D-A-N-E-L-I-A. And I'm the other half of the duo, John Newman. Welcome to the day show. The goal of this show is to provide professional and personal development tools and profound insights on how to achieve success in life, career, and or business. South Sobera, Vice President of DAT, Digital Alarm Technology, was our guest on our last show and his words of wisdom can be accessed on Newman Consulting Services website, NewmanConsultingServices.com, or our landing page, Danilia.org. We are just three days away from Christmas and 10 days away from 2017. It's especially a privilege to be living in Hawaii during this holiday time. Hawaii is special because of the energy that is here. We call it aloha. It is a spirit that is unique to these islands that you cannot find anywhere else. This is what brings people back year after year on vacation. Of course, with the new year comes new year resolutions and our show today is focused on how to create the life you want. Joining us today on Skype, as our honored guest, is Dolores Presley, international keynote motivational speaker and executive life coach. Thank you for joining us today, Dolores. Hi, Dolores. Here. Dolores, share with our viewers, if you will. You know, what prompted you to get into the business, I mean, the work that you're doing right now? And what was a pivoting moment? Well, John, I think I was a born teacher. I really was. I taught elementary school for 27 years. People did not know that. And I had a business 26 of those years. And I was a full time speaker. But yet I was still a full time teacher. And I just love helping people really live the life that God created them to live. So I started that with being an elementary school teacher. Then one day I woke up and told my husband I want to be a professional model. And those days it was not heard of big girls being a model. And I was a big girl. But hey, I said that I can model like they're doing in California. So I started a modeling agency for plus size women in Canton, Ohio, and then moved across the country to Chicago, Washington DC. I took this beauty pageant. And still I was working full time as an elementary school teacher. So no one better ever tell me they can't live their dreams. Because yes, you can. Oh, wow, that's wonderful. And helping people is the key to life. The more people you help, the more things you get in life. And I think that was said by Zig Ziglar, one of our favorite motivational speakers. You've been interviewed on every major network, including entertainment tonight in Oprah. What council can you give our viewers and listeners regarding key to success and the steps to creating the life that you want? Well, first of all, you have to believe it's your mindset. If you don't believe that you can be successful, then you won't. I have people all the time telling me, I'll say you can live your dreams. They're like, no, I don't have finances. I'm like, stop it, because there are all kinds of places you can get finance, you can go to angel networks, you can do some crowdfunding, you can do whatever you want. And then I'll have people say, Oh, I can't do it because I'm, I'm older. I'm like, stop it. Listen, you can achieve that dreams do not come with age limits. So you can still live your dreams. So I just believe that if I could just wave a magic wand, and everyone was always in a positive mindset and really living the life that they were created to live, then that to me is true success. It's amazing how many blocks we put up, isn't it? We there's always, you know, instead of thinking about what can I do, we're thinking about what can I do? Right? Well, automatically go to that. I think sometimes when you try to tell someone or you'll give them a compliment, especially women, we're so guilty of that. Oh, the dress is nice. Oh, this whole thing, you know, and it's funny with men, John, and all the men who watch it. Got off the stage and he he really didn't do a great job speaking. But when he came off the stage, you would have thought he gave the best speech of his life. He's like, rocked it. To keep all the time, rock it all the time. And Daniel, you know, we have a we have a school, educational vocational school, and we teach that stop that stinking thinking, you know, don't make an excuse, you know, attitude is everything. And if you feel you can do it, go out and do it. And don't let the naysayers I call it the peanut gallery, you know, don't listen to the peanut gallery. Toxic people, toxic people. And I have the stop sign. So when you start doing what you just said, that stinking thinking, and sometimes you may not have a literal stop sign, you've heard me say stop it already, I've been saying that. But sometimes you need to just put your hand up and say stop it. Literally say it out loud, stop it. But that gives your mind time to shift back to the positive instead of the nagging. Oh, yeah. Because I do that exact same thing. I will stop and I will say that loud. Stop it. And then somebody will go, did you say something? I say, yeah, I told myself to stop stinking thinking. All right, Dolores, it please what does success mean to you? And when did you consider yourself being successful? Well, I think success is an individual thing. But I believe success is living a content life, living a happy life, living a life that God has created you to live. Then I feel that that success and everyone each day should do something that helps them feel that they have achieved success. Maybe you need to set some goals. But everyone, I mean, everyone under the side of my voice can achieve success. You were born for success. And I've had people say, Oh, no, I wasn't born for success. I never had any success. I'm like, I'm talking to you. You are a lot. That's right. Success. So true. You know, one of the things we say to people is, if money was not an option, because one of the biggest blocks people put up is I don't have the money, I don't have the money. Well, you know, if you keep saying I don't have the money, you won't have any money, you know. So if money was on option, if I gave you a million dollars right now, what would you do with it? What what would you how would you live your life? What would you do with it? And when you come up with that scenario, now you know what your dream is. You know, that's very, very good. When you were saying that I was thinking myself okay to war, you will our success. And you know, money never if I just had millions and millions of millions, I of course would give some away. But I basically would still be living the life that I'm living now, because I do believe I'm living on my purpose. And once you understand your purpose, and you're living your purpose, you don't work a day in your life. I mean, I'm here working when I really would like to be out celebrating the holiday. But sometimes you just got to do what you got to do. But I love what I do. Joy and happiness is the key to life. I don't care how much money you have or how many assets that you have. If you're not happy, you're not, you're not living, you know, you have to feel alive. And what you just said that you enjoy doing what you do, that's a blessing. Yes. And you know, John and I feel the same way you do. You know, we're just, we're just really happy with our lives. We're happy where we are. And we, we strive for many, many, many years. And we reach the point now where we're just really happy at the, you know, what we're doing right now, you know, it's great. And what a great feeling to be in that place, you know, and everyone can be in that place. That's the beauty of it. Yes, they can. Yes. So what do you, what in your opinion, what do you feel are the qualities and skills necessary to succeed? Well, I first think that you have to really be positive. I've talked about that already. I think that you need to be courageous. I think that you need to take risks. Believe me, I have taken so many risks when I started that modeling agency for plus size women over 30 years ago. That was a huge risk. You have to be bold. You have to be prepared. A lot of times people are prepared and get a strategic plan. I've worked with a lot of people and I have one client right now. She's a president of a company. But she really fills her life is meant to start a nonprofit for children who have music abilities. So live the life that you were created to live. Yes. So how does someone overcome fear of the unknown in their quest for success? Overcome fear. First of all, there are going to be challenges in your life. Fear is stands for we've all heard this before. It's not original for me, but the false evidence appear real. The majority of things that we worry about, they never even come to fruition. So you know, it's a natural feeling. We need to have some fear because otherwise babies, they don't really realize fear. That's the thing with babies. But us, as you grow older, you know, you have to have some fear because you can't just stick your hand under fire. So it's a natural fee. Yes, I actually say you need to deal with the fear right then recognizes your fear, own your fear and find out a way to come up with to get over the fear. And on that same note, you know, the fear of the unknown. How do you push through that? Well, I pushed through a lot of challenges, john. I've had so many challenges. People say that I'm so successful. But believe me, I have had challenges. Life happens. And I want everyone to know that life happens. And there are times when things are not going to go right. There are times when you're going to feel like you fail. I mean, I've done that over and over. There was a time when they told me my husband was going to die in a year. I mean, that's been like 30 years ago, he's doing fine. Wow. We could have like, just fall on the floor and believe the doctors was saying to us, life happens, but you have the power and I'm very I'm spiritual, I believe in God. So I use my faith to overcome some of these tragedies and things that but it's going to happen. But learn from the tragedy. And there is good inside bad. People think that it's not but there's something in that bad that you can bring out of that to make it good. Oh, wow. Wonderful. Well, we're going to take a short break. 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If you have any questions or comments, we've been talking with Dolores Presley, International Keynote motivational speaker and executive life coach. I'm Danelia D A N E L I A. And I'm the other half of the duo, John Newman. Welcome back to the show and welcome back Dolores. Thank you for having me. Alrighty. I know we were talking about pushing through challenges. And there's one one more thing I'd like to ask you as far as pushing through challenges. How do you push through the most challenging times that you really have and we all have them like you said, life happens. It absolutely does. Now I have voted by the jar. It's called Believe in the Power of you. I'm always telling people you have the power live in your power. So in this jar and they can find that at my website Dolorespresley.com but in this jar, it's it's a place where you have a little sticky note. You put all of your achievements in there like I just got an award from President Obama. We want to talk about that. Fantastic. Congratulations Dolores. That's incredible. Finish the jar story. So what you do is just write down all your achievements like I've been interviewed on your show today. That's an achievement. I put that in my jar and we constantly put that in their jar and even you can put things like in your office. You might put something great about Danelia in her jar and on those days when you fill all down and you're like why am I doing this every day? Then you pull out the jar and you see what you've done to help others. One time there was a lady who was going to commit suicide. Saw something on Facebook that I wrote. I had fallen and I heard myself but I still had a positive attitude. So of course I put that in the jar. So those kind of things when you see all of your past successes they can fuel your future success. I love that. But a great great too. So don't you move. Tell us about that award from President Obama. Yes. President Obama selects several people throughout the country to honor them for working in their community and just this past September I don't have it right here with me but it's such I gotta put a picture of it on my website. Oh yes you do. You don't have it? Yes you do. Shame on you. I'm behind. So yeah I got over on my website but anyway I don't have a award for it. But it really is for just helping your community. I believe we were created to serve and if we're not serving I don't know if we're truly living the life that we were created. So just I've helped a lot of people and I love serving and I got an award for it. That's fantastic. Congratulations. Congratulations. What an honor to meet him and to spend time with him. That's fantastic. All right. Yes congratulations again. We have a signature question that we ask all of our guests and we're gonna ask you if we may share with us your three top success habits. First of all wake up grateful. I wake up every morning and I'm so grateful. I compliment people. I think helping others is a success habit that we all need to have. Reading inspirational things. I think that's a great success habit. Also having a coach. I have several coaches. I have a life coach. I have a business coach. I have a branding coach. So if you will just do those things. I just being grateful. It is successful. The other thing is follow through. We've all heard fortune. Your fortune is in your follow through. So if you're not following through and I haven't done that before. I remember Jack Canfield gave me his cell phone on the back of his card and I didn't call him. I called him later but I didn't really call right then and the reason I did that is because I kind of had Jack Canfield on this big pedestal and there's Dolores now. That's not the case anymore. So make sure you're following up. Being grateful. Doing something to help others. If you do those types of things. You will achieve success. Thank you. And number three. Hold on. She's still going. I think I think she did three. That was one and two. Yeah give me a bonus. Because I slept through two. Number three. What's number three. Strategies together. Have a plan. Okay. If you don't. Many people say. If you don't. You always have a plan. You're planning to fail. If you don't. If you don't really know what it is. But it's the end of the year. What are you doing right now to make sure that 2017 is the best year of your life. I hope that you're strategizing with that. That's what I do with a lot of people. Just help them to stay on track and do what they would like to do. And live the life. Yes. Thank you so much. What is your motto or advice that you live by. Align your heart with your will. Your heart is so important. Yes. When you touch people's heart. That's when you really are making a difference in this world. Many people who are entrepreneurs. They always want to touch the mind. They are just like if I can just get into the mind of my client. But it's more than that. When you get into the heart of your your client. When you're living with your heart. Then that's when people really do business with you. That's people say how do you get all these clients. How do you do all that. Because I'm concerned about the person's heart. About their true life. I'm concerned about my heart. Am I doing everything that I can to help others. Am I doing everything with my heart. That's good. But when you touch the heart of your clients. Shoot. You'll never go a day without a client. And what what DeNeal and I teach in our school is that in order for you to speak to the heart. You have to come from the heart. And what you're saying is so powerful. And that's exactly what we do. When someone feels you. You know you can feel. You might forget my name. But you'll always remember how you felt. When you were around me or when you spoke with me. And that's the key. Yes we've we've been blessed because we've had business clients for 18 20 years. And we truly built is because of the relationship. And because they know that we're always coming from the heart. And they come from the heart too. And and it's just you know forming a real bond and relationship. And that is exactly what you said is so critical to business too. Not only personally but professionally. Yes. And I can feel I'm not just saying this but I can feel your heart for both of you. We can feel yours too. It's really true. It's like it makes a difference. I do lots of interviews but I can truly feel your your aura of amazing positive success. Thank you. We feel the same with you. And we're looking forward to having you come over to grace this aloha here in Hawaii. Over there I've been doing these marvelous masterpiece masterminds and rich experience. I just did it in Punta Kana. I did it with a group in St. Louis. But I that's going on my vision board. Mastermind over in Hawaii. That's that's going on there. And you know what those things and let me just real quickly. I don't know. But vision is so important how I wanted to be on Oprah. And I put a picture of me. I cut it out and a picture of her on my vision board and how I spoke it. And then you know before you knew it I was on the show with her. Oh that's so yeah so fantastic. You know we have a vision board too. And we teach that as well. You have to have a vision board. And when you look at our vision board a lot of what's on there we have like achieved you know. So we've just been talking with each other that we've got to you know set another do another vision board that has more of what we want for our future. And our son we were doing vision boards for years you know and we let him put his visions up there too. And he walked into the room one day and he said mom dad we need to change our vision board. And we said well why is that. He says because we have everything that we have on our vision board. And we looked at each other and said how powerful was that. That little mind understood. And we went out and started a new vision board and that's what we constantly do. Change our vision board. And if parents would understand to do vision boards with their children so it's a family thing. The children really get that and they will pursue that for the rest of their lives. And that that's when they achieve everything they want in their life. It is powerful. Okay how do you maintain motivation and inspiration despite obstacles and pushbacks or setbacks Dolores? I definitely read constantly. I am constantly reading that motivates me. I also am very particular on who's in my circle that keeps me motivated. Because if you are around someone who's negative I had a friend like that he was negative. I said listen you cannot be in my inner circle if you're going to be negative. So definitely that is one way that I stay motivated. I mentioned to coach my coach and I also had a mastermind group where it's a group of us who are in business. Usually a little bit different in business but we support each other. So we'll meet they're all over the country just me through Skype or some medium like that and then they support me I support them and just stay around people who are the best for you. Right absolutely. So what's the most valuable lesson you've learned at this stage in your life and career? Most valuable lesson that this too shall pass. If you're having a challenge don't let that bother you. As I said earlier life happens and another thing that I really believe in is if you do what you love the money will come. Now I know if we're in business we want to have business and that's important but don't focus on that. Focus on the service giving the best service giving the best product you can and before you know it you are singing in money. It works that way but if you're so hard thinking about all of the debt hours now please don't get me wrong because if you're in business you are supposed to make money not that but I just believe when you do what you love the money will come. So true so true you have to believe you just have to believe and give it your all and give it that love and just know that it's coming and it will. And what do you feel is the best way to create long-term success? Relationships building relationships I think relationships are everything people who say that they're overnight success and they've done it they've done it by themselves I truly don't believe that because I know that you need help and building relationships if you build the right relationships and it's just like what they've built linked in on you know with seven degrees from wherever you're trying to get to that me will help you building relationships overnight success yeah it took me about what 20 years of being overnight. Yeah we understand. And we're still in the process of being is the key. It's so funny when when when people see what they feel somebody who they feel is successful they were there they're so lucky but you know luck is what opportunity meet I mean preparation meets opportunity I mean you've been preparing for years to have to get the luck right I mean that's just the way it is you just have to keep believing and the most important thing is never ever ever ever give up. Never give up. Never give up. Don't. Okay now is there anything else that you are looking to achieve? Yes I'm starting a nonprofit for women called it's actually for young girls it's called She Elevates. See you're never too low I'm 60 and I'm starting something new all right. You're just 35 right? It's a lot of want because I never got a chance when I grew up my parents basically said get a good job Dolores you know get married you know let them take care of you or work in the factory and I did not want that. So I've birthed She Elevates so that young girls will know all about entrepreneurship they will know how to start a business they will get funding for starting their business they could be ages eight to 18 and get funding and then they're going to shadow other women and really know how to grow a business because I think I was an entrepreneur at heart but I went to school and college and that's great I'm not knocking that because that's really good for everyone who wants a career but I want to teach young girls how to build successful businesses. That's great that's great you know I started I haven't told you this but I started in teaching as well I used to teach high school. Yes and then I met John in Australia and we moved to the United States and you know just like yourself we're using that whole teaching to do it on the larger scale you know and so where you start it's not where you end up. No no it's so good I mean I love teaching I'm still a teacher I'm just a glorified teacher when I'm up there on stage I'm still teaching once a teacher always a teacher. So true can you believe the time has gone so quickly we'll have to wrap it up. Dolores press these words of wisdom with regards to keys to success can be found on Newman Consulting Services webpage newmanconsultingservices.com and landing page denilia.org. Thank you so much Dolores for joining us today and sharing your insights on your keys to success. John would you like to share your quote of the day? Yes I would quote for the day is from Eleanor Roosevelt and she says no one could make you feel inferior without your consent. Think tech shows we'll be back next Thursday at 11 a.m. so please tune in and to your friends to tune in as well. I'm Denilia D-A-N-E-L-I-A and I'm now the half of the duo John Newman and we'd like to thank you all and wish you all a merry Christmas and a very happy and prosperous new year. We'd like to say Aloha. Aloha Dolores. Thank you so much Dolores again it was such a pleasure we wish you and your family a very happy Christmas and happy merry Christmas and happy new year as well.