 Okay, so we're going to try this again a little trouble with the last one Give me something in the chat window. Let me know that You guys are there See anybody typing yet. So but I know six people are watching So just let me know if you could see me here. You can hear me. Okay. There we go Brandon You said that last time I was a little worried that nobody was Nobody was there, but if it's a small group of people I will still be here until we don't have any more questions And if we have too many that almost they are for up until the hour Yeah, basically what I'm doing today We're gonna talk a little bit about my body transformation and like I said Any questions that you guys have? Feel free to post them in the chat window I'd be happy to answer so some of you may have seen that I've been How long was it between and what did you do? Okay, cool? So And by the way, if you guys have dating questions too, I can answer them as well But for the before now for transformation, it was like I can't remember if it was nine months or a year I'll be honest. I don't know exactly. The only thing I know is that for most of the time I was not making the gains that I wanted to make so when I came back from traveling. I was very Like at the start of the like pandemic We're not a start of the pandemic, but like somewhere in between a pandemic I got really skinny might actually been traveling for a while and when I came back. I just didn't look good so Basically during that time I was trying to get my weight back So I got my weight back very, you know relatively quickly But I was still having trouble because I was having really bad stomach problems I have really bad stomach problems for months I wasn't making any gains the only time I really made gains was in the last two months And so most of the progress that you see happened during that time Otherwise, I was kind of in and out like I would maybe have like felt like I was making progress one day or one week And then the next week you thought I was going backwards So I made a lot of mistakes that I'm gonna be talking about this Saturday Like my workouts weren't the right intensity. I was working out too much and The diet was all wrong like I was literally eating foods that were like hurting me and poisoning me Which is part of the reason why my stomach was doing so bad not the full reason, but that was part of the reason So, yeah, that's basically what happened, you know, in terms of how long it took me before and to now So, okay test test says got long COVID can't work out any diet or nutrition tips Yeah, man So in terms of the diet, you know, my trainer Linnell would be a better person to ask and he's gonna be on the training session this Saturday So he'd be a better person to ask about that. So I would recommend that you attend There's a link to it in the description So you just click on outcomes fitness comm slash void and you can ask your question there I would recommend that you at least sign up because then you for the for two days after we'll be showing a replay But you want to attend a live meeting because that's where we can answer all the questions and we can really break things down for you. So In terms of diet nutrition, it really depends on your body and your microbiome So like for me, there's some foods that I can't really eat that like other people can So for instance raw foods like raw plants is not really that good for me So a lot of people say eat your vegetables each vegetables and you know, they give you like, I don't know Celery or like spinach or kale or something like that That stuff does not work well with my body. It just doesn't so You want to test you out your microbiome to see what kind of foods will work well for you Okay Okay Matt asses just came in I get the weight till your body has recovered to work out again But once you do it regularly, you are not sore for more than a day. So why not work out almost every day? Your muscles take a little bit longer to recover than a day just because you know them being sore That's not the full picture of what's going on with the muscles So like I said my trainer Linnell will be a better person to ask about this So I recommend that you attend the the meeting on Saturday But yeah, typically if you're making the workouts really really intense Then they should be getting sore not like crazy sore, but like sore We're like you're you're you're triggering triggering like a response within your body But basically what that's going to do is it's gonna take it's gonna be sore for a little bit And then even after it's not sore you still probably want to wait a little bit after that too So just because they recover within a day or if you feel like you recover within the day It doesn't mean they've actually recovered to answer your question Cool like I said my trainer Linnell will be a better person to ask so dude if you can attend the meeting on Saturday Would love to have you will answer your question. So how to pick up a girl on Valentine's Day or at the mall? Okay So I that's two questions. So I'll just answer One at a time Valentine's Day is super easy time to pick up women If you go out usually the drunkest girl there's gonna be the easiest person to pick up If you want to do that that evening But I would say Valentine's Day is also a good time to hit up girls that you're kind of talking to or that you know about And just send them something just say hey hope your days doing well Hope your days filled with love and like don't ask for anything in return Just wish them well wish them something positive and you'd be surprised how many good responses you get now If you're picking up a girl from the mall One of my favorite things to do is to walk into the mall shopping for something like a lot of times I'll be like shopping for a shirt that I want or something like that And then I'll go up to a girl and I'll be like hey Can I get your honest opinion like I pick up two shirts or something like that Which one do you think works better with like my skin tone my hair or whatever like I just be like I have terrible taste I'm sorry. Like, you know, I'm just terrible with this sort of stuff. Like what you said my girlfriend build She's not here anymore. So like anyway, you just you asked them that question they picked something out for you and then He talks in for a little bit afterwards and if it goes well basically what you want to do is you want to be like Hey, listen, I'm gonna be shopping for clothes. Do you mind? Are you don't like help me out or something like that or are you gonna shop with me? Like you can do an instant date immediately afterwards Alright, and then say if you do it all like if you want to spend money, you can tell your buyer or something I actually wouldn't say that unless she's like, you know already pretty into you because that's gonna seem like so much of a big deal But I thought instant dates them all all the time Okay, any thoughts on lar L Our genine workouts actually don't know what that is if you can explain what that is to me Then maybe I could comment on it, but so far. I don't know Do you think we're long-distance relationships work? The short answer to your question is sometimes they sometimes work and It works if you have an end date in mind mean at some point in time You will be reunited if you're always gonna be a part or there's no end date where you guys will meet up again It's not going to work and you should find somebody new Okay, how many rejections do you normally take on a day game session? So it really depends on what you mean by rejections. So as I am now, I will usually It's it's at least 50 50 meet 50% of the time I walk up and talk to somebody I could probably get her number and like, you know, this good chance. She'll text me back. Why is it so high for me? It's high for me because I know what to look for. I'm very good at seeing if a woman is gonna be receptive to when I walk up to her like where are my languages? Removed all of that stuff. I'm really good at it when you're not good at that and you're still trying to figure it out I would just recommend that you do these things called Pre-oveners where you just kind of say hi to people and see how they react and then just kind of get used to that Get yourself into the feel of it against yourself into the flow state and then from there Then you start talking to people you're probably gonna get rejected like 10 or nine times every one time That goes well at the beginning when you first start That's okay. Just if it's not going so well, just say hey, it was great meeting you. You're awesome. Give him the high five No harm no foul. Okay. If it looks like they're trying to leave let him leave But yeah, I'd say at the beginning, you know, you're probably gonna be doing with that ratio But once you get good and you start knowing what to look for you won't have to approach as much and you'll do it better Okay, how many I started new genics and it changed my life. I don't know what that is. So you use indirect openers Lol, yes, I do use indirect openers Love the direct openers direct openers They only work if you can like if I feel it I'll do a direct opener sometimes But that's only if I know she's checking me out like there's already been something established Which honestly doesn't really happen that much So I generally go for indirect because even if she's receptive to it indirect opener will work But if you go direct even if she like she might be kind of into you Because you went direct now. She's like kind of scared or whatever and it's too much for her and then she wants to get out of it I'm speechless. Thank you my guy for perfect, man, you would go. Thank you so much What's up Lloyd just checking up what's good Thanks, Tom's I really appreciate it. You're awesome now Anybody else have any questions? Like I said, I just came here to talk a little bit about my transformation my body transformation pick Any other questions that you guys have? I'd be happy to answer Okay got unfollowed by my crush kind of abruptly we used to date back in high school Should I get over because we still kind of didn't meet up. Okay, so I'm assuming you tried to meet up with her She didn't meet up with her and then she unfollowed you So it really depends like people can unfollow people for a variety of different reasons If she just generally doesn't like you Or if you guys dated and it was serious it's trying to go wrong with her life Like those are two reasons to unfollow you for instance You know there was a You know, I'm still actually even though we're talking again I'm still not following my ex and the reason why is because like when we were broken up It was too hard to look at her Instagram So I unfollowed her and she immediately unfollowed me afterwards too But that was that was done because I cared too much. It wasn't done because like I didn't care about her So I don't know how serious you guys were when you were dating But it could be either she cares too much or it's just too much of a trigger for her. She doesn't want that in her life Or if you guys weren't serious and really at all and she just you know, isn't really interested and she isn't She doesn't want you in your life. Then yeah, that can be that can be another reason to I've built a connection with a girl who lives all the way in Indiana And it's been about three months and everything's been going good so far, but she's been hot and cold sometimes I don't know what to do. Okay I don't know where you live in relationship to Indiana But at some point in time you guys have to make plans to meet up if that's the case You know, you just texting her and you're not going knowing what's you not knowing what's going on Like it's probably gonna frustrate you too much and there's gonna be other girls around you They're gonna be better to talk to you So what I would do bro is I would try and call her up and have a phone conversation So your goal should be to FaceTime or get her on a phone call if she won't talk to you on the phone It won't FaceTime you if she only texts you move on straight up Because if she won't be willing to pick up the phone for you when she's long distance She's not going to be willing to meet up with you in person Is whipping out a good escalation strategy? Whipping it out. No No, no, no, I feel like being Finn is holding me back from being attracted working on it, but gaining weight is extremely hard. Dude, you have got to this guy I did you did you? You've got to come to the webinar that we're doing on a Saturday We're doing a meeting where me and my trainer are going to talk about the stuff that I did for my body transformation Because I'm a skinny guy too and admittedly I'm still slim but I've definitely put on some weight and You know, I've had stomach issues and a bunch of the things that was like made it hard for me to gain weight So you should definitely come the link is in my bio if you click on the description the link is should be Click on that That's well 30 p.m. Each turn Eastern time What about assumptions? Do you have an examples? Do you have examples like to find out that she has a boyfriend or not like assuming like hey Are you or your boyfriend going to see that movie? Or okay, I wouldn't say that. Um, dude, honestly, you can just ask her if you're like being direct You can just sort of ask her if she's got a boyfriend like I've done that before Um, but normally what I'll do to be clever about it because I don't like Really none of my business if we just started talking whether she has a boyfriend or not um and You know, she doesn't want to talk to me sometimes. I'll use that as an excuse. She's fine but Typically what I'll do is I'll ask her what she's doing that week what she's up to who she's here with Those kinds of questions if there's a boyfriend involved at some point in time. She'll usually drop that Um, there's still a chance she might have one but basically, you know, for the most part like she'll tell you right then and there Sometimes women won't tell you they have a boyfriend because they want to keep talking to you and they don't want you to They don't want you to go away Okay, any recommendations for a brief improv to act out one on one I don't know what you mean by that a brief improv to act out Yeah, I'm not sure what to do with that like to be more specific john Um, indiana is cold right now Okay Um, honest enough to the point. Thanks man. You're like, okay. Yeah for sure man. No worries Um, what to do if I'm like 70 sure a girl I like been talking to you slept over at a male friend of mine's house He sent me a snap of some lanes, which looked like hers ask him or her I would ask him. Um, depends how much of a friend That person is but yeah, I would just straight up ask him if your friends with them you should tell you if he's Lies to you about that then he's not really a friend. Um, I mean if that happened anyway, he should be You know, he's not really a friend. So yeah, I would ask him Is it fair to say that women like more personal Personality than body type or half half or what do you think so? Yeah, um, your person is basically At the start women are going to observe your looks a lot if you're not a good looking guy To be attracted to women they're going to need to hang out with you longer So they can stop judging you off your surface level appearance There's been women in my life who I didn't find who I was like, all right, she's you know, cute or whatever But then I got to know them and hanging out with them more and I'm like, damn this girl's like sexy like, you know, I'm really enjoying hanging out with her like she's hot and Same thing happens with women and it happens to even more extreme extent where like she'll literally say till it's sometimes that she found you repulsive or disgusting And then after she gets to know you she hangs out with you enough now She likes or she sees the way other people behave around you like that's that's another big thing too Um, so yeah, it looks as good at the beginning, but the longer things go on the warrior personality matters Um, what to do if I'm like 70 sure a girl I like and been talking to for a while. Okay, sorry I just answered that I used to be 115 510 my entire 20s lifting changed my life. Yeah, dude 115 pounds at 510 is Really skinny. That's like skinnier than me, which is crazy. I'm super skinny. Um, Taitar, you should definitely like Uh, you should definitely attend the webinar that we're doing this Saturday on Saturday We're going to be talking about all the things that I did for my transformation. My trainer is going to be there, you know, diet Exercises we did how often you should work out um Okay, how do you approach a girl when she's in a group specifically in an eye club? Okay Approaching groups. I don't want to approach all groups in the club So there's some groups that I won't approach if they're all huddled together and they're like their backs are turned to everybody They're just facing each other don't bother like there's no point They're just going to turn you down But if some of their body languages open and you know, maybe receptive to talking to somebody That's going to be a lot better for you. So that's what I do is this is a lot of groups that I won't Talk to but the ones that I will have like open body language and then for the ones that are closed. So wait, you know, I wait Okay, I broke up with max because I feel I'm better off without her But now that it's been while I've urged us to go back to her. How do I deal with these? Okay, so this is super common when you break up with somebody and I'm not a breakup coach or a relationship coach I'm a dating coach But this is something that I've dealt with my own life and obviously my clients deal with so You're going to have these feelings to go back to her and if you are sure of your decision And there are times where you will be sure of your decision Um, which is why you're getting these urges basically what happened is that your brain And the way it's wired has become acclimatized to having her in your life Even if she wasn't good for you and when you break those we sever those connections your It feels like something's like gone from your life and you want to get it back for that immediate happiness Even if you know, you don't know if that's uh If that's the right thing for you to do so If you feel like this for a long long time and i'm talking a while Then you have to you have to try and ask yourself where these feelings are coming from and it might be best to get back to her But if they're just like temporary and they go away, but they happen like At certain times then what you want to do is you want to have like self care activities that you can be satisfied with I'm not the kind of dating coach who tells you oh just go out and fuck another girl Um, that's like temporary pleasure, you know, so like I typically do that when I break up with somebody I just like go out and I sleep with a bunch of women Um, doesn't usually work Doesn't usually work. In fact, it never worked. What really works is is uh You know building up your community And uh being around people that are going to help you out Cool So be around your friends be around people who care about you and then you know Take time for yourself journal that sort of thing and then I personally Will kind of force myself to date uh because i'm a dating coach But if you don't feel like dating then don't date just take time to yourself and be comfortable being single um What should I do if the girl that I like is just a nice girl and she flirts with other guys when I am not around um How do you know she flirts with other guys if she really is flirting with other guys and that's just not Like if she's a flirt she's not doing anything you gotta decide if you're okay with that. Um, But yeah, I would I would have a chat with her about that. Um Oh wait, she's just a girl that you like you guys aren't together. Yeah, if you if you aren't together You know, obviously there's not much for you to do. Um decide whether you actually want to get with her and then make a move Okay, still keeping in touch with evil Oh evil stifler Yeah, that guy's my homie. We're always going to be in touch. Um Split up with my girl A few months ago recently met up with After three months, no contact had a great time. She was still emotional about the split. I'd like for us to get back together How should I play this? Um Yeah, if you want to get back with a girl that you've been Then you I'm assuming you were kind of mostly the one who ended or maybe it was a both. I don't know. Um Just continue to be there and talk to her and have a you know You know go slow go slow, but continue to show effort and be consistent about it If you want this girl, you can definitely get her back. It's uh Yeah, I'm most likely work out if you're If you're um, if you're consistent Um, have good communication to be honest and vulnerable Cool, uh, I know a lot of girls at my school like me because I've been focusing on myself And I've been improving myself a lot mentioned But I'm afraid to approach her because I don't want to be ridiculed. Okay, don't think about approaching her Just think about having a conversation Okay, uh, if approaching what you do like a pickup guy, um That's not the way to go about it in the school environment Okay, there were so many girls I can count that looked at me and smelled but I was too scared to approach them Now they ignore me. Why do women do this? Okay? Well, you didn't make a move and you know, they looked at you Maybe hoping you were gonna make a move and you didn't and now they're ignoring you doesn't mean you can't make a move You still can um, but yeah, just just take that as a sign as maybe they don't hate me But you know, I'm you they wanted me to approach that and I didn't I could still do it So I would look at that as a positive Um, I watched you before I met fiance still watching to make sure I don't slip up game never ends game never ends, man Congratulations on a I'm meeting your fiance. That's great, man. I love it Hey, loy your saturday link is not working for me. Would you be posting a video about it? It's not working for you Okay. Yeah, it's working for me If you can you message me about it privately? And I can send you the link. I mean it should be it's working for me. It's coming up for me There will be a replay but only for those people who sign up and it will only be available for a short time The best time is you want to you want to watch it live Um, what products do you put in your hair? I like my hair long, but it gets very frizzy and doesn't look very good Okay, um, I don't put anything in my hair. It's actually really messy right now I haven't done anything with it today But when it looks good like if I'm going to shoot a video or something like that Typically what I'll do is I'll go in the shower or I'll wet it a lot till it's like soaking wet and then what I'll do is instead of Instead of like drying it with the towel What I'll do is I'll take a t-shirt and I'll like crinkle it up and I'll like pat it dry And what that does is it curls up the hair a lot and it makes it look good, but I don't put anything in my hair I rarely wash it or use shampoo. It's actually not that good for your hair to be washing it all the time Okay, um, so if you have frizzy hair, I would recommend that we get out of the shower to try that and see how it makes it look Okay, and it'll dry weird But like let it dry weird and then it will Once it dries fully not what it's like half dry. It'll look really good Okay, is it weird if you go to the club alone with no friends? I have a problem going alone Do you have any tips on how I can improve my confidence when I'm with my friends? I feel super comfortable Okay. Yeah, it's time for you to get new friends man You can go to the club and make friends there, but don't worry about picking up chicks Just go out there and meet people and see if you can make any friends Now the club isn't the best place to make friends. So my recommendation to you would be to um Try other areas where there's going to be people there that you might be able to go out with and Look, sometimes it takes you just like, you know sticking out the night Like you're going to have a couple bad nights where you go out by yourself But if you meet people there and they're cool with you Then you get their phone number then you can like invite them to hang out later, you know We're at a different time during the week Cool. I've been with my girlfriend for three plus years now. I want to move on and join the dating world I'm scared of change. What's the first step I should take? It's the first step that you should take bro It's like start spending more time with your friends because you've been dependent upon this one person And you're scared to be alone But like once you realize that you can make friends and hang out without the people yourself Then you know that it's possible. So get comfortable being alone and get comfortable and start spending more time with your friends Um, and that will increase your confidence cool Greetings to you as well seren For your transformation, what did you change most about your routine diet weights cardio? Okay, all of those things changed I mean so many mistakes and like, you know, my diet was probably the biggest thing because I have a lot of stomach issues The best way to get it like a plan for that is to just attend the training that I'm going to be doing this Saturday The link is in the bio. Just click on it fill out the form and we go over everything So, um, yeah, my recommendation to you, buddy is to join that. We'll talk there We'll be the best program you have for someone who hates cold approach. Okay, so, um I have a program called chase which basically specializes in getting limited chase you it specializes in Meeting limiting kind of like warm approach environments Um, I mean you could do cold approach if you did cold approach on top of that would be amazing But basically you want to meet people for activities. You want to meet people through uh classes seminars just general activities that you're going to do Um, I help you pick ones that are actually going to meet women with and um, that's the way to do it How do you gain muscle but lose body fat at the same time gets super simple. Um, well simple. It's not simple. Um You got to attend the training this saturday. It's at 12 30 p.m. Eastern time. The link is in the bio So click on that's the awkums fitness slash Lloyd one and basically it's you eat But you eat at a caloric surplus But just enough that it's going to make you gains and then you want to like You want to get foods that are going to be good for your body Believe it or not a lot of people are putting food in their body That's like making them fat that they think is healthy like kale and Spinach and stuff like that for me doesn't work for me Maybe kale might be good for some other people but in general it's not a lot of it is the diet And uh, you'd be surprised dude. You don't have to work out that much But you have if you have the right diet and you're working out with the right intensity, you will make gains Okay, um favorite lifts weighted pull-ups are my favorite. Uh, my favorite lifts Honestly, um probably dead lift, man Yeah, probably dead lifts when i'm healthy I can do a good dead lift. I like it first my hands though What to do if you slept over with a girl first time and touched etc But you made zero moves in the morning after I made moves But she was super reserved and turned away from me when getting dressed um Okay, try and hang out with her again And just be a little bit more relaxed And then get her used to what she's cool with being in your space for a while and touching you Um You know that'll make it a lot easier That'll make it a lot easier you know Like just because she wasn't ready for it then Doesn't mean she won't be ready for in the future typically with women They need time and if she's comfortable still hanging out with you and you know at least getting close to being intimate with you that way There's a chance that something will happen. That's a good chance Okay, I was flirting with a girl for five for five days and now I'm writing to her for four days By the way, she liked me one year ago, but I didn't make a movement you're chatting She is really into it, but she's not ready for five days. Should I write to her? Should I let me you go talk? um Yeah, dude, I would uh Just be more consistent about it because if she liked you a year ago She can like you again You just have to be more consistent because she doesn't believe that like she's Mentally moved on and to get her back into that place like you need to be in her mind a little bit more Okay, cool fernplant says I don't go to clubs or have a social life and don't even have friends either And i'm invisible to women on social media. Okay All right, so sounds like it's time for you to get a social life So what I recommend that you do bro is just write down like 10 things that you enjoy doing and see Which of those things that you can include other people in and start doing them Okay, a girl twirls her hair with her hand when I talked to her. She's very nice as she into me carlos I think there's a good chance that she is into you. Yeah, man. Um, yeah, probably I would bet money on that she is Okay, what you have to understand is that all of you guys everybody who's on this call and to cultivate is you need to cultivate the Ability to assume the attraction Even if you're not sure that it's going to work out Even if you're not sure always assume that she's into you and this doesn't mean oh, she's into me I'm just gonna start roping her or start trying to make out there or assume that you know, just ask her out immediately Um, no no no play it cool assume the attraction but play it cool show interest and then build it up in the right way Okay, she's twirling her hair, you know talk to her flirt with her and then eventually when you want your contact information Talk to her on text for a little bit and then ask her out. Okay Super simple what happens if all of your friends are married or have kids Already, don't you get anxiety or you know that everybody has a girlfriend or has kids married your thoughts on the situation kind of sucks Yeah, I totally get this. So i'm at an age right now Hang into my 30s that we're like most people are getting married, right? And they have kids and there is definitely a pressure that comes around with that and it's very real You know, um, a lot of people make decisions about their life based on these pressures So I've been in relationships. I've been out of relationships. I've been open things I've been anonymous things, you know, and the truth is the one constant is me And so learning how to be happy in each of those different situations and knowing that yeah, sure It's it's it makes a difference, but it doesn't make that much of a difference because You have yourself, you know, thinking that a relationship is going to save you thinking that kids are going to save you Um, it's never the answer Okay, what do you do with girls that seem too difficult to meet up saying they're so busy have work jobs essentially They are not sure about their schedule. So if they keep telling you this bro It's not your job to try and make them free if they're too busy. They're too busy You know, there was this girl that I was talking to before who was like super into me But she was just too busy and she she was like always apologizing She's like, no, I'm so sorry like I really want to meet up and she does really want to meet up But if she's too busy, that's not my problem I'm going to go date other girls and then when she's free. She can come hit me up and you know after a couple weeks She did hit me up. So like That's just the way it is if she's too busy. That's you know, she's too busy Did you ever pick up girls in college? Uh, I'm sorry wondering if there's a point to cold approaching at 90 The approach 90 girls want to hook up one day feels like such a drag doing it. Okay. Yeah You're probably doing it wrong. And if you're doing it like that, um, I wouldn't go out for like five six hours And like approach everybody. Um, I mean you can find actually some I've done that and made it work. Um You just gotta get better at approaching honestly And if you get better at it, like you won't be dealing with those kinds of numbers Usually if I walk up to a girl and talk to her like I do pretty well um But I'm a little bit more selective about the girls that I walk up to Okay, did you ever pick up girls in college? It's easier to pick up girls In college, right? What do you do? Okay, don't try and pick up girls in college You can it's not that hard to get phone numbers or whatever, but that just goes to you So what you want to do is you want to make friends in college and be popular You should go for popularity not for like one just I'm gonna try and pick up each individual girl because that shit doesn't work And you'll you'll get labeled as a weirdo Okay, how to meet girls in school when uni is completely online. Yeah, that's the tough one, bro You're gonna have to go online yourself And uh start posting things and start connecting with people through there So your pictures videos social profile, I would spend time building that up Okay, um how to meet women during a study abroad trip. Oh, is your study abroad? Awesome, like you're gonna meet so many people there people are gonna be more willing to hang out So hang out with people and go do things with them go explore the city go on tours Go take a class go do all that stuff do shit during the day and you'll meet people through that Okay, is balding a confidence killer for a lot of men, um Balding is something they're very very self-conscious about. Um, I I would say if you're balding either If you're not gonna get a hair transplant, um, you know, I would just shave it off Sorry Yeah, man, I would just shave it all off. You're considering it a real interest or if it's really blocking you Yeah, women. So the studies have shown that women do care about it Not as much as you think but they do care about it. And so, uh, if you find yourself balding and you're not gonna get a hair transplant I would just shave it all off Okay, best way to get women that are 20 to 21. Okay. I'm assuming you're an older guy 20 to 21 year olds They're just trying to have fun broke. They're not trying to have long deep conversations They don't even have the ability to have those things yet. She's just trying to have fun Give her a fun time Thanks, Matthew. Um, ask her if she likes the spa treatments and offer her services Uh, some of this is bleak. I wasn't knocking down hundreds of women when I was single But I did well glad to be off in the market with a great girlfriend Dude, I'm glad you're off the market soon. You're happy But honestly, if you're being single and you hate life, you're not doing it correctly I'm I'm so stoked when I'm single I have such a great time Okay, main things you learned throughout your body transformation is the main things I learned We're gonna summarize on Saturday. We're gonna talk exactly about what happened what worked what didn't work Um, you'd be surprised. I say the biggest things was probably the diet and like the exercises that I don't know It was like it was like everything. Um, so Yeah, I mean just going and learning things bit by bit and making so many mistakes. Um, I think that was like a big A big part of it was You know, when I did this I probably did everything that you could do wrong And my body was like hurting it was like like physically my stomach was like It was hurting me all the time to do that And so coming out of that, um, I'm just happy my stomach doesn't hurt but also to gain my weight back and Building on a building a bit of muscle as well too. I think that that's uh, the biggest You know the biggest thing there was increasing the intensity of the workouts not Not not doing the workout every single day even though I like to do jiu-jitsu as well too So there's an invisible every day, but just when it comes to working out. I give my muscles time to rest Okay, um Yeah, but yeah, john you want to attend the training this saturday saturday at 12 the link is in my description so click on the link outcomes fitness.com slash loy clicking on the on the bio right there and uh Yeah, we'll see you there. Um I'm 24. She's 19 any constellation to help me not feel like a creep bro. That's only five years. That's not being a creep at all, dude I had a i'm 30 and I had a 21 year old girl send me news the other day and The guy who she was dating before me was like 10 years older than me If she's into you she won't be too busy that's an excuse. Um Honestly, no, dude There's some women that are going to like medical school or something like that That just literally do not have time and like mentally they feel overwhelmed with everything And for them getting a boyfriend or dating someone they like is a big deal So it's not always the case. Um if a girl likes you she'll make an effort to see you from what I've seen. Yeah, um I wouldn't say that she likes you or doesn't like you that's too personal. Um Just say she's not ready. You know, like that's because that's probably more accurate. Um, again, assume the attraction Hey, Lloyd, I'm able to attract the three slash four trees right now and start pulling higher level girls Well, you got to become a higher level yourself and typically you're gonna get um Yeah, it's it Typically you're gonna get, you know Girls who are like not very attractive are gonna be into you. Um, like that's how it works for pretty much every guy so um What you want to do is start being more confident go for the girls that you want to go for And don't get distracted by the girls that you're not into. Um, you know, make friends be patient If i'm not immediately into that's okay But um, you know, you got to start going after the girls that you like and start having the mentality to do that Um, so if you're too scared to I would just start being friends with them first and then hit on other girls Better not them Hey, Lloyd, I've been texting a girl for two years now and it's always me who text her first. Okay, you got to give this up, dude I don't know if this girl's far away or if she's, you know, uh Nearby you if she's nearby you and she hasn't met up with you like You got you should stop. Um, if she's far away and she's you know, never hitting you up Uh, she doesn't plan on meeting you. This is a waste of time If she doesn't talk a lot when you're alone but with friends she talks Nonstop. Okay, that means that she's not quite comfortable with you yet She's super comfortable with her friends and that probably took years for that to develop Um, so just give her time just give her time be patient continue to show up And that is that is the way to go that is the way to go Okay, how to keep a girl warmed up over text after given a number and then Not available for a week usually get getting ghosted by them after no call Contact in a couple days No commitment to remade yet Yeah, dude, um, so it sounds to me like you need to Exercise some patience. So when you get a girl's phone number, you're probably like, oh, I gotta ask her out now. Well, it's hot Women are not thinking like that at all Women are much more patient than men are when it comes to the dating game And sometimes she'll be in the mood and sometimes she won't be in the mood Dude, I've had women that like, you know, we stopped talking for weeks and then you know, I started talking to her again Then we went out and we started dating like it's happened so many times more time times that I can count that I know to not be too impatient with the process because The more patient relaxed I am the more successful I am and so again, assuming the attraction That's what's really going to help you out Um, how to get out of the friend zone with a girl Okay, the way to get out of the friend zone with the girls to make your intentions clear let her know that you like her Let her know why you like her and let her know that you want to take her on an date It'll take time for you to get there. You're not just going to immediately start hooking up She has to start to see you as that kind of person first and if she says no be cool with it But I would recommend that you not be friends with that person if she says no She says no to a date or something like that If you're single and hate life, it's a bad combo and disorganized bad combo, right? Yeah, absolutely, but like, you know work on making your life better Don't worry about like women making your life better. I would still continue to try and make it better I would still continue to try and date still continue to get out there But overall do the things that you want to do to make your life the life that you want to live I'm single and I hate myself and my life I was I I understand that used to be like that as well too, but Figure out the things that you enjoy doing that you get happiness from legitimately like write them down Then go and start doing those things and figure out how you can meet women doing those things Okay, and if there's nothing on that list just go out and try new shit every single day Okay, you write it down and say hey, I'm gonna try one new thing every single day Or I'm gonna try one like a couple new things this week and you do it and you've uh, you've earned a reward And then just go and relax for a little bit, you know Okay Oh marty says she is nearby Yeah for that girl that you've been texting for two years and she never texts you first I'd probably find somebody else, you know, unless she is really great when You know you meet up with her, but I'd say for the most part you should probably get me her How long did it take you to reach this level? Um I mean, I'm always getting better dude, so that's a tough question. I don't know I'd say it probably took me a good two years of going out consistently for me to feel confident But then I was getting better after that. So yeah, I'm always getting better. Is dating like chess or checkers I don't know. I don't know what answer that question dating is like dating. I don't think it's like either one of those things um If I was going to say it's like a game the most the game that dating is mostly like is um No, I'm not going to use that analogy dating is like dating. I don't think it's I don't I wouldn't relate it to any Board game. I'm sure my business partner could do that though, but I'm not really a big board game person Okay, would you say women lean on their emotions when they accept a man? Yeah, absolutely. I mean, you're leaning on your emotions too Like you're looking for somebody's going to make you feel good make you feel important make you feel sexually You know turned on those are all emotional things, you know, that's not like yeah, sure There's some logic in there, but you're making an emotional decision to both of you It's just maybe the way you get to there could be logical. So Yeah, obviously they're going to use their emotions. So you have to emotionally be appealing to her Hey, Lloyd. I'm 23 and pretty successful and confident in most areas of life, but I've zero dating and sexual experience I'm starting to feel very weird. How should I solve this given my situation? Dude, I want you to get out there and I want you to start being friends with people have a social life And start being comfortable being around a mad area and I would actually start by giving compliments Small compliments that you notice To people be a little bit extra affectionate towards them and see how that goes Cool Thoughts on dating a girl at my MMA gym. Okay, you got to be very careful about this. Um, I would go slow start out as friends first and then make a move if you are going to Try and date somebody right away. Um, it can be bad. I've actually had friends getting in trouble for this sort of stuff Even when it was totally consensual Um, see, I'm very careful about looking at the people in my gym I've looked up with people at work in my gym, but we started out as friends first and then after we stopped We went back to being friends and made sure it wasn't weird So yeah, how to tell the difference between Her playing hard to get or not being interested Okay, so this is a tough one because The same moves for her playing hard to get and not being interested. Um, They're pretty much the same thing So you just continue until you don't want to do it anymore like typically a woman who's playing hard to get Well, um She'll give you something If she's literally giving you nothing Then she's probably just not interested Okay, if she won't meet up with you and you've tried twice and she's like done you twice Just I would pick somebody else Okay Oh my god, we're getting a lot of questions now the single guy in god mode you heard that term no offense No, I haven't any advice for people who are In the situation where nothing goes their way. So if you feel like nothing's going your way You have to start writing down things like even anything that is going well for you. Okay I keep a journal of positive things So when I feel like my life is shit, I can flip through it and realize that my life is pretty good Okay, it really is the way that you see things and even if you're having a tough time, you know When I was depressed when I was like feeling like shit every day I was getting three hours of sleep at night when I literally felt like nothing in my life was going Well, I was still like ever to write down three things that I was grateful for, you know Even if it was just like oh it was sunny today or even if it wasn't sunny like You know my my stomach doesn't hurt like it did last year like just like little things like that, you know Or you know my mom and dad loved me or even if you don't have that You know a friend of mine cares for me or something like that. So Try and practice gratitude and start doing nice things for people dude if you feel like This is going to sound crazy But if you feel like nothing is going along in your life start being as great as you can for other people Don't expect them to do anything in return for you. But just to actively being kind to people I think we'll we'll start to help you out um There's a girl I've liked since the fourth grade I'm a senior in high school. I'm 99.9 percent sure she used to have a crush on me I haven't seen her this year at all not even always dude. Yeah, I would Try and reach out to her if you got her phone number or something like that and be consistent You know, like she'll probably be a little difficult at first But if she likes you before there's a good chance she'll like you again She has an insta but it's private. I was thinking about the editor, but I have no idea what to say um Sorry guys If you don't know what to say I would try and respond to one of her stories You start out with that. Um What does it mean when a girl texts you hey Uh, it means she's laughing. It's kind of a mischievous laugh. She's probably flirting with you Optional question we're into gold diggers exist women wise. Oh, yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. There's gold diggers out there They're a lot less common than guys think and like to be honest, dude Most guys that fall for gold diggers They know what's going on and if they really don't know what's going on They're so completely clueless that it's like You know, I'm just like staggered by it. Um But yeah anyway, um I like a girl in my class should I ask her to hang out and work on our group project or should I make It know and I'm interested in her and not use work as an excuse to hang out Um, I would just ask her to hang out not associated with that group product try that Yeah, and and see if that works Honestly, both methods would work, but me personally if I'm really into a girl I don't like to use that as an excuse if I'm like kind of interested and I want to see if we get along Then a group project would be a good place to start out with that Uh, is journal and diary the same thing? Uh journal journaling is specific So I'm writing down three specific things every single day. So that's more of a journal a diary is kind of like more free form I have no idea if I'm giving you the right definition. So this is how I interpret it Advice for dating women just coming out of relationships in general. I would say probably leave her alone. Um, or Get ready for some mixed signals or like weird shit to happen or her like everyone deals with breakups differently Some women go head first into a new relationship We get the sexual super quick and then they ditch them some women take forever to get sexual because they're still thinking about their x you know Both women are still thinking about their x but they just deal with it differently or it depends how the breakup went to like there's so many factors involved there's just like a lot of things for you to get involved with so I generally try and leave women alone for a bit until they've like completely moved on And then I try and date them. Um, but you know, I've been successful with women that are like that You just have to understand that she's gonna act crazy and don't think that is you or she doesn't like you It's it's the breakup um I feel bad for asking a lot of questions. No man, it's it's all good. Just um, I might ignore your question If you've asked like a bunch of other people haven't had time, but there's not that many people on this call right now So yeah, that's totally fine I'm only going to be here for a couple more minutes you guys because I do have to stop at the hour Um, so is he have flirting sometimes is flirting sometimes it's not but I'd say in general more often it's flirting than it's not um You think you could do live streams like this answering questions in the future Um, you know, typically this is usually only stuff that I do for paying clients Um, but you know, whenever I have a live event coming up I'll probably do one. So like I said guys the live event if you saw my body transformation pic I'm going to be doing that this saturday with my trainer. So if you want to know what me and you were doing Um, click the link in my bio So the link in my bio will be a link to sign off in a meeting is in saturday 12 30 p.m Eastern time and we'll show you everything about what I did all the mistakes that I made and uh How you guys can not make those mistakes and get the get the body that you're looking for Women do like a guy with a good body We'll talk a little bit about what, uh, the preferences that women have Okay Can you make a video where you can show us how to do cold approaches dude, uh bush w You gotta buy my practical approaching system the practical coding system. I laid out exactly there There should be a link to it in all of my videos Um, I show you a breakdown exactly how I do it there. Um, it's pretty simple It's simple, but it's like most people just can't do it because it's uh, it's it's a little bit Takes courage um takes being cool takes being confident and Yeah, just knowing how to keep the conversation going forward Cool. All right, you guys so that is it for me again If you want to attend the training session this saturday, please deal with love to see you guys there We're going to talk about my body transformation Um And uh, yeah our dad bod's really the thing now. Um, they are somewhat so Dad bod's are popular, but in the video you want to still look like you're in shape So that's what I would do What's your life story? Um We do not have time for that Okay, uh, all right you guys I know you got more questions, but I do have to go This is the top of the hour, but again you guys if you want to take a look at the The training this saturday where we talk about my body transformation click the link in my bio. All right guys I gotta go. See you later