 وأقول في القرآن ما جاءت به آياته فهو الكاريم المنزاله وأقول قال الله جل جلاله والمصطف الهدي ولا أتأواله الحمد لله يا رب العالمين مهل الحمد الحسن والثناء الجميل وشدوى الله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له وشدوى نسيدنا ونبينا محمد صلى الله عليه وعليه وعلى آله وأصحابه والتابعين لهم بحسان إلى يوم الدين أما بعد تلين شاء الله تعالى the first man is that I wanted to speak about is الحياة وشينس from one of the greatest characteristics and etiquettes that a person can adorn himself with is الحياة وشينس and this term الحياة مشتقون it is rooted from and it's taken from من الحياة life with that the scholars they mention فكلما عظمت الحياة every time a person's life becomes great in their heart عظم الحياة with the shyness becomes great as well so every single time your life becomes better your shyness also becomes better so they connected and every single time your life becomes weak in your heart and in your soul ضعف الحياة but shyness also becomes weak ولذلك عمار القطاب رضي الله تعالى عنه he said anyone who's shyness decreases قل ورعه he's fear of doubtful issues also reduces يعني ورع means if something is doubtful whether it's حلال or حرام to stay away from it that reduces as well the person starts to dwell in that which is impermissible if your shyness goes low committing haram becomes easy for you ومن قل ورعه ما تقلبه when your ورع goes your heart dies it's written in his كتاب مكاريم الأخلاق so this shows us that a person's life and shyness are connected and when your life reduces your shyness also reduces and once your shyness reduces your ورع reduces you're a person who dwells into that which is haram commits that which is haram and also your heart then dies from this may Allah SWT give us shyness give us ورع and protect our hearts from dying حيام I beloved brothers and sisters shyness is معدن الأخلاق shyness is the force of good manners it is منبع المعاملات الكريمة people's good interactions where it springs from is shyness every single good as the messenger he told us comes from shyness shyness doesn't come except with that which is good the prophet told us أمراري بن حصينين رضي الله تعالى عنه he said that the messenger said الحياء لا يأتي إلا بخير shyness does not bring except good بخاري المسلم the person who shy who's got shyness in them nothing comes from them except that which is good أبي قتادة كنا عند أمراري بن حصينين أبي قتادة said we were in the gathering of أمراري بن حصينين is a noble companion في رحت منا a group of us وفينا بوشير وفينا بوشير بن كعبن and with us was بوشير بن كعبن بوشير بن كعبن was with us فحدثنا أمراري بن حصينين يومئن أمراري بن حصينين he spoke to us that day he had a conversation with us he told us something and from the things that he told us was that he set us الحياة وخير كله أمراري بن حصينين is a noble companion set us that shyness is all good all of shyness is good there is no bad shyness or he said الحياة وكله خير that all of shyness is good بوشير بن بن كعبن he responded to أمراري بن حصينين and he said إنا لنجد في بعض الكتب أو الحكمة we find in some books we find أن منه سكينا that some shyness has tranquility ووقار ومنه ضعفن and some shyness has weakness there is a good shyness and there is a bad shyness this is what بوشير بن حكم بوشير بن كعبن he said أمراري بن حصينين he got angry فغضب أمراري أمر رتاعينا his eyes became red وقاله he said ألا أراني أحدثك عال رسول الله am I not telling you about the messengers واتعالض فيه and then here you are contradicting what the messengers said because what did the prophet say the prophet said all of shyness is good and بوشير بن كعبن some shyness comes with tranquility and good and shyness comes with weakness أمراري بن حصينين are you contradicting what I told you about the messengers صلى الله عليه وسلم فعاد أمراري بالحديث أمراري بن حصينين فعاد بوشير بن فغضب أمراري أمراري بن كعبن when he repeated again بوشير and he said فما زلنا نقول فيه إنه مننا يا أبن جيد the people that was sitting there they tried to calm down they tried to he's from us there's no problem يعني he's from us what I want to take from this حديث this حديث tells us informs us that the person who's shy the person who possesses this quality of shyness this person is upon all of good don't ever think to yourself my beloved brother my beloved sister don't ever think to yourself that being shy is a weakness remember that shyness is always good we're in a society today we're in a time when a person who has shyness is said to look at this child look at this kid we ridicule the shy person instead of praising him for this great trait that he has and telling him it's a good thing that they have shyness in them any individual who's adorned with this quality then it shows that this person's intellect this person's عقل is complete حقيقة and that this person possesses good manners and that this person through their shyness إن شاء الله they're going to achieve a lot of good as the poet said the person will live as long as he possesses the quality of shyness the person is going to live with good ويبقى العود وما بقى اللحاق and also the she will remain as long as it has a branch that he stands on the root is still there يعيشوا المرء مستحيا بخير as long as you possess the quality of shyness you will live a good life إن شاء الله أبو هريرا رضي الله تعالى عنه he mentioned that the messenger said that the iman is 60 odd branches وأدناها in the lowest is it is to remove harm from the street and the path والحياة وشعبة من شعب الإيمان and shyness is a branch from the branches of the iman and both narrated that in this hadith it explains to us it shows us that the iman ليست خصلا واحدة إيمان is not just one branch or it's not just one characteristics إيمان is شعب كثيرا it has many branches it has many good deeds inside it many qualities the highest one is كريمة الإخلاص and توحيد is the highest level the highest branch وأدناها in the lowest of it it is to take off harm from the street يعني it is to remove everything that will cause a harm to a person whether it be a stone whether it be a thorn whether it be a glass or other than that it is to remove from the road and shyness was mentioned in this hadith that shyness is what من شعب الإيمان it's a branch from the branches of iman and every single time a person increases in shyness his iman increases and shyness brothers and sisters is و هو خير كله it is all good the shyness و لا يأتي الله بخير و لا يأتيك بخير عبدالله ابن عمرين رضي الله تعالى عنهما ما يالله بيشعب with him and his father he said that the prophet SAW الحياء والإيمان و قورينا جميعا that شايناس and إيمان have been both mentioned together فإذا رفع أحدهما if one of them is removed رفع الآخر and the other one will be removed يعني إيمان and shyness are two that are one if one of them is removed the other one is removed إيمان محاكب narrated this in his مستدرك يعني أنهما متلازمان both of them necessitate one another لا ينفق أحدهما عن الآخر one cannot be removed from the other one they are strongly connected إيمان and shyness so when you see your إيمان when you see your shyness going low and you lack the quality of shyness there is a direct effect on your إيمان there is a problem with your إيمان أنا سبن مانك رضي الله تعالى عنه he said that the prophet SAW he said إن لكل دين خلقا و خلق الإسلام الحياء رواه نماجح that every single religion has a quality a characteristics a manner and the manners of الإسلام is shyness يعني every religion has a something that was given great importance in it something that was emphasized on in that religion and that people were uniquely given to and this religion what it is is that it is shyness shyness is that quality that is highly emphasized on in Islam أبو هرير رضي الله تعالى عنه he said that the prophet SAW الحياء من الإيمان shyness is from إيمان والإيمان and إيمان takes a person to جنة يفضي بأهله إلى الجنة shyness takes the person to إيمان and إيمان takes the person to جنة والبداء من الجفاء والجفاء في النار وغس بيج فعو لنوج is من الجفاء it is from خاشنس it is from a person who possesses the quality of rudeness a person who is distasteful والبداء من الجفاء والجفاء في النار and this quality of خاشنس is in the how fire رواه الترميليو and he narrated this بقاري أصوه شغناصر رحمه الله authenticated in his سلسلة حديث الصحيحة this hadith teaches us that shyness is from إيمان and إيمان is a means for you to enter jannah my beloved brothers and sisters إيمان is a means for what والفوز بنعيم الجنة it is a means to attain the blessings of jannah the opposite of shyness in this hadith as mentioned here is والبداء من الجفاء a person who has got no shyness a person who is foul spoken vulgar in their words and when they speak is definitely going to lead to the how fire عبد الله بن عباس رضي الله تعالى عنهما he said that the messenger said to رضي الله تعالى عنه the prophet said to this man he said this man who he had a wound on his head the messenger ﷺ he said to him إن فيك خصلتيني in you are two qualities يحبهم الله الله those two qualities that are in you الحلمة والحياة shyness and forbearance you have two qualities that are in you you have two qualities that are in you that Allah سبحانه وتعالىahn لاافس the first one is الحلم حلم means forbearance you can endure what others happening about you you are a person when people are not nice to you لك الناس يجعلك تنظيمك. يمكنك أن ترى تفوذ. و الأخر هو الحياة والشي. The Hadith means اي جبالك الله على ذلك الله سبحانه وتعالى Made this an innate quality for you. Because shyness ما هو جيبلي و ما هو مكتسب. Shyness is two types. إن شاء الله تعالى سوف نرى There is a type which is جيبلي is natural. مكتسب you have to work for it. You have to look for it. You have to study it. You have to discipline yourself on that type. And the people brothers and sisters متفاوتون. When the people are not all of the same level when it comes to shyness. So it requires مجاهدة fighting, striving, exerting efforts. حافظ ابن رجاب الحملي رحمه الله he said وعلم أن الحياة نوعان. ابن رجاب الحملي. He said no. That the shyness is two types. There are two types of shyness. The first one is ما كان خلقا و جيبلا غير مكتسب. That which is innate. ما كان خلقا. Allah naturally gave this person in it. و جيبلا It is naturally built in his person. غير مكتسب. The person doesn't have to exert effort in it. و هو من أجل نحو الله العبد And it is the greatest quality Allah bestows upon a slave. It is the best thing Allah gives a slave. و لذلك المسلم صلى الله عليه وسلم حديث ابن رجاب سيس. شايناس does not bring except that which is good. فإنه يكوف عن ارتكاب القبائح و دنيئ الأخلاق شايناس what does it do? It removes from the person bad traits. It removes from this person for falling into that which is wrong و حراب. It stops the person from what? بعد أخلاق و أدب و يحث على استعمال مكاني من أخلاق. And it pushes the person towards good manners and good ethics. The second one he said is ما كان مكتسبا. That which you have to work towards. You have to strive, you have to exert effort. من معرفة الله by knowing Allah. و معرفة عظمتي knowing Allah how great He is and how noble He is. و قربه and getting closer to Allah سبحانه وتعالى. و الطلاعه عليهم it is knowing that Allah is looking at you سبحانه وتعالى. That he knows سبحانه وتعالى خائنة الأعيون و ما تقف السدور. He knows the one who is deceiving. He knows what's in the chest. This one is the one you work on. You're always knowing that Allah can see you سبحانه وتعالى. Allah is aware of what you're doing. Studying Allah سبحانه وتعالى And learning about it. Learning Allah's names and attributes. This one it brings about shyness. And Ibn Rajab says بالهو من أعلى درجات الحسان. And this one is from the greatest levels of excellence. I mean the greatest levels of Al-Hayat. That's powerful. So the two types of shyness. Shyness which is natural. Allah gives it to the person. It's just natural for them. They don't need to look for it. They don't need to do that one. Okay. عبد الله يبن عمر رضي الله تعالى عنهما. He said مر رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم على رجل من الأنصار. وهو يعيض أخاه في الحياة. The messenger he walked by a man from the people of Ansar. وهو يعيض أخاه. He was advising his brother. He was advising his brother. He was talking to his brother. He was giving him a lecture regarding shyness. And he was telling him you're too shy. Stop being too shy. Get rid of that. You're too shy. فقال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم And the messenger said to the one that was advising He said to him. Leave him alone. Shyness is from him. Leave him alone. So The messenger He prohibited a brother advising his brother regarding shyness. He said to him. Do not advise him regarding shyness. And he do not tell him to leave of the quality of shyness. Why? Because shyness is what stops a person from doing that which is wrong. It is shyness that which على استعمالي مكاري من الأخلاق. Shyness is what makes you do good manners and good etiquettes. فوخيرون كله Shyness is all good. So some people they say to somebody. Stop being shy. Shyness is always good. حياء brothers and sisters is من أفضل الخصال. It's the greatest characteristics, greatest trait a person has. It is that Allah gives to سبحانه وتعالى. أناس ربي الله تعالى عنه. He mentioned that the messenger said ما كان الفحش في شيء قطن إلا شاره. There is never vulgar and indecency and immorality is never present in something except that it makes it very ugly. وَلا كان الحياء في شيء قطن إلا زانه. And there is no matter where the person possesses shyness in this issue. إلا زانه except that it beautifies him. There isn't a person who comes with shyness in a matter except that it beautifies them. There's not a situation where it was done with shyness except that you see the beauty in it. There is not a person who when they do things they do with shyness. You can always say the beauty in it. So in this حديث is مفتاح كل شر. This حديث shows that every bad man is the key to all evil. والخلق الحسن good man is مفتاح كل خير. Every good comes from it. And shyness is the greatest quality of good man is. And if good man is has different things are good man is right. The highest level is shyness. سلمان الفارسي رضي الله تعالى عن who he said إذا أراد الله بعبد الهلاكة. If Allah wants to destroy a person نزع منه الحياة. Allah removes shyness from you. فإذا نزع منه الحياة. And if Allah removes shyness from you لم تلقه إلا مقيتا وممقتا. You will never meet this person who Allah removes from them shyness except that you see this person immoral, distasteful and indespicable. That's the reality of a person who that quality has been taken from them. Any individual Allah wants to destroy them. Guess what he does to them. سلمان الفارسي يقول this. Allah removes from that person shyness. No longer shy. And then when shyness is removed from this person. You can't spend time with them. You're shy. So when you see this quality it scares you. It makes you distasteful towards حديث. You cannot spend a minute with them. Shyness is that thing brothers and sisters that stops us from doing wrong. If we don't have shyness we do everything. That's why the message is said in the حديث أبن مصعود البدري. ربي الله تعالى عنه. The prophet said this. إلا مما أدرك الناس ومن كلام النقوة الأولى إذا لم تستحيف أسنع ما. That one of the things that was inherited that was taken from the early prophets the wise statement that was taken from them was what إذا لم تستحيف إذا لم تستحيف if you're not shy إذا لم تستحيف أسنع ما. If you're not shy do as you wish. The person who's shyness is removed from them. He doesn't care about his actions. And he's not diligent in what he does or say. He doesn't care. Shyness is that one thing that makes the person think. Shall I do this? Shall I act in this particular way. إذا لم تستحيف أسنع ما. If you're not shy go do whatever you want. What does it actually mean go do whatever you want. إذا لم تستحيف أسنع ما. If you're not shy do as you wish. There are two views regarding that. The first is أنه ليس بمعنى الأمر. حديث even though it seems like there's a command where you're being told to do something. فصلت على ما شد. Go do whatever you want. But it's actually not a command. The first view is saying it's not a command. You're not being commanded to do something. So then what am I being told? Within that group there's two views within that group who say it's not a command. They have two views in there. The first ones they say أنه أمر بمعنى التهديد والوعيد. يعني it is if you don't have shyness then do as you wish. You don't have shyness just go do whatever you want. In other words the person's actually been warned it's not do as you wish it's like إعملوا ما شئتهم. Do as you wish إنه بما تعملون بصير. الله سبحانه وتعالى can see everything you're doing. Does it mean go commit sins no it means if you do whatever you want I will punish you. So it's a تهديد it's a warning in there. The second view that believe it's not a command they're saying it's خبر it's a statement which means أن من لم يستحي the one who's not shy صنع من شاء he does whatever he wishes because the thing that prevents a person from doing that which is bad is what shyness and shyness is no longer there then what happens is that the person will go and do something bad so it's a statement it's informing us that shyness is the thing that stops a person from doing bad and if they don't have shyness then they are going to go out there and they're going to do bad. That's the first view who say it's not a command there's a second view which says it's a command. The second view they say it is a command فصنع من شئ it is a command we should leave it at its apparent we should leave it the way that the wording is so they're okay what does it mean then? they say it means إذا كان الذي تريد فعله if the thing that you want to do is من ما لا يستحي من فعلي it's not something you should be generally shy about and you shouldn't be shy about الله تعالى in regards to this action of speech or you shouldn't be shy about the people because it's a righteous action or action is a good thing then go out there and do it that's what the حديث is saying they said so those are the two views regarding the حديث of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم من رجب الكلام is very قوي رحم الله تعالى he said in his كتاب جامع له علوم الحكم the first volume paid 498 my beloved brothers and sisters shyness is a name from the names of Allah سبحانه و تعالى it's actually a name from the names of Allah سبحانه و تعالى and there is two hadiths that have come that prove that it's a name from the names of Allah سبحانه و تعالى the first hadith is the Hadith of Ya'la من أمية رضي الله تعالى عنه أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم رأى رجل and the messenger saw a man يغتسل بالبرازي بلا إزالي a man who was showering he was cleaning himself without covering himself فصاعدة المنبرة فصاعدة the professor when he climbed المنبرة the pulpit فحمد الله و أثنى عليه he praised Allah and then he said إن الله عز وجل حيي ستير الله is shy and conceals يحب الحياة والسطر الله loves shyness and he loves concealing فإذا اغتسل أحدكم فليستتر if one of you is cleaning himself and he is showering then conceal yourself from the people روه أبو داود و النسائي أبو داود و النسائي narrated this so this hadith it says إن الله عز وجل حيي الله is حيي so حيي is from the names of Allah سبحانه وتعالى good the second hadith that shows that this is the name of Allah حديث سلمان الفارسي رضي الله تعالى عنه قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم حيي كريم يستحي من عبده إذا رفع يديه إليه أن يرد هما أن يرد هما صفراء سلمان الفارسي الله عز وجل is حيي الله is حيي الله سبحانه وتعالى is generous يستحي الله is shy from what إذا رفع يديه أن يرد هما صفراء أن يرد هما صفراء أن الله يرد هما صفراء without giving him what he asked for أبو داويد أن يبنوما so حيي is a name from the names of Allah سبحانه وتعالى من عقيدة أهل السنة والجماعة is what الله's names are what أعلامه باعتبار دلالاته على ذات وأصافه باعتبار دلالاته على المعاني that Allah's names are not just mere names every name of Allah is a meaning in it so we say that the name الحيي has a characteristic and attributes and that attribute is what صفة الحياة that Allah has tried سبحانه وتعالى a shyness تليق بجلاله وكمالي that befits his his majesty befits his majesty الله's characteristic it's in a way that befits his majesty لا يماتل أحدا من خلقه الله is never like his creation it's a creation shy and Allah is shy we don't say it's the same it's in a way that befits his majesty ليس كاميره شيء ليس كاميره شيء وهو السميع البصير الله سبحانه وتعالى there is nothing like him he can hear and he can see we also believe ما بينهما في عبوده وصطب اللي عبادته هل تعلم له السميع and there is nothing like him سبحانه وتعالى ابن القيم explained he explained this name of Allah الحي he said الله سبحانه وتعالى he described himself to be one that shy ووصف رسوله صلى الله عليه وسلم and Allah described his prophet we are going to come to the prophet how his shyness was فهو الحيي الكريم الله is one who is shy and generous كما قال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم as the messenger said إن الله حيي كريم يستحي من عبده إذا رفع إله يدي أن يردهما صفرا that Allah is shy that Allah is generous if a slave raises his hands up in the air that Allah does not turn you back for what you are asking Allah gives you what you are asking for وقالت this is the statement of ابن رجب this is the statement of ابن القيم I am reading ابن القيم then says وقالت إن الله لا يستحي من الحق الله is not shy from the truth وقرّها على ذلك the messenger affirmed he approved of his statement إن الله لا يستحي من الحق that Allah is not shy from the truth when the messenger said إن الله لا يستحي من الحق الله is not shy from the truth لا تأتن نساء في أعجازهن do not come to the women from their back passages do not the prophet SAW he said that Allah is not shy إن الله لا يستحي من الحق الله is not shy from the truth so this hadith has shown us that we have taken before and the statement of ابن رجب is a tribute to Allah and it is also a tribute to our prophet SAW نبي الله محمد أبواقي دن اللي في رضي الله تعالى عنه he said that رسول الله SAW the messenger SAW بينما هو جالس في المسجد the prophet was sitting in the masjid والناس معه and the people with the prophet SAW إذ أقبل نفر ثلاثة three men came forward فأقبل الثناني إلى رسول الله SAW ودهب واحد two of the men they faced the prophet SAW and one of them left two of them came to the prophet SAW and the third one he turned his back and he left that's what he did قال فوقف على رسول الله SAW فأما أحدوما فراء فرجة في الحلقة فجلس فيها وأما الأخر فجلس خلفهم وأما الثالث فأدبر دهب all of them they stood upon the prophet SAW one of them he found a space and he sat there and he listened okay the second one what did he do أما الآخر فجلس خلفهم the second one he went and he sat the back as for the third one he turned his back and he left when the messenger SAW finished he said to the people ألا أخبركم عن النفر سألاته shall I not tell you about these three men that came the reality and the situation the Sa'ab as they said of course the messenger SAW أما أحدوهم as for one of them which is the first one فأوا إلى الله فأواه الله he came to Allah to barakutta and Allah to barakutta came to him because he shouted him Allah to barakutta protected him he came to the shout of Allah to barakutta and Allah gave him shout وأما الآخر as for the second one he sat at the back فاستحية he was shy to push himself through he was shy فاستحية الله منه الله became shy from him وأما الآخر as for the third one فعرضه he turned away فعرض الله عنه الله turned away from him what I want to take from the hadith is Allah was shy of the creation if the creation is shy of Allah Allah is shy of you سبحانه وتعالى نعم فمن استحية من الله when he is shy from Allah فالباركة العالى استحية الله منه الله الشاي فمنه سبحانه وتعالى the reason is because Allah is he is shy يحب الحياة He loves shyness والواجب على العبدي what is upon every single one of us my beloved brothers and sisters we are shy of Allah we possess this quality of shyness now we come with it روا الإمام أحمد رحمه الله في الزوت الإمام أحمد narrated in his kitab الزوت بيهقي also narrated in his kitab أنا رجل قال للنبي صلى الله عليه وسلم أوصيني أي من came to the prophet أن يسأل يا رسول الله I want you to advise me الإمام صلى الله عليه وسلم ستهم أوصيك أن تستحي من الله كما تستحي رجل صالح من قومك الإمام أحمد بيهقي narrated this hadith then a man came to the prophet أن يسأل يا رسول الله أوصيني أوصيك I advise you the way I advise you أن تستحي من الله أن you are shy of Allah كما تستحي the way that you are shy from what رجل صالح من قومك the way that you are shy from a righteous man in your community there are things you will never dare to do in front of your mother your father there are things you will never dare to do in front of a practicing imam your local imam you want to do this in front of him in front of the imam and your mother and your father then why would you do this in front of Allah سبحانه وتعالى why would you do this in front of Allah سبحانه وتعالى now I am going to mention three things that move the heart towards shyness والذي you حرك في القلب الحياة من الله أمور التلاثة there are three things that move the heart that ignite the heart towards coming with this quality of shyness the first one is رؤية نعمة الله تبارك وتعالى عليك ومن نته وفضله looking at and thinking over the blessings of Allah سبحانه وتعالى on you the blessings of Allah bestowed upon you الله says in the Quran in Surah Ibrahim ترفو الله أتاكم من كل ما سألتموه وإن تعدوا نعمة الله لا تحصوها إن الإنسان لا ظلوم كفار ومعرفة المساعدة ومعرفة كل ما سألتموه الله يقول فيه نعمة الله لا تحصوها لا تطلقوا بها لا تطلقوا بها لا تطلقوا بها إن الإنسان لا ظلوم كفار وإن المساعدة هو أمور التلاثة وإن أخبره لله الله سبحانه وتعالى أكثر يجب أن تقوموا يجب أن تنقلوا يتطلقوا إلى شايمس هو رؤية تقصيرك في حقه تظهر كيف تصدر عندما يصدر للمعرفة الله سبحانه وتعالى وقيامك بما يجب له عليه سبحانه وتعالى من تتالي الأمور وتقلم حضور وقيامك ونظر كيف تصدر عندما يجب ما يجب ونظر كيف تصدر look at where are you regarding those things look how deficient we are regarding those things الله سبحانه وتعالى وقلوبهم وجلة وأنهم إلى ربهم راجعون they are the ones who come with righteous actions they do as they were told to do they stay away from that which they were told to stay away from وقلوبهم وجلة with that said but their hearts were still trembling they are thinking that I haven't done enough I haven't washed my lord I haven't done what he wanted from me I haven't stayed away from that which he told me to stay away from والذين يؤتون ما أتوا وقلوبهم وجلة their hearts are trembling أنهم إلى ربهم راجعون they know that they are going to return back to their lord الله سبحانه وتعالى that is going to account them سبحانه وتعالى the third thing that pushes the heart that moves the heart is always looking over you وفي أي وقت الله is looking at you at every situation في كل حال every situation of your life الله is looking at you وفي أي وقت and any time من الأوقات all of the times of your life الله is looking over you وإن ما تكون wherever you are He is looking over you فولا تقفى عليه عليه مينتا قافية there is nothing hidden from him He says ألم يعلم بأن الله يرى Do you not know that Allah can see you سبحانه وتعالى إن الله كان عليكم رقيبة الله سبحانه وتعالى is one that is observing you ولا قد خلقنا الإنسان ونعلموا ما توسوسوا به نفسه ونحن أقربوا إليه من حبل الوريد الله سبحانه وتعالى He says that we are aware of what you are saying to yourself let alone what you do outside we know what you whisper in your heart الله says in another ayah يستخفون من الناس ولا يستخفون من الله وهو معهم إدعوا بيتون ما لا يرضى من القول they are shy of the people and they are shy of what the people are going to say and what the people are going to do but they are not shy of Allah سبحانه وتعالى and Allah سبحانه وتعالى He says I am with you I am aware, I know I can see everything that you are doing the disbelief, the innovation the sins that you are doing I am aware of all of that but you don't act like الله سبحانه وتعالى can see you so these three things I mentioned are they move the heart towards what? towards shyness so we ask Allah سبحانه وتعالى that He gives us this great quality of shyness إنه ولي ودارك والقادر عليه الله سبحانه وتعالى has the ability to do so أرمام أحمد رحمه الله narrated في مسنده والترمذي في جامعه أن الإمام والترمذي also narrated in his جامع أن عبد الله بن مسعود رضي الله تعالى عنه He said أن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال that the Prophet said إستحيوا من الله حق الحياة be shy of Allah the way He deserves قلنا يا رسول الله the Sahabas they said إنه لن استحيوا لله الحمد we are shy of Allah and praises to Him سبحانه وتعالى I am talking about ولكن الاستحياء rather the shyness is من الله تبارك وتعالى أن تحفظ الرأس وما وعى is that you protect the head and everything around it your ears, your eyes, your nose, your mouth you protect it all والبطن وما حوا and you protect your stomach and everything in it you don't eat that which is حرام وأن تذكور الموت والبلا and that you remember death that you are going to return back to Allah سبحانه وتعالى and you remember the grave that you are going to go to that is going to swallow you and your body is going to perish ومن أراد الآخرة and anyone who wants to hear after تركزينة حيات الدنيا you leave off the glamours and the glitters of this dunya فمن فعل ذلك and anyone who does that فقد استحيى من الله حق الحياة then that person has truly become shy of Allah the way that they should be shy of Allah تبارك وتعالى the messenger mentioned أمور أربعة فيها جماع الخير وتحقيق الحياة four things the messenger mentioned in those four things are the conclusion the summary of all good and in these four are the things that can bring about shyness to a person the first and the second thing are the first and the second the first one is حفظ الرأسي protecting your head and the second one is حفظ البطن protecting your tongue both of those affect shyness they truly affected فمن كان قلبه عامراً بالحياة يمن الله anyone whose heart is filled up with shyness الله تبارك وتعالى this shyness goes towards what it goes towards حفظ الرأس it goes to protecting your face and your eyes you can't speak, shy people can't talk see how their mouth is protected shy people can't even look at you they're very shy, shy people don't listen they're very nervous and the shyness that they have they don't listen to wrong things so shyness affects the is it also affects the stomach people who shy can't eat in front of other people you see that they don't eat that which is حرام they stay away from that which is حرام the quality of shyness protects your is your eyes, your nose your mouth, your stomach حفظ الرأس حفظ البصر which is the eyes they don't look at which is حرام they don't listen to that which is حرام their face is not directed towards that which is حرام and they don't prostrate to anyone other than Allah they only prostrate to Allah the ones that are shy, they do not eat and put into their stomachs that wealth that is stolen the money taken from ريبا they don't, they do not use money that is taken from deception and etc and then the hadith mention two other things at the end and what are the two things وَاَنْ تَذْكُرَ الْمُوتَ وَالْبِلَى وَمَنْ أَرَادَ الْأَخِرَةَ تَرَكَزِينَ تَلْحَيَةِ الدُّنْياءَ these two things are also the quality of shyness which is remembering death consistently and continuously the one who has shyness the death is always on his mind he knows he is going to depart from this world but he is not going to stay for too long this is not his place of eternity this is not a place he was created for he was not created for this dunya but rather he was created for the hereafter he knows that this is just a stepping stone a place he just needs to accumulate righteous actions he knows all of that and he knows that he shouldn't beautify himself excessively in this dunya that the beauty is for the day of judgment the beauty is to beautify your grave with righteous deeds not your house in this world that you are going to leave that is the quality of shyness those four أبي سعيد الخضرية ربي الله تعالى عنه he said لما أشد حياء من العذراء في خدرها وكان إذا كريها شيء أعرفناه في وشيه متفق عليه المسلم صلى الله عليه وسلم was excessively shy he was even more shy than a virgin woman who was in her in a chamber he صلى الله عليه وسلم if shyness overcame him and he was shy of something someone said and he couldn't he was too shy of it and he disliked it عرفناه في وشيه we can recognize it from his face our messenger عليه الصلاة وسلم he was more shy than what a virgin a woman who's a virgin who's never been married who's never been spoken to a man before has no relation with a man when she first talks to him she's very nervous very agitated she's shy, she sweats she breathes heavily the word won't even come out of her mouth this is نبي الله محمد عليه الصلاة وسلم if you look at that quality do we find it in our young sisters today do we find this quality in our brothers today is it present in them look at what the prophet was compared to he was compared to a virgin a woman the shyness would be a high quality for women and without it that it also should be for the men look at this story انا سبنو ماريكة رضي الله تعالى عنه he said about the night of إستراو المعراج when the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم وصرية برسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم and the messenger was taking high up قال رسول الله the messenger said فرض الله على أمة خمسين صلاة the messenger said about that night my umma it was prescribed on them 50 prayers قال the prophet said فرجعتوا بذلك حتى أمر بموسى the prophet took those 50 prayers and he crossed and he came by and موسى عليه السلام فقال موسى موسى ستهم ماذا فرض ربك على أمتك what is it that your lord has prescribed on to your people when it comes to the prayer the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he said فرض عليهم خمسين صلاة الله تعالى he made obligatory on them what خمسين صلاة 50 prayers قال لي موسى موسى ستهم فرجعتوا ربك and go back to your lord فإن أمتك لا تطيقوا ذلك your umma can't do this the prophet then he said فرجعتوا ربي I went to my lord وضع عشة طلحة he removed half of that from me so 25 left فرجعتوا إلى موسى I came back to mousa and then mousa said to me what are the prayers that your lord has made obligatory on to you I said to him my lord has made obligatory on me this much prayers he said فإن أمتك لا تطيقوا ذلك your umma can't do this and then he said to me how much and then I told him he said go back and tell your lord to change this from you فرجعتوا ربي the prophet and I went back to my lord he then said فرجعتوا إلى موسى then the prayer got pushed down to five I came next to mousa I came to mousa again and when mousa was يعني نبي الله محمد was given five prayers but the reward is 50 and this will not be changed it was said to the prophet then I went to mousa he said the prophet فرجعتوا إلى mousa I went back to mousa he said to me go back to your lord and speak to him about it فقل to I said I am shy of my lord I can't go to him after this this is the pie I want from the hadith I am a messenger of the prophet he said I can't go back to my lord I am too shy from him he said يحدث أن رسول الله ينقلوا معهم الحجارة ولي الكعبتي وعليه إزاره this is before Islam it was the days of Mecca the prophet was removing some rocks from the Kaaba in order to build the Kaaba with Quraish with him was his uncle Abbas and the messenger was carrying the rock and Abbas said to him I have an idea for you Abbas said to the prophet why don't you just take your cloth connect it on your neck which would then necessitate the prophet's عورة to be seen he is lower government he said connect it on your neck then the prophet's private part would be seen he said to him لو حللت إزارك if you just tie on your shoulders فجعلته على منكبك دون الحجارة because then it could save you from the stone going on to your body the messenger said okay فحلله على منكبك and he made the prophet tied it to his shoulders فسقط مغشية as soon as he was doing that he fell down on the ground and fainted because Allah doesn't want his slave محمد ابن عبدالله صلى الله عليه وسلم عورة to show so the prophet fainted straight away فما رؤية بعد دالك اليوم the messenger from that day onwards no one ever saw him ولي ذلك he was very shy ولي ذلك he was very shy and he said بونية على النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم بزينا ببن تجحشن بخبزين ولحمين he married this was the banquist of زينا ببن تجحشن and the messenger saw meat and bread was served to the people and the American said the food was given to me and I was told to call the people invite the people to eat and the American said فيجي أقوموا فيأكلون ويخرجون a group of people will come they will eat and they will leave another group of people will come another group of people will come and they will eat and they will leave فدعوتوا حتى ما أجدوا أحدا أدعو أنا سبنو ماليكن he said I called until I couldn't find anyone else to come and eat everyone has eaten فقلتوا يا نبي الله أنا السلاة I went to the prophet ما أجدوا أحدا أدعو I can't find anyone to call the messenger said to him ارفعوا طعامكم raise your food يعني carry your food وبقية ثلاثة رحت يتحدثون في البيت three men they stayed in a prophet house they were chatting and they were talking the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم then left فانطلق إلى حدرة عائشة he went to the house of عائشة فقاله ست عائشة السلام عليكم أهل البيت ورحمة الله he said سلام بيهبون the family here he said how are you she said ورحمة الله وبركاته كيف وجدت أهلك how have you found your wife your new wife she said to him the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he said بارك الله لك because Allah سبحانه وتعالى is blessing be upon you فتقرأ حجرة نسائه then the messenger went to the other wives houses asking them saying to them that which he said to عائشة رضي الله تعالى on how are you and they will all say to him كما قالت عائشة that which عائشة said which is how is your new family the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم came back to the house and the three men were still there talking and chatting the mess this is what I want from the hadith they are in his house just sitting there talking he felt very uncomfortable for them to be that long but look what he did وكان النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم شديد الحياة he was a very shy person عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم فخرج من طالق when he saw them still sitting there he left he went to عائشة's house again عائشة then said فما أدري أخبرته أم أخبرها I don't remember was it me who told him that they left was it someone else that told him that they left يعني أن القومة خرجو فرجع the prophet went back and he went into his house عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم and that's when the ayah of hijab came down رغا الله تباركوا تعالى send the ayah down قولوا تعالى إن الله لا يستحيين من الحق الله is not shy from the truth يعني إذا دخلتم if you enter the house of the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم and you're in his house then don't just sit around and be there for that but ayah came down to say that the prophet was so shy to say it shyness the quality that one should have عائشة رضي الله تعالى عنها she said سألت سألت مراءة a woman asked النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم she asked the prophet كيف تقتصل من حيظاتها how should a woman clean herself from her menstruation فذكرت أنه علمها كيف تقتصل then the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم عائشة said that the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم I taught her how to do it كيف تقتصل ثم تأخذ فرصة من مسك فتطحر بها then the woman should take a cotton where there's a mist on it and she should clean herself with it the woman then said كيف أتطحر بها how do I clean myself with that cotton then the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he said تطحر بها clean it with yourself سبحان الله he said واستطع أن يكون سيل he hid himself عليه السلام سوفياني بنععينا وقالت عائشة to عائشة then she said تدبتها I grabbed the woman إليها towards my direction وعرفتها I realized ما أراد النبي that which my wife my husband the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم was intending to say فقلت to I said to her تتبعي بها أثر الدنيا what the prophet is saying to you is that where the blood went on run that place with that cotton with the blood on it what the prophet is saying to you is that where the blood went on run that place with that cotton with the blood on it متفقون عليه بخاري and muslim both narrated that وفي رواية اللي الحريتي there is another رواية which is إثتحية في عرب عنها the prophet became so shy from the woman's question he turned his face away he couldn't look at her عليه الصلاة والسلام الله أكبر and then we have people today that speak vulgar foul language everything that comes to their mouth they say it and they don't care sometimes they joke about it sometimes they laugh about it that's محمد ابن عبدالله صلى الله عليه وسلم he's teaching the religion but he's so shy when she went that far to explain it more that عائشة had to grab the woman's and grab her towards her and tell her this was not unique to the prophet by the way صلى الله عليه وسلم this is something that the Sahabas also had أناس من أماريكة رضي الله عنه narrated he said قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم that the messenger said أرحمه أمتي بأمتي أبو بكر the most merciful person to my umma is أبو بكر وأشدهم في أمري الله عمر the one that's the most staunch on the commandments of Allah is عمر عمر is very strong in that regard وأصدقهم حياء and the most shyest of them all is عثمان وأقراءهم لكتاب الله أبا يبن كعب and the one who knew the Quran the most is أبا يبن كعب وأفراضوا هم زي دبنه ثابتن and the one that knew the fara'ib inheritance the most is زي دبنه ثابتن وأعلموا بالحلال والحراب and the one that knows the halal and the haram the most then the messenger said ألا وإن لكل أمة الأمين every woman أمة has a trustworthy reliable person وإن أمين هادي الأمة the one that's the أمين of this أمة is none other than أبو عبيده ابن وجر الله رضي الله تعالى so look at عثمان رضي الله عنه عثمان's shyness reached the extent that the angels were shy of him because of the shyness that he had عائشة رضي الله تعالى عنها she mentioned she said كان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم مضج عنه the prophet was lying down في بيتي in my house كشفن عن فخدي the prophet's thighs were showing أو ساقه or his shins فاستأدن أبو بكر أبو بكر knocked on the door and he asked for permission if he can come in the messenger stayed the way he was lying down and his thighs or his shin was showing didn't move صلى الله عليه وسلم وعلي then عمر رضي الله عنه ثم استأدن عمر عمر knocked on the door and the prophet came in the prophet let him in and did not change his position in the way he was still lying down his thighs or his shin was showing صلى الله عليه وسلم وعلي ثم استأدن عثمان عثمان knocked on the door فاجالس رسول الله the messenger sat down وَسَوَّث يابه and the prophet he hid his shins or his thighs he hid it صلى الله عليه وسلم عائشة was looking she was pondering she could see her father come in the prophet didn't change she could see عمر come in the prophet didn't change so عائشة رضي الله عنه she said I asked the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم she said دخل أبو بكر أبو بكر entered onto you لم تحتشى you did not move ولم تبالي you didn't give any consideration to his entrance you didn't change the way your situation was ثم دخل عمر عمر entered you didn't change ولم تبالي you didn't give any change or nothing significant happened to you you stayed the way that you were ثم دخل عثمان وعثمان entered فجلست وسوي تتيابك you sat down you sat up before you let him in you covered yourself and your thighs and your knees and then you said and you sat down and you spoke to him why then the messenger then said should I not be shy of a man that be angels are shy of ألمان مسلم ناري في this حديث عليمنا بالطالي was also the same was a shy companion he said I was a man who suffered from a continual a continual semen used to come from me وكنت أستحياء I was very shy أسأل النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم لمكان تبنته I couldn't ask the prophet the question what do I do in this situation every time this lubricant comes from me what should I do he said I didn't know how to go to the messenger I talked to him and say to this because of his daughter I married to but I still want to know the truth I want to know the truth I want to know the ruling in this issue for I went to مقداد من الأسود I said go to the prophet asked this question for me مقداد went and he asked the prophet the messenger said يا غثيل وذكره هو يتوضى he just has to wash his private pot and do with it متفقون علي بخاري المسلم both narrated that علي بنابير طالب he said وكنت أستحياء I was shy عايش رضي الله تعالى عنها I mentioned some examples for the brothers I'm going to now mention an example for the sisters our mother عايش رضي الله تعالى عنها she said كنت أدخل بيتي الذي دفن فيها رسول الله I used to enter my house my house that the prophet was buried in I used to enter it وأبي and my father was also buried in there I took off all my clothes sisters please please sisters listen to this عايش رضي الله تعالى عنها I would enter my house in which the prophet was buried inside it and my father was buried inside it I would take off my clothes I would take off my Hijab وقولوا I would say to myself إنما هو زوجي وأبي the only people who are in the house with me are my father and the prophet وما أدخل فينا عمر when عمر was buried inside it with my father and the prophets for والله I swear by Allah ما دخلتوا I never entered it إلا وانا مجدودة علي ثيابي that I was fully covered I had my Hijab in my own house حياة من عمر أو الشاي عمر عمر is dead عمر is buried dead عايش رضي الله I'm still shy شاينس quality imagine that from someone who is dead sisters imagine someone who is alive and looking at you in front of you you take off your Hijab they see you you don't wear your Hijab properly you don't cover yourself properly imagine that شاينس عايش رضي الله تعالى عنها قالت she said جاءت فاطمة بنتو عتبة ابن الربيعة فاطمة بنتو عتبة ابنتي بنتو عتبة ابن الربيعة came تبايع النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم she came to give Pledge of Allegiance to the Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم فأخذ عليها the Prophet gave her Pledge of Allegiance based on the ayah اللي يشرقنا بالله شيء ولا يسرقنا ولا يزنينه الآية قالت عايش رضي فوضعت يده على رسيها حيان she placed her hand on her head out of shyness فعجب رسول الله the Messenger was amazed by what he saw ما رأى منها which he saw from her فقالت عايش عايش رضي عايش رضي قرر أياته هل المرأة say a ayah firm with the Prophet just so I said to you فوالله ما بايعنا إلا على هذا عايش رضي there was no other way that the Bia'a was ever done except for the women the women only by the mouth فنعم إذا فبايعها بالآية the Prophet gave her بايع بايع based on that صلى الله عليه وسلم الحياة ومطلوب brothers and sisters shyness is required from every one of us we need to come with it but shyness should not be the thing that stops us from seeking knowledge and attain an Islamic understanding of our religion we need to learn our Deen we need to understand our Deen shyness is not running away from learning the Deen some people think that's what it is عايش رضي الله تعالى عنها she said نعم النساء نساء الأنصاري نعم النساء نساء الأنصاري والله blessed are the women of the Ansar لم يمنع هن الحياة أن يتفقحنا في الديني شايناس لن تساعدهم from learning the religion don't be shy of the truth and learning the religion ولذلك أم سليم she said يا رسول الله إن الله لا يستحيم من الحق أم سليم said a message of Allah الله is not shy from the truth هل على المرأة من غسل does a woman have to do غسل إذا حتلمت if she has a wet dream if a woman has a wet dream should she do a shower from it should she clean herself from it the prophet said نعم إذا رأت الماء if something comes out of her and a liquid then yes 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