 When you leave The narcissist does this you researched about narcissism Until you realized what you were dealing with you identified all of the signs So now You want out You don't want to deal with them anymore But it's not that simple when you're dealing with a narcissist Because they cannot deal with rejection They cannot accept that you don't want to deal with them So they hoover you They stalk and harass you They start smear campaigns against you and their reason for doing this Is always because they think they're the victims But it never Reasonably justifies their behavior They're just very Emotional because you don't want to deal with them Because you've realized what you were dealing with and You don't want to be involved with them anymore But no matter what you do They don't seem to understand Because they've created this relationship in their mind In their minds, you're together Even if what plays out in reality Contradicts their way of thinking They're entertaining these things in their minds Which you are not participating in if you go no contact with the narcissist It really gets to them because they've created this fantasy in their minds of What they think you are and what they think you're going to be for them But it doesn't come into fruition So now They try to cause disruption Even though you're not wanting to deal with them They're coming after you now Because in their minds, you're together They're delusional Because they entertain these obsessive thoughts in their minds Which then leads to stalking Because they can't escape their own fantasies So even when you try to get away They're still coming after you they're still on your social media While they're making false and damaging statements about you Which is the crazy part about all of this Because a normal person Isn't going to keep watching or looking at something they don't like Or something they don't agree with But narcissists will keep returning to things that they say are not good Even though they say it's something they don't like or support Because they have an obsession They can't let you go They can't move on They have to constantly engage with you Because they're gradually deteriorating for not being able to be an influence in your life For not being able to control you Because you don't want anything to do with them and you cannot be friends with a narcissist You cannot just be friendly with them to try to keep things peaceful Because they're entertaining these fantasies in their minds They expect things to play out in the way that they see it So you cannot just be friends with a narcissist Because they see things in black and white in their minds You're either giving it all or you're giving nothing So your only option is to fully detach from the narcissist Because they don't want a piece of the pie they want it all So you cannot be friends with the narcissist They're going to want revenge Because when you rejected them It caused a narcissistic injury. So now they're just lurking in the shadows They're waiting for the right opportunity to strike They're spying on you Because they can't check themselves They can't regulate these obsessive thoughts in their minds Where they always feel like they're missing out on something They're mentally unstable and when you leave them That's when you will really see what they are because they will expose themselves When they see an opportunity to get something They always act on their emotions Which means that they will continue to stalk you because they cannot help themselves If you break up with a normal person They're not going to keep harassing you because they have their own lives They have more important things to deal with Rather than worrying about this Because the narcissist sees this as more than what it is They think that you belong to them They see you as their property and when you leave They feel like you've stolen something from them They get very jealous So now they want to take something from you Even if it's just your happiness and contentment They want to destroy it Because they feel like that takes something away from them And they've made these agreements in their minds that you owe something to them So they expect you to fulfill this agreement That you are not aware of You may have had doubts about the narcissist's true nature While you were with them But when you leave them That's when the disorder will really reveal itself That's when you will see who they really are Thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching inquiries You can email me at coaching.narksurvivor.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon