 Yeah, we can be our own worst critics. I think I'm I think each one of us here are our own worst critics I think that tends to be the case for most people except for people are egocentric, but Putting that aside What else is there to fear? You know, yeah, so you make a mistake and you move on but that's here prevents you from what makes you so fearless I mean you kind of alluded that you're running out of time, but in saying this you seem so strong well, but when I was your age, I didn't have kids and I had a lot more freedom. I could choose to do whatever I wanted this path that path one door shed I just turned to the other one with a smile on my face. I mean it's a time where you could be selfish because kids Lifetime commitment. It is a difference between not having responsibilities I just want to say kids and having a few more responsibilities in making decisions But for me and my husband every decision that we make is surrounded around our family So we have to think about it and sometimes we don't make the best decision So, yeah, what are you doing? We don't make the best decision and it has a consequence on our family But what we have to realize is one we made a decision and how to bounce back Right, and I think that's what happens. We focus on we made the wrong decision and we don't show how to bounce back That's what we're working on in our home right now We made a very difficult decision for our family and it was wrong. It was clear the wrong decision and now we're