 This is why the narcissist leaves you That's what we're gonna be talking about in this video first. Let me just Adjust the AC It's a bit cool in here. Yes, that's what we're gonna be talking about in this video Why the narcissist had to leave you because a lot of you I know you may be wondering why You may be questioning yourself and thinking that there's something wrong with you As though it was something that you did you set them off You made them run away or at least That is what you may think That is what you may believe But the reality is that It actually has very little to do with you It's all about them and what's going on in their mind. It's all about their emotions Because if you look back you will remember that you did everything you could in an attempt to please them In an attempt to make them happy But nothing you did was ever good enough It's like no matter what you did you couldn't fix them They were always throwing these temper tantrums There was always some kind of problem There was always something wrong Always something wrong with you But it's like no matter what you did You couldn't fix it. You couldn't make them happy and they were just constantly on you But that's how you should know that it isn't actually your problem to fix Because usually if there is a problem and You're putting in all of this effort At some point you're going to fix it It's going to be resolved But when it isn't your problem to fix There's nothing you can do about it Only they can fix that and the problem exists in their brains Which is how you will notice that a lot of times they are out of their minds They can't even control themselves And that's actually yet. That's why they had to leave you Because they have no discipline or self-control They can only maintain their facade for a certain amount of time and when they're around you It causes their shame to resurface In the beginning during the love bombing phase everything is alright There's no problems. They're love bombing you They're manipulating and deceiving you And you're falling for it You're falling for the illusion You actually believe that what you're seeing is real As though they're being authentic As though that is actually who they are When the reality is that that is not who they are and in time you do begin to realize that You start to notice these cracks in their character and It's never usually anything big as well. It's typically just little things that set them off It could be any little thing that you've said or done And a lot of times you may not even remember it It could be something that You just completely forgot about or sometimes you may remember it, but you didn't see it as anything significant It wasn't significant to you But yes, narcissists are very paranoid and hyper vigilant They are hypersensitive To criticism to slights to all sorts of things And of course, that's not because you've been badgering them or because you've been on their case. They were like that already They've already been that way because they know that something is wrong with them Yes, they already know that that is why they are so paranoid And that is why the row is coming after you that is the reason why because yes They do know That it is all a facade Everything they're giving to you is a lie and yes, they are aware of that and that is why Once it goes from the love-bombing phase and they move into the devaluation Suddenly everything gets very serious You start to see the real person underneath the mask Now they have a problem with everything you do and it's like all of these things that they initially admired about you Now all of these things become your flaws your weaknesses Now all of these things become a problem and to you it doesn't make any sense And I know that to all of you who are watching this video To the thousands of people who are gonna see this Doesn't make any sense doesn't it creates cognitive dissonance a lot of confusion And you're trying to put the pieces together, but you just don't understand it because a lot of times the pieces are missing It's not even a complete puzzle They're never going to give you the answers or the complete puzzle Because they don't want you to put it together Because if you did that you would soon realize that yes They are not real. It is a false character and it is just an illusion and you are falling for it Because yes, it will create cognitive dissonance When they showed you this false character in the beginning This person who seemed to be empathetic and understanding They seem to vary compassionate in the beginning and then they began to devalue you They started to put you down Even though you didn't even change anything You remained exactly the same I mean you may have done some things in response to what they were saying or doing to you And you may have confronted them on that You may have told them that you didn't approve of it And of course then they felt threatened And then they went and got very emotional and lashed out at you And it just confuses you because sometimes They bring back this false character They're idealizing you they're putting you in a pedestal And then all of a sudden they switch it up in you they start devaluing you again and just by noticing that Just by noticing how they go back and forth between the love bombing and the devaluation You should know That they are full of shit You should know that the entire thing is an illusion of a sad it is all a game because if someone is Really a problem to you and they're getting under your skin It's not gonna be so easy For you to just forget about it I then come back and act like everything is fine For us who went through it we know that it's not Easy for us to do that But narcissists they seem to do it so effortlessly As I've seen in my own experience It's like one minute they could be on your case And there's all of these problems. There's all of these things wrong with you And then in the next moment Or it could be the next day You see a completely different side of them and that is how you know All of the things that they say are wrong with you There's actually nothing wrong at all Which is why When you start to catch on and you start to realize that nothing is actually wrong with you And you find that confidence in yourself That's when you see the real problem And the real problem has nothing to do with you It's the fact that they lack discipline and self-control And they are very emotional They can't control themselves It's like sometimes they want something from you And then when they know they can't get it in the way that they would like it then they turn against you Then they're coming after you they want to destroy you They want to tear your life apart And why? Because they can't be a part of it Because they can't participate They're very sensitive to rejection and abandonment And they have a huge fear of exposure So anything that threatens their false reality You will see a reaction You will see a response Because everything they are doing It's fake And they are extremely insecure Which is how it's so easy for them to go back and forth between the love bombing and the devaluation That's typically what will happen when you're dealing with someone who is insecure They will go back and forth between In one minute trying to manipulate and deceive you And then in the next moment, they're devaluing you and putting you down Yes, it will go back and forth between that Because they're very insecure and they have low self-esteem So at some point, yes, they do have to leave Because otherwise you're going to catch on you're going to figure them out You're going to realize what you are actually dealing with And that is why it's also If they do Remain around you and they manage to control you and prevent you from Continuing to confront them Or trying to expose them if they do manage to do that Then it's all about Managing and controlling Your perception Your perception of yourself other people and the world around you They want to control how you perceive yourself It's all about Making you think That something is wrong with you That you're not who you say you are And that's really going to make you think Because why is the devaluation And not only that but the discard It's all set up in a way to make you question yourself Especially with the triangulation and the smear campaign And even when they come back with the Hoover All of the time it's just designed to make you question yourself And you've got to think that if someone is so secure in their reality And grounded in who they think they are Why would they feel the need to make you question yourself? And your authenticity and your beliefs It doesn't make any logical sense at all In fact, it will be the opposite If you are grounded in yourself your character and reality You would do the exact opposite You would go out and want to empower other people You would want to make them feel more confident in themselves But with Narcissus it's the exact opposite It's all about making you question yourself So that you actually start to believe that their reality is real The very reality that they are very insecure about And also This character that they are actually very ashamed of Because once you start to question them And you threaten the false character Then they're out to get you They're out to bring you down So yes, these are all very important things to remember And unfortunately these people are everywhere in the world today People who don't want to strengthen and empower you And instead they want to break you down and make you question yourself Because that is how they gain power and control over you Because otherwise you could turn it around on them And have them questioning themselves And that is the last thing that they want you to do Because if you were to do that you would quickly realize that they are full of shit And yes, these people are everywhere They're even on my YouTube channel as well You may find them sometimes in the live chat Or in the comment section Trying to manipulate not only me But also the other viewers, the other commenters And there are other YouTube channels as well They're trying to manipulate and control authentic people That's what they're trying to do because your authenticity Is a huge threat to their illusion To their false character And that is what I need you to understand It's very important that you understand this Because there are a lot of genuine authentic people In this world Who have had their lives torn apart Who have had their lives torn apart They've had their lives destroyed By narcissists By these flying monkeys and smear campaigns And a lot of times people may assume It's just one person that they're targeting That must be the fake person But actually as we've seen throughout history It's typically that one person Who is genuine And it's everyone else Who is very fake and insecure And that is why they're trying to manipulate And control that target Because that person shines the light On everyone else around them And they don't want you to do that Because if you did that They wouldn't know where to start So this is why This is the reason Why they do what they do And once you become aware of this You may just desire to spend most of your time alone To spend time working on yourself Strengthening your character Because whenever you're around these types of people All they're going to do is pull you apart And that's the thing What is there to pull apart If what you have isn't real If what you have isn't genuine If you are not The authentic person that They say that you're not If that is the case Then what are they doing What are they trying to pull apart It doesn't make any sense You can't pull something apart If there's nothing there Which of course is why Victims they typically just want to be left Alone in peace They don't even want to be around other people Because they understand That a lot of people in this world Are very fake And even though certain things may be Done to them They feel no desire to get revenge Or to do anything to them Because they already know they haven't got Anything anyway They know that what they have is fake So what's the point Just leave them alone And walk away But they can't do that with you They'll constantly be coming after you And the reason why is because They know that what you have is real They may not fully understand it But it's like Subconsciously they do recognize it And when they see it Something in their heads Just makes them want to seek it out And destroy it There's something inside of them That makes them want to do that When they see something Real When they see something True But of course as we know True for them is their Emotions Whatever they feel inside That becomes a fact So if they feel hurt That means that You must have hurt them That's how they think But for us It's more about Logic And reasoning And that's why we struggle With these types of people When they manipulate us And gas light us And they spin us around in circles That's why you're the one At the end of the day Who always feels drained And lifeless Because as an empath You're taking on their energy And it's breaking you down It's breaking down your reality But you will find That if you spend enough time Away from them You'll feel fine again Because you can generate That sense of self from within Which of course as we know That they can't do They've got to be around you To extract that from you They suck the life And energy out of you Because as I said Yes, deep down they do know And they do recognise Not consciously, not on the surface But they do recognise it at some level That yes You are real and authentic You're a very powerful person And you have A lot of energy That's why they picked you But I know a lot of you may not Feel like that right now After they've put you through the ringer They've done all of these things to you A lot of you may be watching this And you may feel like You don't even know who you are Like you've lost yourself And I know that I've been there As well And that is exactly how they want you to feel Because of course If they can manage To get you to doubt yourself And your reality It makes their reality seem more real It makes them think that what they're doing Is okay So that's why they have to pull you apart And make you doubt yourself That's why they have to do that But yes, this is it That's why they had to leave you Because they can only maintain their facade For a certain amount of time Until you figure them out Or until they get tired Until they get bored And then they have to turn against you They have to tear you down It's either that or they'll just ghost you And if they do that, you're very lucky So yes, that's it That's why they had to leave you As you can see, I'm in a new room today Me and Nala, we made it out of the jungle Eventually And now We are On an island As you can probably see in the distance over there There is the bridge But yes, I'm just Continuing with my travels Despite Of course, there are Things still going on with me I know I don't talk about it much But yes, I'm always going through Some things, but I don't let it bother me At all costs I must Maintain and strengthen Myself My character My values and beliefs My virtues I must strengthen all of these things And it's not only because God tells me to do that But it's also for you For everyone who is watching this Right now Because I know that I need to be An inspiration to you I need to get on your every day And to give you this message I have to empower the victims The empaths Because I know that is My mission in life Which is why I will Continue to do that And as long as I have the ability To do it And as long as there is a Demand for it Then I'm never Going to stop I'm going to keep doing it So yes, I just want you all to know that Nala's just relaxing here On this chair She's ready for her dinner now She was in the car for a long time today But yes, that's the message for tonight Why the narcissist had to leave you It's not what you may have thought It is just because They can't maintain that facade That's what it is And when you realise that It will make it much easier For yourself And for you to move on And I know it may be difficult In the beginning As it was for me many times But in time it will become Easier for you as well Just don't give up If you've got no contact Stay no contact If you're thinking of going no contact I recommend Speaking to a licensed therapist Or coach first So that they can analyse Your situation And to see if it is Safe for you to do that Because as you may know A lot of these types of people They have great difficulty In times It's like they're trauma bonded as well And they're dependent on you For A sense of their own validation For their false character So I guess a lot of times You do need to be very careful When you are breaking off from them Because yes, they may come after you They may stalk you And start smear campaigns They may try to get you fired From your job They may target you financially So yes, I just want everyone To be safe out there Even if you are Deciding to leave the narcissist You do need to be very careful And I do recommend That you speak to someone first Before you leave Even if it's not a coach Or a therapist At least someone that you trust Someone that you can convert Someone that you can confide in Just to make sure that you're safe And you protect yourselves out there But yes, that's it That's the message for tonight Me and Nala are going to have our dinner now I'd just like to thank you all for watching As always I do appreciate your support And if you found this video helpful You can give it a thumbs up Down below And as always let me know your thoughts In the comments section as well I do read your comments every day Share the video, subscribe And I'll speak to you in another one Very soon You all have a great day