 Hey survivors, in this video I am going to be talking about why the Narciss discarded you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. If you would like to donate, my PayPal links in the video description. If you are interested in one-on-one coaching, you can email me at Narcisfavorcoachingatyuma.com. Why did the Narciss discard you? Who did what the Narciss wanted you to do? You were helping or supporting them, and yet they still chose to sabotage everything that you were trying to sustain with them. You have to understand that Narciss do not operate in a logical way. When they first met you, they were able to suppress their aggression, they were able to refrain from expressing those emotions. When they first met you, you were in the idealization phase with them. In their minds, you were perfect. In this phase of the relationship, they will avoid doing anything that might create a risk or danger of loss, harm or failure. They have to protect and care for it like a prized possession. At some point, the Narciss will begin to notice faults or mistakes, flaws or imperfections. This is a projection of their own insecurities which they are projecting onto you. They cannot acknowledge it within themselves because they have to see themselves as being perfect. This is to deny how they really feel about themselves. By projecting these insecurities onto you, it takes the focus of them. It's a distraction. It makes them feel superior to you. It is also a coping mechanism for the pathological envy and jealousy they feel towards you. They have to treat you as though you are worthless or beneath their consideration. They have to find as many faults, mistakes, flaws and imperfections as they can to support the belief that they are superior to you. They are studying all of this and how you react to their put-downs or back-handed compliments so they can plot your destruction. At some point, they will want to destroy you. They will want to destroy the thing that they are envious of. They once saw you as this amazing, perfect person. That's why they targeted you. They targeted you because you were a person of high value. You had something which they wanted and they hoped that by being around you they would rub off on them. But all of these qualities, talents and traits which you possessed began to interact with the narcissist as they realised that they could never be theirs. They could never partake or get the same fulfilment from your qualities, talents and traits because it interacted with who they were. It made them feel threatened. It made them feel inferior. It made them feel like less of a person and every time that they have to witness your greatness, it's killing them inside. They already have low self-worth and low self-esteem. Just the thought of you is enough to trigger them and make them feel like they are less of a person or as though they are not good enough. This is what makes them no longer care about preventing any risk or danger of loss, harm or failure to you or the relationship. It makes them want to destroy you. It makes them want to destroy or take away whatever it is you like or anything good in your life. That's why they will then sabotage the relationship in an attempt to hurt you, in an attempt to destroy the thing that they are envious of. The person who they believe is triggering them to reflect on their insecurities or feeling of not being good enough and they know that they are not meant to be loved. They know that they are not meant to be trusted. All of the things that they have done to you, even at the beginning of the relationship, they manipulated you into being with them. They created a false character to mirror you or appeal to your own ideals. They future fate and made false promises. They knew that they were not worthy or deserving of having a relationship with you. They knew that it was only a matter of time until you figured them out. They also begin to hate and resent you for being the very thing that they were pretending to be, all of the qualities you possessed which they tried to imitate. They knew that what they were doing was never real. They knew it was only an act, an imitation and every time that you were around them and they had to witness your qualities, it triggered them to reflect on how what they are doing is not real or genuine every time that you are around them, it reminds them so in their minds it's like if I can't have these qualities I'm going to destroy you. So none of us will have them, at some point the narcissist has to hate you, there is no way around that, it is in the nature of their programming, if they didn't hate you it would turn against them, it would cause them to reflect on themselves and their own deficiencies or insecurities. This mechanism is designed to block or deny any reflection on the self and instead project these deficiencies or insecurities outwards, usually on whoever they perceive to be superior to them, it is a coping mechanism and a defence mechanism and an adaptation to what they perceive to be a threat to their self-esteem or self-importance. If they didn't hate you, everything that they are trying to project onto you would instead be reflected inwards, that's just too painful for a narcissist to deal with so instead they will create reasons to hate you or to turn you from a good person into something bad then it gives them the ability to punish you for displaying to them everything that they are not, everything that they wish they were, it gives them the ability to express their frustration and resentment towards you, their feelings of self-hatred which will then be taken out on you, they have to do this, they cannot sustain themselves in a healthy functional environment or relationship, they have to turn a good person into a bad person or they have to at least change their perception of them into something negative, there is no way to prevent this from happening, it is the nature of their disorder, it keeps their programming running efficiently, if they went against their programming it would turn against them, it would cause them to turn on themselves and self-destruct, it's either you or them and the nature of their disorder is to help them cope, it's designed to protect or defend them so they have to turn against you, there is no other way and they have to see it in a way that they are protecting themselves from someone who is not good enough for them, thank you for watching, I hope this video resonated with you, please like, comment, share and subscribe, click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos, if you would like to donate, my paypal link is in the video description, coaching enquiries you can email me at nazifavicoaching at gmail.com, thank you for watching and I will talk to you soon.