 Number one mistake that a guy can make in his 20s to avoid would be chasing any woman. It seems to be the theme in the community more and more in the past three years is who is the guy that writes the blog, who used to be herbal, he's got that little book out, how to make women, how to get the girl to chase you. And I think that's actually the way you want to flip the script. Chasing any woman is bad and it starts from the very first time that you see a woman. Because how does the traditional typical American culture thing go? Boy sees hot girl and all boy sees is hot girl. You know, I want her, I get her. A lot of pickup in the past and the early stages of the community was all geared toward you trying to impress her, get her attention, try to create some attraction, try to get her interest up and try to escalate from there. But I think the problem with chasing a woman, number one is you set the stage that you come across as needy. I need something from you. So this may be a girl that you meet at work. It could be somebody in your social circle. It could be the girl that you see at the bar or the club. And all of a sudden you see hot girl and you feel a twinge in your groin or you're like, wow, she's hotter than the girl I'm seeing right now. Or you're like, that would be a great notch in my belt. Or let me just have them out for fun tonight. Let's see how far I can push it with her. But that whole thing of you being the one chasing, it just reeks of neediness. And even after the pickup thing where you see this girl, maybe you go in here and hang out with her and you start to hang out with her a little bit more. And you find yourself that you're the one kind of initiating the communication. It's just, unless you're a little bit aloof, it kind of reeks of cleanliness. It's like, I need something from her. So the way to combat that, to avoid that mistake is my rule is that any non-face-to-face communication with a woman should be very limited. And if you're not in front of her, cuz what's the old saying is that, I can't believe this is gonna be the internet, the whole world's gonna see it. But you can't have sex with a woman over the phone, right? It's gotta be face-to-face. So any kind of non-face communication text, phone calls, emails, you gotta keep it to a minimum. That way the woman knows you're not chasing her. I had this conversation very recently and the woman said to me, she's like, I'm the one who is always initiating the communication. And we're sitting down, we're having a glass of wine, some cheese. She came out of my house and she's like, I wanna ask you a question. I've got this other guy that I've met. I know him seven years ago and he didn't wanna date me then but now he's interested and I just met you a couple of weeks ago and but I'm the one making all the initiation. I've made the phone calls, I've texted you. I'm like, yeah, I called you back. She's like, yeah, but I'm the one doing that. I said, listen, my rule is I'm not gonna chase any woman. I said, because I'm not the clingy type. I said, how about that other guy? She's like, yeah, it's kinda creeping me out cuz he's calling me all the time. So even though women complain about you being aloof and they claim that, hey, you're distant, you need your space. The other conversation with another one I had recently was this. And just crazy as shit.