 All right, good morning everyone and let's begin this time with a word of prayer Then we get into a session. Let's pray Father, we thank you so much for this wonderful morning and thank you for your presence That is always with us Lord encouraging us, exhorting us, strengthening us ago And Lord even as we spend this time in your presence in your word, teach us Lord minister to our hearts and Enable us to use everything that we Learn together Lord to use it in our lives And to impact your kingdom Lord in Jesus name we pray All right, so last class we talked about So you love us we didn't have a session but the class before that we talked about chapter 18 developing as a leader We must be able to Develop the ability to minister the word of God And to minister in the spirit, right? So we looked at you know the ability to teach God's word It's not a it's a bottom very important to Know the word of God, but it's also very important to be able to teach it to Minister it to different people in different audiences You know so as a leader of you are ministering in a city We must know how to minister to them urban crowd And then if you go into a village or a town setting, we must know how to minister to their in in in terms of their culture and their understanding right and and also We talked about baptism in the Holy Spirit ministering healing ministering deliverance, right and counseling now When it comes to ministering healing ministering deliverance to people very important is we must be convinced I Cannot give what I do not have Right I Cannot get people to believe something when I myself don't believe it So as leaders you must be completely convinced that the cross of Jesus Christ has paid the price Lawsons 215 he destroyed he disarmed Every principality every authority every power of darkness and he made a public spectacle of the enemy Triumphing over them on the cross. So, you know that you're you're you're what you're praying or ministering for healing deliverance You know that it is already done And you're ministering to people out of the finished work with the cross. So it's very important to See whether we see the healing whether we see the deliverance That is secondly Because we expected we know that God says Jesus himself says when you ask you believe that you already received But as believers, it's very important to To be very, you know strong in this these areas Because eventually people will come and say hey, you know pastor Come up to you and say I prayed for so many years. I haven't received my healing yet It's very important. How you minister to them and because what you say is important it it can Really speak into that person's life because as a leader, they'll take it So whether it's words of life whether it's words of death We got to make sure that you know, we always focus on words of life and not not the other Developing the ability to counsel people, right? So let's get into chapter we get we also did chapter 19 you talked about developing functioning functional skills the skills that we need to Grow in to be good leaders and then we get them to this class. We get into chapter 20 developing people and relational Relationship skills. Okay, let me just present the notes Okay, we've talked about this as a as a leader We must understand that ministry is about people Right. It is all about people. Why do we say that? Imagine you you have you set up a conference Okay, you desire to do a conference or you if not a conference you want us have a church Who is the church? People So without the people there is no ministry and without ministry, I mean you cannot Have any ministry. It's nothing if there's no people at all. I told Ministries about people. It's got very little to do about No, the way the church looks When I say church physical building the way it looks the way we the Instruments and the things that we have very little to do about it. We need them But ministries about people So as a leader Devil love people skills I've said this before right you may not be a person, you know, you may be an introvert Person is very quiet. I prefer this being in the room Alone, that's my comfort zone. That's wonderful Right, but if you want to be a minister of God if God is calling you into leadership It's all about people you think it's easy for Moses number Moses. He was You know, he's stuttering he can't speak properly He's 80 years old now He knew in his heart God called him to be a to be the deliverer. He knew it knew it all the way But do you think it was easy for him to go and stand front of Pharaoh a 40 years He was looking after sheep in the mountains. Probably nobody to talk to Just making sure that you know sheep are fed well and taking care of sheep. So it's quite live There was no it was not it was not like okay. He had some friends with them at all times No, just been alone But there was a shift in his life when God just told him now This is what I called you for Moses. So now go and tell Pharaoh He had to deal with the Pharaoh Egyptians he had to deal with the Israelites He had to it was all about people Look at the book of Acts the Apostle Paul Oh Maybe You know 14 years of silence Nobody knows what he did all of a sudden. Maybe he did ministry in passes. We don't have an account of that But he realized that if it's ministry, it's about people. So I have to go I have to meet people of the minister to people and touch people's lives and And so as leaders develop that people's because if I don't have it I develop it Right, let's look at a few more points. Yeah, developing a liking for people And I guess we're developing it's interesting and sometimes we don't like people around We don't like too many people around We need as leaders you must understand that people are different walks of life. They are different levels in their spiritual life They're going through different seasons Everyone have their set of problems and difficulties and mountains that they have to climb so They would like it for people. There's no other option. We have to as leaders getting rid of the fear of meeting people As I said Moses may you probably have the fear. He said what am I that I can put a pharaoh and talk to them I can't do this It's better no fear But they have to get rid of that fear Sometimes it's it's our own personal Understanding, okay, maybe I'm not good enough. Maybe I'm too young Maybe I'm too I ease maybe I'm not Knowledgeable enough. Maybe I don't have the appropriate skills Or maybe I won't know what to speak What if I don't understand that one of these people are you know much higher intellectually than me so many things That's what it is one of the biggest, you know fear that I personally had was you know when I was 23-24 Now we would go on ministry and Or we would preach and teach and and and they would come and say Can you pray for me? I always felt it my heart. I'm doing You got so there were times and we would go for these pastors meetings and These pastors are probably 30 years in ministry. I'm just 22 23, and I don't know I know that they know more than me. I Know that they are much of skilled and they have a greater work with God damn me And that's that thing was always there. Yeah, how can I minister to them? You know, they're there's so much Bigger and so much more experienced But I have to come to a place and I took a couple of years. I have to come to this place Remember Jeremiah don't say that you're too young When I put the words in your mouth, you go and speak it. So I had to you know position myself and say, okay, God This is it's an honor To be doing what I'm doing and so help me to do it remove every fear And so it whatever it may be though for some of us if we don't have a fear of meeting people that's wonderful But if we do this just position yourself. Okay, God, this is what I'm going to do Take God's word use the covenant promises of God the point of life and get rid of that fear right Then proactively Meet with newcomers There be newcomers you got to go and meet with them, right? Whether it is cell group whether it is church whether it's your ministry meet with newcomers, right? What happens is you you develop this ability to build relationships Right. So for example, if there's somebody now at church, they are new to church I'm sure right if you're church is about 100 people They may feel lost They knew And they may feel lost and so it's very important to Yes, we have first-time visitor's teams and all of that But even as a leader try to make the step of going and meeting with them Personally proactively meet with the newcomers If you want friends make them Proverbs 1824 of a man that has friends must show himself friendly show yourself friendly And then you make friends right be sensitive to people their background culture and they're upbringing Proverbs 1621 says the wise in heart shall be called prudent the sweetness of lips increases So be sensitive to people Even as a leader Your ministering to people be sensitive to them You may have people coming from towns from villages People from other faiths who are coming now They just become a believer and imagine as a leader. You're just grinding on their faith. I'm saying this is wrong This is wrong. This is wrong something that we at APC always focus is Not to talk about other building friends We're not going to gain anything. We're not gonna need anything by doing that That's why Jesus said they shall know the truth and the truth will set them free So our focus as leaders must be the truth So that the truth will wipe away the false We don't have to do anything. All we have to do is speak the truth we don't have a talk about but another you know another religion or people's culture We don't have to stand and tell them why you're doing this and it's wrong Or their background is wrong and all of these things. That's not the coyote as he does our responsibility God has given us is to be sensitive to people and To speak the truth Speak the truth in love And all the other things will go away. You don't have to do anything They themselves the Holy Spirit World Minister, they will understand and they will get things out of their life You don't have to force them but be sensitive Be kind courteous and wise but without compromising Look at this. This is important be kind Be courteous be wise but Be all of that without compromising. It's very easy to be kind and courteous and become compromising All right, so so you you say what you have to say this is what the word of God is All right, somebody may come and say hey, there's nothing wrong in the LGBTQ community All right. Now, what is our response? Initially we miss we've been feel like it's giving them a piece of our mind Yeah, this is what that says the Lord and we got a couple of verses down there speak it to do being and Not really necessary what we have to do is be kind because yes be wise but Let me go for my so you all you can say it's okay. I know that you Feel that way. You're feeling that way. Why do you feel that way? Do you think it's a natural thing? And you feel that when God, you know, when God created he created man and woman Just be wise in the way that you speak and no matter how offensive offensive So it is a very important the gospel is offensive. We cannot help it. We learned about that in lifestyle events The moment you speak the gospel it is offensive It's not something that people will accept at first time And meaning, you know, especially when you're You know, you're speaking to people. Yes, God's word is powerful It can just speak into a person's heart change their lives completely. Yes, but also remember it's offensive But it's the power of God to salvation So you got two options one is they say hey, this is not making sense Or they're gonna take that word and that word of God will be so powerful little touch and change their lives completely So our responsibility Is to stand by the word without compromise right overcome personality weaknesses, oh You know, we all have them. We all have personality weaknesses and this is the best part of a leader, right? We We understand that we're all a Work in progress. None of us as leaders have reached that place of you know Perfectness and we will not Because Because we are a work in progress. We will only reach the place of perfection when this flesh takes on in corrupt ability You know, we Flesh is gone and the in the Corruptible becomes incorruptible. That's when we are perfect. So until then It's gonna be weaknesses That's gonna be challenges That we have to overcome Here's the thing. God has given us the promises All we need to do is to apply it in other yes When Jesus said and Peter rising says by his stripes, we were healed. That means God has already done that given it to you You're gonna take it apply So so when it comes to personality weaknesses Don't hide them under the mat And I always use this like you can't sweep the whole room put it under the mat. The room is still dirty It's just hiding it for a while eventually it's gonna come out So write down certain areas in your life. Okay, so these are areas. I feel that I'm at a week These are my weaknesses And Lord, I need your help in overcoming these weaknesses You get into the word and you get into prayer and spending time in God's presence right John C. Maxwell writes in his book million leaders mandate leaders most important asset is people skills Let me tell you something if if you're able to connect to the person It is it is a number one asset that you can have Imagine you have somebody as a leader they come up and talk to you. You don't know what to say But of course we believe in the Holy Spirit. We believe we understand that Jesus is Working in our lives of all these things working in our life, but we must have people scripts. Look at the scriptures Look at all through the scriptures From the old testament all up to the up to now right up to the new best You see people you see leaders Buttoness as people skills Firstly, we know that everything is done in the spirit meaning they go they pray they spend time all of that is there They also have people skills Do you think Daniel became the governor just because he had he was You know good-looking or wise or Of course, he had people skills. We think Joseph became second in command in In Egypt because of no people skills Of course, he spoke to people, you know Moses history says that Historical records prove that Moses was one of the greatest Egyptian You know third in command in Egypt. He made he got the greatest spoils from different from the countries that they invaded It was there And so that's an asset that we have People's kids to use Some of us may say hey, but I my English is not good I don't know how to speak how to develop how to or what to say We've got to overcome How do I overcome? listen to Servants listen to people watch videos and now we've got so much available online. You've got AI You know you've got these English people English skills and speaking skills. You've got Seminars and so much that we can learn online just at home. We can learn And so think of it as an asset people skills a Good leader can lead can lead various groups, but leadership is about people Right a good leader can lead various groups, but leadership is about people Right. So so we talked about that, right? Why is this person able to lead various groups because it's because he knows that All of them are people that I have to minister to You can have people skills and not be a good leader But you cannot be a good leader without people skills together and you can have people skills Now There are people who can talk and make friends and make you feel like you know them for years Just in the first 10 minutes of a conversation What doesn't mean they are good leaders In terms of leadership, they may lack many other things But a good leader Will always look to have good people skills and develop on those people skills It's always You don't have a leader who's isolated If if so he or she is not going to be an effective leader because ministries about There is a time there is a place where we Suclude ourselves. That's what Jesus He when he saw the 5,000 people he didn't run away. Oh, I'm the son of God How do I manage all these people? He was filled with compassion But they followed him. They went all round the sea of gathering They went all the way around to come and meet him thousands of people Jesus went in the boat. They are walking the other way. Why because they know Jesus to be there But there were times he just went away alone. There were times he took his Peter James and John It's about people So leadership is about relationships best example It's what the Lord Jesus did He could have done everything on his own He chose people He built relationships with them for three and a half years Then he released up to leadership Right what every leader should know about people Let's look at that people are insecure Give them confidence now. We're saying this Now you may not be any of this. This is just to help us understand that you may say hey, I'm not insecure That's alright. So that's wonderful. But there are people around right now people are insecure give them confidence So people may not know You know, they just knew to the fate they don't understand They may come to a life group or a cell group and say hey, I don't really know much I and then there's this whole group of people who are talking about a torment and righteousness and justification and this person is wondering what are these words? As a leader give people confidence That's number one give them confidence. Let them know that hey You can be you can grow into a leadership It's it doesn't take much Just takes a little bit of faith and it takes a little bit of hard work You combine them together faith with words that you'll see God works with him given confidence, right? People like to feel special so honor them right Very important right as a leader on our people somebody has done well right honor them Give them a word of encouragement you know recently we went for youth missions To Hyderabad and the city in India and all our young people were there some of them were the early 20s I 22 25 and the way this, you know, everyone were given like most of them were given an opportunity to preach on stage and I was still amazed by these young people They were so confident so well prepared and the way they ministered the world was just Just wonderful at such a young age So much of confidence and well prepared very well prepared. There was no You know, there's no Continuous flow of what they were speaking very well prepared and I remember talking to the other person I just encouraged them. I said, this is so good to see and many of them are part of our church I mean they're part of the church that we had a PC is that I said You know, I didn't know this but to see them just it was so it's such a Such a wonderful thing to see and this picture this they're only in there 22 23 picture them 10 years down Just being so confident So all of these Honor people honor them. So I was giving this example of youth, but they could be people who are middle-aged people are human in there, you know Advanced, you know, there may be 60 and above senior citizens honor that they like to feed special if you got a, you know An angrily senior citizen couple always coming to life on a thing for that because they had a hundred other choices and They can just stay at home and rest Just it well, you know the age, but they come so make them feel special I honor them for what they do People look for a better tomorrow. So give them hope and other hope of Hope in in the Bible is a different hope in the world And the world has a hope of wishful thinking. I hope I get this and this and this But hope in the Bible is different like hope that does not disappoint I Forget the worst but we talked about it a little bit last Sunday talked about perseverance those character character and hope and hope That's not disappoint But when you talk about hope in the Bible, it is a different hope It's not a hope that is that ends We have a hope and so you give them hope give them Faith I love this was Hebrews 11 Now faith is a substance of things hope for right But there's substance. There's hope and evidence two things that single was It is a substance something that we we have a hope is something that we look into the future and Evidence is a result of what we'd have looking into the future People look for a better give them hope. I don't be Always discouraging and I remember sometimes I met a few of them that they would ask me why is God so upset all through the Old Testament he's saying you do this you know, he's saying I will take you into captivity But what is the team of the Old Testament and all of these? You know Prophets who came what was the team? Oh What is giving them a look at Isaiah you look at Jeremiah you look at The Jeremiah is there. He's he's saying Israel is in It's like an ant and there's an elephant raw just waiting to cross that out and in that God is saying hey, he's realized who are my people I Have I have plans to Plans to prosper plans to be a good man's to be a good future all you need to do is trust me obey me And I will take you through this But You will be the punishment will happen. That's what the pictures in the Old Testament Like the punishment will happen Because of what you have done The Babylonians will come it destroyed the Jerusalem, but I'm still with you But I will be there with you So the Old Testament people come and ask you why is it like this? It's only a book of hope It looks like it's not but it is right, so people need to be understood listen to him as a leader Listen to people Listen to what they have to say Don't jump to conclusions That is the last thing we must do But then to conclude oh because you did this how you are going through this problem That doesn't mean that we are perfect Yes, the person knows you the reason he's coming and he or she is coming to talk to you is because They're probably going through a problem and they want to They won't be understood. They want to be they won't just let out everything so listen to them Without just being judgmental people like direction having it for them But as a leader people may come up to you and say hey It could be young people it could be youth it could be young couples People right especially you they'll say I don't know what to do I want to go up a lot and this keeps happening You know as a pastor they come and ask us. What do you think about you know going to another country? Or what do you think about? You know this person has for marriage and so Young people and even there are a couple of middle-aged Family families as they think I don't know which school should I put my son in? Or should I buy a house? Is it the right time? Should I wait? So people have these questions Now even here we need to be very careful you give them direction Don't give make their decision Right you give them direction. Okay. This is something that you can try to buy because this is what Bob's word says Navigate for that People are needy so speak to their needs first Meaning we will come up to you and say okay. This was a problem that I'm going through Don't say why didn't you come to church last Sunday? And they're coming to you because they They have a need they have they're going through something speak to the need first Don't go round about talk about everything else and then come to the Respect the need that they have People get emotionally low encourage them as leaders You know you may be in a place where you are emotionally low and Then you have people Who are look up to you as a leader and they are emotionally low? Well, here's the thing We must first learn to encourage ourselves with the Lord and Then we give it to people and what we talked about David they would went he Samuel did the chapter, but he went he With his armies, he went he destroyed He went he attacked the neighboring cities and he came back and there was the enemies that come and taken The wives and children and everyone they've taken and they've gone Bible says that the though his His people were ready to kill David. They were ready to stone him to death David himself Lord, his wife was gone The army their wife and the children and their families and livestock everything was gone They've come back to a bright empty place But what did David do? David encouraged himself in the Lord That's what he did Was it a difficult situation? Yes, they were they were gonna kill him They're gonna stone him to death, but he's encouraged himself in the Lord and said, okay, don't worry That's what we'll do. He went prayed and got home you go you overtake them And you will get back everything that has been taken from you and it happened I imagine David put on sackcloth and ashes at that time The others also have done the same thing Remember when they came and said Saul is dead David put sackcloth on ashes and everyone else did the same thing So there's a time Where we need you know, even when we are low we encourage ourselves and We were able to you know encourage others as well who are mostly Lord It takes a lot of effort it takes You know, we need to come to this table saying okay, but I'm gonna look at What's happening to me right now? But I'm gonna trust in your holy spirit. I'm gonna trust in what your word says, right? People want to succeed to have them win people desire relationships to provide the community Get people connected to each other People seek models to follow. So very important be an example Be an example right people Look at you, you know, one of the things in leadership is You know, it's nice to be in this place of leadership, but remember people look up to you and They want to model what you do It is it is natural now if you are Doing things in the right way, you'll be able to be the right example But if you're if we are doing things in the wrong way, you wouldn't want to model that So when we have all we be good examples to work with All right, any questions any thoughts on this developing people and relationship skills Okay. All right. So then let's get into chapter 21 developing counseling skills Okay, now how many of us I'm sure The gene head will be talking to and I don't know if it's this this this semester counseling It was the previous other circuit. So we had you know, you had counseling and I'm sure you learned a lot about counseling it comes all about and Now this is an area that Again, just like anything else we we keep drawing and it's not It's not like we've achieved it just because we get a certificate saying that we finished the course doesn't mean we know everything We develop our counseling skills and why is this important because again, as I always mentioned as a leader People will come up to you and ask you what I must do It's natural. You can't tell the person don't don't ask me We have to they will come they'll ask right. So let's look at a few Practical insights on developing counseling skills number one, oh Develop the art of listening listen don't jump into conclusions and I think Number one rule in counseling is to listen. They are coming to you for counseling So they must speak more than us Sometimes that doesn't happen because we've got a set of Bible verses ready and For each problem there are different Bible verses We're ready to give those Bible verses up or sometimes we've you know, we've You know people have gone through a certain situation and we give examples. What happened to them? No, I must not do that We must develop the art of listening so when people come learn to listen to them Let them share their heart But especially, you know, if they're going through a very difficult situation They're clear this you know, it's As leaders, it's very easy for us to talk We have tuned that way, right? Yeah people skills, right? So we are tuned to talk and That's our forte But this skill is also equally important You have to listen right now. I'm there's a difference between hearing and listening Hearing is you can hear a lot of things it's going into your here and then it's going somewhere else that's hearing Listening is to hear intently and to You know to process it in our in our mind and in our spirit. That's what listening is So when a person is sharing his You know challenges or problems that he's going through Develop the other will stick so you say, okay, this is what he's going through. I've spent two years He's going through this. He's grieving about something that's happened in his life So God, what should I say? How can I understand from the right to him? And that way you're able to give the right Counselor ask the right questions Very important us write questions So for example husband wife will come up to you and say, you know what this He forgot my birthday And the wife is very upset How can he forget my birthday out of all the days Now they're upset. They don't been talking to each other for five days. That's just an example And so they come for counseling. They come to you as a leader. You're the cell group leader I'm not talking to him. Why because he didn't he forgot my birthday Now this is just a scenario So as a leader, what is the first thing in the store? Don't say how can you forget your wife's birthday? It's going to get worse Right, so you got to ask the right questions. What happened? Is it is it something that happens every year number one question? No, it doesn't happen every year, but this year it happened. Okay, so then there's a reason it happens And so you asked him so can we ask him? What is the reason? Maybe he was crowded with work. Maybe he didn't know what day it was. He was just so It was just a regular day, but she forgot And so asking the right question, okay, this is just a hypothetical situation, right? And then you build confidence and hope in the test That is the ultimate book right when they come The confidence the word of God is to build confidence to build hope to encourage Prophecy is to exalt to build them on Okay Give room and time for the person to open up and so In that 45 minute session You may speak for two minutes That's okay it may be You know the first or the second session in the first two sessions Say for example, you schedule the session 45 minutes They may speak all you have said is I come and be seated That's it after that they have continuously 43 minutes. They've spoken. That's okay That's the point. You need to let out everything and then they'll come at time When you will speak Into their lives Right because everything that's inside has been Taken out now that emptiness can be filled with the word of God The godly council that you're going to give that I'd very very important point is to speak the word of God Okay. Now one thing that we do at APC is always minister Minister through the word of God Visions dreams prophecy word of knowledge all of that is good That's good. We believe in that we we like to flow and all of that but Speak the word of God Because the word of God You know, sometimes you'll say hey, this is what I sense and So you go and do this Now it could be backed up with God's word Right as I have 54 and 5 the Lord God had given me the tongue of the learned that I should know how to speak a word in season For him that is very He waken it morning by morning. He waiting at mine here to hear as alerted The Lord God had opened mine here and I was not rebellious neither turned away back So in situations like this, but they may say what must I do? What must I do you speak the word of God? So for example if A mother comes up to you or parents come to you and say this is what my son is doing is Disobedient is doing whatever he wants to do and And what should I do? You give your suggestion you give your counsel I try to back that up with a word of God That's holds more weightage it's like a You write a letter You say, you know, you're writing a letter to somebody At the moment there's a seal and a stamp on it and a signature It has no weightage That's what the word of God is and you give counsel You back it up with God's word. It has weightage Because people may forget the word of counsel that you've given that but they may not they will not forget the word of God I So try as much as possible To put give you know when you give counsel back it up with a word of God speak God's word into their lives and depend on the spirit and Again, I even I see a counseling depend on the Holy Spirit the spirit of the Lord Isaiah 11 to 4 shall the spirit of the Lord shall rest upon him the spirit of wisdom understanding counsel and might The spirit of knowledge and the fear of the Lord look at that spirit of wisdom The Jesus have it as he did spirit of understanding as he did spirit of counsel. Yes Might knowledge the fear of God So depend on the Holy Spirit Lord, what should I do in this situation? What The Holy Spirit one thing that we can praise Holy Spirit. Give me the right words and the right counsel to share with this person Give me the right counsel the spirit of the Lord has all of it Says here spirit of the Lord shall rest upon the spirit of wisdom But God will give you the wisdom. God will give you the understanding But they're saying this You'll be able to understand it in your spirit, and then you'll be able to give the right counsel They'll be able to With a spirit of knowledge and knowledge that we have Translates this Holy Spirit translates that knowledge and gives me the right word of counsel But when you give it to people, they will know that is from God And maybe just a human vessel what they will know it is from God God is Given me to say can take it and hold on to that right So depend on the word of God Back up your word with the backup your counsel with the word of God Depend on the Holy Spirit to minister to you and be practical also And when you're giving counsel be practical, right? Don't ask people, okay, you go off to another city It's be better there. We got to be practical direct the individual to get professional help If the situation goes beyond what you're able to handle Many a times people have come up to me and said this is what I'm going through There's this young boy who is you know Going through these tendencies of hurting himself Ministering to him, but I knew that this could get very serious. I remember just you know Directing them to professional counseling and they needed so good professional counselor When necessary minister correction, but do it in love Right now. It's not like the spirit of the Lord will only give encouraging words. There'll be times Correction is part of God's Way of dealing with us So he will deal with us. He will bring correction. So even we can bring correction, but we do it in love Then God your time especially as leaders You know Counseling can just take hours and hours and hours, right? So God your time remember that you've got other tasks to do you've got a family to look after So be very careful on the time that you're spending husband wife situations again if you're ministering to husband and wife together Never minister to a woman alone if it's husband and wife Do it together if you have to speak to a woman alone and if you're a male Have to speak to a woman alone try to get you up try you must get your wife involved Now if you're not married and you know a wife comes to you a woman who's married comes up to you Direct them to a person to another woman who is married Right You gotta be wise you gotta have you remember the spirit of wisdom and understanding is once No, but this person it came to me. So I must minister. No not necessary I came to you you can always direct them to the right person Because you must you must protect yourself and then there are teens and young adult situations right Again, you got to be careful as as leaders to draw the line to know Where to draw the line get people involved? Especially if it's teens and young adults You know don't cross boundaries Get your if you're married get your wife to Get his spouse to come along and be there during this time protect yourself Here's what Mike Murdoch says you never you are never responsible for the pain of those who have ignored your So our responsibility is to give the council They take it that's good But if this if they don't and then there's pain, you're not responsible. You can just let go and say go you've done your part Okay, so we'll stop here. We'll pick up from next class. Thank you so much. Have a great weekend See you next week. My blessings