 I'm really glad that you decided to stay with us, like Cira, ECU. There have been anywhere else, but you decided to stay with us on one morning. We went from 7 till 10 in the morning. It is Monday. The only blue thing about this Monday is perhaps the sky. Hopefully, if the sun comes out, my sky will be the other paraphernalia of the set. But yeah, my name is Valentine or at Kalaniva. And today we are talking about sticking to one woman. Is it possible for a Kenyan man to stick to one woman now? Auntie Hilda previously told us that it's possible, but apparently if you force issues, you will be cheated on. I would like to tell you, baby, come and discover to say, there's nothing you could have done to change that person's mind. Nothing you could have done better. Nothing, it's not your fault. Even you came. If you come, it's not your fault. It happened, but here we are. So, let's get to the point. Sticking to one woman. Is it possible? WhiteFive on Facebook at WhiteFive channel on Twitter. Hashtag is white in the morning. Let's get to communicating. Who does that mean to? But meanwhile, oh my gosh, these problems are how? Before we start off with introducing the panel and the topic, we do have a spoken word artist and he is very on standby to do this. Aya, turn it. Okay. Do you want to go to the soprano? Do you want to go to the bass? Do you want to go to the soprano? So, we can be your story. Manzi was a Jerry Butena. Who could have done that? Daro, who was the one who was the bullet. Who could have done that? Who was the bullet? Who was the one who was the hyro? So, a killer, sick, you see, you're down to the rhythm of guns. My name is Dwacha, I'm Paul and I'm a pandaman. Who could have done that? I'm a demo cat. I'm going to go to Japan. Who could have done that? Who could have done that? I'm a demo cat. I'm a player. Who could have done that? I'm normal. I'm going to go to the police station. Who could have done that? For the first time, I was in Kairada. I was in Muizi. I went to my mother's house in Yukon. Who could have done that? I was a member. So, I was a member of Daro. So, I was a member of Genoma. Who could have done that? I was in Nambas. Manzi was in Job 7. I was in Job 7, I'm from Muranane, I'm from Gotisa. I was in Tobac, I came to Kumi. Who could have done that? I was in the Japanese village. The society was good. My family is good. My friends are good. I was a member. I was on the phone. I was on Twitter and had a follower. I was a member of Kizungu. When I was a member of Kizungu, I joined the e-mail. so ok come a kid zone there's a lot of you come another can come up power My call My call for you your mother was cancelled wooh daa wooh daa wooh daa wooh daa wooh daa wooh daa wooh daa wooh daa wooh daa wooh daa wooh daa wooh daa wooh daa wooh daa wooh daa hashtag is white in the morning and that is how we start a discussion I need to go in and My name is Michael Micola, I live in Longo My father opened a mic for me He showed me how to use a motor and he told me to use a normal motor You are not going to study today, right? No, I am not going to study I am going to work at a company I am not going to study for a long time I am going to tell people Please, please zoom in my face I am going to say, it's okay It's alright I am going to tell you what I am going to tell you I am going to say something and I will introduce myself Thank you, my name is Brian Karani and wow, he is amazing Yeah Wow, I am studying, I am a student You are working in job 7 You are a great teacher You are a great teacher and you are a great teacher Hey I am going to work on a journey I am going to be online Wow What's your name? I am a student I am a student My brother has done an amazing job It's perfect If you continue with those mysteries you are going far I assure you You are going far? I am going far I am going to find my family who are going far I am going to find my family who are going far I am going to find my family who are going far Oh yeah No way, you are going to stand by Queen, welcome Thank you What is your name? So I am Tila Tienu Yeah, a student Hotelier by profession, though currently a student I like what he is talking about and whatever he is saying there are facts there are things happening around us Yeah, they are realities So that's the best part of Mali Meguza his talk his spoken words and everything he is doing a good job because he is relating everything with what is happening currently in our country Where are you drinking? Thank you I don't know too much I was hunting Oh my gosh So you mentioned previously in your master piece that madam Gato is a player so I am going to talk to her in a bowl and today we are talking about sticking to one woman Is it possible? Madam Gato and Cheza what is Cheza? She is a girl she has a lot of friends so she is also a Cheza So no one has ever seen a girl who is a girl Really? Yes She is a girl but she is also a Cheza She is a girl who is also a Cheza So now we are talking about what is happening in January and December what is the change? At least we are talking about Yes, we are talking about and there is a lot of fish we are talking about Yes, there is a lot What do you feel about the topic? Yes, for me I believe a man and he is a kind of one woman or vice versa a woman staying with one man because it is more of a psychological setup I feel that I am a woman she is also a woman So you end up looking for other I am not sure you have so much money you have to use it No, it is not about money because even people in the village who don't have a strong financial base there are these issues of men cheating us in the village and the same case in the city But you are saying that it is possible for one man? Yes, it is possible for a man to stay with one wife Truly, in Kenya Yes, in Kenya actually We are focusing on Kenya I don't know what one is but it is I think it is this particular age and era it is the same as Lombololo, Stuk-5 At what time are you going to be focused with one person or do you want to leave them or do you want to leave them? Help me understand Oh, according to me I think that topic all that issue it only depends on the woman to make a man stick to her it depends on the woman Okay So, if you don't want to leave them you don't want to leave them It depends on the woman to make a man stick Like, there is one reason every time a woman always criticizes what a man does men also need to be congratulated for Encouraged And encouraged They also feel good when they are encouraged And appreciated So, constant criticism is not good You should also encourage your man so as to build your relationship and the bond between you two Okay, because I like practicals let us try and put these two points together So, when you are in job 7 there is a woman who is going to leave her and she is going to leave me At home, there is a wife Where is the meat? Where is the bread? I am not saying that I am a fat woman I am just saying that I am a woman who is going to leave her and she is going to leave me I am just saying that I am a woman What is the story of the fat woman? I am telling a story It's just a story Help me understand Please, if you feel like that there is a point that has been raised that you don't agree Okay, so I beg to disagree with what my partner is saying What my brother is saying I don't think you know, how he is putting it He is putting it to be like It's men, it's ladies' responsibilities to make this man stay, but what I know is it's both, you know, you give me, I give you love or maybe a relationship to work, it's equilibrium, you push this thread, I push this so that it's tight enough. And all these, a man is taking to one woman, I believe it's very possible, because it's you, man, all these things you are seeing, because all these things you have in mind of these pretty ladies, the ladies you see outside. Somebody somewhere worked hard to make them look and have the qualities that you're admiring, that you think this passion that you have at this point in time doesn't have. So it is you to make this woman be what you want, and it is also for a woman to be a man, to make a man be what herself, an attacker. I see my husband and there's something he's not doing right. I like him in official and he dresses casually every day. It's me now to tell him, baby, you know, you need to be looking like this. I enjoy looking, you know. He says I use that mentality. I beg to disagree, there are people from ghetto who work here, they have white collar jobs, right? Yeah, they put on official, and you know, it's a matter of you sacrificing for this relationship and I sacrificing, then we meet somewhere. I'm not perfect, so it's us making this thing work. Going outside looking for something, it's not a solution. Because when you go outside, that one person will have one thing that you like and one thing that you don't like, and you'll end up looking for another thing to another person. Now, you know, it will be like a saco. Why not work with this thing in this one lady that you have and make this lady or make this man to be what you want. The things you see outside. That's why I'm a campsana. No, the issue is about most of the men that we have out there, you are talking about the visual appearance of a man, you know, and everything. But most of the men that we have, instead of looking about the personality of a woman, they look at the curves. But your visual creatures now, your visual creatures, do you see men? You see and then you like. They like what they see, but when it comes to a woman, a woman looks at the personality. I don't know what's the best way. We are going to look at the looks too. I'm comparing between looks. Because your looks is equal to money. Yeah, I have to agree, your looks equals the money. But tell me of that old man with that white hair, did he go to money? Does he still have the looks? There's no ugly rich man. From there, there is no problem. Atom foopie. There's no foopie and no money. It's just a TV, stairs. And that's where now you go wrong. Because as a woman now, from your point of discussion, you are looking at the money. You will go looking for money. And the moment you set those expectations that this man has to provide me with this, he has to take me to Paris for honeymoon. I need this royal wedding in Kenya. You set your bar very high. But at a diamond and he wanted his wedding to be a public holiday. If he can, yes, I can too, am I? No. No? I think I don't agree with my sister. Why? Because we were talking about reasons that can make a man. According to me, the topic was about can a man stick to one woman. So we're trying to give reasons that can make a man to stick to one woman. Not a woman forcing a man to stick to one woman. Okay, tell me, what's one of those things that can help? One of my reasons was that it all depends with a woman to make a man stick to her. Agi, how is that possible? That's when I gave my first point on that issue. The kind words, yes. Making them, yeah. Feel appreciated. Feel appreciated. Avoiding criticism. Approach some arguments in a good way. The words carry. Carry. Use good words and keep contact with your man every time. I came to the job, called the man and asked him, how are you doing there? I love you. Remind him you love him. The man says he's here. And again, his point, how his point is coming, it's one-sided, you know? And all these things, you know, like communicating what he's trying to say, you know? Keeping like connection or something. When you communicate, it's both. When I'm the only one who communicates, I'll get tired at some point. I'm human. But, like, you know, appreciating. Appreciation, it's both-sided. Appreciate me waking up in the morning, making breakfast for you. Or even not even making breakfast for you, but just being there for you. You know? Not knowing that. Not knowing that. You're retoric. You're retoric. You're retoric. You're retoric. You're retoric. You're retoric. You're retoric. You're retoric. You're retoric. You're retoric. You're retoric. You're retoric. You're retoric. Reteness, you know. So then what is a retoric??, Uau. one is like an example you have a lady just one lady just one lady and compared to someone was five ladies I keep at a break from one lady I keep at a break from one lady to have a great impact on him compared that person to someone was five girlfriends at least I have four of them I beg to disagree you know when you get into a relationship with someone and you have it you have that mindset of when things go sour I have this backup trust me that thing will not work because you have you have already you know you you've gotten into that relationship with the mindset already you have a mindset these might go sour here yes that should be there but let everything be towards reconciliation you know we'll disagree but baby I still love you we'll disagree but let's have a meeting point you see we after disagreement divorce or maybe you know quachana when when when you have that in mind you will think of having these backups you are talking of having several people around you but when when when when you have someone here and you know everything for butter for what the way people walk down the island they say you know for richer for poor everything is towards reconciliation we'll disagree but we have to work everything to go right here so I think that's the best way okay so just before I'm sorry to interrupt you but I want to not talk to a parole call up every so how many are in the notion to believe that a man can stick to one woman one you believe yeah well you're on the fence you're both-sided you think a man cannot I easy how is it okay so we have two eyes one day and one under the fence all right guys remember at white fight for Facebook at white fight for channel on Twitter hashtag is why in the morning good morning Rama Google you look very nice I am you will see him shortly if he decides to come say hi sticking to one woman Nika Majella make her feel like you're stuck to her but we were jibambe wow nani John T. John T. Romba una behave kikivo sasa however my name is Carol and thank you for this topic I love Brian and I want him to stick to me alone how should I what should I do to ensure this you have asked the perfect place okay let us now get answers from the panelists themselves she asked about how to make a man stick to her not cut tips of course those are the tips I was giving the ladies so far by the way to kind of appreciate your man like a party good good kind words we seem to be game domosana any squeaky really mean get it myself avoid con I avoid always con criticizing your man every time like I know I know it's is both sides but clear time your man is late for work maybe G there is no he's late or something like that he has not showed up for a meeting with you you shouldn't always criticize him always come by every time sometimes say my man you've done well like I can't find it in Zuri you should always comment to say to kill a time you always gone the negative part of him yeah and and what do you do now in the same space so I can maybe make up Kenyama not just come at work you need a lot of the same but then the next day maybe she's too tired to cook do you reciprocate the feelings do you tell her thank you babe it depends on how you approach her like maybe she has a reason why she has not done that maybe in gunjua something like that you should inquire first yeah so at least your skated for this communication again but we're jealous that's how it mom was so not cut finding wow that is the surest way to ensure our baby okay for me the question I'm using how to make a man stay hiding on his points a man needs support I want to move that mountain to be at the back we'll move that mountain together you see it makes the man feel I have someone yeah I can't kill a woman I can't come here not a community you know I'm still gonna pass I'm not going to be a it's all supposed to be a it's a family meaning what you do you have to do it together it's not always about okay I'm not trying to say that meant you not take their responsibilities but it's supposed to be common for the common interest of the family but it won't come a time that yes someone in the house but kiddo go I know I have heard rather from from countless meetings like this that so sure so at five we should like it can amaz us I know now we don't need it anymore so I'm not saying you see it is a kind of excessive demanding when you come here every morning I'm always coming for a cup of tea from your house for you every time they'll give you and then if you are alone default are you know some things if it's a man and a woman can you come together and agree on how to build your family okay I have rather we have a couple of slides that we've prepared and a video by the former president Barack Obama a key on get like a minute or so seen therefore but before we get to that this question is still art is can a man rather stick to one woman I am check this out being a man is first and foremost being a good human and that means being responsible being reliable working hard being kind being respectful being compassionate the notion that somehow defining yourself as a man is dependent on are you able to put somebody else down instead of lifting them up are you able to dominate as opposed to support that is a old view and a view that thankfully I see a lot of young people rejecting if you are very confident about your sexuality you don't have to have eight women around you twerking I mean why are you why are you all like you seem stressed that you got to be acting that way because because I've got one woman who I'm very happy with so and she's a strong woman so thing that caught me about that video first of all Anna he's basically empowering boy child and boy child it time you empowered I think girl child I'm empowered I'm but we are empowering you now so you don't have to have multiple women to make you feel like a full man like you really don't and that's something a man has said so let's figure out come and do you feel you need more than one woman yeah so me me me me basically mean a poor minister can I do more than we should see me so we promise you the sides and then we answered the first question is can a man genuinely be faithful not gonna different schools of thought so please tell us yours at white 5 on Facebook at white 5 for channel on Twitter the next one is is it a cultural trait like me see see to Africa to visit to Leah is it a cultural trait other people out there who by force by force me back at work I don't know what you how what do you think about yeah growing up in Kenya or also in Africa also in this era you grow up being told that with with other boys as you talk they tell you you need to have many girls you need to they tell you that yeah it's something that happened for you know you know you are different from the one keep the men happy keep them comfortable but give them attention like me growing up as a man you are made to believe that you need to have more than one and you are not meant to believe by your father or someone else by your fellow young people because that is the case of the blind leading the blind yeah they believe it's a show of how man enough you are you know the more girls who take to bed that's the belief out there the more girls who take to bed the more stronger you are the more man you are but it's all more of a cultural trait we have imposed on ourselves more so as young people misleading ourselves and misleading others I have so much to say on this but I do agree I do agree that once upon a time it was even a sign of wealth you cannot sit at certain tables come on you always younger so the more you have two three four five people but again these men could take care of all these women like everyone say like I think the difference with what was happening before and now before our our grandfathers and you know those people used to officiate everything you know you are being brought for like one lady or two you know and you are told is your helper she's going to be here helping you and you okay because finally your husband has you know I'm officiate but nowadays what our guys doing they do everything behind the curtains and when they do that you know you don't know Nani an attemper you can't even so I think that's the problem if a man really feels he cannot stick with one woman why can't you bring this lady home you know make everything official let us know if you are not in this room you are in this room yeah that's better yeah alright so I have a question hi Val Mike here my grandpa had eight wives and they were all happy we also have only one boo and one coke and they serve bombayote impact what did I mean why is today's woman so selfish who wants to answer that I think I'll just go back to what I said they're not selfish we want to know and that's why when a lady knows that you've been doing this thing there is that there the thing what makes this woman angry is not you doing it is you doing it behind her and pretending you are good here tell me baby I'm going out or there is someone you know you know because you've been keeping this thing but right it will be official you know we'll get used to your child or something this is the same way with what is happening here people are not selfish the thing is men are doing things behind our back you know funny to do it you are doing this you are doing that we all need to be aware because when we come into this thing called relationship to call we've committed ourselves so come on that party party it when you're ready to manza let me know yeah it's you Angushezo handles a cause a social media all hush needs to do is to be told otherwise you're a happy family okay hi Val Joanne this is Joanne if men cannot stick to one woman then even us we will stick to many be like Brian Kevo and John Tess why is it always Brian Brian Kevo is doing any more I don't know what's going on would you like to help me answer sir but it depends both sides Friends, both sides I'm sorry, I'm sorry I can't say I'm sorry I'm sorry But there's a fever There's a fever I can't say I'm sorry I can't say My sister over here said It's about support When a lady Gives her support to a guy And the guy gives her His support to a lady The relationship will work well There's no need of cheating There's no need of Going to many other ladies As long as What you are looking for in all The other ladies elsewhere Can be provided with The same lady you are living here So I think if This lady gives the Support that the guy needs The most support that the guy needs And the guy also provides The support to his lady The relationship will automatically work Automatically No question asked You can ask me At White 54 on Facebook, White 54 channel on Twitter Hashtag is white in the morning Next slide is What prompts men to cheat I don't know How many times have I told you That I'm not going to lie to you I'm not going to lie to you That I'm not going to lie to you Help me understand Tell me I think my first point on that Question is peer pressure Where When you're with two of you Peer pressure, you go to your friend And I still have one girlfriend In this era And I have six of them I keep on going from number one To six and you have one Why does that make you feel Pressure That he has over you Has it become more handsome More love Love from different tastes What he's feeling is not love He's being felt, yes But it might not be love that he's feeling What do you think makes him A superstar Okay I don't think he's a superstar But it depends on your perception Now that's when Everyone You develop some perception You perceive the information You get from your friends And base it In your mind and say that Having and base it on your mind And say that As long as You want to be a real man You should love many girlfriends It's just a perception Your perception Because of the many flows Experienced in relationships Tend to To bring Many hopeless perceptions And many useless perceptions Like having many girlfriends Is You'll become more superior than others I don't think it's true It's just your own perception At my men's conference If you come with five numbers Just tell us the truth There's one saying men cheat Because chicks are nagging Do you think that's true? Yeah Women can be nagging actually But to my own boy Men you see In most men, most of the men They get bored really fast With women It takes a special kind of commitment To wake up to the same face 365 days in a year For almost 50 years in marriage I tell you You get bored But it's not easy Listening to the same Types of argument How people argue How she talks, how she does that You get bored really fast So it's the reason why even most men They don't decide to look for Something else Can I try something different? If two people are in a relationship For keeps like marriage Which is death to us Since when I married Why can't you assume that It's the same for the lady She's not a girl She's just a girl She's just a girl She's just a girl She's just a girl She's just a girl She's just a girl She's just a girl It depends on the girl That you're looking at Are you a girl from the physical appearance? Because sometimes I see ladies going extra mile You know Someone who is a boy Who is looking for something You know Then you know something This lady makes an extra step You know She's made the table She's set the table The best way she knows how And you know That's why she says It depends on the angle you are You know Because there is My mama was telling me I'm learning my husband Every day Every day I'm seeing something new in him Every day It's like Marriage Marriage is the only place You are satisfied Then going to class Now it's like an alarm killer Now what are you showcaring You are showcaring from the sex Bit of it Because I believe Every day You're like maybe you should do this Often Continue doing this, I like it So it depends on The angle you are showcasing Alright so our last slide Happened to be How should the band be treated In order to not cheat So to discuss I think I don't know But let me be honest I don't know Asking it was I was very afraid But I asked Do you know Solomon had 1,000 Just concubines That's 1,000 side chicks 1,000 He had 300 Almost 400 Me? Why would one man Have all these women And no one complained You cheated on me No one complained So what is the key here Is it wisdom Solomon was not It's not about wisdom That he had many wives Because He had many I don't know I don't know I think we need to step up a little bit As much as women pay Please go ask for wisdom Because Solomon If Solomon could do it You have not because You ask not Just be like Solomon Wisdom You have been watching A talk on why the morning from 7 To 10 in the AM We are now on a DSTV channel 3, 7, 6 It has been fantastic waking up to you Thank you for watching My name is Valentine or at Color Me An amazing week That's way good