 Hello my YouTube family. Another live video. The second live video for today. This one talking about how Narcissus set you up to become their caretaker. Something I haven't spoken about in depth before but I'm looking forward to getting deep into it in this one. If it sounds good to you so far hit that thumbs up button. Let's get this message out there to other people who may need to see it as well. And remember if you would like to book a one-on-coaching session with myself you can go on my website. It is Narcseviver.co.uk. Now let's talk about how Narcissus set you up to become their caretaker because as we know they are very manipulative and in the beginning they give you this false character. They deceive you. They make you think that there's something when they are actually something else. They make you think that there's something good for you something that will benefit you and your life. When in actuality they end up putting you at a disadvantage because in the beginning they give you breadcrumbs. They lead you on. They string you along. They mislead you deliberately over a certain amount of time about their intentions, agenda and motives and it's because they already know exactly what you want to see. You may have told them already or they studied you so in the beginning they reflect back to you what you want to see but that's not who they are. That's not what they're really about. They just know what they need to do to affect you psychologically where you then think that you've met the certain type of person that you're looking for when really they're just doing it to gain power over you for their own interest and advantage because the person that you're seeing that's not who they really are but they can present this to you from learning what you like and what you don't like from learning your desires once and needs and whatever affects you emotionally whether it's something that excites you and makes you happy or maybe it's something that makes you sad, angry or upset. They are learning all of these different things about you which then gives them the ability to create this illusion where they can then deceive you with this very misleading appearance and impression which then implants which then implants these false ideas and beliefs in your mind because when they first gained access to your life they seemed very excited full of joy, thrills to meet you. It's like they were really interested in you and in getting to know you. They're so happy, so glad to meet you and they ask you questions about yourself and your life and you assume this person is your friend they're someone you can trust so you answered all of their questions honestly and openly you told them everything about yourself because you didn't know that actually they weren't happy they weren't glad they weren't enthusiastic about meeting you at all all they were doing is collecting data information about you which they were planning to use against you at a later date and that's why they'd only took them a certain amount of time until they were then presenting your likes and interests to you to test the waters and see how you are going to react to them they were complimenting and praising you making you feel good about yourself but that's all they were really looking for because it's nothing but a game and it excites them it gives them a thrill makes them feel good makes them feel alive makes them feel special and important in the beginning they talk to you and such a way where it makes you feel like they actually care like you actually matter to them like they're actually interested in getting to know you and being with you in a real relationship but it's not real it's not genuine it's not sincere they're just doing it to get your attention to get your validation maybe to gain admiration respect or even sympathy that's why after a certain amount of time later on they start to give it out a bit more slowly while they're taking more and more from you until finally you are at their mercy they're completely within their clutches within their grasp because all this time you've been giving and giving and getting very little back in return that's how they have the advantage that's how they've got the upper hand over you because all that time that you were dealing with them you were being authentic you were being yourself while they were just being whoever they thought they needed to be needed to be to appeal to your desires interests and needs so you don't even judge their character you just accept you assume that this person is who they say they are and then you give them everything you have you give them your time money a place to stay your energy and resources and they move very skillfully and carefully through your mindset your feelings and emotions as they carefully guide and manipulate you so that they can achieve their desired end their desired result without ever bringing attention to who they really are they fly under the radar because they're showing you what you want in a partner they're not being themselves and naturally it causes you to become emotional and it makes you want to cooperate with them and do what they want you to do because you're not in a logical state so you're overlooking the red flags while they're feeding your ego you don't see who you're actually dealing with you don't see who they really are because you're having a good time you're having lots of fun the only problem is you're doing it with someone who doesn't who doesn't even exist because all they've done is construct a false character which is based on your likes and desires and they've done that because they know that you're going to accept and support it with all of your willingness and enthusiasm without judging or criticizing them and that's exactly what they want you to do it's what their false character was designed to do they created this false character so that they get all of the praise all of the admiration and it feeds their ego it gives them a narcissistic supply makes them feel good about themselves but this doesn't last for long because this false character has a very short shelf life which means that it's only a matter of time until it begins to expire and when that happens they become very greedy they become very selfish and arrogant because they are insatiable so they're always going to demand more than what they're giving to you and it's because they're only giving you a fake character and behind this fake character is something very evil and wicked because underneath this facade you are dealing with a narcissist and some people may think and believe that underneath this false self is something so so weak delicate and childlike but the reality is that underneath it underneath it all they're still dishonest and corrupt yes they may act vulnerable but that's still just an act at the core of it all is a very evil wicked predator who seeks to ruthlessly exploit people for their own personal gain and that's why they will give you just enough to lure you in and catch you in their trap and then once they've got you they will become excessively greedy they will reveal just how selfish they really are and it's because when they're giving you this false character it ties them out it's very draining for them and that's why they don't like to use the the false self for long periods of time but as soon as they manage to turn the tables on you they then reveal just how needy and desperate they really are while in the beginning they seem so self-sufficient it's like they didn't need any help from anyone else in satisfying their needs they were independent self-reliant self-supporting self-sustaining it's like they had it all together they had everything figured out they knew exactly how to take care of themselves but now it's like this character is nowhere to be found but what you do see is someone who needs excessive amounts of attention validation money energy and resources which is what they want all for themselves and this is the point where they fail to care or provide for you and instead they neglect and abandon you because they're unable to keep giving they lack the capacity to do that they can only love bomb you in the beginning for a short amount of time because otherwise of course they would burn out because that's not who they really are and that's why they have to change you into becoming their workhorse their slave whether you are then forced to work for and obey them and they see you as their possession you're considered to be their property so essentially you're their slave thank you for the donation zane shun i appreciate it essentially you are their slave and all you're going to get in return is this unenthusiastic fake gratitude but they actually pretend like they care they actually pretend like they appreciate what you're doing for them but you can feel it energetically they're not really grateful about it and then that then causes you to realize how much you're losing because you're trying to elevate them to a higher possession makes them feel hopeful and optimistic while normally they're depressed they're sad they're disinterested and that's why they're so needy so desperate where they're constantly taken from you because they can't sustain themselves they can't keep going at it on their own they've got to bring you into it but all they've got for you is breadcrumbs they've got nothing of value to bring to you and yet you're left feeling like you've got to do more and more because they gave this false character at the beginning and that's what you're left holding on to because you're hoping longing and yearning that they're going to bring back this character again and then they're going to begin to give it back to you thanks for the donation pkmn master 29 yeah you're just hoping they're going to give it back to you eventually or maybe they're just going through a difficult time in their lives but this is actually who they are this is the real them this is it for life what you saw in the beginning that was only designed to lure you in and to trap you they already know that they're cheating you they're treating you unfairly they know they're giving you less than what you deserve well at the beginning it's funny because they made it seem like you were getting into something that was going to benefit you they may have pretended to be empathic themselves as though they were there for you they were there to help you but they were so disorganized and unpleasant everything was so confusing until at some point you realized then nothing like what they said they were the false character has gone vanished because they can't sustain it for long periods of time and that is when you realize when you finally begin to wake up it's like the movies Cinderella you realize that you were just tricked into being their caretaker to take care of them and to support them but you thought you were doing the right thing you thought this was your ideal person this perfect character but then you feel dissatisfied disappointed defeated because you then realize that they're not as good as what they led you to believe because you're dealing with something that's very different to what they portrayed to you at the beginning so of course you end up being neglected because you were deceived you were tricked it was all a game but you weren't aware of it at the time but they knew exactly what they were doing while you were taking it seriously you were trying to cooperate with them and succeed because you thought there was something real you thought you were actually in a real relationship you thought you were in something for life thanks for the donation Steve Perisic I appreciate all donations no matter how small it helps it goes towards this community so then I can invest more into this channel into this work thanks for the donation Ray Justice but yeah you thought this was something real you were taking it seriously but they weren't they were just getting into this with you to improve their own circumstances and they came in came into that with all of this knowledge all of this wisdom as though they knew exactly what they're doing but their situation was unstable it wasn't consistent and those are two qualities that are needed to sustain a relationship the consistency and the stability and that's why everything began to fall apart and thank you for the donation they're she and a page I don't want to sound so superficial here but someone's got to get on you and tell it how it is when you are in a relationship you should be dealing with someone who is on your level and not just in their characteristics but also financially as well someone who's not so far off and I know I understand they typically lie about their financial situation as well they act like they are financially well off they they're doing as well as you are and yet at the same time they're leaching off you like a parasite but this is it we need to be involved with people who know how to take care of themselves because you've got to think about it like this if they can't take care of themselves how are they ever going to be able to take care of you so of course going to end up being neglected relationships are meant to be a partnership they can't just be one person doing all of the work so of course of course both partners need to be at a similar level if they're not one of them is going to get the short end of the stick which means that they're eventually going to have a lot less than what they came in with and there's no way they're going to be able to sustain the relationship on their own but many of you you get stuck into it you're running endlessly on this hamster wheel in an effort to try to please them but sometimes you just got to stop look at everything that you've put out already what did you get back in return and you never cheated them you never treated them unfairly you never gave them an unequal exchange of value from what they were giving to you so at this point you should expect something of equal value in return because our value it's not determined by what we keep for ourselves a person's value is determined by what they're giving out and yeah this is how they've been treating you they've been treating you all of this time giving you an insufficient amount of value and to return in return to what you're giving out they've been giving you less than what you deserve and why because at the at the beginning they give you a false character it was just a fabrication an invention something that they were enabled to live up to they could never live up to that and this is why now at this point you've got to reassess your situation you should be around people who pour into you just as much as you pour into them in every way people who spend time with you people who invest the time the energy the money and resources into you and that's not selfish because that's exactly what you were doing for them so of course you should expect the same in return and people who are wise people who fill you up with the wisdom and knowledge that they have to give just as you have to give to them but the idea of making it successful for both of you not just for them instead of just depleting you of everything you've got and as soon as you set that boundary and you demand and expect more not to wear your than our success and you're just like give me everything you've got all of your time all of your energy all of your money well i give you nothing back of course that type of relationship is never going to succeed it's got to be equal it's got to be 50 50 and as soon as you set that boundary and you demand reciprocation an equal exchange an equal amount of value in return no narcissist can survive in that type of environment because they're not about equilibrium they're not about balance stability or equality with them everything is unstable unbalanced unequal and it's because they're not calm or composed in their minds and that's why whenever you have a problem whenever you have a need of your own or your any difficult situation of course they're not going to be there for you they don't respect your boundaries and yet they have this sense of entitlement and they feel superior to you so for them limits and boundaries that's beneath them they lack empathy they're incapable of caring about another person so they see it as perfectly reasonable to violate your boundaries as long as they get some what they want you're not dealing with a normal person that's how they're capable of doing such horrific things and this is what makes them so dangerous they have unmet emotional needs from childhood your dealer is someone who is essentially a two-year-old child in an adult's body so this world is centered around themselves or they can ever think about is what I want what I need and that's why anytime you talk about your wants or needs it will cause a narcissistic injury and then they're going to rage and throw these temper tantrums like a two-year-old child they will yell and they will scream because they have a an arrested psychological development they don't understand boundaries they just see something that they want and all they can think about is how they are going to get it your feelings wants or needs never come into the picture that never even crosses their minds because their world centers around themselves so they're incapable of caring about you or considering you thank you for the donation Kieran Sir Jan I appreciate all the donations today I'm very grateful but yes you are just a tool for the narcissist to use as they please that's how it's so easy for them to step on you to step all over your boundaries and if they're not allowed to violate your boundaries they will feel attacked because if you don't let them violate your boundaries in their minds you're then violating their boundaries because in their minds you're their possession they own you they feel entitled to you to whatever you have whenever they want it however they want it so anything that you have or possess and this could be your time energy attention money resources qualities of characteristics all of that is up for grabs to a narcissist it's all interchangeable they can take it use it do whatever they want with it whenever they want because they view people as extensions of themselves and in fact they view the entire world and everything in it as extensions of themselves and that's why they regard other people's needs as less important they feel entitled to do whatever they want whatever they desire and from whoever they desire it from and why it's because in their childhood they didn't get what they wanted their emotional needs were left and met but as well as this and what I don't often talk about on this channel but what I would like to get into right now I mean let's just keep it real just from looking at them the way they are they're so grandiose so arrogant so entitled what are we dealing with we're dealing with a spoiled brat that's exactly what they are that's where they have these behavioral problems it's because as a child they were overindulged by their parents they're accustomed to always getting their demands and desires met without ever experiencing consequences for their actions so now you look at them and they display this entitled behavior and if they don't get what they want they throw tantrums and even when you give them exactly what they want they display a lack of gratitude a lack of appreciation for the things that you have willingly given to them why does this happen how can you give someone all of your time energy effort money and resources a place to stay trips around the world whatever they want how can you give them all of that and do in return forget about an equal exchange of value you don't even get a thank you you don't get anything back in return why why does this happen this happens because unlike us they have decreased gray matter of the brain and the gray matter of the brain is responsible for discerning interoceptive and associated effective information about ourselves and other people you hear me talk about effective empathy a lot on this channel something that only one to two percent of the world population possess so they lack that they don't have that so they don't wish to change or enter the world of boundaries separation these limits from where other people end and we begin they lack the appropriate neurology for them to then have the ability to compromise share and respect the needs of other people because they never developed it as a child narcissists are permanently brain damaged and that's why they now have this unstoppable compulsion to get what they want and it's why they have to be the boss not you never you they've always got to be the boss even if you're the one who's doing all of the work and without you they can't even survive without you they've still got to be in charge and that's what makes it so contradictory because while they want to be the boss they have to find an adult sorry about that the wi-fi just cut off for a moment on my data so i had to connect to the hotel's wi-fi but yeah the behavior the mentality is very contradictory because while they want to be the boss and they don't want you to be in charge they are forced to find an adult who is willing to pamper and spoil them and to enable them and let them get away with their abusive behavior and this is why they're never going to learn to respect boundaries they're never going to grow up and be an emotionally mature adult because they don't need to they just trap people like you in their web of lies and deception because they know you're not going to enforce boundaries you're not going to do that because you had the opposite experience in your childhood unlike them you weren't giving everything that you wanted instead you were taught to not have any boundaries for yourself and that's how people like this can come into your life walk all over you and leave you to rot they can do that because people let them get away with it but the truth is that they're no good for this world they set us back they impair the evolution of our species because they only care about themselves they're not concerned about the feelings once or needs of other people they run good-hearted people into the ground and that is actually self-destructive behavior because they need people like us in order for them to survive so as time goes by and as people become more and more aware of this disorder we will see more and more collapsed narcissists and for those of you who don't know a collapsed narcissist is a narcissist who has lost the ability to uphold their grandiose image and this will happen with time because as dr. Ramani stated in a recent video one in six people are narcissists so you can just go to a restaurant or a mall and just point out six people the odds are one of them could be a narcissist that's how common it is now and even then that's only talking about full-blown narcissistic personality disorder so that doesn't mean that the other five out of six people aren't covert narcissists or even just narcissistic and even then there's all of the other cluster b disorders there's there's cluster a cluster c there's just toxic people as well but then true empaths are very rare so there's far more of them than there are of us and that's why we're seeing so many smear campaigns so much gangstalking it's becoming more and more common because narcissists are left to share a single empath with all of their millions researchers from the university of york have discovered that prehistoric humans had a deep sense of compassion and they cared for each other but in the far in the past four decades researchers have concluded that empathy has eroded around us overall with the average person in 2009 being less empathic than 75 of individuals in 1979 so empathy is becoming very rare and although yes this may sound bad it may sound like we're in times but keep that in mind with empaths becoming rare this may now make it more difficult for narcissists to survive because according to a 2007 study on empathy which was published in nature neuroscience only one to two percent of the population consists of true empaths which is now making it very difficult for narcissists to get by and this is why if you look in society today you will see that narcissistic behavior is becoming more and more extreme it's like they're doing anything they can to survive and they get with people that they wouldn't normally get with these days it's not uncommon to see two narcissists together we see that a lot with celebrities two grandiose narcissists because empaths are rare even if a narcissist does find a single empath it's highly unlikely they will ever find that again and even when they do find an empath they typically screw it up very quickly they don't really desire to be around us for a long period of time they prefer to be around their own kind they gravitate towards each other they like to be around other fake people and that's why empaths are so rare because while they need us they don't really want to be around us so they don't reciprocate anything back to us which means that we're dying out i'm sure there's a lot of empaths who are homeless they've been running to the ground they can't take care of themselves they're not self-sustaining anymore maybe they're in prison they may be in mental institutions they've been driven insane and all of this it's self-destructive on narcissists it's going to come back to get them because what are they going to do when there's no empaths around and i never really thought about this before i mean i used to look at it like we're in end times things are taking a turn for the worse or could it be that with an end there is also a new beginning and i'd just like to finish on that note something more positive as i know a lot of these videos they can be quite depressing at times but then at the same time gotta give the truth but to end on a positive note for this one with an end comes a new beginning empaths becoming more rare means we will see more collapsed narcissists and with less narcissists that means potentially more empaths could come into this world especially with more awakened and aware empaths who will then breathe more selectively they may look for other empaths which of course it's what i advise you to do get in relationships with people who are empathic like yourself build a life with them anyway that's the message for today if you enjoyed it if you found it helpful hit the thumbs up button down below and if you would like to show your support to our community you could donate by leaving a super chat or a super 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