 Welcome everyone to another Knox Viva Live video. In this one I'm going to be talking about how narcissists are so cruel to those they love. Or at least those they say they love. Those they profess they love. Because the truth is they don't really love anyone. They don't even love themselves. They project their own self-hatred onto you. Their own insecurities. Their own deficiencies. Their own flaws and imperfections. Their own faults and mistakes. That's what they put onto you. That's what they assign to you. And that's what makes it so easy for them to devalue you. They make some see you as though you're worthless or beneath their consideration. And then they use that as an excuse to punish you. So that is how they can be so cruel to you. They can be cruel because they project everything that they hate about themselves onto you. They disown those parts of them and assign it to you. And then they use that as the motive or reason for them abusing you. For them being so cruel. But many of us we look at it and then we self-loathe. We see it as though they must be right. There must be something wrong with us. We're not good enough. We're doing something wrong. Because at the time maybe we don't understand the mind of a narcissist. We don't understand that all they're actually doing is projecting. They're deflecting. They're disowning things they don't like about themselves and assigning it to their victim. And then using that as a reason for abusing them. Because something has to happen with these parts of themselves that they choose to disown. You can see from any narcissist that they don't take accountability for their actions. They don't self-reflect. They don't introspect. They don't look at themselves for how they actually are. So something has to happen with those parts of themselves that they choose to disown. And that goes on to you. They assign those parts of themselves to you. The parts of themselves that they don't like. And then that is why they devalue and degrade you. They don't even know you. They never sat down with you and took the time to get to know you. They don't even know who you are. They don't even know who they are. And how can you know someone else if you don't even know yourself? So don't take it personally. It really has nothing to do with you. And it has everything to do with them. That's how they're so cruel to those that they say they love. I'm at the beach today. It's a beautiful day. The sea has a nice green colour. I've got bright yellow sand there. It's really a perfect beach. I'm just out here making the most of it. I'm enjoying the views. I'm enjoying the sunshine well at last. And yeah, that's all I've got to say for this one. I hope that it's been helpful for you. If it has, please give it a thumbs up down below. And share the video. Click the subscribe button. And also click to receive all of the notifications for my future videos. For one-on-one coaching sessions, you can go to my website to book. It's narcsurvivor.co.uk. And check out my Instagram as well. It's Narc Survival YouTube and Instagram. I'm putting up new pictures and videos of my travels on there every day. And I also have some narcissistic abuse quotes on there too. And I've also put my own short videos on there as well. So check out my Instagram. It's Narc Survival YouTube. I hope to see you on there. Anyway, that's all for today. Thank you all for joining me. And I will talk to you in another one very soon.