 A good evening to you and thank you for sticking to Y254 TV. My name is Sheryl Blessing. I am your host today and you are watching Power Talk. Now this evening we are dealing with family secrets. We want to understand what is the root of family secrets, where do they come from, who do they affect and why do you need to understand the long term effects of family secrets. And joining me live here in the studio is Bishop Peter Patrick Monique of Life Manifestation Church, Karibusana Bishop. Thank you so much Sheryl. Yes. I am Bishop Patrick Monique Bogo and I am the founder of the Life Manifestation Church, where I am pastoring and I thank him because he has invited us today to come and share with the people of Kenya about the dangers that are accrued by having secrets in our families. And you come to realize that most of the time people have kept the secrets and they have long term effect either positive or negative but you come to realize that most of the secrets have a very great negative effect and the impact of family is so boundary not only to the children and not only even to us but even to the society. So today we are going to address that and I feel that God is going to help us in Jesus name. Yes amen. Thank you so much. And we are very blessed to have you here in the studio and as you have stated we want to understand what is the effect of this family secret so that we can take apart the disillusions that we have that may cause frictions within our relations with our spouses and our children as well. So I want to engage with you as well our dear viewers as we continue with this conversation go to our social media platforms which is at Y254. Make a comment, write your opinions, ask any questions that you may have about family secrets. We will address that as we progress with the conversation and we look forward to sampling your comments. You can also find me on my personal pages which is at Sheryl Blessing. So now Bishop as we started off you have explained that they have a very negative effect and they can deeply impact even future generations. So I want to first understand why are family secrets there? Why are they even present to begin with? That is very good Sheryl and it is very important that we understand almost everybody every one of us, every Kenyan has his or her own secrets and the secrets that you are going to address today are the secret most strongly in the areas of families. The secret that a husband hides from the wife or a wife hides from a husband. It's a friend of mine sometimes back in gotten married but the wife did not disclose that she had gotten a child outside wedlock and after those people getting gotten married after one year that is the time that the man realized that the wife that he had gotten married to had a child. Outside of the marriage? Yes and that time they had already worked on a part of Totoa Kwanzaa and now immediately that marriage collapsed. It collapsed immediately because that man could not understand how he could live with a wife that had such a deep secret because you see getting to a point of getting married you court your wife you go and take the dowry everything is prepared the wedding was done in the church but you the man came to realize that at the end of it all that there was a very deep secret because hiding a child from a man that wants to marry you until the time of marriage that was so dangerous that marriage just fell we're trying to bring those people together it could not work where wife reconciled them the man said the nervous enough and actually we are supposed to forgive one another I okay in one year the other days there was a very good ground for the force because of the secret but we are supposed to forgive one another but the thing is there is great danger there is a code by family secret there are people that you come to realize that even when they get married the lady about and and she does not tell the husband that once upon a time I was pregnant and I found that I could not carry this pregnancy I about and now immediately they get married this lady keeps that the secret and I'm telling you these things as a repo effect in the family because now that is secret creates a stronghold the Bible says the book of my catch a turn versus seven and God is a stronghold in the times of trouble but they are demonic strongholds now one of the ways of establishing a stronghold in a family is by hiding secrets and the secret is dangerous there are people that are being killed by their spouses there are people that are being killed by their close friends because when they are communicating they are good but deep in their heart there is a secret that they keep now today we are going to address that and we see how we can come out of this how you can come and that kind of disclose the secret that you have between most strongly between families because they affect the children they affect the society you can't tell that somebody has killed one another the result the things that it causes these deaths and the mandas in the family is as a result of secret a husband hides a secret from the wife you find that a man has a pangua condom and you cannot speak now when the lady the wife realizes it is very dangerous to keep a secret because you are supposed to be transparent in fact if a family has to be viable and active there has to be transparency if a friendship has to continue people are on the issues of the family there needs to be a needs to be transparency there needs to be openness and that you need to identify the kind of people that you are transparent with it is not everybody that you can disclose your secrets to it is not everybody that you can open your heart to so what we need to do is that we need to engage we need to be very careful we need to find true friendship because if someone is truly your friend you cannot hide something from him even then you will disclose the secret there is something that you share in common because when there is a secret that means there is hypocrisy if you cannot disclose something to me and your friends that means you're hypocritical so hypocrites will never enter heaven they will never see the kingdom of God and I like the way you started by saying everyone has secrets and you finished by saying you need to identify who you can disclose your secrets to yes because based on the story of given there was clearly a breach of trust that is when trust is not established in a relationship then it is impossible for you to move forward precisely and now that you have you gave the example I want to understand what do you think would have inspired this lady to keep the secret that I have a child of so you do this marriage do you think it's because she was afraid of the reception of the secret or what inspires people to keep these secrets that is a very good equation there are so many things that causes people to keep secret and you come to realize that you buy these clothes that I and another girl that we separated with this radio now out of that you keep a secret or you come to realize that if I tell this man that I was in a relationship or I was married or I am a child and maybe you are desperately in need of getting married you realize if I tell him the man will go so there are so many things that it causes people to keep secret but you see it is not healthy because anything that you hide one day they shall affect him even said so in the Bible yes he then shall come to life shall be one day they shall be disclosed shall come to pass so instead of just hiding it and at the end of the day you lose everything it is better to to disclose it yes so there are so many things actually sinister motives everybody has got his own things maybe you find that I'll lose the job I'll lose this friend I'll lose this those are some of the things that causes people to hide the secret and that is why we are disclose we are asking everybody that is listening to us today please that is second that you are holding this closer to your friend and I can I say something share you they are they are good secrets yeah not every secret is banned yeah it is better to speak this you cannot in cold is causing everything about your family for example you cannot in cold is crossing everything about yourself there are some of the things that in God has because in fact in God is a secret the Bible says God is and God of mystery God himself is a secret that is why you cannot wake up and visit him in the office and I want to go and visit God you cannot see God is a secret we are accessing by faith so there are some of the things that you should not just disclose there are things that you know about your family you cannot go disclosing they are think that you know about your friend you cannot disclose him so that is secret that you know there are some secrets that are good it's one time in the Bible that God became tired of saw as a king of Israel and now he prepared I will look for a king that will govern the nation of Israel the Bible says God spoke to someone said go in the house of Jesse and anointed king and be careful because if saw realizes that you are going there he will kill you yes that means God is a God of secret and that was a big secret go in the anointed king in the house of Jesse that he may take over from saw but keep it as a secret now if this secret was disclosed do you think that the soul would have remained at night assassinated by by king saw so there are some of the secrets that are good but so it is the highest time that we handle that amen amen you have brought in the aspect of which secrets to disclose and who to disclose that is the thing so this is the secret that I should tell someone because as you've given that example we have seen so many other examples in the Bible where people are asked to keep a secret either for the Lord's glory or for their own protection like with the coming of Jesus yes when his bath was announced it was kept secret for authorities so how can you tell if this secret is good that if I keep it from my spouse highter to affect in future or if this is this is something that is bad and I need to tell them before we get serious that is a very good a very good at a very technical questions now let's come to this because when you disclose them negative effect in your family for example there is a man in our place and by he was married now this man the wife can go and disclose wisdom or anything you don't you understand in a wisdom so you keep it and you pray for this man and I'm telling you that radio was so powerful because he prayed for that man now if this thing that you're keeping as a secret if you disclose it it will affect you negatively it can affect your children because if we imagine you don't realize I can't grow that my mom and he divorced my dad because of it's a very negative effect so they're really kept it as a secret you know you continue to pray for this man back at their point in time so that the heart of your spouse may be softened very solid to say this but come with a kdv8 engine it is a bonus to understand because the deeper you become in fellowship and in fellowship so so if you realize that your husband and he buried so it is even better I know every year they're barring somebody every year they're barring somebody so you cannot just go disclosing but you are able to decide if I say this so those secrets it affects the generations and generations to come negatively we need to disclose it for about 20 years in the ministry you pray for these people and they are married I pray for a couple that understand for 11 years but the lord spoke to me that this but I'm telling you after disclosing that the secret because of the secret because of the secret and after that you shall be totally driven so most of the marriages are being broken there are so many people that have great destiny so but when you open up when you disclose that I have spoken a blessing over your life so it has a more negative than the post negative so it is my prayer because I want to promise you when I'm saying this because for 20 years serving people you hear so many things people come from every corner so because in the spirit even most of the diseases marriage break down so it is my prayer you disclose it not just anybody just get a man of God when you open up period and the lady came and the lord spoke to me and the lord spoke to me and the lady came and said so so and I want to tell you share you everyone that is listening to us but you're just a walking corpse the bible says they are walking corpses the situation of this city looks so good from outside and the place looks like that the waters are bitter and the land is barren there is an element of bitterness and barrenness when you are talking about there is a Syrian buyer and he discloses it but immediately he discloses it you feel that you are released you feel that you are okosawa so it is my prayer that every negative secret shall be disclosed you've given some very good points in that that is the answer you have given umesema first of all that most things are spiritual it's a stronghold that will hold you and affect other generations and I want our audience to understand in amanisha it happens in the spirit and when something has held you in the spirit even if you break it in the physical it is very hard to break it so that is one thing that I want our audience to understand and also you have mentioned the effect of these secrets on our health on our physical lives and in our families so why does it affect our health in afanya you get sick if someone in the case where someone is aborted and did not disclose so is that a punishment of what happens or come and is stressed in afanya what is it exactly that will make that secret affect you physically that is a very good question there is a secret there is a secret secret there is a secret secret there is a secret secret there is a secret secret there is a secret secret secret there is a secret secret secret imagine if you are married to a man and this man you are married to you have a child of country and you are married to him who is going to be affected so what happens will create anxiety and will get affected so in other words when you are affected when you are affected when you are affected So, most of the time, these sicknesses come as a result because what you are hiding, is the lack of conscience. Conscience is the lack of purity. Conscience is the lack of truth. When you are hiding something, you are hiding your conscience. Why don't you speak these things? This is what I am talking about. This is what I am talking about. Some of you may be a botanist. Some of you may be a dame. Some of you may be a dreamer. You may be a dreamer. You may be a dreamer. You may be a dreamer. Do you remember the book of Genesis? You may be a kinder. Some of you may be a blind person. Some of you may be crying. So, any time you cause a botanist or you may scare him, you kill somebody. You may be a dame. You may die in the dream. And, more strongly, in the dreams. You may be a dreamer. You may be a dreamer. You may be a dreamer. If you want to get a good person who has a good mind, who has a good heart, who has a good heart, he has a good heart, he has a good heart, and he has a good heart. He has a good heart. He has a good heart, he has a good heart. He has a good heart. He has a good heart. If you want to know what I mean by that, it has to be physical. Physical means live. I think we can all agree. Even our audience, you can agree that you are stressed out. You really physically express it. Yes. I want to briefly go to our comments. You have written us some comments. comments, I believe will go to Facebook. So to turn to David, me and Osia Sangalo says I'm listening. Thank you so much, David. Waweruakibod says following. Thank you, Waweru. Bosi Junior says breakups. So is that what you're afraid of Bosi? We want to understand that. Sandraika Sandra says it poisons the whole family. It can be extremely harmful, leading to anxiety, shame, trust issues, resentment, stress, and sometimes the use of addictive substances as a coping mechanism. That is a very good point, Sandra. And yes, that is the impact of secrets. Tukona Demi Slangat, who says watching life from Kericho. Thank you so much, Demi. Tukona Okumu Samuel Carvajal, who says secrets are secrets. They are good to keep. But if they are bad secrets, the secret keeper will suffer the consequences if known. And Okumu, that is exactly what we have been talking about. Sasa, based on that, we have understood everyone has secrets and you need to disclose the negative secrets that will affect your spouse and your family. So I want to take a very short break and then we will come back under dress when you're sasa in affect generations that come after us. So stay tuned to Y244 TV. My name is Sheryl Blessing and you are watching Power Talk. Welcome back and thank you for sticking to Y254 TV. My name is Sheryl Blessing and this is Power Talk. And before we went on a break, we were trying to understand how can we deal with family secrets. And joining me is Bishop Patrick Monique, who has taken us through how these secrets come about and the effect they have on us physically and our partners. So now Bishop, the children, the family, because you know we have once you get into a marriage and then you start forming a family and you have kept a secret that might affect them. Let's say the husband, the father has kept a secret that he has another family or he had other children before. How can these secrets affect the dynamic of the family? When you want to relate to our total, him and his wife, how do these secrets affect the family dynamic? That is very good, Sheryl. You can't realize the outcome, but you can see the result of that. As it might affect you. Right now, if I have a second to ask my wife, he or she will not float to the children. In fact, your daughter, if you want to keep a secret, you can't see the result. You can't realize that most of the people who are affected in your daughter. Now that your daughter is floating in the same pattern. Look at most of the families that are the father married to wives. You can't realize that one becomes now a generational stronghold. Even the children who are married to two wives. Now if you realize that he or she will not float to the children. It will be very difficult. So you see, it is very difficult. Because when you are raising up children, there are values that you instill in the children. So it's a kind of the father failed. Now what are you transferring to your children? If you live with your children. I remember for a family, the father was a very great smoker. So when I visited the family, I was not there, but he was in form two. He was a smoker? So any secret that you keep, anything that you do, it has a negative effect on the children. So what I'm trying to say is that the father is a smoker, the mother is a smoker, and the children are a smoker. The effect is that the society is not able to do that because they are not from the family. You can see that the trick is to see it there, but it will not work out. So what I'm trying to say in Yacuba is to be careful because what we are doing, we are doing this for our children. If you become a millionaire today, it is not one of the same spirit that is transferred to your children. They will become millionaires. In fact somebody told me that if you work with five millionaires, the possibility that automatically you become the sixth. So if you become the sixth in life, man will tap into that spirit. Man is a spirit in the first place. It is better we understand that, that man has got three things. The body, the spirit and the soul. The soul, you can have mind, you can have emotion, you can have will. So it's a spirit that you connect. You connect with the man and you connect with the woman. And sometimes you dream of something and it comes to pass. Like now if I dream somebody blessing me if they come at least as he can be because he is spiritual. Because the father was a thief, and he was a corrupt even in government, because they are stealing from government. Because that is the spirit that people care when it is transferred to your children and it will affect you so negatively. So man is a spirit to wherever you feel. Because at the time when you are a thief, you see that there is a spirit in the end. And this spirit is the spirit that comes from the soul. The soul that changes the work of the soul. It is the spirit that comes from the ways of mind, emotions, the will, the creative power. It is the soul that will take you. Because it is the spirit that comes from the way of the soul that comes from the way of the soul that comes from the way of the will. It will affect you so negatively through the generations to come. In the Bible they say that nobody in heaven said David. The same. Baby. I can't. I can't. Waker. in the front line of the battle. Yes. The person at the command. Yes. you see in the digits of secret. That's at the end of the day. The man and job. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. I. What was the next thing? It was the next thing. The baby said, if you have a baby, you can give it to your child. You can give it to the baby. It's a secret to give it to your child. But what happened? The child died. The child died. This is the secret that we are talking about. This is the future. This is the end. This is death. So, secrets have a death effect in the family. Negative secret. And also, to expound on that. Yes. If you missed the first segment, we were talking about the spiritual stronghold that secrets have. Yes. So, I want to also understand if we come and find out, we've had cases of children finding out they were adopted. They find other coping mechanisms like drugs, they get into terrible lifestyles. So, I want to understand if this effect of a child can be a secret, maybe it's because of the work, for so many years since their childhood, and then they discover it when they're older. In our effect, our child. Every man can show you growing, knowing that this is your biological father. Only to realize after 20, 30 years, that he's not your father. If he's not your father, then maybe you would have not seen him. But what this mother, or this man, the parents, in the first place, they find out they were adopted. They find out. He is not the one. He is not the one. He is not the one. They say, you have to train the child the way you should go. And he should not depart from that way. All the children, the one who are adopted, he will find out that they are not adopted. And then they find out they are not your biological mother, they are not your biological father. etc. I have seen it. There鼻 She said, mama, mi yata staku jo yobaba. Mama na aku nire, ariniza ana akanitupa. Sonone yo siri I make wear this cloth. And I'm with her tonen day. We're comfortable, na napokea that laugh, nata ka mi ano the Baioroujikawada, una aona. So she's made chinu ki feature, do na ku takuren ju wa men ju wa kuren wa 25 years. Ata kata anji kureuke man darea kurevia. Na nata kuku koku na stress. I thought, ata anji darai wa senma mi then I don't know my source. Mi mi yata siyo ai familia. Ata ukyon na tunayende shahi. I see ma gari, yaata mi mi siyo auku. Because me and my daughter are older and I've seen people who've had over 40 years, but they're still young. She has a very strong childhood. I've seen it with my daughter, a biological parent. Where people came from, but there are people that have come from differentiensities, they came only to give birth, there's no way that we do that. It's just a weak 보 universo. Because of that. I was very scared of coming here. I once came here, but it is very important to be aware that we are not your biological parents. And I think Apo Ata, to Nini Apo, Apo you've given a very, very clear example. When you tell this child, then it's easier for them to understand because you even have discussions of to look to Awape, Uli and Zadje, how did we get here. But without that conversation, then you keep wondering, if I ask my parents, will they tell me the truth? And also now I want to bring it to our relatives, to one guess the relatives Apo. I'm rushing a bit because time I go on our side. Relatives waki, waki fichwa siri. Let me give a very clear example because this sometimes happens in the African community. Muto ame owa bibi, they try to have a child, they do not conceive for so many years. Wakena kwa doktaro napata, the wife is okay, but the husband might not be able to give children. And that usually affects the African male or just any man, generally. Amo tuna eka i siri, let no one know at a mama came zazi wa zazi wa sigwe. Then later on you find the relatives want to corner the woman. And coming against after her saying that you're the one, you're Bahrain, you can't do this. But you're siri ame weka. How do you, how do you handle a situation like that? You have a secret that you have to preserve for your family to maintain your family and your marriage. That is what we are talking about, mama waki fichwa siri. Nivizuri kuka na umdis klos, share with your family. Na ata ufanya, even your children will say this is to you and out because of this and this and this. Una ona, because your father akonashida, and your mother akonashida. Kama watu ane zaku ka cini, kutoka pare cini. Because there even are the source, no things from the source. Disclose, as you grow up the lander, kue kuna transparency. On juasa siri siri zingina unakute akonba, mama na fichwa i, musea na fichwa i. Kama una weza wa kuza, kwan inima kosa iako. Ioni kitu ambo ni byorongiko. Na kina kutasa siri siri zina fanyan baka, even the society, even the members of the family. Wana say ma uma na umke, me kata kuza liya huyu, i me kahiwi. Sasa i o mamba yote i na kuna, hi o. Na nivizuri sometimes even when you come to the house, ata kama iwa husband ana ungufu. Da da, she's not able to share. Uma na, ana ire ungufu, i a kupa mama mimba. Just open it to the society. Injuri kane. They're the family members? No. Wasiku je kuze me akonba uma na umke, dia akonashida. Laki ni kume, da ana akonashida. Ni musea akonashi. Na nandue even in the African communities. Kuki kuzeka na umto to in the family, wa tu ana raumu mama. It's the woman. Wan ana raumu mama, na te na unakuta mama, nashida. Na unakuta ata even, kama kunashida kwa mama ata even the, our customs. Uri kona ona akonba kuna mama, ri kua na uma na umke. Aki siya muna zema ire umto to ata tazariwa ata itwa wa. So it is there, it is even there i gari. Laki ni vizuri akonba kue na transparency. This close secret, i kama iyo mi mi ni kua mama. Uri amba iyo ni secriza. Ni ta mba iya the members of the family. Muto to enu dia akonashida. A kuna anji aku ficha. A kumida zema. Sementu ukue li. Ni nama amba iyo ukue li, muto to enu dia akonashi. A akonashida. Siya sa muziku dia kuni amba iya ni fa anya tesu mama. Kuni amba iya ni fa anya tesu mama. Kuni amba iya ni toke ii geni. Na ii desi no ta la wa bu. Laki that is the reason as to why we have adopted child A, child B, child C. So ni vizuri kua na iyo, kua na transparent. But how do you get to that transpire? Apon do. U ta fika aje, u fike pointe ni yuna sema. Bu anayangu ni hivi. Amma my child, it says. How do you get to that point where you feel like you can disclose a secret? Because kuna zene ni deep sana. Those deep things, the Bible says in the Book of Psalms 42 verse 7, deep course to the deep. At the voice of the Word of God. It is very, iyo ki punas geni very deep. Iyo apon do yo mambo iko. Na usi yogo pe. Ni a eka no tifi ya ni tan disclose ni sema iya kua mba ki janayenu ako A, B, C, D. Ni tan disclose ni sema iya kua mba musti janayenu ako A, B, C, D. Na sinja sema ii vo ii ni mutupe. No, no, no, no. U na jwe. Kama wa dwe desa kua disclose ni sere vizuri. In fact, i na ansa kua the strong point. U na kuta iyo family me kua abundant. Mume. Na jwe a sekere tizi kiwa zina weekend the family. Muki disclose iyo sere vizuri. U na disclose nasa sema iya kua mba mii ni di kua. Weta wu naza ma wuzai zita kutupa. Sasa si mume fanya iyo family iku e strong. Na wuna sema iya kua. Now, this is what I am going to do. Wish I ran off the town. And by the way, let me tell you. There are people that have adopted children. Awa na hope iya kupa tamto to. And at the end of it all, munga na fanya mungiza. U na kuta wame pa tamto. Ma na ii sere ii kiwa. Na kinio sere ii kiwa. Kondi cannot come through for those families. So, however pain if it might appear. Sometimes to disclose a secret. At the end of the day, disclosing a secret is 10 times better than considering a secret. Natta, I want to go back to even the way you mentioned. There's an example you gave. Yes. You find out someone killed someone. Or something very big labda lii ba manini. How can you uta ja ja ja ii ki tu ethically? U jue ataka ma mii ni ambe ii sere ii. I should go to the authorities. How can you judge situations u jue? Which should I tell people lama report or something that you can deal with it ethically? You can inquire. To say munga wano somebody ki yod. Natta arim munga siya wana. Can I say something, Sheree? Mungi wana namtu. To embrace as a marriage. Mungi wana namtu. U na piki their strength and their weakness. Because the Bible says two shall become one. Siri amba yua spouse ame feature ataka ma wuku kua hapo ita ku affect. Because God sees you as one. Now, if you know that this thing that this man is hiding is going to affect me, affect my children, affect my health, affect my society, extended a nuclear family, sasa yu siiri. Sini eri muka eti ni mutafutem bino. Rupo rawe. E i damutansi adu kua chief. Mungi wana muna yu saku fanya ikitu. E yu kitu na jua. When you become your heart, and your mind is psychologically prepared, I'll disclose this. E yu kitu muki ansa kui disclose na muna hio. U takuta munga me fugu ajiya. You can even go to lawyers. You can even go to a local chief. Muka eti mua miya nahi, nahi, nahi. Iri tender? How can you help me? And I know the authorities watakua na jia. Naraf gu toka apu. Enda. How can... It's like staying with a husband and buy a kuna budugi kuanyumba. Wakati ita gujiya gubati kana. Wee wee na eguta tende kaji. So it is better you carry because you are part of that crime. So it is better you disclose this thing all time. And I'm saying this, kuna kitu tumese ma shere yu. Data kudisclose the secrecy yora isi. Nga zima tukubariane apu. Kuna siri zingine kuzifunuwa. See yora isi. See yora isi. Because you have stayed maybe in a marriage 20 years, a hujapata umtoto kube, dere de botend. Nga yu kitu imekai kiwa sumbu. Nga unaona sasa effecti yaku, potends at 20 years. Unae saku indisclose evo yon dwa isi sasandane. Sasa lazima tujui akua, but disclosing a secrecy is not easy. So what we need to do is first of all, let's pray about it. Let's ask for the guidance and the leading by the spirit. Then from there, consult the right people. If it's a spiritual leader, go to him. If it's a government leader, go to him. Consult. Just do the right thing. Because at the end of the day, tuki fichia iso siri saku yora negative effect in our family. Laki ni tuki izi disclose. Tuki zi weka vizuri bayana. Sita reta uponyanji. Kama mama. Di kama mzea. Di kua mewa tena. Please don't hide it from your wife. Muambi ata kama. Ni hei di wende. Tu ru di ane after three years. Laki tu kua tu mewa unganini. That is stronghold. Maana imeji jenga in the realm of the spirit. So kuangu mimi naone a kuamba. Tu si fiche. Laki tu kua mbe wisdom ya? Discloser. Maana tuki kusa tena wisdom. Mi vene sewa nani katikati eni wana ekima. A ombemungu wa mbingu ni ampati e wi? Wisdom. So all we need is a wisdom to disclose some secret. Na kuna zingine mungu ata kua mbe ya don't. Na ata kuponyatu. And now naita gio disanme. You need to have that disanme. You need to have the disanning spirit. Tu jue ni si riga ni ampati a ku disclose. Na niga ni ampati a ku panjani ini. Kui fungu wa iwi wa tu ai jue. So ioda dosa a the effect abau ziko. To call the series ikonazo. Na na kuna ata wene uli sewa pia. Consult the right people. The right people being very curious. So naita kani ni seme. After we disclose this series. Labda trust ime wungika kidogo. How can you build this trust? And do you think when you mention spiritual leaders, maybe a therapist? Yes. Is it important to involve wa watu? Kui yu se seme ku an doa sasa? You are married ama with your children. Yes. Is it important to involve these people so that you can build back your trust in your mellus? Very good question. If you disclose a secret maybe to a spiritual leader. As a pastor, as a bishop, we have wisdom of how to begin to rebuild this family again. Because the purpose of disclosing this secret is not to break marriage. It's not to break fellowship. It's not to break a relationship. It is not to break fellowship. The purpose of disclosing this secret is to strengthen a fellowship or a marriage. Sasa wa watu kisha fumu asiri kuao wanae za kusai diya to build up again. Wanae za kusai diya spiritually. Kuku knowledge. Kuku ombaya. Kuku kusai diya in cancering. Kuku peana ata kama imen. As I do, you can even direct the samurai to go to a counselor. Ata kusai diya or now to build up. Again. Trust me. Nani imen o na ata watu na say ma trust cannot be built. It can. You can build it again. As long as you have a broken heart and you are prepared to forgive. Nani e kiki na fanyang ga shere yotu katae kuku kuku konini ni kiburi. Ni kiburi me kali ya watu. Muto nans kia. Uh uh. Ni siwesi kago wa goa. Siwesi kia enda shini ya. Mi na enda ni kie. Sasa yo kiburi na pokushika. U nans kia you are on top kia. You cannot go down. Even if you are keeping memories of most of the marriages. But if we can understand. Ya kuamba we should not keep atu pasiku eka grunge. When you disclose a secret. I'm not supposed to keep grunge. Ni na kuchuki ya na kia. Kuangari na say ma. U yu diya me fanyan ni te sekai yu. No. We are supposed to forgive and forgive. And even help that the person that has to disclose the secret. To build himself up again. So ni siwesi kuna pasu ya me funu asiri tumushike te. Tumushike na kuku. Because the Bible says we are our brothers. In a marriage we are our brothers. In a society we are our brothers. U kia na mutu eki yangu ka uta mua jiria. Tiwa jatua kanyangu. Na gari si niye murevi. I gari finauna ina kuja siya me kunya. Si fombe ni ya ke. Pesa ni ya ke. Si uta jari buku mua koa. We are our brothers. And I know that we can build up the marriage again. Laki ni tumeku baria na reo. Siri zifunu riwe. And lensiri mungua me kuambia usi to. Usi to. But disclose your secret. That is it. And I also want as we go to our comments. Na takat tarudi to address. Venye to neza saidee a watu. Wa kuna yu environment. Ya wana feel they can share. So let me go to the comments. Thank you so much. You have sent us some comments. Let me sample them. We have Tony Tosh on this is Facebook. Or I believe it's Facebook. We have Tony Tosh who says eventually they backfire and cause more harm than good. Yes Tony. We are in agreement on that. Kiddiga Danson says fantastic. Thank you so much for watching us. Kerry Trevor says following up quietly from Kiyanjokoma Emboa as Santisana. So now that has been our Facebook, the comments that you've sent us. Thank you so much for engaging with us. Na takat tumali zai conversation because time is not on our side. By wrapping up how you can create an environment and you don't feel neza open up. So you too briefly we can do it maybe in under a minute I believe. Here and then your final comments to our audience. And they're just about to start a family or they're already they've started a family. I'm our daughter when you're affected in a series. How can you advise them to cope with that? The Bible says in the book of Proverbs 20 that he that conceals a secret shall perish. That he that confesses is seen shall prosper. If took feature series. Lakin it's not for if you know. Not to know. The Bible says we shall prosper. We should be creating good environment. The Bible says love covers a multitude of sin. Lazzima to defundish it. Coupenda or two. I'm taking eyes off on you. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know yet. Siri. Mutu and ask you. I couldn't Dany. I couldn't open up Kerry. Nandi. Lakin it's not for sure. Coupenda or Kerry. So keep to the past. I'm creating an environment. That's the only thing. But the only thing that can cause people to confess their sin. I'll be forgiven. Because you're loving from your heart. I know you're not. Lakin it's not for if you know. I'm taking you to the past. I'm taking you to the past. I'm taking you to the past. I'm taking you to the past. I'm taking you to the past. I'm taking you to the past. I'm taking you to the past. So come and genuine love even for the society. For the members of our family. For the spouses. If there's genuine love. It's not for you. That's the only thing that can cause people to confess their sin. Because the Bible says love covers a multitude of sin. Not a single sin. When we're talking about a multitude. In the Bible says we should forgive 40 times, 70 times, 7 in a day. Thank you. And that is very, very good and precise as scientists and a bishop pointed out. And I hope you've gotten something from this conversation. We have dropped so many gems that Nahu'u put a pick up and go on with them. So I want to read our parting shot which will sum up our entire conversation for today. And this is by Tyler Perry who says forgiveness is important in families. Especially when there are so many secrets that need to be healed. For the most part every family has got them. And that sums up our conversation and it takes us back to what Bishop said as we were beginning. Every person has a secret. You have to understand who you should disclose to and when is the right time. Do not affect your future generations because you decided that one secret was too big for you to share with them. And that is it for today. I hope you have enjoyed our show. My name is Sheryl Blessing and this has been Power Talk. I repeat of this show will be there tomorrow. I believe it's from 1pm tomorrow. Yes it starts at 1pm tomorrow and goes till 2pm. In case you are unable to watch that you can find us on our YouTube page where we have other videos of our previous episodes as well. Thank you so much to the entire production team. Thank you for your time, taking your time to watch us and engage with us. We look forward to hosting you again. Same time next week. Bye bye.