 My brothers and sisters in the next ten minutes I would like to talk about the topic of marriage and divorce. ڈلاک meaning divorce We need to save ourselves from marital discord by choosing the spouse for the right reasons. It doesn't mean the most handsome person is who you should run after or the most pretty of the girls is the one whom you feel will be the best wife.eringاCommitment not necessarily you need to look for character for conduct tunes and for commitment to Allah if there is commitment to Allah سبحانو حالہ it is known as dean the religion the faith the inclinations to Allah and if there is character and conduct you will enjoy the person's company this is what you need so Allah سبحانو حالہ sayin not until he warn us and he speaks about divorce and he جانتے ہیں about the rights of men and women many people they come into the house and the man says I'm the boss here I'm the boss here so you do exactly as I say you're a woman you're supposed to be under me and I can tell you anything now come kiss my toes استغفر اللہ استغفر اللہ honestly there are people who do this there are people who say this but Allah says in verse number 228 فلورت البقرہ وَلَهُنَّ مِثلٌ لَّذِ عَلَيْهِنَّ بِلْمَ عُرُوفِ indeed for them meaning for the women are rights just like the men have rights you need to fulfill each other's rights some of them are interlinked some of them are the same some of them the man has more rights than women and some of them the woman has more rights than the man this is Allah's plan so Allah says fulfill each other's rights help each other remember that is your spouse make life easy for them not difficult and Allah سبحانہ و تعالى then speaks about the scenario where the marriage is broken down in the in the verses of Suratul بقرہ Allah سبحانہ و تعالى explains to us how divorce takes place you only ever issue one طلاق if you really have to divorce your wife or a woman you need to only issue one طلاق one a lot of people think oh just rattle out this word thrice and that's the way you divorce a person that's wrong that is actually a sinful way of doing things you need to know that it's wrong you only ever issue one طلاق and thereafter you are given approximately 3 months to reconcile if you wish and if you haven't then she can marry whom she wants and as it is your life continues but if you have reconciled within 3 months alhamdulillah you can take her back and you can live once again and then you issue a second طلاق if you do not get a well thereafter after the second one you only have the last meaning the third when the third happens you cannot get back to her so people say I've divorced my wife thrice I can't get back to her why well you tried once you tried a second time now the third time let someone else try سبحان اللہ perhaps they will get along with someone else the third time meaning once you divorced her you issued one طلاق and then you lived again you didn't get along everything broke down beyond repair another طلاق went through it broke down again beyond repair now a third time if she marries someone else perhaps they will be better qualities in that person and if without your planning or interference she happens to be divorced from the second person it only makes sense that she will now appreciate you the reason is she will realize this man had 20 weaknesses but the guy I went to after him had 200 weaknesses سبحان اللہ this man used to smoke 10 cigarettes that guy used to smoke 10 packets of cigarettes may Allah forgive us so then when she comes back she will appreciate it so this is one of the very important points that Allah raises ever when the period of ڈہ is being passed or is passing Allah سبحان اللہ تعالى warns us and Allah سبحان اللہ تعالى says you don't take back a woman in order to punish her some people said you know what I'm going to punish this woman I'm not going to divorce her I'm just going to keep her and let her hang let her do what she wants did you know that she actually get what is known as a فسخ she can get a nullification of that marriage she can she can actually do it without you do you know that if she has legitimate reason a lot of the women don't know this because we've kept them in the dark we don't want them to know this but they can actually get a nullification of that ڈیکار Allah says keep them in goodness on good terms or release them on good terms but don't hold them back in order to punish them as mentioned verse number 231 of them where Allah سبحان اللہ تعالى says وَلَا تُمْ سِکُونَ ضِرارَ اللی تَعْتَدُوا do not hold them back in order to harm them in order to punish them release them let them go let them go happily with a smile perhaps they will regret perhaps they will say you know this man was really a good man look he released me and I'm gone home سبحان اللہ he didn't harm me he didn't hurt me and he didn't hold me back to punish me so alhamdulillah it was something good however let's remember my brothers and sisters we save ourselves from the punishment of Allah when you hold back a woman knowing that you don't want her but you don't want to release her Allah will punish you at some stage in this world and the next may Allah not do that to us may we not do that to anyone then Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ says something interesting to the fathers of the girls we all have dreams we all have children may Allah bless those who don't have children with children but those of us who do when they grow older we all have a dream we want to get them married here we want to get them married there and so on but we don't realize sometimes they want to marry someone we didn't even expect so if they want to marry that person for as long as their dean is in order and their character is in order let them get married because this child is not yours it's actually Allah's child it's actually Allah's worshiper you are only a custodian for a period of time Allah can take that child away at any time you need to fulfill that examination question the answer needs to be correct what is the question will you let this amana of mine Allah is saying marry according to what I have dictated or do you want to add your own flavor and pepper whether it's a racial issue or any other issue tribal issue sometimes it's an issue of nationalities and so many other things all that we have made up it's not from Allah remember this so Allah warns us about this but what is more difficult is when your child is married and then she's divorced from that man and she wants to go back to him but you as a father or mother saying no way don't go back no way I'm not happy I will disown you I'm never going to talk to you again and the child is saying but dad I've got two children with this particular man and you know what I think it's okay I will manage I will cope no way we don't want over my dead body Sahaja I'm making dua Allah let this man die over his dead body Allah he said over his dead body we don't want that to happen my brothers and sisters listen to what Allah says Allah says verse number 232 of Surat Al Baqarah Allah says when the ida is over they are divorced do not stop them from getting married they are again to their spouses whom they were divorced from if they have agreed both of them are happy they want to get back together you don't block them imagine this is a verse of the Quran and some of us go against it openly clearly blatantly never don't ever go back and Allah is saying let them go back they know if they want to let them go I want to say one last point before I close let your child make a mistake rather than them becoming mad and depressed rather than your home breaking may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ bless us all insha Allah we will continue tomorrow until then