 So the outline for today, if we can go to the next slide, we're going to talk about very, as much as we can, three points. Because there are certain things when you look at the biographies of different people, you'll notice that there are obviously everything about their life, especially someone as significant as her. Everything is important, but there are certain parts of their story that stand out. And we can glean so many lessons from those aspects of their story. So we're going to just briefly touch upon her birth and marriage, which, of course, she, Marshala, we know who she is. But then we're going to really spend a lot of time talking about the controversy around her, and I'll be more specific. And then we'll go into the legacy that she left. So it is a bit information heavy, but this was the purpose, inshallah, that we all learn more from one another. So I hope you're ready to take some notes, and inshallah, learn. So bismillah, what that said, we'll go to the slide that says birth and marriage with the one. So yes, right here, bismillah. So these are just some biographical quick points that we should all know about her, her birth year. Her parents, of course, said Abu Bakr As-Siddiq and Umrahman, their Lohan, her siblings Asma and Abdu-Rahman and Abi Bakr. And then the date of her marriage. And that came, there's difference of opinion on exactly what year, but we know that she was the third wife of the Prophet As-Siddiq and that he saw a very significant and beautiful dream where she was wrapped in green silk, presented by the angel to the Prophet As-Siddiq, foreshadowing that she would be his wife or foretelling him that she would be his wife. And then she had beautiful nicknames that he had given her. One of them was Um Abdullah. That might confuse people because she didn't have children of her own, but she wanted to have a qunya as was the custom of the people. And so Abdullah was her nephew. It was the son of Asma. So that was her, one of her names. She was also addressed as Hamira, right? The red-faced one, Mashallah, because she would blush often so we know that she was fair skinned. And then a really other sweet nickname that the Prophet As-Siddiq gave her was Ayesh, right? So instead of Ayesha, he referred to you in that cute way as Ayesh. And there's Hadith if we go to the next slide where the Prophet As-Siddiq once told her that Jibril A.S. was giving her salam, but he called her by this specific nickname and it's in the Hadith. So it's really significant. I mean, we can tell obviously their relationship and when you read about their relationship, it was one of love, of great harmony and beauty. Their rapport with each other was so sweet and tender. And she, in her Hadith, because most of the Hadith that we have about their relationship come from her, you can just tell this was an absolutely a love marriage, but it's also revealed in these exchanges that they had with each other. And there's so much, as I said, content and so much about her marriage and her relationship with the Prophet As-Siddiq and I think all of us can independently study those stories and those moments of their life together. But I would like to now just highlight some Hadith where the Prophet As-Siddiq again is reminding us of his love for her so that we know who she is. And we realize how significant she is here. The Prophet As-Siddiq says that the superiority of Aisha over other women is like the superiority of Thadad to other meals. Thadad was a meal that was very beloved to the Arabs. So he was basically saying that that's how great she is. Just as that meal, everybody craves and wants, that's how she is, that's one Hadith. Again, many, many, but here's another one where Amir ibn al-As actually asked the Prophet As-Siddiq who his beloved was and he first says her. So that is really significant of all the people, all the great Sahaba. Every single person in the Prophet As-Siddiq's orbit, he is talking about her, that she is the most beloved to him. And then he was, a lot of the Sahaba when they would ask these questions of the Prophet As-Siddiq because he had the power of making everyone feel loved. That was one of his many, many virtues is that if you were in his company, you felt like you were the most important person to him. So there are really many Hadith where some of the Sahaba would ask him because they were like, yes, I'm gonna be number one on the list. And there's another funny one, I don't remember who the Sahabi was, but the Prophet As-Siddiq kept naming all these other people and at a certain point he was like, okay, I'm done because he wasn't on the list. But of course, you know, Masha'Allah, he was, it just, he wasn't where he thought he was, but that speaks to the power of being able to really hold space with people with that type of emotional intelligence that they feel loved by you, even if your heart is divided in other areas that we learn from the Prophet As-Siddiq that everybody should be treated with that level of respect and significance and validation and care that when they walk away from you, that they feel really loved by you, right? And that was one of his many, many virtues. But then he proceeded and he asked who from the men and the Prophet As-Siddiq said her father, Abu Bakr As-Siddiq. So again, we can see her lineage, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. He, we know that he was the most beloved of the companions to the Prophet As-Siddiq and his daughter was the most beloved person to him, Subhanallah. So now, and this is really what I wanted to focus the talk on because it's such a significant story and it's so powerful. Honestly, if you read this story and you hear, we have many great scholars. I know Shehomar, so they might just recently did a, I think a three or four part series on her biography. We have Shehomza, masha'Allah, has the first time I ever heard her story was from him many years ago. It was incredible. It completely moved my heart. And then, Sheh-e-As-Siddiq, so many of our scholars have spent a great deal of time unpacking this story because of the powerful lessons that apply to all of us. And so there's significance to why some of the great people of our, of the world have been tested in such hard ways, which we'll get into. But if you're not familiar with this, this is called Hadith al-Ithq, which is the scandal or the controversy. And so let's, let's explore what this is. And we go to the next slide. So the Prophet's eye said that whenever he would travel, he would draw lots so that, you know, he would choose from the lots, who of his wives he would take with them. And if it was an expedition, like a military expedition, he would only take them because obviously for safeguarding reasons, if he knew that this was gonna be a victorious expedition. So he had known, they had the, if you know the backstory of this particular one, which is Bani al-Mustallab, sorry. If you know the backstory of it, the way that it planned out, there was signs that the Muslims were gonna be victorious, the way that it all happened. So that's why he was willing to take her, but she basically, her name came up. And at that time, the verse of Hijab was revealed. So the wives of the Prophet, they, the Hijab verses apply to the general masses about the way that we present ourselves. And we know that the women of that time, they all veiled, but they didn't draw their khimar over their chests, which is what the verses were teaching that they would take their veiling to the next level and actually cover all of their aura. But when it came to the wives of the Prophet, so I said, it actually was more than that. It was that they had to be in a barrier. So when they would travel, they would have these little mini tents called Khoudaj that were placed upon the camel and the wives were hidden in those. And that's how they traveled. And they were protected and guarded. So she was placed there and she went along with it. And the expedition, Alhamdulillah, was successful. The Muslims were victorious. So now they're on their way back. And a lot of this, by the way, expedition was also very unique because it was the one with the most Munafiqeen were with the companions. So there was a very mixed bag of people there, let's just say. And there were a lot of controversies that happened during this particular Ghazwa. But so the Sahaba were tired. They were exhausted. There were certain events that had unfolded. So some of them wanted to go back to Medina. This was kind of the outskirts of Medina. So they wanted to go back. And so what happened was they were told to camp overnight near where the battle had taken place outside of Medina just to get some rest. And then at that time, said Aisha, she was camping when she went to go relieve herself. And when she came back, she went to go touch her chest and she felt that her necklace was missing. And this was a very significant necklace. It was something that her mother had given to her. Some of the hadiths say that it was made from a Yemeni bead that was black and white, it referred to as Zafar. And others say that it was made of onyx. So this was not gold. It was not something that we would say was of value per se. But it was valuable to her because who gifted it to her. So she went into panic mode, right? Like this is such an important necklace. So she, Subhanallah, I need you to just imagine she's a teenager. She's very innocent. She goes out wondering, where did I leave this? She goes so far for so long trying to trace her steps, look for where this necklace is, that by the time that all that was going on, because some of the Sahaba were getting tired, they were, the Prophet's son then had proceeded to tell them to pick up and go. So they were able to pack it all up and actually head back towards Medina while she's still looking for her necklace. So she comes back, shocked that there's nobody there. And what does she do? So again, in her innocence, she thinks, well, they'll probably notice that I'm gone. And if I just stay put, they'll come back and get me. So she decides to stay put, and then Subhanallah, fatigue overcomes her so she falls asleep. And she's sleeping. And at that point, she's not, she didn't have her face covered. She's by herself. So she's just resting. And all of a sudden, there was another Sahabi, Safwan Ibn Mu'atal As-Sulami. He missed the call that everybody was gonna pack up and go again. He fell asleep during that time. So he wakes up and he's like, oh, I guess they all proceeded forth. So he decides to get going when he comes across a figure lying. And because he had seen her before the verse of Hijab was revealed, he immediately knew who she was. And the only word he said was was La hawla wa la quwwata illa billah, okay? He felt the gravity of the situation. And he said this in that moment to such a degree that it woke her up. And remember, if you read the actual hadith of Sahih al-Bukhari al-Muslim, I said to Aisha, 50 years or so after this incident is recalling everything with incredible detail. So she is the one narrating this hadith. And she says that, wallahi by wallahi didn't say a word to me other than that. He didn't even look at me. All he did was he lowered his camel, turned around so that I could get on it. And then he walked and took, they didn't exchange words. There was nothing said. And he took her safely. Now, what happened was, if we go to the next slide, they caught up to the army that had preceded them. Now, remember, this is kind of like a caravan. So you wanna imagine this visualizes the caravan of camels and a lot of people walking at the back end of this caravan is who? Other than the hypocrites, they call him the snake head of the hypocrites, Abdullah bin Ubey ibn Salud. Now, he sees these two together. And I want you to again think of this. He's a hypocrite, he does not believe. He sees an opportunity. And he decides this is fishy. The wife of the messenger of Allah or who thinks he is, because remember, he's a hypocrite, he doesn't believe, is with another strange man and they're all the way behind the rest of the caravan. So he decides in that moment to, I mean, the rumor, begins to spread, but it comes from him. Now, the question is, why would he do that? He's a hypocrite, so we can assume certain things, but there's actually an entire backstory. And I wanted to really give you the full context of what we're dealing with here, because they hit, they went so low in trying to take down the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and the Muslims that they were willing to cast aspersions and start all these rumors about the wife of the messenger of Allah. But why? So the backstory is really interesting. The, just before this incident, during Bani al-Mustallar, the Ghazwa, there was another major incident that happened, which is Surah al-Munafiqun was revealed. And Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala, in the surah of the first two verses, actually paraphrases the very words that were said by Abdullah bin Salul, no, Ubay, Abdullah bin Ubay. So the verses are right there. So these verses are actually paraphrasing words that he said. Now, what's that backstory? Like why, you know, to be in the Quran mentioned as a hypocrite revealed in this way for everybody and everybody knew that this was about him. So he is angry, he is fuming, he is enraged that the surah was about him and people are speaking about him in this way. So that's why when he sees the situation, he's like, hmm, you know, he gets all these ideas. But why was the surah revealed? So this is another part of the story. So during the Ghazwa, two young men, one from the Ansar and one from the Muhajirin were sent to go get water. When they went to go get water, they started having a scuffle, a fight that actually got really physical and they ended up beating each other up. But in the course of them fighting with each other, they called who their tribes. So they called the Ansar and the Muhajirin to come and defend them. So both of these groups are now at odds with each other. Remember, I mentioned that this Ghazwa had more muna fiqhun than any other. So they were there and they don't, you know, they're not looking to try to build bridges and bond. They wanted this type of fighting and tribalism to happen. So they take their sides and they start warring with each other, fighting, ready to fight, drawing their weapons and the process of them, of course, years of this and he comes out and he is upset and he actually tells them how, has the days of Jahariah come and you're back there and he gets so upset that he actually tells them, he says this is ignorance and filthy. He refers to what they're doing is filthy and the word he uses is munthiha. And he says, you know, stop this. And that was it. There was no inquiry. There was no, let's, you know, like hash it out. It was this is wrong. Stop it right now. And that's it. And as soon as that happened, Abdullah bin Ube, because he was the head of the muna fiqhun and he saw this as an opportunity to cause more division, he's angry at how it was handled. It wasn't satisfying enough. He wanted to fight. He wanted there to be all of this animosity in the heart. So he goes back to his tent, gather some of his little henchmen with him and he's speaking to them really angrily. Like, this is all your fault. If you hadn't welcomed these, you know, Mohajirin opened your homes to them, given them food and supported them, we wouldn't have all these problems. You did this. So he's really angry, but he doesn't realize that someone sitting in his company named who Zaid ibn Arqam, if we can go to the next slide. So Zaid ibn Arqam was there and he's a believer. So he's sitting there listening going, what is this man talking about? He's completely inciting all of these people against the Muslims, against the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He's speaking really in low terms. So he's very upset and he feels compelled to go to report to his uncle. His uncle then takes him to the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. The Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is calls of the ibn Ubaid. Like, is this true? Are you in a tent inciting brothers against one another and against the Muslims? And of course, he's a hypocrite. So what does he do? No, not of course not. Me? I would never complete denial. Now, the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam accepted his testimony in that moment. And he has obviously a khikmah. We don't know, we can't access that or we don't have that level of understanding. But he knew what he was doing. So he accepted it. Zaid, unfortunately, because he thinks like, oh my God, the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is accepting his testimony over mine. His heart is shattered. And he says, it was the worst day of my life. Like the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam doesn't believe me and he believes him. But he doesn't understand that the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam knows, right? He knows things. The next morning, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala vindicated who? Zaid, because Surat al-Munafiqqun was revealed. So now, Zaid says, and it's a really beautiful part of the story. I don't think I have it in the slides, but in the hadith it says that Zaid said the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam took him by the ear, you know? And he comforted him and told him that he was vindicated by the surah being revealed. So he said that it was like the best day of his life, you know, subhanallah, Allah knows. But now back to the story. So that's why Abdullah bin Ubaay was so angry. He wanted to get revenge and he saw a perfect opportunity. I'm angry, I'm humiliated. Everybody thinks I'm a hypocrite. He was, but he didn't like that being revealed. Now I have an opportunity to take down because if I can get everybody to doubt the wife of this man, then it all falls apart. So he had this whole plot and he decides to spread these rumors. Now, I said, I said to Allah, independent of all of this that's going on, she became ill. She became very ill, poor thing. She was like so sick, fever, everything. For one month, she's sick and all of this controversy is spreading. It's spreading to the hypocrites, obviously, they love it. It's spreading to even some of the believers who are kind of like, they don't know what to do with this information because it's so compelling. Maybe there's truth to it. Maybe there's not. They love the Prophet's lesson. They don't know what to do. So there's all this division happening. She has no idea because she's bedridden, sick, completely out of it. And then one day, she also though she's picking up on certain things. One of the things she's picking up on is that the Prophet's lesson isn't as warm to her as he usually was when he would come to check on her. He was always very loving, but now he's a little emotionally removed. So she's beginning to think something's wrong. She doesn't know what. There's no idea these rumors are being spread. And so she's just kind of picking up things. But the next thing, event that happens is they had to at that time, they didn't have places to relieve themselves close. They would go far to do that. So she ended up going with her second cousin, the cousin of her father, Abubakar Siddik named Umistat. So they basically go to use the restroom and on their way back, she trips over, Umistat trips over her skirt. So when she trips over her skirt in her state, she just says, curse my son. A mother saying that about her son. So I just like has no idea what's going on. And she says, why would you say that about your son? How could you say that about him? Again, not knowing why Umistat, why would her mother say this? Umistat was one of the people unfortunately embroiled in the gossip. He was embroiled in it. So she says to I, chef, we go to the next slide. My dear child, don't you know what is going on? Don't you know what is being said? She's completely like, she doesn't know that she doesn't know. And now she has to tell her. So when she told her, some of the reports say that she was so grief stricken and horrified, mortified, that she actually fainted, right? Cause to imagine you're a pure woman and then these horrible rumors are being spread around you and she's also young. We have to keep in mind she's a teenager, right? So she's very mature for her age, but she's, she doesn't have all this life experience with these things. So for her, it's like, you know, she can't believe it. She's in shock and she actually faints. And then she returns home and she's in such a state of shock. She doesn't want to, you know, reveal her state of shock to the Prophet's life. But she wants to investigate. She needs to know what is being said and how is this true? Like, is this true? So she asked the Prophet's life, I said, can I go to my parents? Can I stay with them? He says, yes. So he lets her go. She goes and she asks her mother, like, is this true? What are these rumors? And her mother confirms them, but she tries to console her. It's just not good enough for Sayed Aisha. She's so heartbroken. She cannot believe again that these things are being said about her. So she goes and she basically, she says, these are her words. If we go to the next slide, she says, I cried and I cried until the morning came and my tears would not stop. And I did not taste the sweetness of sleep. She spent that whole night crying, not sleeping for even a moment because this is her life. This is her, her, you know, name, her reputation, everything, she can't believe it. Now, who are the people that are involved in this rumor mongering that's going on? We've talked about Abdullah Ibn Ubaibi. He had other people, Mista, which was her second cousin. There's also Hamana bin Jahesh. Now, this is interesting too. Zaynab bin Jahesh was the prophesied son's wife as well. So Hamana is her sister. And of all of the wives of the prophesied son, Zaynab was the closest in terms of rivalry. She was young, she was beautiful. She had, you know, there was some competition basically there between her and Zaid Aisha. And Hamana thinking that she's, you know, looking out for her sister decides to add fuel to this fire, you know, for her own motives, unfortunately. And then Hassan Ibn Thabit. Now, there are others that were also, so those are the people who were embroiled in the gossip. There were others who defended when they heard about this, they were like, no way. Osama bin Zaid was one of them. The prophesied son actually asked him if he has saw anything ever suspicious. He was like, absolutely not. You know, this was the son of Zaid. And then Ali Adilohan said, Ali Adilohan. He's kind of has a very vague answer. Because again, we have to keep in mind when you don't know all the answers, you know, some people rely on their convictions. Other people rely on, you know, being neutral. So he was kind of neutral and he was more interested in seeking to protect the prophesied son. So he just says to the prophesied son, why don't you ask Barira, you know, who was, she was actually freed by Zaid Aisha. She was a slave, she was freed by her. But she opted because she loved Zaid Aisha so much she wanted to be her maid servant. So she still served her in that way as a free woman. But she loved her and she said, absolutely not. So she completely confessed her innocence. She said, the only thing I've ever seen her do is she would fall asleep when she was needing dough and then the goats would come and eat the dough. That's all I can complain about her. But nothing else that would be this, you know, to say indicate her character had any flaw but that's what they came to her defense. And Zaid Aisha of course, you know, is hearing all of these things, but the pain is so overwhelming to her that she just continued to cry. She became actually more violently sick after this rumor was shared with her. She was already sick for a month, but now she became violently sick. And she said, I continued to cry that day and my tears would not stop until I thought my liver would burst open. Subhanallah. And also, I mean, this is a really beautiful point and I brought it up just because I think it's a really great model of how we share space with people who are going through things that we cannot understand. One of the women of the onslaught just came asked permission to enter and all she did was sit and cry with her. So sometimes that's what people need. They don't need lessons and lectures and advice given to them when they're falling apart. They just need you to tell them, I am so sorry that you're going through this. I wanna take your pain, I wanna share your pain and that's empathy, that is empathy. So it's really beautiful. But some of the, again, reports say that she became, it's just to imagine this happening to her is really difficult. She became so sick, her hair fell out. So during this time, you know, the Prophet said, again, he has to maintain his place as the messenger of Allah, there are a lot of repercussions to a situation like this. He cannot bypass his role as the messenger of Allah and then just tend to his own heart. It's a huge inner conflict happening, right? He knows who she is, he loves her, he can't handle that these things are being said about her. But at the same time, there's just too many ramifications that he has to think about. So he starts to, again, he comes in the room with her at one point and he praises Allah, he says, this is all mentioned in the report from said Aisha. And then he begins to console her in a way that is very, again, neutral. He says, if you're innocent, you know, Allah will vindicate you, but if you've done anything wrong, make a call but he's trying to give her a nasiha and she's just like stunned because from her angle, you actually think this is true or maybe you think it's true? Her heart just cannot handle the idea that there would be even a little tiny Adam's weight of doubt in his heart that she just looks to her parents and it's like, because, you know, this is, she's with her parents at this point. Like, can you please answer him? She's asked her mother and they're just like, we have no idea what to say. This is the messenger of Allah. How can we possibly respond to him in the sense of like, you know, advocating against him in a way? That's what she was seeking, like, be my advocate. So her mother's like, I don't know what to say. And then she turns to her father. I don't know what to say. Both of them completely silenced by this situation. And at that point, she, in the narration, it's really beautiful. She's, again, so overwhelmed by emotions that she has, she's a half of that, you know, at a certain point she completed her hips and she had this sort of Yusuf memorized. She couldn't remember Tene Yaqub's name. So she called him Abu Yusuf and she said, then all I can do is say what Abu Yusuf said, right? Which is Fasbur, sorry. Fasbur jameelan wallahul musta'an alama tasbiqoon. So patience is most fitting and Allah is the one who sought help against that which you described. And, you know, she says later in the narration that she was memorizing, she knew it, but she just couldn't even think of Yaqub al-Azim's name. So she just called him Abu Yusuf just to show you her state. Like her mind is just all over the place because she can't believe that she has to say this but SubhanAllah, she had the most perfect response, right? And at that point, if you go to the next slide, she says, after saying this, I turned my face. So she actually was laying in bed because she's still sick. She says these words, her mother, her father and her husband are standing there, all of them watching this unfold, the scene unfold where she says these words and then turns her back to all of them. This was not an act of audabula, like we don't look at that and say, oh, that was disrespectful. No, audabula, never should we ever speak of our, you know, of our mother in this way. What she was doing was basically drawing a line that I need Allah and Allah only right now in this moment, right? That's all I just need my Lord. So that was her way of doing that by turning her heart away from them towards Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala. And these are her words. She says, I knew Allah would eventually reveal my chastity, honesty, perhaps maybe through a dream of the prophesies of them. She knew, she has full confidence that Allah is gonna vindicate her. But she said, I never in my wildest dream thought that Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala would reveal Quran to vindicate me. SubhanAllah, this is our Lord because she completely surrendered to him and called on him. You, this is you and me at this point. And right then and there. Remember when the prophecy said and received revelation, the signs were very obvious. This weight would overcome him. Beads of sweat would form on his forehead. You could tell what was happening if you were there with him. So in the moment, in that moment that she's just like, I have nobody but Allah, the revelation descends. And immediately the prophesies recites. There's two and a half pages of Surah An-Nur are to vindicate her from all of what was said about her. And he's overjoyed. Everybody's overjoyed. And her mother just says, thank the prophesies said him. And again, because she had her own relationship with her Lord and this was a huge proof of that. There was other proof obviously, but when her mother says to thank the prophesies said him, she says, no wallahi, I will not stand up for him or thank him. I will thank Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for revealing these verses for me. So she was again reiterating her conviction in her relationship with her Lord in this moment subhanallah. Again, the story is just so multi-layered, so powerful. I'm giving you the best summary that I could come up with, but the lessons that we learn from this, there are books written about this. If some of the scholars say there are over 80 or more specific lessons that you can get from this story. So I've just compiled a few just so that we understand again, how much this incident, although it seems so horrific on one hand, like, oh, why, sometimes we don't understand things. I was like, why did she have to endure that? But then on the other hand, when you see from a societal perspective, because we have to interact with each other as human beings, there are things that are events that are gonna happen throughout the world that need a way to process them or deal with them. And sometimes examples like this can apply to so many, right? So here we have from this story, fifth related to women, fifth related to dealing with non-mahram, adab between the spouses, between children and parents, adab of receiving news and information, adab of giving the siha, of investigating affairs, right? Cause there are things come up, there are steps to this, guarding the tongue against backbiting, the evils of suspicion, spying, curiosity, the process of repentance, the rights due to other Muslims and the significance of what really kawakal and surrender to Allah's product means. So this is, and much, much more, this is just again a short list, but I wanted to take a moment to highlight specific things on a practical level that I think all of us can take from this story. First and foremost, this is hadith, everybody should memorize. If you don't know it, please make it your goal to memorize it. Take out your phone, take a snapshot of the slide, feel free to do that for all the slides, but memorize this hadith and live by this hadith, inshallah you will have success. Min husni islam al-mar'i tarquh ma la ya'ani. Beautiful, super short, concise, powerful. Beautiful Islam entails minding one's own business. Imagine how much healthier our society and our world would be if everybody minded their own business, stayed in their own lane. When you hear about someone going through something, whether it's a marital issue or a problem with their children, don't inquire, it's not your business. You don't have the right to know people's private information and don't delude yourself to be like, oh, I'm concerned. If you're concerned, go to the prayer room. Go make da'a, go give sadaqa on their behalf, but you wanting to know the details, just speaks to you wanting to inject yourself in another person's life for whatever reason, but it's not our way. We mind our own business, very important. Another one. iyakum wal-zanna fa inna al-zanna akdab al-hadith. Another very important rule to live by, beware of suspicion, for it is the most deceitful of thoughts. Don't become a suspicious person. And we live in the age of social media where a lot of private information is shared or implied or somehow alluded to. And so sometimes you go down a rabbit's hole because you wanna know, ooh, someone went on a vacation. Whom I wonder where, right? Let me go down and check their Instagram stories and their posts and see if they've shared something. Why? Did you mind your own business? No. And now you're suspicious because you wanna know, ooh, who are with them? Where do they go? Let's just all a waste of your time, right? And this is how Shaitan uses our vulnerabilities against us. The next one. Aqataru khataya ibn Adam fi disani. The majority of man's sins emanate from his tongue. We know from this hadith and others that the two reasons why more people are in hellfire are because of what they do between their lips and with their private parts. That is a hadith. So we have to take our words seriously, right? What we say, how we say it, what we don't say, all of that can be applied. But in this case, sinfulness that emanates from the tongue, it's one of the inroads of the tongue. We have to be very, very watchful over that. And that's why I just spoke to, I teach sometimes I was with a group of students these past few days and we've been talking about preparation for Ramadan. And one of the advice I have for myself and for all of us, inshallah, is to really try to practice more silence. As much as you can, like really make it a goal. Like I'm just gonna try to take a vow of silence. Either the Buddhists and other people do this as a spiritual practice. But imagine if we did that because when you do that, you actually start to pay attention to your thoughts. And when you pay attention to your thoughts, then you'll be like, whoa, this is what I ended up thinking about all the time. What a waste of time. And inshallah, it'll change from there. This is another very powerful hadith. A person has done enough wrong in his life if he simply repeats everything he hears. We have to have a better system of vetting information. You know, again, just because someone says something, always ask, I mean, when it comes to religious knowledge, you should always ask for citations. That's why I'm that I'm my teacher and our teachers always taught us site your sources. Don't just speak from yourself. Sometimes people speak from themselves. And we live in an age of social media where there are a lot of people who presume to have knowledge and presume to be authorities on religion, literally speaking from their nuffs. There's no valid proofs that they use. They just have opinions to share. There are a lot of opinions that are shared and they're packaged as nasiha council. It's good advice. But if they don't cite their sources and they don't give credible explanation of what they're coming from, just know that it's from their nuffs. And then if you repeat that to other people, guess what you're doing? You're contributing to the spread of misinformation. So you want to be very careful to make sure that when people speak, who are their teachers? Where did they learn from? What are their citations? Like what sources are they learning from? All of this will help you. But in the broader scheme, just in general, don't just repeat things because you hear them. You know, be mindful. And then, La Yad Khulul Jannah Taqqatats, right? The tail bearer will not enter paradise. And the gossip monger will not enter paradise. Very important reminders for all of us. If we engage in these types of things, we are literally barring ourselves from paradise. So who would do that willingly and knowingly? Well, these warnings are given to us so that we catch ourselves and that we make better choices and decisions, right? And I have, sorry, I'm just gonna pull up something quickly on my notes here because related to this particular one, give me a moment. Let's do that. This is in this context. So it's mentioned one day that Abu Ayyub al-ansari's wife came home and said to him, this is actually related to the Hadith al-Ifq. Have you heard? And she did not even mention the slander, but Abu Ayyub became angry and said, how can we speak about such a thing? Glory be to you, our Lord. This is heinous slander. So because he's had this beautiful reaction, like how could we even think this and how could we spread this? There was no names mentioned, nothing, right? Allah revealed in Surah An-Nur, quoting Abu Ayyub al-ansari as a good example, even though he said this in the privacy of his house, Allah swt that actually repeated the same words that Abu Ayyub al-ansari said. He said, if only you had said upon hearing it, the slander, how can we speak about such a thing? Glory be to you, this is a heinous slander. So SubhanAllah, having that beautiful fitrha reaction when you see something ugly and wrong and restoring what is haqq, what is true, this virtuous act got Abu Ayyub al-ansari mentioned or in the tafsid in the Quran, Allahu Akbar. And this shows us all that just, and this is a really important point, this is why I wanted to share it. These are, by the way, the notes that Sheikh Yasir Qadi and his commentary on Hadith al-ifqah mentioned. So these are his observations, but I thought it was so powerful because I run into this a lot. This shows us that just because we're married to somebody, doesn't mean we will get away with Riba, right? Even between husband and wife, we're not allowed to do Riba in Namima. This is a real serious problem in our community. There are sisters, and this is why I caution sisters, please be very careful who you take as a confidant because I guarantee you, if you have a sister who doesn't understand this, her husband knows all your business. Because there are some women, that's what they do. They get in the car, oh my God, I can't believe what Sosa told me. And you're like, what? You're sharing other people's private marital or familial problems when they came in to confide in you with your husband. Why? Because he gets a pass card, like he gets a card that just says, sure, whatever I know, he knows. Audubillah. Al-Majaras, Al-Amanah, if someone is speaking to you privately, and by the way, our teacher taught us, and we have Mashallah Sadafadwa here and others who know this, they would actually demonstrate. So they would show us. For example, if you're speaking to someone, and I'll show you, this is Sheikh Hamza, he said, if you're speaking to someone in a private conversation, Mr. Sadafad, maybe we can model this for our audience here. You're speaking, and the person does this, right? What are they telling you? It's private. That immediately makes that conversation an amana, and you cannot say a single thing. They don't have to give you a disclaimer that please don't share this with anybody. It's implied by Isharah. The Isharah is, I am looking out to see if there's an eavesdropper nearby. If that doesn't tell you this is private, you need someone to actually have a contract with you, like non-disclosure reform, give me a break. We're Muslim, we should fear Allah. So this applies to your spouses as well. Please, we have to remember this, and also tell our husbands the same. If we go to the next slide, just a minute, again, there's so much to say about Sayda Aisha and the lessons. There's so many lessons, but let's just quickly look at her legacy. Inshallah. Oh, just like, okay. How much time is that? 10 more minutes, okay. 10 more minutes, bismillah. Okay, so if we go to the slide that says legacy, just so that we understand, again, who she is, ya Allah. She's of course the daughter of Sayda Abu Bakr, a Sidiq, and Umrahman, radiAllahu anhu maa. She was born and raised in a Muslim home, visited often by the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So before their marriage, the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was always, it's Abu Bakr, his best friend. So she was in his orbit and she came, she was all, her parents were already Muslim when she was born. So she never had, like many of the other sahaba period where there was, you know, they were in Jahliyah, never had that. The Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam dreamt of her, right? Wrapped in a green silk, which we mentioned. She was the only wife who was never married before. The Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam received revelation directly about her, right? And then he also passed away, Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, in her house, in her arms. Subhanallah, so beautiful. She was a Hafidah of Quran. She narrated 2,210 hadith. She was a public speaker, a teacher, jurist, et cetera, and political consultant and military strategist for the Khurafa. She went on to live to 64 years old and her brilliant memory is, to this day, there's still people who, when they learn of her, whether they're Muslim or otherwise, they're shocked at what she was able to produce. And that's, you know, one of the great wisdoms of her marriage to the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And we go to the next slide. These are quotes about her. Azubaydi said that if we compared Aisha's knowledge to all women, all women, that means all of us, and everybody else, in existence, Aisha would surpass them. That's how brilliant she was, subhanallah. And then this is another beautiful quote. I have never seen anyone who could have knowledge of an ayah, an obligatory act, a Sunnah act, poetry, history, lineage, judgment, or medicine, better than Aisha, I want to ask her, okay, like he understood a lot of the religious stuff, but he was puzzled by medicine, like medicine too? Is there any subject that you haven't mastered? How did you learn it? And she answered, when I was sick, the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would prescribe treatments for me, as he did when the people became ill. I also learned from the people prescribing the treatment to each other. So she was always a learner. And this is also another really important part of her life that all of us can, she was a lifelong learner. She didn't just stop learning. Sometimes we think, oh, I'm not a student anymore because I'm a mom, as if you've changed, you know, direction, and now you don't need to learn. This is obviously wrong. We should all be in the pursuit of knowledge until we take our last breath. And actually just, it occurred to me right now, I was recently at a talk with Sheikh Yahya Rodas, and he shared a beautiful story. I think it was Abul Dar, who said that, he said that, it's a quote from, he said that if I was being, like if he was to be executed, and you know, with a sword over his neck. And he said, between the time that the sword was lifted and brought down to my neck, if I had the opportunity within those seconds to teach something from the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, I would do it. I was just blown away by that. Like how incredible were these people that were in the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam's company. They loved Islam, and they loved to teach Islam. So we take these lessons, but she was a lifelong learner. And I'm going to leave you before I hear the Ikhama with something that, again, Allah, if you know me, if you follow me on Facebook, especially when I used to write long form posts, you may recall one of my genres was, well I did the Trader Joe's ones, I don't know if you guys know those, those are popular. And then I did another one with the hashtag no coincidences, because I don't believe there's ever coincidences. So I'm preparing for this talk over the past few weeks, and one of my dearest friends, she randomly at Fajr sends me a picture, and I'm like, what's this? Just like two days ago, and I look and I just was like, Allahu Akbar, wow, wow, wow. And I just was like, I knew this was from Allah. So I wanted to share this with you because this, the next, the very last slide here, this comes from Sheikh Mohammed Sayyid Ramadan Al-Buti, said that when he read how much the Orientalists, writers, and the enemies of the religion were attacking our mother, Sayyida Aisha, he decided to write a book in her defense, which spoke about her blessed life. Now his daughter was living in Riyadh at the time, and she had no idea about the book that her father was offering. No idea. She tearfully rang the Sheikh one day and said, last night, I saw a dream that a lady walked into my room and said, I am the mother of the believers, Aisha. And I have come because I want to thank your father for the book he has authored in my defense. The Sheikh would burst out into tears when narrating the story. May Allah continue to honor and raise our noble mother, Lady Aisha, that is Allah Anha, even in the Barzakh, she's behind the barrier. She didn't go to the author, she went to his daughter. Allahu Akbar, these are real experiences, these are real things that happen. And it's just as a testimony of her greatness, SubhanAllah, so we should love her, we should try our best to emulate her in every way, which is a tall order, but we should absolutely know her. And I pray that Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala, inshallah increases our love for her and that we get all the opportunity to meet her and to kiss her hands and to thank her. Jazakum Allah Wa Khairan Wa Salaamu Alaikum Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu.