 Rylan Adams and Shane Dawson just had to kick out Rylan's little sister Morgan. And this is something that we can all learn from when we talk about boundaries. And it's also about growing up. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul, where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, my channel is all about helping you to improve your mental health. So what I like to do is take certain things happening on YouTube or in pop culture and try to teach you what you can take from these things and try to improve your mental health. So if you're into that kind of stuff, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. So I subscribe to Shane. I don't subscribe to Rylan, but I got the video recommended to me on YouTube about Rylan kicking Morgan out and like Shane Dawson. I don't know about Rylan, but Shane Dawson is really good at click bait. And like it's just something you got to do as part of this YouTube game I talk about. So when I saw Rylan's title, Rylan's title, I'm like, did he really do it? You know? And you know, my girlfriend sent it to me, so I'm like, okay, maybe I'll watch this. Maybe this is going to have a good topic, like maybe about setting boundaries and things like that. And it actually was very good. So like part of this is growing up. Okay. And before I get started, by the way, this isn't sponsored, but I want to recommend this book. It's called Unf***** Your Adulting by Dr. Faith Harper, okay? She is an amazing, amazing woman. She has a PhD. She does amazing things when it comes to mental health. She's a great author, and this is a new book that's coming out, I believe this month. But since I signed up on the Kickstarter, I got an advanced copy. And next week I'm actually going to dedicate videos to this book to try to get the word out. Like if you are trying to improve your mental health and you have, you know, I don't know, maybe a vulgar sense of humor, like she cusses a lot. She makes things very relatable and like she has so much wisdom and knowledge. It's amazing. So like if you like to improve your mental health without going to therapy or going to a doctor or you don't want somebody talking to you like all professional and stuff, like you've got to get some of the books by Dr. Faith Harper. I'm actually going to link up in the info card above. I did a book review of her other book called Your Brain, and that was amazing, too. If you struggle with depression, anxiety, PTSD, anything like that, you got to check that book out. But anyways, again, this isn't sponsored. Like I just, I am so passionate about the work that Dr. Faith Harper does. Like she should be a bestseller. Like everybody needs to read her books. Like she speaks to me personally and my personality, and I think that's why I love it so much. Because a lot of you enjoy my personality, maybe. So if you like my personality, then you'll definitely like hers because she is way better and more knowledgeable than I am. And after I do some stuff with her books and reviews, she's going to come over and do an interview and we're going to talk about stuff. But anyways, this book is about how you grow up, okay? Maybe I'll send Morgan a copy. I don't know. Anyways, so to start this video, just kind of a little review of it. Like, I was so annoyed at the beginning of the video because Ryland is filming and I'm telling Morgan that she's got to leave. Right? And like at first I'm like, really? Do you got to film this? But as somebody who takes examples like this and tries to teach other people about mental health, I'm glad that they did. Right? But anyways, the reason why I was annoyed was because like Shane and Shane was goofing off the whole time. And then like you hear Andrew with his, you know, epic laugh in the background holding the camera. No, I'm serious though, because I know that we had always talked, Shane, get over here. You wish. And like Ryland is trying to have a serious conversation. Everybody's like joking around and Morgan's kind of joking. And I was texting my girlfriend. I'm like, if that was me, I would be so annoyed. I would lose it. I would lose it because this is already an awkward conversation that you have to have with somebody. Like that's his sister. That's the one he invited into his home. And like now you guys say, yo, you got to leave. Like that's an awkward conversation and everybody around like goofing off. That would drive me nuts. But anyways, like that was just a small part of the video. Then it gets more serious and stuff. Ryland and Shane actually talked about it. So basically they wanted to help Morgan get on her feet and have her move out to Los Angeles and stuff. But here's the first tip. OK, if you're ever going to have somebody move in with you, create a timeframe, OK, like say, OK, you can move in for this amount of time. For example, one of my best friends in the world, Nikki, some stuff happened with her roommate and her apartment. She needed a place to stay. I'm like, yeah, sure. You can move in with me. I have an extra bedroom. I was like, but this is for, you know, I think I said like three months. I said three months, then you've got to find your own place. Like I am somebody who just doesn't like roommates, you know? And even though Nikki is one of my best friends in the world, I just don't like roommates. So I put a three month guideline on it, right? Well, as she stayed with me, she was the best roommate I ever had. Like I loved living with her. She she stayed out of my way. I stayed out of hers. But when we wanted to talk and hang out, we could. Like it was a very good, good roommate situation. So she ended up staying longer. But like if you are having a friend or family member move in with you, like you should set this up in advance. So that way the conversation isn't as awkward later because like Morgan took it very cool, right? And she she makes money. She has an income. But I imagine, you know, a lot of people like you let somebody come in and if it's somebody like Morgan, they're not going to get off their butt and go do something, right? So it's important to kind of set that guideline because if you're somebody like me who has anxiety, like you don't want to wait and wait and wait. And then next thing you know, they're there for a year because you're too afraid to have this conversation. But one of the reasons that Rylan wanted to do this was because he knows that Morgan won't do it on her own. So Rylan, I don't call this enabling. OK, like Rylan knows this about her. So he has to kind of shove her along. But you know, in this brother sister relationship, he's actually very, very kind and compassionate and loving. He seems like a good, good big brother. But yeah, Morgan kind of knows that about herself. She's self aware and things like that. So during this process, like Shane, actually he's a very smart guy. And there's so many of you out there who are watching this and you you are younger than me and like a huge thing. And one of the reasons I'm going to review this book, there's a lot of things about growing up and being an adult that like people don't teach us like they don't teach this stuff in school. You know what I mean? Like Morgan jokingly says, like I don't even know what Elise is, you know, and maybe she's serious. I don't know. But like there's so many things that we're not taught. You know what I mean? So anyway, Shane's idea was like you guys should document this process because one of the concerns that Rylan has is that Morgan's going to isolate. She's going to be depressed. She's not going to do anything and stuff like that. And Shane's like you should go out and like do stuff with her and you know, help her meet new people and stuff like and like that's phenomenal. And I would love to see that documented because I know for a fact it can help people. I know there's a lot of people who are socially awkward and don't like to meet new people and stuff. But it's stuff that you've got to do to improve your mental health or keep a good level of mental health. You know what I mean? And like Morgan's in a better situation than Rylan was when Rylan moved out there because he didn't know anybody and he had to force himself. By the way, take some tips and pointers from Rylan. Like he knew certain things about himself. He was very self aware. So he forced himself into uncomfortable situations. Like he said, he took like an acting class and some other things to force himself to meet people. I know it's uncomfortable. I know it's awkward. Like we're not five anymore. It's weird going up to somebody and be like, can you be my friend? But like that's not how it is. And like maybe I need to make videos about how you make adult friends. But yeah, it's very socially awkward. So it's good that Morgan has Rylan there and they can go do stuff together and Morgan can start meeting some other people. And Morgan, like a lot of other people in the world, she definitely has self confidence issues. And Shane even points out that he loves her. He thinks that she's funny and things like that. And one of the ways that you combat that is by getting proof. And when Morgan starts to go out there and meet people who actually like her and enjoy her company, that's going to help. Now the whole living situation, basically what's going to happen is Shane rented out an office with Garrett months and months and months ago. They were going to do all this new content and they pretty much did nothing with it. I think he might still film conspiracy theory videos there when he doesn't. He hasn't done one in a while. But basically that office is vacant. So Morgan is going to move there. She's going to pay Shane rent. So now how does this affect you? What can you do in your life? So my suggestion is, because especially when it's friends and family, like, yeah, you want to make it cheap for them, but you also want to make sure that you're not enabling them. Because part of this whole thing of making Morgan move out is to help her grow up. So she's going to have to be responsible. And there needs to be. Here's the recommendation I have. They should have a contract in place. So when I got sober six years ago, I was in a sober living house and then I moved in with my mom. My mom had me sign a contract of things that I would do in order to live there, right? So that way I couldn't really argue if I screwed up and my mom's like, yo, you're going to be on the streets. You know what I mean? So like, I would just, you know, hope because they're trying to help Morgan grow up and become an adult, like they have some strict guidelines. Like Morgan needs to pay on this day of the month. Don't be short, dah, dah, dah, dah. You know what I mean? Like a real landlord would be. If not, she's still going to be getting coddled and not fully grow up. That's one of the reasons why you see adults who are basically grown children because they've had people kind of helping them far too long. And I made a video the other day about like the shame to enable people and things like that. But like, I don't know, we'll see what this situation and maybe we won't know all of the details. But like I said, I think it'll be really interesting and cool if they document her just trying to grow up. Like that is awesome. That's why YouTube is for to document this type of stuff. Cause I know it helps people, like even though I make these videos to try to teach you how to pull things from the entertainment you're watching, I know a lot of people already do that naturally. So I'll be keeping an eye on it. I might do some follow-ups, but like the boundary thing is really, really important. Like if any of you are parents out there, like at some point you're gonna have to kick your kid out. You know what I mean? You're gonna have to have awkward conversations. Like having awkward conversations is part of being an adult. And I'm sorry to say that, but the best thing you could do for your mental health is to learn how to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. Like that's huge. You've got to have these conversations. You know what I mean? But anyways, let me know down in the comments below like how do you act during awkward conversations? Or what's an experience you had with an awkward conversation about setting a boundary? Maybe with a friend or a family member or something like that. Maybe you had to kick a roommate out, whatever it is. Let's all share our experiences down below. I definitely, I have a million of them myself. All right? But anyways, that's all I got for you for now. So if you liked this video, please give it a thumbs up. And again, if you're new here, I'm all about helping you out with your mental health. Make sure you subscribe, ring that notification bell. And I wanna send a huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on Patreon. You are all amazing. And if you wanna get yourself some sweet rewired soul merch, boom, click or tap right there on that little logo. All right, thanks so much for watching. Set up some boundaries and have uncomfortable conversations. And I'll see you next time.