 felt lonely many times in my life I think that it just feels very empty and like you're very lost. Hi everyone this is Dr. Wallace today I'm gonna ask you can you describe a time when you felt lonely? I think in a period when I was dealing with some pretty significant trauma I felt like no one understood what I was going through and I felt really alone and that no one could relate to how I was feeling it's really isolating. Definitely when I moved first moved to college super lonely didn't know anyone and even after trying to make a bunch of friends still not really connecting with people being far from home. I think all the time I did have friends but friends doesn't always it's not always enough to make you feel not alone when we when I stand surround myself with a lot of people but I don't know what to talk to don't know what to do that I feel lonely. With my friends I feel lonely even because I feel like they don't understand me a lot of the times and yeah that makes me feel lonely. So even when you are surrounded by people you still have this feeling of loneliness sometime. I guess for me it was back when I was in Berkeley just when the pandemic hit and there wasn't really much to do wouldn't able to see many people or interact with people which is when I guess when I wasn't surrounded by people is when I felt lonely the most it's sort of opposite of her. I feel similarly I'm from the Bay Area originally but went to the school in Boston and I went from more of like a rural area geographically to a spot in college where you're constantly surrounded by people in dorms but even like being more constantly surrounded I think exacerbated like feeling lonely whereas like when there was less people around all the time I was more at peace so that was like a little strange but yeah definitely first couple years of college. It's not this time this time this time it's randomly just suddenly you just get hit by something and then you settle down yourself and you just quiet and then you think deeper that time you feel lonely even you have an awesome great friend that you can talk with but you just don't want to. Before two years back she used to be in India and I was here so mostly it's like a long weekend or something like everyone plans to go for a holiday trip but I used to go with the friends but I still in the company of my friends I still feel lonely even they are around me. Being in a relationship and then not being on the same wavelength as your partner so to speak can bring about this whole feeling of just being super self-isolated and not being able to speak to the person you're supposed to be like a team with. Yeah it was like three years back when I was back in my home country and yeah we were in a relationship but he moved out to some other country and I felt lonely for some time and then gradually got used to it. I'm a very introverted person so actually I would say I don't often feel lonely because quite often I enjoy being by myself that allows me to re-energize and decompress but I do remember a few specific instances in my life where I did feel lonely and usually those are onset by long periods of isolation. In the mid of the pandemic that everything is on is everything is locked out and then I'm alone at my apartment that's probably one of the moment. Yeah when I feel lonely I feel like and then I listen to music and this makes me feel more lonely and then I have to listen listen and I start crying. And after I cry my loneliness is gone.