 Hello there love us. This video is called the truth about my experience with birth control and much like my other truth about videos Anyways, fast forward What's important to mention that this experience that ended up having a sexual relationship with my boyfriend at the time And I was 17 you're doing the math now. That's four partners by in within a year I got like bro like I'm done with this like I'm done with interacting with with all that But it's still my experience is I'm allowed to express them how I want to and now I'm afraid to the store because I want people to come for me. It gets really raw Essentially, it is an intimate one-on-one conversation between you and I about a really intimate part of my life And there's 16 years of history for me to share on this particular topic So this video might be a little long but before we get to that I want to give a shout out to my partner on this video, which is simple help simple help essentially is an affordable Convenient as well as accessible way for people to get prescription birth control as well as home deliveries Simple helps product is not so much birth control itself It really is the hassle-free way in which you can get birth control regardless of your insurance situation Your income level or your location in layman's terms It is online prescriptions matched with free home delivery their doctors prescribe over a hundred different brands of birth control Depending on which one works for you or which one you and the doctor decide will be a best bet for you They can also prescribe the ring and the patch also if you want to know more about simple health right here right now You can just go in the info box, but I do hope you stay for the chat because I do think it will be a good one All right, so where do we start with my journey with birth control? Obviously we start at the beginning. I first had sex and used nothing No protection not from sexually transmitted infections not some from pregnancy Like a lot of people who don't know they're gonna have sex. I wasn't prepared for the moment I just found myself in a situation with someone that I was very attracted to my body had a lot of Messages a lot of urges at that present time that person felt the exact same way and it just happened now The experience itself I've detailed before in other videos was what it was But the aftermath of using nothing really was what haunted me. I didn't know where to go what to do I obviously thought I was pregnant right away So I spent the next month in complete turmoil checking my underwear constantly to see if there was going to be blood And then after I did get my period I had the still lingering stress of did I get a sexually transmitted infection from having an Unprotected intimate act with someone that I knew Relatively nothing about at the time. So after that happened I wish I could tell you that I got on the pill or I started to really like take control of my protection, but I still was that ignorant little girl who had womanly urges and I remember my mom finding a condom in my room So I went to some event where they handed them out for free and I like took that condom I put it somewhere private and for whatever reason my mom went under my bed and she found it and she pulled me aside And was like, why do you have this and I had to make up some lie about well I just got got it for free and I have it in case a friend needs it and so my singular act of I think trying to take control of my health and trying to protect myself was like heavily Discouraged and stigmatized and so I didn't look at condoms as something I should be keeping on me because the risk of getting in trouble It at a time that your teenager is actually greater than the risk of everything else that comes with it So I just kept my entire sex life a secret and birth control was a dead giveaway So I just didn't really have any part in it So the next time that I had sex was probably about a year later and it was the exact same thing It just kind of happened. I was alone with somebody who I was attracted to We started kissing and then one thing led to the other and then it just occurred now when I was younger I just really didn't understand why I was doing this, right? Like I knew Unprotected sex was bad. I knew I wasn't supposed to be having sex outside of a relationship I went to a Catholic school and it was mostly having sex period But yet I just almost couldn't stop myself in some capacity and it wasn't until I went to school to study Sexology that truly made peace with that So when a woman becomes of a certain age around like the 16 year old mark your Pelvic floor fuses together then you start getting this rush of hormones in essence like your body becomes Ready for sex just like as a baby at a certain age We all naturally become ready to walk some of course deviate from what the norm is Some people take longer to walk some people don't ever walk But by and large like the average human experience is like on a certain biological trajectory like the body is Matureing in a certain certain stages and so at 16 it wasn't that I was a bad person who all of a sudden got these negative ideas I'm and wanted to be a bad person. It was that my body was just ready to start doing that and I wasn't prepared for that physically or I wasn't prepared for that emotionally, but that's just Why I truly believe young girls should be given the opportunity to go on birth control at that age Just because like there is another factor at play other than just sheer decision-making or logic There is something else a strong force within you and so it's just better to be safe It's whether or not you think you're ready You're supposed to be ready your body is and and that might be more of an Overwhelming feeling than you're really truly able to handle. So once again I just had sex with somebody We actually did use a condom that time that person had a condom on them But we didn't use it properly because we had never been given the education on either side how to do so as a result We were just like Unsure if it worked unsure how it's supposed to work and pretty sure that we were pregnant We had sex we finished up We looked at all of the evidence in front of us and thought I don't think we did this correctly And then went right to the clinic, which was like walking distance from my house So I knew I'm actually really grateful for that that I knew where the sexual health clinic in my neighborhood was and We do rock-paper-scissors outside for who should have to go in to get the pill like that's just how Emotionally immature and unprepared. I was at that time to deal with the consequences of being physical with somebody I Lost so I had to go by myself and he literally went home Like I lost okay now It's your responsibility and you know as a woman in many ways it truly the bulk of the responsibility Unfortunately does fall on you so when did I got the morning after pill that was the first time that I use that? Wasn't a positive experience for me. I don't remember taking it and thinking okay. I know I can do this at all times thankfully something happened Earlier in my life, which provided a lot of help for me I still struggle with this to this day, but looking back. I have also spoken to a lot of other women who feel the same way So I had acne. I have had acne since I was 14 years old I still struggle and so because I had acne I got to use birth control as Medication for that so I know I knew I needed to be on it for personal reasons But I wasn't yet at the place where I could discuss that with my family and that wasn't honest to goodness Like pretty good time in my life I still wasn't having great sex or great sexual partners like that part of things took a very long time for me to truly understand But being on the pill just provided a peace of mind That just can't put into words. So I was on the pill for a number of years Once my skin cleared up I started to become a sexual educator and during that time I decided to be celibate for a period You know it started to study to stop having sex because I wanted to understand what I've been doing wrong I became a sex educator as a direct result of my shitty sex life. I was like, okay I am passionate about this thing and I looked forward to it for a long time and now that I'm doing it It sucks. What am I doing wrong and when I started to learn when I was doing wrong I became passionate about informing other people of the same. So during that year that I really got started in it I just wanted to be clear of mine. I didn't want any distractions And I wanted to like the next time I had sex for it to be positive so I stopped birth control and When I finally did get back on the pill again I was now in a committed relationship. The difficult thing with birth control is that like it's a process, right? You have to go to your family doctor. You have to get blood work done That can take a couple weeks to come back get your blood pressure even getting an appointment at my family doctor Like he's I've had the same doctor since I was born He doesn't like to work that much. He was an older guy. So he was in the office pretty infrequently like he took long-ass lunch breaks Like he just it's not like he was there 24-7 like a clinic So getting an appointment took some time So it's like you don't always get the birth control when you need it one of the downfalls I think of the pill is it can create a sense of false security When it comes to your health because you've taken care of the reproductive risks of being sexually active you can tend to forget about the sexual health side of things and majority of birth control aside from a condom does not cover you when it comes to sexually transmitted infections or Diseases and so you don't get to like Just let your hair down and blow in the breeze and live your best life like void of any other additional Protection like you get to be like few there's one half of things taken care of I still have to be mindful that there's a whole other important half That I also have to be mindful of so I was on birth control. I got into a relationship With someone to be honest with you guys had a reputation I was well aware of this individuals reputation But in my naivety and in my sense of like I'm different and because I know they would never try it with me like in all of those falsehoods I Very shortly after we got you know committed stopped Requesting that they use a condom and so we were just doing the do without a care in the world fast forward about Eight months afterwards. I found out that I contracted chlamydia through my monogamous relationship So that's just I've obviously told the story at great length before in other videos But just a reminder that birth control is wonderful at doing what it does You know 95 to 100% of the time if you if used correctly But that doesn't mean that it's taking care of you 100% and don't allow yourself to fall into the delusion That you've done all that you have to do so anyhow Still on birth control move out to LA now and when I moved to LA With my ex we still were you know doing the whole let's try this thing out dance But let's not be together thing, but don't see anyone else. It was just that whole confusing foolishness that occurs in Manipulative relationships to be frank about it. So I stopped being sexually active. I stopped having money more importantly I was like dead-ass broke. I had no insurance obviously in America In Canada, I wasn't under an insurance plan either and like there's this notion that everything is free in Canada Yes, if you go to the doctor, you don't pay anything But if the doctor prescribes you something there is a price tag that comes with that So birth control was not free for me and it the kind of birth control I was on wasn't the cheapest of brands So when I moved to America, I just decided to give that a hiatus and I wasn't on birth control for like two years I wasn't sexually active. I was sexually active with my ex whenever I went back to Canada Sometimes he came and visited me we were better about using condom at that time because I was fully less delusional I just it was almost one of those things were like I completely knew what it was but I wasn't ready to like remove myself from it But at least I had the smarts to protect myself in some capacity from it So when I finally got rid of that which took me a very long time to get out of the emotional entanglement of that relationship I knew I was ready for like a fresh start and I knew I was ready for like a healthy consenting awesome Relationship that made me feel as incredible as I did. I left that relationship Feeling I mean, there's not a video about that. So we'll just skip that part, but I met Jared about a month after like I completely called it quits there and we just really wanted to engage in a Healthy reciprocal sexual relationship at that time. That was a priority for both of us. We aligned on that We had incredible physical chemistry and so I feel really fortunate to have linked up with him at that time It's so funny because Jared was my first like official friends with benefits I think in the past I had been in friends with benefits situations that like weren't totally consensual like we were friends with benefits But like I was hoping for more where I was in the friends with benefits under the guise that eventually it would develop when me and Jared Connected we really wanted nothing else. There was really 100% from both angles like a complete Acceptance of like this is what it is and we're gonna make it the best that it possibly can be without expecting that to bloom into something more And so because the sex was so great and the connection was so great I just also really wanted to get rid of the reproductive stress side of things because it was friends and benefits like that's probably the worst situation in which In my perspective, I could enter into family planning with somebody So I did something that I'd wanted to do for a really long time, which was get an IUD And oh my gosh, I love my IUD. I wear my IUD necklace just in ode to like what a great addition to my life this was Because it just worked with me. I think birth control is a lot like a lot of other things in life You know career or romantic partners some things just go with you and some things just don't For a lot of people the IUD does not go with them And I'm sure I'll hear all about in the comment section But for me almost as soon as it was placed in like it was just a godsend to me Jared and I still use condoms because of the fact once again that We were not in a committed relationship and I learned from my past mistakes. Also, he is incredible about sexual health I will say that I've never met a man before who takes their health as seriously as he did He got checkups once every three months He was really like litigious about checking the condoms and about making sure that we had them And he also brought a lot of joy to my life with condom use like he would have different kinds and like invest in pleasure packs and so that was a really cool thing as well too where Sexual health became like a fun addition to our relationship for the male. I got a urine and a blood test Wash your hands with warm water for 30 seconds. Shake hands to get the blood flowing We just watched though We shake in 2016 Yeah, 2016 I'm on the IUD. I'm with Jared. We are in a really great flow sexual health And then for some reason My acne just starts exploding again So up until that time because I'd been on and off the pill For so long like my acne had become pretty manageable But with now me being off of it for two years and doing nothing I'm expecting because I'm in my 30s now like this is a thing of the past and then my skin is like Oh, definitely not so I start breaking out again Now mind you I've had acne since I was 14 years old that being said I have done it all So please all of the black soaps all of the dairy-free diets all the sugar-free diets All of the castor oil the oil pulling the different gel the acutane The oatmeal remedies I have done them all apple cider vinegar tea tree oil Literally nothing has worked for me other than acutane, which I would never do again I got great results from it awesome, but There's just so many potential side effects and using it a second time the side effects increase that much more So if that that trade-off is not worth it for me Birth control on the other hand that trade-off is worth it for me And that is what's worked for me every single time and I actually learned why I produce a lot of androgens my body is a little bit more rich with testosterone than the average woman As a result of that when I'm on birth control specifically birth controls that suppress androgens Um, I don't get the outbreaks in the same way And so at the time I was on two birth controls the iud which is non-hormonal because I use the paragard Which is the copper one and then I was back to being on sayestra Which was the hormonal uh birth control that allowed my skin to clear up And that's where I currently am right now the war against reproductive rights just seems crazy to me Because it's a basic human right to be able to decide and to be able to protect And to treat your body as you see fit of course to reflect what you want for your future and to Your potential family's future So I can't imagine why this is a war But it does exist and we can't ignore that and I'm always looking for ways to get involved And I'm grateful to be surrounded by organizations and companies like simple help who are doing something about it And so simple health is a really great option for anybody who has never done birth control before been on it And wants to find a discreet hassle free way to start somebody who is off birth control currently But has been on it before but hasn't gotten around to making that doctor's appointment Or to going through those extra steps and finally if you're on birth control right now And you have a pharmacy is all you know neatly tied up in a bow If you just want to cut out that extra step of having to drive and pick up your prescription Simple health again provides free home delivery so you can reroute it so that it's just being sent directly to you Again in discreet packaging right to your home So you never have those days where you should be on the pill but you're not because there is that extra barrier between you and You're right to decide what happens to your body And that's what i'm really passionate about Helping people to make the best most informed decision about their reproductive future and then finding tools that support that decision If this seems like the right tool for you Then here is an extra benefit to using it when you go to simple health com slash shan You can use a coupon there to get the free annual prescription Completely just for people who use that code So all you have to take care of after you put in that promotional code is the cost of the actual birth control Which again if you have an insurance provider is probably free for you So you don't have the annual fee You don't have to pay for the prescription if you have insurance if you do you just pay that And then the home delivery is free for everyone So if that is something that you would consider go in the info box to learn more about them And finally in the comment section below, I would love to hear What has been the truth about your birth control experience? What has been your journey and where are you currently on that path? You know, what is your system right now? And if you're still figuring it out Let me know how I can help you get to that space of complete joy Because this this truly should be a joyful part of our lives. I think