 In the last 0.03% of humanity's existence, there are some interesting social behaviors that have begun that didn't necessarily happen before. Blame, guilt, shame, antisocial behavior, competition, status, enforcement, isolation, alienation, retaliation, revenge, causes, and movements. A lot of people bring up war. But you might be thinking, man, well, okay, this is a part of man's nature. This is a part of how man was supposed to be, right? You know, man can be violent. Man can get angry. Man can blame. Sure, these things could have happened, but we didn't hold on to them. You know, and cultural totalitarianism did not happen. In fact, a lot of you guys are fans of probably like Richard Dawkins and all this sort of stuff. There's a whole bunch of information in the Q&A. We can talk about books that explain all this sort of stuff. But there was a certain, as they say, thought virus, or meme that kind of took hold out of the fertile crescent. And actually, in the Americas, you can see more evidence of it. But human beings did not act in certain ways that were, that how we're seeing them now. These behaviors did not become a definition for us. They were not the norm. They were not the absolutes. And think about this. Like, I know more people that could have attributes, actually, I'll back up, of like, let's say, antisocial behavior. That's a pretty intense thing. I know more people that have that than who are healthy with their bodies or living in the expression of their bodies. That's crazy. That's crazy. I know more people, and maybe this is just because of me, because I kind of work in this field a little bit, but I know more people with drug problems. I know more people with bipolar than who are healthy. That's pretty crazy. You know, I'm a member of plenty of gyms. You know, I work out and train all this, like, different jujitsu, martial arts. I know a lot of people that are pretty, you know, quote-unquote healthy by society standards, but I know people that are living, like, outside of that natural state. Some of man's behaviors that have always been there, things like empathy, things like connection, things like love, things like companionship, unity, expression, sense of self-fulfillment. And sure, there could be stuff like, hey, we got angry. We may have blamed, but we didn't hold on to it to the same level. But these are all things that we've always seen. Now, think about that. Minimum 250,000, 250,000 years. Yeah, I got that right, I think. And most of the existence was an expression of this. Sure, there were plenty of problems. Nature only needed us to live to 15 or 20, you know? You know, culture kicks ass. But that's what we saw, and that's our true nature that we forget. So fulfillment, this is kind of an interesting thing. And you know, I started off talking about fulfillment. Man, fulfillment comes off of two things. It comes off of expression and exchange, okay? These are two things that we lose sight of. And when we backtrack to some of the things that we were born to be, we were born to be healthy, do we see it as expression? You know, do we see it as an exchange with the world around us and our bodies? When it comes to being social, do we see it as expression? Us. Do we see it as us communicating us and exchanging with who they really are, right? Do we see that? You know, everything we were born to be is fulfilled by this. So our bodies, our minds, our physiology, everything. Our expressions of exercise, our expressions of even how our bodies work need an expression and an exchange to have meaning. That's actually, it's kind of simple, but that's all you need to do, okay? And our culture, it says a bunch of stuff, right? It says a ton of different things. Happiness and fulfillment. That's why we're here. And we hear all this life hacker stuff and we hear all this dating and relationship stuff, the stuff that I work in. Man, let me just say, anybody standing on this stage who gave a presentation is one of the best in the world. I mean, hands down. But in our culture, we hear solutions to all these things. Happiness and fulfillment. It's achieved. It's a sense of status. It's an image. It's a process. It's something that we do. And it's something that is not within you. It's something outside of you. And that's what our culture says. Our culture says, being healthy, it's a physique. It's an amount. It's the how fast I run a mile. It's a quantifiable measurement. How much weight I can lift. How much I weigh. The percentage of fat on my body. The percentage of muscle on my body. It's a status. It's an image. It's something outside of you and not something within you. Being social. Social hierarchy. Dominance. Gossip. Social exercise. It's performance. How other people see you. That's what being social is. It's a series of events that are going to make you happy. It's something that, because you don't have it in you, it's something outside of you. Being sexual. An orgasm. It's a story to share. It's being an entertainer. It's shame. It's being fake. It's being pickup. It's being porn. Being sexual is something that is not within you. It's something outside of you. It's something that you have to get. And you, your identity. Your image. In order to have that, you've got to fake it until you make it. You've got to have a facade. You've got to be somebody else. You've got to be like that other guy that's like, you know, you don't have a point of reference. You know, we've got to have this image to follow because guess what? You weren't born with it. You've got to work for it. It's outside of you. Okay. And here's the thing. Humanity. Men and women. Okay. What we've done with our culture is we have taken the force of nature that is already within us. That everything is working towards us. Or everything is working for us. It's almost flawlessly within moment by moment millions of things happening with your body. And that even goes into your decision making. We all have free choice. We absolutely have free choice. We get to decide. But the motivation to choose, the draw of what we choose between, the things that we want, how we connect. Man, that's already happening within you. And what we've done is we've taken it and in our culture we've gotten so far from how we've been born to be because we've been able to sustain so long. That we've become confused to the point where we can't find a solution. And how many guys have been there with that? With women? With your body? With when you try something and fail? Man, I'm confused. I feel fucking lost. I don't know what to do. Jesus. I've done everything. It sucks. Man, it must be me. So-and-so looks good to do. It worked for somebody else. And it became this massive battle. The war within us becomes the war around us. So the myth of the alpha male. It's kind of a long building up to this. But check this out. The hero. The king. The warrior. The superior man. The person that you can be. All these things. All these fucking awesome, awesome windows into your expression. Guess what? They never fucking existed. All of our evolution never had this. I don't know if you guys remember this, but way back when in those old school like David D'Angelo discs, they'd say, oh, well, the king had women around him. Social proof. And mystery said all this stuff about pre-selection and social proof. That did not exist and how we evolved. That did not happen. You did not need any of this. You did not need any of these titles. People fought. People probably were leaders. People probably did do something heroic. But it was an action. Just like they probably did blame. They probably did get angry, but they didn't hold on to it. They did not build it as a part of their identity. And I am of this culture, and we'll probably talk about this later, but these are huge things that I have struggled with and struggled with on a daily basis. But we never had this. How we evolved as a species and 99.97% of our evolution. That's on the low end. Basically, emotionally, mentally, sexually, socially did not have any of this. All right, so let's get into some things here. Where we see this happen all the time is in the seduction industry, and we'll go through a few things. But look, we've had hundreds of thousands of guys, maybe millions, I don't know. I've had a lot of dudes that I've worked with. But we learned a skill. We learned a method. And as we had said before, at least I believe, actually maybe we didn't. But nature does not need science. Man needs science to understand nature. This is kind of like big concept that we have with TSL and VA, the VA evolved side that I have. But man needs method. He needs balance. He needs a way of seeing how the world works. Nature doesn't need balance. Nature doesn't need a method. We may see it within there. We may see it as a consistency, but it doesn't give a shit about it. Nature does what it does, right? So we have all these guys going through this, but how many of them have become socially and sexually fulfilled? How many of them become socially and sexually healthy? And let's break that down, because there can't be a definition. I'm never a guy that says, hey, you're good with women when you have A, B, and C done. It's more like, are you happy? Are you fulfilled? I mean, Jesus Christ, I work in kind of a slow mode. I built a skill set to meet a lot of women, but to be happy to know what fulfillment was took me a long time. You know, it took me a long time. A lot of experiences that were not so great. You know, if we all watch Socrates' speech, I've hit every corner of that graph, and maybe even a little bit off of it. We can talk, but, but man, I mean, anyway, I'll stop there because I don't want any calls from attorneys. Okay, so we see this happen. And how many people, you know, really reach true friendships? You know, and ask yourself this. It's not that, it's not that our culture meant to be bad, but this starts to happen, right? It's not that any of these people are malicious. This starts to happen, right? How many people learn to have a relationship? I mean, jeez, man, you know, I'll be honest with you, it's tough being in a monogamous relationship. Monogamy is totally unnatural, but we've decided that because that's what we've decided, right? But who do I call? Seriously, who do I call? It's like, oh, Maria's upset with me. Oh, I did this, or oh, my God, you know, I'm feeling the urge for, you know, having relations with somebody else. Who do I talk to? Who do I talk to? You know, that's a tough thing. You know, and to be honest, I talk to people outside of it, or I talk to people in the different groups that I work with. But, you know, how do we learn about love? You know, what that really is? We've got to have that different experience. We've got to have that dialogue happening. How do I learn that the potential of humanity is more than a transaction? I mean, jeez, actually another quote from my buddy Skip. He's like, man, this is the funniest thing. I remember when he said it, but it's kind of similar to this and kind of where I got it from. But he said, man, for years and years and years, I thought that love was a transaction. All my friendships, all my connections were a transaction. So anyway, when we look at success and ambition, bettering ourselves, hey, we're going to be entrepreneurs. You know, I get caught in this big time, man. I get crazy. I get obsessive. I get, I want to control things. I want everything to be efficient. I want to be, when something's not working, it's like, holy shit, you know, I sent out this email or I promoted this thing and it didn't sell. Scarcity, lack of resources. Oh my God, dysfunction. Boom, I got to be more dominant. I got to be more alpha. Okay, I got to work harder. I got to do more. And then what happens? Our identity becomes dependent upon this myth that culture and society has given us. And our day, you know, to be happy becomes a set of actions, a ritual, something that we have to force ourselves to do. And I do these things. I'm a culture guys, you know, but we've got to realize the potential of what we are born to be rather than a lifestyle, rather than just living. I have a checklist. I have a schedule. I have all these things of how I want to improve myself. And so we got to understand this, man. We have to have balance and sorry, a little bit's cut off here, but look, our goal is to have balance of what we were born to be and integrate into this culture, okay? I've had, man, I've had these thoughts. You can talk to me a lot about them for like 20 years, man. Huge part of my life. Huge part of my life and it totally influenced like everything I did in the seduction community. But you know, massive, massive influence of me. In that time, the one time it made sense was when I started to look at the paleo stuff, okay? Wait a minute. Our physiology was born to be this way. Let's start eating that way. Let's start trying to sleep that way. And what was so interesting about what James was talking about is that once again we exaggerated in order to have our culture like it, in order to justify doing it. Maybe the motive is to sell it, but really to justify doing it. It's got to be complex. It's got to be crazy. It's got to be, you know, because it's going against what I've been taught to believe and what I've been raised of. So I've got to have a reason for it, you know? I can't just say, hey, this is already happening. This is my nature. So look, here's the thing. In nature, sex of course needs no method. You know, nature needs no balance. Nature does not need science. Man needs science to understand nature, okay? That's what we need in order to see it. But fulfillment is simple. You know, fulfillment derives from expression and exchange, okay? And all things. How you are fulfilled, how you get meaning, how you get assasinated. You know, what did they say in Paleo? You tell your foal, what? You can't do that, you know? And not to, I'm bringing that up as an example. I'm not trying to promote one way. There's, I know plenty of people who have all sorts of different diets and achieve a very healthy and happy lifestyle with it. But man, it was the first time. It was like, let's look at how we evolved and actually do it, you know? But how do we express ourselves and how do we exchange? And everything that we do. Everything that we were born to be. All those things that I wrote down and there's probably more of them. How can I just express and exchange with that? And it may not be too sexy, all right? So the solution basically is that we mix culture with our natural urges of how we are to express ourselves, right? Now, so I teach in the social dynamic scene, but let me tell you something. One at this point, all around the world. I believe he was actually one of two, or maybe even the only speaker in 2012 who spoke at all three events held in that year in London, Texas and Australia. So please give you a warm welcome to Steve Mayeta, founder of The Sexual Life. Hey, thank you. Thanks, man. Man, what an honor to be brought on stage by Anthony Johnson. I mean, we all know he's done so much to shape and influence men, but look, I want to start this off with something a little bit different. Standing on this stage who gave a presentation is one of the best in the world. I mean, hands down. Higher level of things are more involved in it 10 times. I mean, there's like 20 hours where we are interacting and talking. I started that, but man, all the ideas here come from those guys. I mean, it's amazing. It's basically what we do. I love teaching that way. There's no hierarchy. I mean, they're always busting my balls at like, man, take on the leader role, take on the authoritative role. I'm like, man, but I don't believe in that. I believe that everyone here has the same potential for your happiness in your social life, your sexual life, your health, and all that sort of stuff. I'm never going to be Skyler Tanner or Socrates. I'm never going to be Nick. I'm never going to be James and James, but I'm going to be an expression of myself. You know? We can't be other people. We just have to be who we are. Anyway, that's kind of what we teach, but we teach in this template of like, we're going to start with some basics.