 Are you also watching Waze on the 9th of May, every national sleepover day is celebrated and this day provides an opportunity for girls to combine in their friends in a way that can be inspiring, therapeutic and confidence building. Sleepovers play an important role in both friendship and memory making. It's a time when women and girls share stories and realize the more we are different the more we are like The thing that I have in my head for these sleepovers is what we are discussing in the makeover room I don't do, I don't do But the thing is I don't think I ever had a sleepover I never slept in anybody's house, actually I tell a lie One time my mom took, but it wasn't just like me, my mom took all of us to her family, a close family friend's house Yeah I think that's, it's only due, yeah because she was very very suspicious of everybody So we never really had that freedom to go but I see a lot of them, oh mom can I have a sleepover like my kids I don't think they've ever had a sleepover with friends Their cousins, yes, my sister's kids, but friends, I'm very paranoid like that I've never had a sleepover growing up Well I did with family though Now I don't want to be sleepovered I'm going to visit your family I'm going to visit your friends But now I mean, okay well Would you be open to that? For my kids to go to their, no No, no, no, no Noma are you there now? They can go, but Why are we struggling to get Noma? I have responsible friends Well, it's not so much the I mean when we get to the point where we start giving birth and I see how they raise their kids That would determine if my own children will go to their house to sleepover But if the way you train your kids is very questionable and doesn't align with my values My kids will not come to your house to sleepover Okay, that's what I hear you But again for me, I think that is Sometimes there are factors outside of your control Definitely The people in their house Somebody who comes and you don't know How do you control that? Again, you're not there So do you have the thing at work? It's alright You can't even control the one in your house Exactly Who can you control? And in situations where really bad stuff have happened They may have happened with strangers They've actually happened with people Family members Close people around Exactly Infantophilia And you won't go to sleepover We were sicko It's not all this to you It's normal There's a lot of crazy things happening I always tell people, you need to have conversations with people You need to sound them out You need to hear their thoughts Where their head is at Because you can't just take people on face value And just think everybody's thinking the same way you think Or have the same values you have Conversations are very important Alright, so what did we find in the news? Jennifer, let me come to you Yes, so for me You are a master's student Reviews, she just received Her identification card Days to the completion of her program So she says she applied for her master's degree in 2019 And started the processing In 2020 And she's glad to inform us That she just got her student ID card In 2023 Just few months I think it's a month Because her defense, her test defense Is next month And a lot of people are just In commenting Some said, oh, congratulations You use your music card To show your children See what the government has done to you That kind of thing So I mean It just goes to show How our process is in Nigeria I don't understand how you started your I mean when you start Your schooling Even as a normal undergraduate Once you start, you've done your matric You should be able to get your ID Not to talk of someone who is coming in for masters You should have your ID card Before, I mean in a month That month is even long But a month must let you say Okay, you're taking time My son never enters school Yeah, I think that already Because he asked for his passport To get him his student ID Because I mean That is what gives you access It's because we do not have proper structures Because ideally A student ID Is what gives you credibility To even work on the On the school ground On the school ground You can't come into that school ground Without an identification If we're doing things right There are some certain places You cannot enter Without that identification So how can you Make your weeks to your To your exiting the program You're just getting an identification This tells you how lopsided Some of the things that we do In this country is It's interesting Do you know what you need to find for us in the news? Norma, can you hear us now? I hear you having struggles hearing us Norma Okay Oh, okay, go ahead Okay, so This is Supreme Court affirms That is the oce.. That is the oce.. That is the oce.. That is the oce.. The oce.. That is the oce.. And of course this has been ongoing Since the elections That was conducted July 16, 2022 You know, in January 20 27 Majority of course Adilike went to the Court of Appeal and they were saying you know there was a lot back and forth they were going to take it to the Supreme so well right about now Supreme has ruled and it's in favor of the sitting governor which is Adilike so maybe we say congratulations to him or I don't know I don't think you can take it any further I mean Supreme is the highest I like the guy I like his spirit all right so I saw a story that Jennifer gave me even though I don't know the guy but I think I want to discuss I saw the way Jennifer was vibrating I want to ask her what up why were you biasing so um there's a young man um I think his name is Toyo right Toyo yeah um so he wrote and I want to read what he wrote about Gen Z so the younger generation are already having mental breakdowns some are already deeply rooted in drugs no morals at all no vision no goals all they want to do is just get high post and look fly for the gram and expect money to fall from the sky so much entitlement and I'm not going to say that word the last word all right so I mean this is a genuine concern the reason I'm actually taking the story because yesterday we talked about older generation and yeah I mean their role and all of that the truth is before you open your mouth or you open you hold your finger to type something remember that every child is born there's something that's called tabula rasa it's plain like there's no stain no nothing the child comes into this world blank so anything you see the child exhibiting right is a clear picture of what the child has been exposed to so either through their eyes you know what they hear what they hear what they feel you know and all of that so all of those things now make up to what you eventually see as a product of the person right so before you open your and we collect your finger and be typing on on social media remember that this generation they didn't just know drop from the sky the way they are saying that you don't they spend money to fall from the sky they also did not just drop from the sky they actually you understand are copying I remember what I said what happens with some of these things that we're doing is that the next generation would do it 10 times better so if it is a bad thing they will be better at doing it very well you understand so you you you can't make that kind of generalization and now try to blame a group without tracing it back in history because all these things they were talking about is because our parents didn't have instagram or all of those things because I know that it was a case of show ah this is a non-biker they want do this yeah even birthing children was sure I must have 10 children to show that me I am I'm Richard and you I'm this and so the issue of maybe posting for the grammar it's always been there you know it's just that technology has changed a lot of things so before you make such summations right check back to your generation that precedes this generation that you're calling out what have you guys done what are you doing you know what are they seeing what have they copied the only thing is that they will copy it and they will do it better so you cannot just open your mouth and say the generation is entitled and all of that I think is a very uh what's it called don't attack them like that because they will also come for you I'm helping them to come for you my own comment is mild the advocate but the truth is my comment is mild but I'm telling him that you can't do that you cannot yeah I mean just like we said yesterday you know there's always the the issue of role modeling you cannot be saying one thing and then be doing something else so if the younger generation is driven about money or if they have redefined success to mean something else it is because we give them that blueprint it is because we said that this is what success means it is because we we have done all those things and then I mean quite rightly like you said unfortunately they process faster uh they they they don't have the locks we it's almost as if they're racing against time you know so they do things and then I mean with the with the internet everything is amplified thank you it's it's just so I told my son like because he was saying something about I say help me verify say mommy but you should be able to do I say please they don't bomb me with a with a tablet and a laptop I'm learning it so I mean like you rightly said it's it's everything's at the speed of light right now yeah you now come and just be typing because you can't type let me leave you there because it's not your problem that's my problem this is me is this parents that are afraid all right so what we come back from the break hopefully we'll be able to get to normal and we'll discuss the fears of parents stay with us we'll be right back