 When should you end a romantic relationship? Romance means that you're looking at the beautiful side of life. The imprint of that within you is much deeper than thought process. If such a thing is happening, you shouldn't make a deal. When I was to marry, the moment she saw me, she burst into tears and she had no other way. So I said, okay, this is it. Namaskaram, Sattguru. My name is Siddharth and in this big jigsaw puzzle that we're navigating, a small part of it is our dating life and our relationships. And that's what we as a company help the youth, let's say from 18 to 35, 40 years of age, help them navigate through. And one of the big questions that comes up every time, and this is very true for our own personal relationships is, when should you end a romantic relationship or continue to work on it? Because when we've grown up, we've seen our parents, it's not a very… No, it's no more janam janam, go on. Exactly, no, no, not janam janam. Just this janam becomes so difficult. But there's that part… Monthly, monthly, is it? Monthly. See, we are looking at everything with an expiry date for everything. That includes human relationships. See, there are various types of relationships. But today, you are in Mumbai and you're using the word relationship as Americans use it, that it has to be a body-based relationship. It need not be. We have variety of relationships. We have business relationships. We have family relationships. We have friends. We have other kinds of relationships, isn't it? First of all, romance means that you're looking at the beautiful side of life, essentially. It's romantic to watch the sunset, because most people are watching this phone screen. Sunset also, they watch there only later in the night. So essentially, romance means you're looking at the beautiful aspect of life. So just because a man and woman are together, it doesn't mean there is romance happening, because human relationships are still need-based. Physical needs, psychological needs, emotional needs, social needs, financial needs, variety of needs are there. To fulfill those needs, people come together. But this particular relationship, which you call as romantic relationship, a whole lot of time there are no… there is no romance there, just compulsions being fulfilled. There are compulsive things happening, which needs to be addressed. So some people address their compulsions gracefully. Some people address it in ugly ways, in grace-less ways. Where your emotions are involved, where your body is involved, thought is different. See, with thought I can play with you right now. Next moment I can withdraw, which very agile. But once emotion and body plays, the imprint of that within you is much deeper than thought process, isn't it so? Once that imprint has happened, if you go on on a… because there is a dating app or whatever you… whatever you call it, what do you call it? Dating app. So because there is an app like you… every… you know, you are looking up whether I go for Swiggy or Uber Eat or this or that, this restaurant, that restaurant. Okay, order from all the five restaurants. People are doing this, all right? So if… because there is an app for relationships, if you start doing that, it looks like you're very smart. Because on one app, you're with this one, with another app, you're with that one, with another app, you're with that one. The three of them never meet, hopefully. The city is big enough and it need not be in the same city. See, technology is a tremendous tool. We must see how to enhance our lives with this because that's the idea of technology. Why have we came up with so many machines? See, suppose you were made like a tree, that is you were rooted in one place. Would you have made or invented a bicycle? I'm asking you. No, because you already had mobility, you came up with higher level of mobility. Because of that further, further, further, see where all we are going… we're going into… getting into space, only because there is mobility. Because we can speak, we came up with a microphone. If we had no speech, would we ever come up with a microphone, telephone? Because we can see, we came up with a microscope, telescope, all kinds of scopes. So essentially, every machine, every technology that we have done till now is only an extension of the faculties that we already have. So you are capable of, you know, if you are in 60s, 70s, you could only fall in love with your neighborhood girl, whoever she was. Now you can fall in love with somebody who is ten thousand miles away. And with ten different, at every thousand miles, because you're using my thirty thousand, so I'm getting back at you. So there is a certain facility which is nice because otherwise your parents would search for somebody and say, this is the girl for you. Why? Because her stars are good, her father is good and whatever. Why should I be telling you all this? But you know, when I was to marry, I just met this girl and I just know her pet name. I don't even really know her full name. I decided this is it. Then I went and told my father, he says, who is her father? What does he do? Where are they? I said, I don't know what the hell he is. No, you don't know the father, you don't know the family, you don't know anything. How will you marry her? I said, see, I'm marrying only the girl. I have no intention of marrying the father. Just the girl. Well, I was never looking for anything in my life. I thought these things are not for me because I was too busy doing what I'm doing. The moment she saw me, she burst into tears and she had no other way. She just started following me wherever I went. So I said, okay, this is it. Any one of them, if they feel there's no way, then yes, but not everybody may come to that kind of thing. Then you have to make a deal. Deals have to be managed. Love need not be managed. Deals have to be managed properly. So give and take. Only one way transaction won't work. Hello? In any, anything, whether it's marriage or marketplace, both the parties must benefit. Otherwise it's not going to work, isn't it? So if you just take this much that once you really meet somebody and you feel this is a good person for me and I like this and I'm drawn without, without wanting to think about them, you're thinking about them. When you look at the textbook, their face appears, you look at the cinema, their face appears. If such a thing is happening, you shouldn't make a deal. You must surrender to that because the sweetness of emotion is the best thing that can happen to you. You can call it whatever you want. When you're emotionally feeling sweet, you have the best deal with life. Don't give that up for somebody who is little prettier or richer or stronger or this or that. You will be making an ass out of yourself.