 Yeah, get us a couple of minutes here. Y'all got to forgive me, I'm at soccer practice and they doing a scrimmage, a full field scrimmage. So, there go my son right there, I got the ball. Oh, took him a goal. Okay, trying something different tonight. So y'all got to forgive me now. I'm gonna be doing this hill talk, but at the same time, a little bit every now and then, I may have to look up just to kind of see because every time, if I'm watching my son, he'll say, oh, daddy, did you see this here? Did you see this play? And so y'all forgiven. And I'm on my phone, so being on my phone, I'm not able to have the normal chat how I have it. So y'all have to understand that, that it may be sometimes where we have some trolls just because I don't have, they don't let me set it to where it's members only. So hopefully it's not too crazy, but you know, I was, this is something that's mind boggling to me and I wanted to come on here and talk about it. And if you miss any of this and if you have to leave for the kids or whatever, this'll be recorded and then it'll be uploaded to my page so you could check it out at a later time. But here's what I really want to urge. I really urge women to start to seek out and listen to honest voices, to honest men. And there are not a lot of honest men talking because typically an honest man is working, taking care of his family, minding his business, and that's his full focus. So it's only a handful of us that's called to speak. That's called to lead a movement. It's only a handful of us. Right now, I really don't see five of us. To be honest with you, I really have not seen five honest men. One thing about men that women don't understand is men know men. The same way women know women. So men know men. And so I could look around at the landscape of men that's talking and I ain't seen five honest men. And one thing I have learned when it comes to discernment about men as it relates to women is that women have none. So because women have no discernment about men, it's important that you keep everybody at arms distance and you watch everybody. You watch everybody and you don't praise any man and you don't put a man on a pedestal. It's a lot of women that do not know you're not supposed to leave a man alone with your child. And in a lot of cases, you can't leave a man alone with his own child, but a lot of women don't know men. And it ain't even about necessarily the nastily, it's also about the temperament. And that temperament of a man is not created for the crying for a child who's crying or with colic. That's why the same thing with a dog that's making too much noise, barking too much or howling too much, crying too much, any kind of thing that is annoying or inconvenient when you really get to know men, you will find out that 99% of men are impatient, 99%. Now what I want you to understand is get a calculator or go to the internet and Google how many men are there in the world and then do 1% of that. So if it's 3 billion of us, 3 billion, 10% of 3 billion would be, is it 300 million? And then, so 1% of that is that 3 million. So you have to find out what 1% is and a lot of times when we hear the word not many or what have you, we get so caught up in that and we don't realize that even 1% of billions is still a lot and so you have to understand that women really need to take time and what you're gonna have to do and see everything can't be said online, okay? Everything can't be said online, everything can't be put out there because we live in a world that, we live in a world that will take your words, your honest words that they wouldn't even know about you and they wouldn't even know about you and they will use that against you like they discovered something. People sending me a video that they use, they use in my name to go viral and they sang in the title and they sang something that the world only knows because I told it. So if I told it, that means I'm not ashamed of it and I told it for a reason trying to help people understand the nature of men because what you have to realize is that if I could be a honest man today and have gone through the things I've gone through and done the things that I've done, then what does that tell you about men who are not honest today, who are still cheating today? What does that tell you about men? It should really help you understand the nature of a man to where if you could say, wow, if a man who's been married 16 years and he's faithful to his wife and devoted to his children could have been a womanizer, a toxic lover in all of these things and this man does not curse, does not gamble, does not watch porn, does not smoke, does not cheat, then what can I assume or expect from a man who does gamble? Who does smoke? Who does cheat? Who does curse? Who does watch porn? You see what I mean? When you really start to understand the nature, yeah, people pick they different vices, but you got to take morals and values into account. And so we live in a world to where women do not know men. Thank you. Your girl, Jade, this is not alive for questions. Women do not know men because there is a, there's a man law. There's also a woman law too, because a lot of women try to delete they pass. A lot of women, whereas with men, we'll talk about being a womanizer, but a lot of women try to delete they pass and a lot of women know that. And so if you listen to men talk, you will hear men say that they don't want a woman that can slut with more than five men, or they don't want a woman that can slut with more than 10 men. But when you really look into the life of women, you will notice that even your most classy, cleanest women don't slut with five men. So the same way women don't know men, a lot of men don't know what's realistic about a woman. And a lot of women are be hush about that. A lot of women are be hush about that because they don't want that to be known. And a lot of men will be hush about the truth about men. But see, men know men and men know devout how vile and how foul. I remember when somebody said something, somebody said something and it was like, I think it was Donald Trump and he was saying, talking about women and he was saying, yeah, they'll let you grab them by the P. And they called him out on that. And he said, that just was locker room talk. And I remember it was like celebrity men, just talking about, I don't know what kind of locker room he was in. I ain't never been in no locker room like that. And I'm like, oh my goodness, this crazy. So instead of men coming to this man defense and saying, yeah, that is a real conversation amongst men. A lot of men came out and was like, due to the dumb and was like locker room talk. I ain't never talked about that in no locker room. I ain't never heard that. And do you know when I was in the locker room, I was in the football locker room in college. The guy beside me taught the younger guys, he taught us how to our girlfriend. He taught us that. And what he what he was teaching us is he was teaching us how to do that without getting caught and without it showing. And how and how to do it to where it's under the clothes. And he taught me in this. And now when the man take and say, when the man come out and say, oh, well, yeah, you could grab them by the P. They'll let you grab them by the P. And he say, they're locker room talk. They like, they ain't no locker room talk. That ain't no locker room talk. So I just seen a lady on Instagram. And I told y'all about the real that I did. If you go on my Instagram page, you go on the reels and you scroll down, you're gonna see the real that I did from the podcast. And oh Lord, somebody say how to what, how to eat. No, I said, do you know what this right here is? That's a punch. Like what girl? Lord bless your children, Lord. Y'all be, you can't say everything on YouTube. So if y'all not on this channel and you ain't used to watching my video, just be quiet. Just be quiet. Okay, please just be quiet. Stay out of the chat. Cause on here asking crazy questions. Come on now. All right, good. So that made me lose my train of thought. Ain't nobody the devil. Y'all got to use inference, okay? You got to use inference. And for those y'all not in the blessed ride, this is not a Q and A. There's not a Q and A, there's not no coaching session. Okay, so y'all need to keep it down. So here we are. I ain't gonna look at the chat y'all and y'all can't listen to me and look at the chat. And cause that just ain't gonna work. So you're gonna have to watch the video over. So I'm on Instagram and this is real. For some reason, this real is still going viral. Like it's still going and on the real, they chop it up together. They chop it up, they chop it up bits and pieces. And it's a, for the first two years of marriage, I still had a wandering eye and I'm looking around. If I saw somebody I could cheat with, I would have cheated. So I'll cheat. But I'm speaking in exact terms, not saying that for the first two years I cheated. I didn't say for the first two years I cheated or for the first two years I was cheating. I say for the first two years I still had a wandering eye and if I saw somebody I could cheat with, I would cheat. But people took it as I said that I was cheating for the first two years. And it's because they watch one minute of a video that's over an hour long. So if they were to watch the whole interview on YouTube and it's got the context, then they would have been able to understand. So I'm looking at my notifications a little bit ago and a woman said LOL or wow, this N word said that he was opening the cheating for the first two years. And it's like, and I look at the related page and she ain't got on no clothes. She in a thong, she bent over in a chair, taking pictures, showing all kinds of scratch marks, all kinds of saggy droop booty. And I'm like, I don't know who paying for this, I don't know who told her to take these pictures, I don't know who said they wanted to see this. And I said, oh my goodness. But then it made me think, I'm like, I've seen a lot of women that have said similar things. And I'm like, is this a revelation to women that men don't just get married all of a sudden, never think about cheating again? I'm like, nah, I'm like, hold on, I'm just kind of confused. I'm like, do women not know that men think about cheating until the day we die? Do women not know that? And I'm gonna tell you why women don't know that. I'm gonna tell you why women don't know that because there will be clown of men who want to keep women in the dark. Do not care anything about their daughter, their mama, their sister, and they will come and say, they will come and say in the comments, I'm a man and I've been married and I've never once thought about cheating. And women will believe it. Women will be like, I talked to my brother and my brother said he has never once thought about cheating with another woman on his wife. And I say, well, the key word was another woman because your brother is gay, your brother like men's, okay? So I'm like, wow, women are shocked that I said that I was a womanizer and got married at 23 years old and still had to adjust to marriage for the first two years of marriage. I'm like, how can that be science? Like, is this rocket science? I'm like, oh, my goodness. I'm like, this is crazy. That women literally think that a man of God is not tempted. That women really think that a man of God is not going to look at another woman and have to repent. That women think that men come to a place that we no longer recognize beauty or see other women or are tempted with lust. I say, wow, this crazy. This is crazy. Like, if y'all think that y'all really got to be slapped with some baby powder, like the man like Kat Wynn was doing on the movie Friday, you gotta ask somebody for some baby powder. If y'all really think that a man, I'm gonna tell you a story and God rest his soul. My granddaddy, he was my step-granddaddy is what my mom or actually dad. But when he was 88 years old, at 88 years old, I was told by my grandma or somebody that he was still paying the prostitutes. He was still paying a prostitute five dollars, five dollars to get fellatio. Now, the catch is he had a catheter in. He had a catheter in. So y'all know what a catheter is, the little tool that go up in your thing and it hooked to a bag to catch the pee. At 88 years old, was still paying five dollars for a little sloppy talk. And this was before I don't think Viagra was a thing. Then what you have to realize is my grandma was not his wife. She was his ex-wife. And my grandma told me, she say, she say, no role, this everybody family, this everybody family, this what women don't understand about men. Talk to a CNA. Have you ever talked to a CNA? Talk to a CNA. And let that CNA tell you about the man who was 80 years old, 85 years old. Talk to it and look at Marie saying, you grow out of that lust. Men do not grow out of lust. Men do not grow out of lust. Ever, if a man is breathing, he's still being tempted with lust. You will never meet a man. You will meet a man who will lie and tell you that he don't lust and that he's not tempted with lust. Every man, a man do not grow out of lust. Anybody on here till say nobody does. And I agree, as long as you got eyes, you gonna see some that is, if you a woman that you think is handsome, if you a man that you think is beautiful, but I can't speak for no woman. I can't speak for no woman. But here's the thing what you got to realize. Lust is a sin, but it's not the same as acting on that lust. So that's something that a man has to get his self through, whether it be through prayer, coaching, mindset. It's not something that he's got to sit and dwell on. It's not something he got to act on. It's not something that he got to fall to. That's not the case. But you asked for CNA. Look at this. Look what Taji said. Y'all look what Taji said now. Look what Taji said. And because women don't understand this, we gonna pin that for a second. We gonna pin that for a little bit. Because women don't understand. A lot of women do not understand that until a man stopped breathing, he gonna be nasty. And I'm gonna tell you, and I'm gonna tell you the thing is, is because I can't be nasty with another woman, because I can't be nasty with another woman, I'm nasty with my wife. And she just, that's not her personality at all. That's not her personality at all. And I honestly don't know if she get tired of me. She don't seem like she tired of me, but she just feel like, what hush, what plea, what plea. But that's the thing. So I want you to understand. And what you have to realize is that I have pinned a little thing, but I ain't gonna be able to unpin it. I was gonna unpin it, but I can't even see it. And this what I want you all to understand is the only way, the only way a man is gonna change and overcome, not change, but overcome. Cause you got to realize the battle's gonna keep coming. The battle's gonna keep coming. But wherever there is temptation, there is a way of escape. And that's what you have to understand. Whatever there is temptation, there's a way of escape. And so it's a lot of women who live in this world, this fantasy world, that a man of God or a man is gonna come to a place. I'm so tired of this boy. This boy be acting a fool. Lord, bless him. Lord, help heal this boy. Give this boy peace and just peace and just, oh my goodness, this boy healed. Lord bless him, Lord bless him. I ain't talking about my son, it's on somebody else's child. And a lot of women think that a man gonna come to a place to where he just all of a sudden don't see no other woman booty, don't see, don't have no temptation, don't face anything. And that is a fairy tale. That man got to see that and then he has to overcome that. He has to overcome that. And, but it's always going to be there. It's always gonna be there. And so you have to realize and you've got to really get to know men. And I'm gonna tell you something. As a man, as a man, somebody say, how do you overcome lust? You don't overcome it. You beat it. Meaning you always going to face lust. As long as you got eyes, you're gonna face lust. As long as you can see you're gonna face lust. Ray Charles and Stevie Wonder faced lust and couldn't see. But you would then have to be able to say to yourself, I'm renewed. I'm renewed and I'm made whole. And that's why I try to tell women, if your man don't have a relationship with his creator, if your man don't have a relationship with his creator, he's not going to be able to beat lust. He gonna be able to beat lust. Oh Lord, I wish you do that in the game. My goodness. If your man don't have a relationship with his creator, he's not going to be able to beat lust. So that's what you have to realize. And the man, this what a lot of people don't understand. When I say tap into purpose. For each man that could be different. So tapping the purpose could mean falling in love with God, with his creator. It could mean understand his purpose as a husband, understand his purpose as a father, understand his purpose in the community, understand that he is being looked up to, understand that he is responsible, understand that he is in a place where he has to do the right thing because his children are counting on him. That could be tapping into purpose. So tapping into purpose, then that is also the man being disciplined. What you have to realize is that temptation never goes anywhere. Temptation never goes anywhere. It does not leave. It will be here. God created good and he created evil. And it's not, neither are going anywhere. So you have to understand that. Somebody don't have being nasty. And when you understand that, hmm, who he scored on? That boy scored on my son, look like he scored on my son. Somebody say you can't say tap when we talking about being faithful. No, you just gotta get your head out the gutter. Gertrude, stop being nasty now. You over there, want somebody to put something on you? Come on now, we ain't here, this isn't the saints in here. So what you have to realize, the temptation ain't going nowhere. And this what I try to help women understand because what you have to realize is I've been married 16 years and I am faithful to my wife. And I can't, what bothers me is when men come on here and they lie to women, they come on here and they lie to women and they tell women, oh, I never, I never lust. I never am tempted. I never dissonant. I never and it's like, boy, you is going to the devil house with gasoline draws on. And I'm gonna tell you that right now, you're going to the devil house with gasoline draws on. I'm gonna tell you that because what you have to realize is it got to be something. And this is what a lot of women don't understand. This is what a lot of women don't understand. Look at what Maria said. Maria tell you, and I think, and I'm real, I think Maria had a husband was white. He passed away, God rest his soul. I think it was white for him to stay. And so that go to show right there. It's all racist. It's all racist. And I pray to Lord, let me keep my right mind because you mess around and lose your mind and you just say what's all right there and you don't have that filter to stop it. Well, I'm gonna be a handful in that nursing home. Maybe, oh, and this is what men don't wanna be honest about. And this is why so many women are naive because they think that, and that's why it's a joint effort. Because the same way men are tempted, I would imagine women are tempted too. So it's a joint effort in the fact that we have to love each other and treat each other with the right attention and time and focus to help one another be faithful. A lot of time people don't understand that when you're in a marriage, you're a teen and so you can provoke somebody, you can isolate somebody, you could push somebody away and people will say stupid stuff like, oh no, that's just a man's place to just be faithful on his own, that's just a woman's place to be faithful on their own. No, you become one flesh. The two become one flesh, you together. So you have to be able to help each other and not push each other apart. And so you got to be able and you got to be able to work together. And what you have to understand is that the test is always going to come, but you can pass the test. And what is mind boggling to me is that what is mind boggling to me is that women do not realize that when a man gets married, he doesn't automatically change, that a man is constantly growing and working every day of his marriage, every day of his marriage. A man never arrives. Men don't arrive. A man don't come to a place to where he's done growing. And I would imagine this stuff to be the case for women too, but I can't speak for no woman. But I know men, I've never met a man that is at 100%. I've never once met a man who has fully arrived, who has it all figured out, who is everything under the sun, never, never. It's not, there's no such thing as a perfect human. Because if there was, then we wouldn't need salvation. And so that's the thing. Somebody say, what does overcome temptation mean to you? Just think crazy, but not act. Because the Bible says if you look at a woman with lust, you commit adultery with her. Right, Veronica? And that's why we have forgiveness for sin. That's why the Bible says every man will fall short of the glory of God. That's why the Bible says that a faithful man who can find one, we sin until we die. You don't overcome sin. You have to repent from sin, but you're still going to be confronted with sin again. So we understand what the Bible say, but we also understand why Christ died on the cross. Because if we could do it on ourself, if we could do it ourself, then he wouldn't have had to die. We all know every human sins until they die. And sin is sin. It's just not always the same kind of sin. So for a woman, she might not be lusting out the no man because men might've been drove up craze and she fed up with men. So her sin may be gossiping. Her sin may be backbiting. Her sin may be coveting her neighbor's husband or coveting her neighbor's life. Her sin might be another type of sin, but it's still sin. So you can't condemn somebody because they sin differently than you. We know what the Bible say. Everybody know what the Bible say, but that don't stop nobody from sinning. We still sin. That's why every day we got to repent. So that's why every day, I got to say, Lord, forgive me for my sins. Wash me clean in the name of Jesus. And yes, there is a difference between seeing something attractive and lusting. So to lust, you're gonna have to really dive in and spend some time with it and let your mind go there. But you could see somebody that's attractive and recognize their attractiveness without visualizing sleeping with them, without visualizing being with them sexually. So that's what you got to understand. And that's the place that we hope to get to to where we have a recall. We have a redirection to where when our mind thinks something, we able to redirect to a positive and clean thought. We able to say, Lord, help me. We able to say, Lord, forgive me. We able to turn our head. We able to do that. And so that's what you have to realize. But you have to understand that you dealing with a human who has been charged with the task of being fruitful and replenishing the earth. And until a man goes in the grave, his mind is going to have that tick in it and that function in it. And he has to be able to redirect that to something positive. He has to be able to say, okay, this is what my flesh wants to do, but this is what I know I should do and what I need to be doing, regardless of what my flesh wants to do. And that's what you have to understand. And see, the truth is too real for a lot of people. A lot of people can't handle the truth. A lot of people don't want to hear the truth. A lot of people don't want to believe the truth because they want to go into this place. They want to go in this place that they want to believe in their human as if their human is God. And they want to pedestalize their human as if their human can do no wrong. As if their human is going to be pure and perfect. And they want to do that because it's self soothing. It's soothing to think that a person will come to a place where they are not tempted, where they don't see other beauty. Women love to go into a fantasy realm to think that if their man loves them that their man will not recognize or see another beautiful woman. And that is foolish. Because if he got eyes, he gonna see another beautiful woman. Now, if he has self control and discipline, he has love for himself, for his wife, or for God, then he can see that beautiful woman and keep going about his business. And that's what you have to realize and understand. Wherever there is temptation, there will be a way of escape. And this is where we have so many lies being told. So yes, there were men in the Old Testament who had multiple wives. In the New Testament, in Christianity, that was not a thing. A man is told to be with one woman. But there are still men who live and believe in the way of the Old Testament. So when we say that we should be with one woman, there are men who say we were not created to be with one woman. And so they hold on to that. And there will be some women who say that. And so you have to understand that a man has to have discipline and self control. A man has to have discipline and self control and he has to have a deeper love and sense of purpose in order to do the right thing. And to be in right standing. And that's where a lot of times we go wrong. Oh, I forgot I can't go to nine because my son get out and press eight, third on. I was sitting here, I think, you know, eight, third of the night. I think it was eight, third right down here, a little closer to the gate. So I want y'all ladies to understand that when you dealing with men, you dealing with a beast. And this is what, this is what. And when I say a beast, I don't mean, you got to understand. Do what I want y'all to understand that women are understanding, okay? A lot of women don't understand this. When you dealing with a man, do you understand it's men that kill bears, kill lions, that it's men who catch alligators with their bare hands and wrestle alligators? Do you understand that it's men who go into the service and go over to another country and annihilate another human race and come back home and go to sleep? So what I need you to understand, and this is what a lot of men don't want to admit to, is that we need renewed. We need to be renewed. We need to be changed by Christ. A lot of people don't understand that. A lot of people don't, a lot of women don't understand that when you dealing with a man, you dealing, I'm gonna tell you like this right here. Me personally, I would never leave a child that can't fend for themselves, meaning fully articulate, fully develop. I would never leave that child with a man alone. Not to say that 100% of men would do something, but I'm not gonna take a chance, hoping that I get the 10% of men who won't. I'm not gonna take a chance. I would never in my life leave a little girl with a man. I wouldn't leave no little boy with a man because even if the man don't like men or like boys, he might be aggressor. Do you hear me? You have to understand that until a man is renewed in every way of his life, he can't be trusted farther than you can see him. Until this man is renewed in every way of his life. And it ain't that men is such bad people, it's just proof that we need Christ. It's proof that we need Christ. It's proof that we need to be renewed by the Creator. A lot of men don't believe in Christ. If a man tell me he won't believe in God, he might not believe in Christ. If a man tell me he won't believe in a higher power, that's the last time he talking to me. The last time I'm going to be around him. Listen, you got to get around me. You got to get around me. Got to go. Got to go, but don't even look my way. You got to be, but don't even speak to me. Uh-oh. Because you shout out. Because listen, you got to understand what some priest are doing. Look at what the Dalai Lama. Go look, Google, Dalai Lama kisses little boy. This, the Dalai Lama and this ain't no English translation. The Dalai Lama told that little boy, suck not suck my tongue and stuck your tongue out. Hey, God bless y'all. We're going to finish this up at another time. But I want y'all to stop believing in men and believing God. Stop putting your hope in your trust in man and put your hope and trust in God. Stop putting man on a pedestal and know, and know God. And you take the messages that you could learn from and that you could get, but don't give man no praise. That's what I tell people all the time on my lives when we do our group chats in the growth club. If you ain't in the growth club, go to tonigasthacademy.com Get in the growth club. It's our group coaching every month. But I tell women all the time, I'd say when y'all get on here, just get to your question. Don't say to me, Tony, I want to thank you for everything you do and all that. Don't give me no praise. Don't give me no praise. Because just like I don't want your criticism, I don't want your praise either. But hey, God bless y'all. We'll talk soon. Y'all take care. I might hop back on here a little later. I'm going to put the important links in the description. God bless you.