 Why we always get the last laugh after the narcissist rejected you Or refused to do something because they were too proud After they expressed contempt and disdain for you You finally get the satisfaction of success By succeeding when they thought you would not While they look foolish after they criticised and opposed you At first you may be very confused Because you're wondering what is so good about this next situation What makes it so much better than what they had with you You may see that they're tolerating things that they wouldn't tolerate with you You may see that they're doing things it didn't do with you You may have been very organized and prepared and in a better state of life You may have lived in a good and sensible way You may have strived to reach your goals for effort and determination And you had everything under control But this new person isn't on your level Because what you didn't realise at the time is that the narcissist wasn't on your level as well They got lucky with you and you didn't see it because you overcompensated for their shortcomings You took excessive measures to correct and make amends for their errors, weaknesses and problems You invested all of your time, money and energy Into something that was not as valuable as you are Because they managed to get involved with you by talking and making you believe that they can do something Or by making you believe that something is true about themselves They spoke very convincingly about their plans, abilities and attentions But they weren't of the same value or quality as you are People will ultimately seek out others Who are of the same value and quality People who are similar to themselves They will eventually gravitate towards others who have similar opinions, ideas and interests They may have played a role with you And acted like there was something else with you But they will eventually gravitate back to those same types of people And it may shock and surprise you But that's because you overlooked the people that they were associating with Which should have revealed to you if they were on the same level as you It should have revealed to you if they shared the same values and beliefs It should have revealed to you if you had something in common Before you accommodated them in your life Because you can tell a lot about a person By the people with whom they associate and spend time with If you know who a person's friends and associates are You should know what their character is Because like minds stick together But if they're a narcissist They will say that they like the same things as you do To confuse and mislead you, to build a false connection To make you accept them Where although something may seem off about them You make an exception for them You give them a chance Because they're claiming to have similar likes and interests Or as though you have introduced them to something that they now like It's fake, but it works It makes you want to accept them But if they were really a high value person If they were everything they led you to believe They would never reduce to a lower position or level of importance They wouldn't settle for less They wouldn't feel comfortable If they were being real with you If they were really who they said they were But they're not really settling for less They're accepting something that is at their own level Because they never had the qualities or skills to be involved In the first place They just dealt with you in a dishonest way And they got you to believe in them They got you to trust them And that is how you chose them Even though they don't have the qualities or skills to maintain a relationship They tricked you Which is why as time goes by It reveals their deficiencies and inaccuracies Their performance starts to decline You're not getting what you thought you were getting They're falling behind Because they don't have the qualities and skills to be efficient enough to maintain a relationship with you So it starts to have an effect on them It's too much for them to manage It starts to be an irritating convenience to them It starts to cause them difficulty and trouble Which results in problems and arguments Until it makes them very tired and less able to deal with the situation Until they no longer want to put on an act They like the payout But it's not a good position for them They're not up to the mark They're not good enough for it So eventually they will fail to participate They will blow you off They will become unavailable Because they never had the necessary qualities and skills for the position of being with you in the first place Which is why you saw a gradual decline in their performance Which is why they couldn't maintain composure to avoid an overly emotional reaction Which is why you couldn't stay together and continue having a good relationship Because they weren't how they used to be in the beginning They couldn't meet your requirements and expectations There was a gradual decline in their performance And that is why they ended up ghosting you Because they knew it was only a matter of time until the ship would sink With them as the captain So they had to get out of there They had to go somewhere where there was less requirements Where there was lower standards where people didn't expect so much from them And that is why you end up seeing them as someone who is below the standard you expected Someone who is not at the level that you were when they were with you Because they dropped down to a level that is easier for them to control A level that they can deal with without difficulty Because being with you was higher than their ability They wanted the benefits and conveniences But they were never at the expected standard to be in that position Thank you for watching. 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