 All right She finally catch on the line God bless you Yeah, it's just like a little chat now. I ain't doing a Q&A cuz I ain't got the energy for the Q&A As you know Q&A you get all kind of question and sometimes the notification don't go I I notice I get it and it's my channel. I get a notification when I go back to my email I see it on there. Well want to come on here and talk Cuz I've had to drive my son home and So y'all forgive me if you hear him and my wife talking cuz they talking behind me and sometimes they voice travel through They talk like they high school best friend. They just be Chitty chat. That's how my son is. He he taught me like that too, but he I mean he taught like We his best friend. I mean non stop. He's up in he been like this whole life, too And he 15 years old still like that. He taught non stop that boy. I love to tell you about everything that happened But I want to pop on here. Give a little time. Let me let this he'll get set up Few of them notifications will go on out. Some people see it in the email and then we'll West coast might have some of our west coast people on here Folks over in Europe and Africa. I think they sleep already but We'll see and There's not a Q&A y'all notice the title didn't say Q&A. There's not a Q&A We just talking because reason why we talking It's because I ain't get to shoot a video today. So I don't get to shoot a video. Sometimes I just go live if I'm able to and Trying to do better than I did last month because last month I wasn't you know doing too much And right now I'm evening Some meat somebody asked about the real I'm on the keto for a week or so Can't do that stuff too long sometimes because it mess your body up pin on your body tight But want to pop on here if you missed the earlier one It says Wednesday night chat. You'll see it posted from this date But I want to pop on here cuz some of y'all sent me these Messages DMs on Instagram Some divorces that's happening now the one my wife say was old. I think it was Miguel and his wife. I don't know if it just happened or if that's old. I Don't know and now Tia Mallory I think it is in her husband Now it's something about this and I want you to understand like certain people and Especially certain certain people we have a ability to look at people and we just kind of could read on and I don't know Where it comes from. I don't know if it's a spiritual gift like a discernment or for me if it's just from being quiet my whole life and just studying people observing people reading people so a lot of times I could look at people and just kind of tell what they're struggling with what they're going through and I've kind of put it into I Put it into different categories based on how the world treats us and The world treats us a lot of times based on how we look and then beyond how we look Is where we come from what we've gone through and so When you understand that then it helps you as I read once a man said that a person's a man's history and his biography equals the makeup of who he is and So you have to understand that a lot goes into this and that is why marriages fail because of the history and the biography of a person a Lot of times when we get with somebody Lot of time we get with you talking to husband. I say you were talking in your high school bestie Y'all talking The divorce Yeah If you come home and don't speak to your wife and then come from alive first before saying hello, that's how you get it worse Well, I was upset I'll tell if I came right here Because you the chit-chatty ignore me Have to come for me Okay Power in the words Yeah, only stuff could be in the future You got on to me when I said it looked like he broke his arm, but that was in the past Yes I spoke to you telepathically But he y'all talking so vigorously but see where what it was I told him I built a 1030 in with 1029 Cuz you know some some y'all got to go to bed early So I figured somebody come on here 1030 ain't on here. They gonna be like See he's a lot again. And that's what get on there and then radio over there So I was like he got a tension there be talking about how So I just came over to talk about how much he be talking to us Because he taught me that So When you be telling me what to do oh you need you need to hurry up and take a shower. He needs to shower I heard No Wait up on me You can't go sleep to he go to sleep Now see my wife we've been married 15 years So I love the fact that she coming into her own She used to come to the door and just stand there and just sign language She's still standing here by the way, but now She's something I miss the tone of these to listen But but now she come and she is going ahead and open the door and talk to me I used to always tell me baby, this yours on your husband. You need to interrupt me. You can interrupt me Interrupt me for anything. I say that one breath and then sometimes don't answer the call because I've been a middle of a good video but This ain't really work, you know according to them, but this be my work Somebody say not telepathically lay back Y'all a thing I'm gonna go on get to him. I need to wash it though. Remember you had the hat washer. I Need to wash it Okay, this seven and a half They need to do something about them shorts. You make me feel way Push some sweats on Hey, y'all forgive so when I came in Hey, y'all forgive. She's a dump. I love you when I came home. I ain't go speak with my wife I came right here to the pain but the reason why I speak because her my son was talking and some Sound I get jealous when they just be talking talk about and I'd be like You don't talk to me like that But she love her kid boy and so I just came here. I said she told me to go and get to work, but listen though, so Me and my wife, okay We've been married 15 years So we understand the spiritual warfare that come with marriage and it's a lot of days that We didn't thought about divorce. It's a lot of days. She didn't thought about divorce It's a lot of days. I didn't thought about divorce marriage ain't hunky dory It's a lot of days you think and you wonder and me coming up. I've been coaching professionally since maybe 2007 for sure 2009 2010 and So it's a lot of times when I'm young and developing and I was coming up and I would be coaching somebody and The woman will sound perfect. So, you know, the devil gonna jump in and play on that man What if you married a woman like that? What if you married somebody like that and I'm pretty sure when we go out and I can't speak for her But I just understand humans and this how humans is it come to times where you face tough times And you go through some stuff and you question and wonder did I make the right decision and you have to decide Every single day, but see what you see happening in this celebrity world when with these divorces not understand That these divorces and stuff That's happening in the celebrity world. They have they happening every day They happen in every day in everyday life But what happens is? It doesn't get televised when your neighbor get a divorce. So we just see the celebrities But the same thing happening with with our parents with our friends That's a lot of people don't hear them been through a divorce and the reason being is what you and I used to say Hollywood relationships is for your entertainment and The reason why I say that is because it's so much perversion In Hollywood is so much temptation It's so much and so anytime I see somebody get married and anytime I look at a marriage I don't ever look at anybody online as Relationship goals because I'm in a relationship And I know the work that it takes and somebody posted the other day. They posted a little dirt in India money bag yo and I think I named Ari and Little baby and Jada Maybe maybe that maybe they was on there and it said which one was your relationship goals and When I see stuff like that when I whenever I see a couple and I see these couples today because as y'all know today as y'all know today It's money to be made in Relationships Meaning when you show your relationship not not teaching on relationships But when you show it's people making money too when they teach it on relationship and but it ain't money It might be money compared to they you know when they used to flip Burgers, but it ain't money you feeling the way you're gonna be comfortable and set so understand that But when we see these relationships We say relationship goals But what we fail to realize is that there is So much that goes in and y'all let me know can you hear me? Can you still hear me because I'm a little sleep thing just came on and I'm hoping a term of all your mom Because it like fall asleep the web messages. Okay, you can see him and so all right. Thank you All right, everybody ain't got to put yes on All right. All right. We got all right. All I got put Some people see this late because they started late so there's lags so we've been to see yes for the next 10 minutes So y'all forgive me for that asking that question So when you see this when I look at a relationship today, I'm gonna tell you what I do because I'm in a relationship This is what I do. I say to myself. I say that man got to get over pornography That man got to get over his ex-girlfriends coming back around That man got to get over manipulation. He got to get over deceit He got to get over control. He got to get over jealousy He got to get over You know all the temptation he got to get over his work wife He got to get over his social media wife. He got to get past his clients his coworkers I'll go through the list of everything that this man gonna have to overcome in Marriage and I look at his makeup. I look at where he comes from. I Look at his lifestyle. I look at his habits. I look at how he moves and one thing that I have learned Is that if a man lacks morals? He won't be good at love Because love is a moral act and so when people be like, oh Oh, my man smoke weed my man smoke weed. Oh When a man Have any kind of addiction when a man got addiction when a man have a vice that has control over him It lets me know That it's gonna be very very hard to make a relationship work now one out of a thousand can do it You're gonna have some You know some exceptions to the rule But very very Rarely can a man have an addiction or a vice and make a relationship work And I want you to look around unless the woman got the same type of stuff going on in her life And they co-dependent but look around at every man You know every man you've ever been with every man you've ever met who has some type of addiction or vice Eventually his relationship fails Because love is a moral act Love takes courage love takes discipline love takes sacrifice So it is next to impossible For a man to love a woman purely if he has not gained self-control of himself and that is why we see so many divorces now Yes, women are the cause of divorce as well But from me being a relationship coach for the last 15 years What I have found is most of the time it is the man and the reason why it is the man Most of the time is because most men do not know how to be faithful Most men cannot curve that appetite to cheat Most men cannot conquer lust and that's why when I work with these sports teams these college team These young men I talked to them about Curving their lust I talked to them about abstaining from pornography abstaining from masturbation abstaining from sex to gain control When they in college Because if you cannot gain control when you young you may never gain control And so what happens with a lot of men is they cannot build their relationship and I'm gonna tell you when a man takes and makes it all about his woman When he cuts off his social media wives his work wives His best friend female best friends that he actually is in love with but calling them friends When he cuts off every other woman And he does what the bible say to ravish in the bosom of his wife Now it's it's two sides of this and this is what women don't understand It's two sides of this and it's hard now. It's hard and this is where I feel that in my marriage I was like every other man that I ever knew and I was a womanizer I was out there and I played sports so women love Athletes on average a lot of women love athletes if not to love or date to at least sleep with a lot of women deal with athletes and then if you are athlete and you got a little talk game and or You know, you come from a good family. It's a lot of factors that go into it. And so For me, I was dealing with a lot of different women And when I got married it was I had to turn that switch I had to flip the switch and it was hard for the first two years of my marriage. I struggled It was hard. It was just I was I was 23 years old So I still was you know wandering eyes It was hard to turn it off and that's what a lot of people don't understand a lot of women don't understand that about men and women have this fairytale Most women have a fairytale that being faithful for a man is going to be as easy as it is for a woman And it is easier for a woman Because of how women are raised How it's like your daughter you don't let your daughter walk out the house with her broth But your son could walk out the house with his shirt off But that woman could lust that older woman across the street could be lusting at your son's chest And so my son he come home the other day I teach him about his body the same way I would teach if I had a daughter so he came home and His shorts was on and he had this right here standing up in his shorts And so here go his shorts and here go his here go and meet leg like this right here Lump to the side now y'all forgive me. I'm transparent now. I teach real I say son. What is that? He says my private. I said no, they ain't what we do son. I say they ain't what we do I say we do this right here and we we put that thing down I say that middle right there in the I say you put that down Hey, you you you tuck and roll You don't just let it sit up there. You don't let it just sit up there on your thigh like that son Because that is it's women who will look at that and be seduced to be turned on And some women will prey on you some women will come and run a game on you and it's some men That's attracted to men that'll be coming after you. I say listen you put that thing down I say I got the same thing and I guarantee you yours ain't bigger than mine But you don't walk around here seeing me just you know just sitting up there when I'm out and about You got to put that thing down be decent. I say because if I had a daughter I say do you want me if I had a daughter would you expect me to walk or let her walk around with a camo toe? I tell her she needs a longer shirt or she needs to get some pants That don't split up that vulva like that and have them vulva flip across that that little crease in the pants I say so the same way I would do a daughter the same way I'm gonna do you You need to have some decency and respect and you need to tuck that You hear me because this ain't about that We ain't walking around with no Jezebel spirits And I have to tell them all the time because see he had body issues Growing up having a little extra meat on his bones. So now he got abs So right after the game, he want to take his shirt off every other player got their shirt on He want to roll his shorts up so you can see his thigh muscles and see that's I have to talk to him About that and I'm using my life and my family as an example and sometimes they don't like that But I have to let them know I'm a minister. I'm a teacher. I got to be transparent I can't just go ahead and talk down to people and talk at people like I ain't living and dealing with what I be talking about So we have this stuff out here and this these spirits is real and a lot of times women don't understand How a man is, you know Built and how a man is wired and that got to be renewed in a man to be turned off when he get in relationship So what I find from being a relationship called for 15 years is majority of the time Divorces happen because the man cannot be faithful That's the majority of the time people say fine. That's just ain't nobody getting divorced over money That's just that is a byproduct of infidelity That becomes the molehill that is turned into a mountain I have never once in my 15 years of relationship coaching Coached a couple that was going through a divorce that said we are getting a divorce over finances But yet that's what they put on google That's what they put in these reports and that's what all the financial coaches say Your number one cause of divorce is finance. No, it is not don't nobody care about no money Money do not have more power than love But what does ruin these relationships is infidelity and then for the public for the paper They might say it was irreconcilable differences. But a lot of time that irreconcilable differences is infidelity And then the fallout from that infidelity And then only other times it's abuse. It's a form. It's some type of abuse physical emotional verbal Financial spousal is some type of abuse and that'll be in there. But that financial Will be the least It'll be physical verbal emotional and these are the Number one the main reasons for divorce. And so a lot of times what you see is In a relationship somebody can't get right They got too much pain too much trauma. They done been through they done been hurt too many times They don't trust people. They don't have a proper upbringing They don't live right or do the right things and they cannot get right And that Turns into irreconcilable differences. So guess what? I got problems My wife got problems but what we do Is when we express the things that we don't like When we express the things that we would like to see change Both of us make a honest effort. It's not to say that we're gonna be Perfect for the rest of our lives. It's not to say that we're not gonna mess up It's not to say none of that But we both make a honest effort to grow and to change and me I fight Battles all day every day in my mind And here's the thing what I was talking about what happened with me when a man was into nasty stuff part iron out of Asia and fornication When a man was into those things and he becomes focused on one woman The downside of that is we can become obsessive and controlling Have and that has to be changed and a lot of people don't understand that A lot of therapists and people don't understand the other side of infidelity when a man becomes 100 focused on a woman And a woman might be like man, he's so clingy Man, he's so controlling man. He don't trust me Man, he asked so many questions And she don't realize that she has to sit down and address that That she got to paint that picture for him and help him understand like listen You got to calm down my brother Because you is overbearing you are overbearing right now And the reason why we become overbearing is when we put everything Into a woman It's just like anything with your job with your hobby with your craft with your skill When you devote everything to something you become obsessed with it And it has to be addressed So even when you see an athlete when they cut out the smoking they cut out the drinking they cut out the clubbing What are they called? When they dedicate everything to that sport, we call them obsessed Motivational speakers speak on you got to be obsessed And so that's what koby bryant god rested soul. That's what he was known as Upsest because he devoted everything to the game Hey, it's not a q&a for those y'all asking questions. It's not a q&a. It's just a lesson tonight like a normal video We just happen to be live So just pretend it's a normal video And y'all don't y'all interrupt the flow now And so he becomes obsessed and so what I had to realize about myself is like tony Okay, never once in your life. Have you given your whole self to a woman until now? And now that you've given your whole self to a woman you worried about her every move You worried about what she doing where she going what but she is used to being faithful I wasn't used to being faithful. She used to being healthy in a relationship. I wasn't used to that So when I shifted it made me obsessive it made me like Controlling and then I it had to be checked. I had to realize. Oh, whoa, you know I'm putting too much. I need to chill That's why even the night I came in here and came straight to work Because I said I have to have a sense of normalcy because some men work 12 hour days Today during the day where where 99% of men working. I was in the bed with my wife and we was watching Dateline On peacock streaming out. We was watching dateline We watched like two episodes of dateline in the middle of the day when most men working I'm in the bed drinking a iced caramel macchiata And eating a ahi tuna bowl with my wife that she brought me home And most men working in the middle of the day. So my first time working was was at like 1 p.m I think or 2 p.m When I started working. So when I came home, I said man, let me go right in here and go to work Like most men who work I do that for a sense of normalcy because my wife has me all the time You see she came in oh you come in came speak and it's like listen A lot of other men in the script club right now some men watching porn right now At at 11 o'clock some men with they other woman right now some men on the video game right now I'm I'm working for the lord of my purpose. So she was joking. She don't really care She it's not a real thing for those y'all who take everything serious. She was joking Going to bed. All right, like she was joking But I did that intentionally. I said, well, let me go in here. She talked to my son And I did that to almost to just break myself out of being so immersed Because sometimes when you so immersed you could you get borderline To where you could almost be obsessed or controlling And so what what a lot of women don't understand is a man's personality Is obsessive Have you ever think about your dad or your brother or a friend what he got into If he fixed cars if he restored cars If he's into video games if he's into gambling if he's into sports Whatever a man is into It's like he's obsessed with it And it's like man You got to be on a video game four hours Man, you got to be working on your car for eight hours You got to be in the casino For 10 hours, you got to be watching football all day on sunday When men get into stuff men get obsessed And so what happens is most men never give a woman all of them Because they don't know how to control the obsession And this needs to be taught by mothers and fathers even if you're a single mother Men have to learn how to have self control So I have to i'm teaching myself even now how to trust How to trust and how to be vulnerable And to not feel like I have to control every situation of like because naturally as a man We're going to be like well, where are you? Well, who are you with what you doing? And even okay, we get those answers But if our woman is out there too long four hours done past are you still out? Where are you at like when you come home and some women can identify with that some women are like that too But for me and sometimes it could be overboard And a man got to be real then and he got to be checked and he got to learn self control So the reason why we go through so many divorces is because most men have no self control Most men we don't know how to reel it in So most men cannot control their vices or their habits. They can't control the pornography addiction They can't control the masturbation. They can't control the adultery or the fornication They can't control the cheating or the gambling or they can't control their controlling ways And then the woman get to a place. She's like, listen, I can't do this no more You can't do this no more And it's different levels to it. Do I've heard women say well, yeah, I was with I was I had a guy I was with him And he just got to the point to where he just was so You know dictating and controlling and it's like, you know, we was out at this event and I wanted and I was enjoying myself And he said hey, I'm tired. I'm ready to go And I'm enjoying myself for he's like Let's go and he like Made me leave And I'm like, well, no, you go ahead. I'm gonna stay. I'm having a good time And then women started to realize that okay, this man will interrupt my good time interrupt my peace interrupt my happiness for his misery And A lot of men don't know how to turn that off A lot of men don't know how to we struggle with letting the woman have freedom Letting the woman have her life and do her thing and trust her and then Still be faithful So it's so many men that will tell you if men was open and honest with women men will tell you that they cheated for safety They cheated just in case She was cheating And the reason being is because men fear vulnerability And the reason why men fear being vulnerable is because men are built like hunters Men are built like warriors. And so when you are a hunter or a warrior You will lose your life if you are vulnerable And if you look up the definition of vulnerable to be vulnerable means to be open for attack So most men never become trusting and vulnerable in a relationship Because a man's greatest fear is being violated A man's greatest fear is being hurt A man's greatest fear is giving his all And not getting all in return Giving everything and being hurt, but women do it every day Women do it every single day women give their Everything And get cheated on every day That helps you understand that men and women are not wired the same So and a lot of times we don't go back to even if you think it's a metaphor You can learn a lesson from a metaphor. Some people think adam and eve is metaphorical But when you look at it adam was created for dominion over the earth And eve was created to be a help meet to the man So the woman is naturally wired and built for love But society has forced a woman to be able to get it how she lives To get her own and that's why you hear so many women say i'm tired of grinding i'm tired of hustling But you rarely to never hear a man say i'm tired of the grind i'm tired of the hustle That's why athletes end up ruining their legacy because they never want to retire Shaquille O'Neal played for almost every team in the NBA because he did not want to retire But in his prime he was the most dominant center to ever play the game When you look at these boxers a lot of these boxers go brain dead And speeches slur and they lose their mind because they never want to retire And it's very hard for a man to ride off into the sunset We very rarely see men ride off into the sunset in any industry It's hard to get a man to sit down But how many women Gladly cheerfully and happily Leave their job to be full-time in the home There are millions of women In america who are full-time in the home and they have no desire to go to work Because they are wired a woman is wired for love And when a woman is wired for love But love is not happening Then she channels Her ability to grind A woman is capable of grinding a woman is capable of hustling A woman is capable of being a millionaire or a billionaire a woman is capable of that But even when you look at joseph bunching and tom brady Look at what they're going through right now and why this marriage is so difficult joseph was at her height y'all say I didn't know anything about supermodel So I didn't really know who she was and I you know I'm I'm looking at paying attention to other stuff. So I knew tyra banks Which probably I don't know if she was like a real supermodel But I knew tyra banks and I knew Naomi camber But I didn't know joseph bunching but let y'all tell it she was number one in the world Which I don't know how but I'm me and I didn't know who she was But it's just because I went into that kind of stuff, you know All that right there. So I'm focused on a real life See some men know about automotives because they in the masturbation they in the pornography I was in the making them myself So I don't pay attention to no supermodel that I can't touch that I can't reach And so I ain't nobody but y'all say she was number one and I knew the name after I heard it later And but what does she do? She gave up her career for family She gave up her career for family Somebody said she was making so more more than tyra and Naomi and she could have been making more than both of them come combine because of skin color Uh-huh. We're gonna talk about that part now But she could have been making more than both of them combined. I don't know. I would assume so And so but she gave that up. So what does that say about a woman? and then I hear tom is old is matthew's will And thank god here on my team now, but tom old is matthew's will and will not sit down That right there is a microcosm That's a microcosm of men and women That shows you right there the difference between a man and a woman. Why won't this man Give up his starter because joseph bunching was the tom brady of modeling And she gave it up to be a wife and a mother But tom brady won't give up his career Which this year Is causing some brain damage because that helmet keep hitting that ground because he getting sacked he getting sacked and so He won't even walk away from a violent sport Because a man is built to hustle and to grind and to chase and to hunt and to go after And this is why marriages fail On average now there will be men who want to come in here and twist my words He say every marriage fail because it's the man fault like a woman ain't never cheated And like a woman ain't never the reason and ain't nobody say that I say on average and majority of the time and i'm in the trenches coaching it So if you ain't in the trenches dealing with the couples Then hush and listen to somebody who it is I ain't talking about reading those stats because one thing i'm gonna tell you about stats is they be lying Because a lot of people don't even fill out no paperwork A lot of people don't even tell the truth on any kind of survey So stop depending on stats and getting the trenches if you really want to know what the number's talking about And so i'm in the trenches and i'm seeing it real i'm seeing it first hand Live and in effect like kid in play. You hear me? So listen to me Men struggle With marriage Because a man Is built more like a beast Than like a civilian Meaning and i put this in a book and i think a white man read the proposal Of my my book husband material. He said i can't relate How you can't relate and you the same race as jeffre daugh How you can't relate you the same race as ted blendy Harvey Weinstein Jeffrey Epstein talking about you can't relate to a man being a beast man You don't shut that mess up and get out of here R kelly Bill Cosby these people with money these people with fame And look what they get into so it's like how these people got all the sense and all the greatness And still become what they become That shows you the demons that men battle and today men don't want to confront it Men don't want to confront it and women don't want to admit that men deal with different demons than women The same spirits that occupy a man is not the same spirit that occupy a woman A man's struggle look totally different than a woman's struggle But so many women want to get on a soapbox. It's not that hard It's not that hard To be faithful. It's not that hard if if you can't be faithful, then don't get married I hear so many women saying that but not understanding that the reason why the man get married Is because he's trying to do the right thing Because he want to be a productive citizen. Why do you think a drug addict go to rehab because they want to come off the cocaine But it's not that easy They want to change their life. Why do you think people leave the hood? They want to change their life But when you leave the hood and you go into Another environment and they don't accept you because of your accent or the way you dress Or your skin color or your lack of education and they won't give you no real job Then what you do you go back to scamming you go back to drug dealing you go back to robbing You go back the way you come from I've seen my cousin go do three years in prison But for drugs came out and went to work a regular job And was working a real job and tried to work a real job and he called me one day and he said come I can't do this man. I'm making 200 and 50 dollars a week And i'm working eight 10 hours a day at this factory because I used to make 250 in an hour In a second when I was out there he said could I got to spread my wings? He said could can you pick him up and tape tape me back out to st. Pete? st. Petersburg, florida I drove into st. Pete dropped him off around fourth street Fourth street fifth street fifth fourth avenue fifth avenue what it's called right off the exit Dropped him off out there somewhere. He got out there two weeks later. I got a call He dead in the streets He tried to change he worked a regular job So that's what happened in a relationship A lot of men honestly with men it got to be pounded into a man From his father from his mother from his brother It's hard to reach men My son is amazing He's 15 years old and he's still Dance on my last nerve I still feel like i'm uphill battle with him I could hear this uh, I could hear The music from his air pod. I'm way up in the front driving my sprinter y'all know a sprinter is my sprinter 24 feet long He's sitting in the middle of it. I'm way up in the front. I could hear the beat I say something what you listening to he said a future song I say you're supposed to be listening to rap music. He said before practice I thought you said I could listen to it before rap music. I said I said I didn't tell you to listen that before practice I say you don't need to be listening rap music period I say you need all the grace in the world You need you could listen to christian rap But you don't need to be listening to nothing secular right now till you get straight a's Because he got a couple a minuses and might have a b plus I'll say until you get them grades up. You need to be praying fast and you need all the favor of the lord Cut that music off and don't let me hear you listening to it again But my son is a great kid straight a but i'm still hard on And then I told him when we come home I say son one day this gonna make sense to you he say Cap Now that is a slappable offense To cap he's on my cap But to him he just joking. He think we friends Not father and son and I have to keep reminding him son. I'm not your friend I'm your father Do not respond to me. I bet respond to me. Yes, sir And it's tiring parenting But this what it takes and my son is a great kid You let anybody else tell you about my son They will sing his praises to no end and as good as he is I know I still got to be on him because guess what people said the same thing about me That I'm an amazing kid. I never got a detention I never got rolled up. I never got suspended. I never got in trouble But what did I do become a womanizer become a drug dealer become a thief Become an abuser boyfriend a toxic lover and I was raised amazingly And this is what we do not understand that the battle that men are facing And the reason why men are so under spiritual warfare is because god called the man To be the head of the household And so the adversary attacks the head Because if he can get the man Like me to be controlling to be insecure To be a cheater to be a deceiver to be manipulative if the adversary can get me To be all of those things then he will destroy my family And if he destroys my family then guess what he's destroyed my lineage. He's destroyed my sons He's destroyed my wife and then my purpose me. I'm render Null and void. I'm render ineffective In the kingdom in the work So that is why men are so under spiritual attack. And that's why I've been telling women Recognize a good man Recognize when you have a man That is working that is sacrificing that is coming home every night That is not putting hands on you That is not cursing you out That is not cheating on you and got other women texting you and calling you and that is Working and providing Recognize a good man because a man is under so much spiritual warfare and see When the devil was working on me too. I thought I was doing something good But I didn't understand because I wasn't at the level Of spiritual warfare because my voice wasn't loud enough. So I thought being a man was so easy I thought being a man was just so You know just oh man, we got it made we got it made in the shade. And yes, we don't have to have periods Yes, we ain't got to carry no child. Yes. We ain't got to breastfeed. Yes We ain't got to have mental pause. Yes We ain't got to go through all a lot of stuff that women go through all the stuff women go through But I later learned as my territory was enlarged as my voice became louder I then found out about spiritual warfare And that's when I started to understand why adam was deceived why Cain was deceived Why Joseph was attacked Why abraham was tried why moses was tried Why solomon was tried why david was tried. I then why saw was tried I then why paul who then became paul was tried. I then began to realize This is why That's why jesus was tried after he come out the wilderness This is why because of the effect of an infirmary prayer That is over a man Because don't nobody pray for a man more than his mama and his grandma And When a woman praying for a man The adversary hear it too And if a man is locked in and focused that man could change his lineage and imagine if a man Affects change in his lineage. What happens now his children are productive Now his sons grow up to be good responsible men his daughters grow up to be good responsible women. And so now These children are productive citizens And when you have morals and you have values you upset the adversary And so that's why the head is attacked. That's why so many men are attacked with a vice So many men either Get drunk smoke weed pop pills gamble Or did the pornography masturbation fornication or adultery So almost every man, you know got a vice But that vice is to derail him to distract him from his life's purpose Because his life's purpose is to leave a mark on his family And possibly on the world so that he is never his his impact is never forgotten And it takes a place in this world and it shifts the atmosphere That's a man's role and that's why he is told to surrender to submit to his maker to his creator and so This is why there's an attack on the man And and and the thing that men struggle with is low self-esteem And I and I communicate this to my wife, but it's extremely hard for women Especially certain type of women Women who was raised in a certain way, but I communicate the importance of affirmation Men have to be affirmed and women do too But men struggle with low self-esteem Men struggle with insecurity And a lot of times it's insurmountable. It seems insurmountable So the words from a father the words from a mother the words from a wife The words from a girlfriend the words from a coach or a teacher It builds a man up it fuels them up. There was a there was a exercise in the indian tribe to where When somebody committed a crime They would bring them into the circle And they would have every other person tell this person One good thing they love about them And that person would never offend again Because affirmation and life being spoken into you When you hear what you're capable of when you are praised for what you're doing good You do not want to go the other way You do not want to be bad And so today we are dealing with Broken men We're dealing with insecure men We're dealing with men who do not know who they are under god and in the kingdom We're dealing with a lawless man. We're dealing with a lover of self We're dealing with egotistical Money hungry men And that does not go well in marriage When a man is so focused on money and his career And he's given to his vices to drown Out his insecurities In all of those things It breaks him down and so a lot of times this man becomes Abusive in the form Emotionally physically or verbally And it could be cheating It could be controlling it could be insecurity And then here's what you see Most of the time when I talk to a woman And she filed for divorce Typically the only time is when She knows she's going to get A nice alimony Or spouse of support Or she has her own money A lot of times when a woman is ready to leave and she's being cheated on Or abused she feels forced to stay Because she is a nurturer So she'll sacrifice her happiness And her peace of mind so that her children have A roof over their head and the same level of living And then when the children are gone then She can find a way to get out Because she doesn't necessarily need that roof and that level of living But even if the man just makes enough to take care of clothes and schools and bills If she's not able to do that a lot of times the woman won't leave And so she becomes trapped and that's why people say well, why don't marriages last now like they did with our grandparents Because women are not in the position of our grandmother and our great grandmother Those women did not have A real earning potential They did not have rights And respect in the world. They did not have really a position and a place So they felt their only existence was a wife and a mother Because they couldn't be a ceo of a fortune 500 company They couldn't start a six figure or seven figure business On average so they felt i'm just a wife and a mom But today it has changed and women are able to do for themselves And this is where the reckoning is coming for men Because now men are realizing that no amount of money in the world the richest men in the world Are going through divorces i.e. Jeff Bezos Bill Gates The richest men in the world are going through divorces The tallest men in the world are going through divorces The men who claim to be the most well endowed below the belt are going through divorces When you look around you see women who are leaving men who are packing So they say below the belt or in a bank account They're getting left because women getting fed up and they're saying i could do better on my own and so you have to understand that This is why this is happening Because women no longer force the state And now some men are filing for divorce And it may be for similar reasons Or it could just be he tired and he wants something new Now a lot of times when I see men file for divorce It's because they may feel and so this is the of one of the things one of the mistakes we make as men Is we try to quantify a woman's efforts and contribution in the household monetarily And so I heard a young guy actually say on a podcast Like I could hire a shelf. I could hire a house cleaner. I could hire somebody to do my laundry So what are you bringing to the table other than than that? And that is a mistake that men make that's a mistake I have made And so what happens is you see a lot of pastors getting divorces And the wife isn't filing for divorce The pastor is filing for divorce and then going and marrying a woman who is a high profile woman And the reason why you see that happening Is because the pastor is looking at the wife or the man of money It could be a producer. We saw a producer Um a music producer do this We see that happen a lot of music producers We see athletes do it and we see pastors do it you see a lot of times when men get money If their woman doesn't make money or make as much money The mistake we make as men is we look down on the woman because we say you don't earn what I earn And you're not treating me like I'm special You're not treating me like a king So as men we make the mistake of wanting a million dollars worth of treatment So we almost we will want to be bowed down to we will want to be praised like king tut We want to and so we say when a woman treats us like our stuff stank We're like, oh You don't praise me like other women. You don't desire me like other women And that's because the woman lives with us She see the bad in us She see she smell our boo boo She clean our dirty draws She is there when we are toxic controlling angry demeaning Wreckless Roofless she goes through all of that So she's not going to treat us like the women we come in contact with on the job or in the church congregation or in our business in our life And that's one of the things that happen And so a man will divorce his woman because he's saying you don't bring anything to the table Because you're not affirming me every day with verbally You're not making love to me every day. You're not cooking every day or you're not cleaning every day And you're not bringing money to the table that we can build this empire with And so what you'll see men do They will lead that woman And then they will go and get a woman who makes six figures or seven figures and not realize that What they called disrespect From their woman who was not earning on that level that they wanted her to And was not affirming him and praising him like that What we call disrespect What men don't realize is you're going to get even less adoration and admiration From a boss woman Because she's managing employees She's managing her career That is tiring That is draining and it's also Maybe outside of her nature But she had to do that Or learn how to do that. So her also is going to be tired She's not going to want to leave set and then come ride your pony She's not going to leave the boardroom and come ride your pony Especially when y'all have kids and she got to come feed them kids and do homework with them kids She's not going to feel all frisky After working 40 to 60 hours a week. So what happens is Then the man shifts from Warning love and that's why you hear so many men saying marriage is a business deal Because a lot of men are looking to do business with a woman Instead of looking to have real love with a woman Men want to get with a woman to be real estate moguls Want to get to with a woman to build a church empire Want to get with a woman to do a tv empire Want to get with a woman to be business moguls Instead of to have real love And to grind based on your gifts and your purpose and let the chips fall where they're made Men are aligning with women for business And so that's what's happening as well when the men leave Very rarely do you hear a man say he divorced his wife? Because she cheated A lot of times men divorce their wife because he didn't feel respected He didn't feel heard. He didn't feel understood And sometimes that is true Sometimes that is true But when you do the work that I do and you get to the underlying thing Then you see oh The woman you went and got got a brand and got money Or got a body Or got looks So was this really about disrespect And a lack of affirmation because the woman you with Is not going to respect or affirm you any more than the woman you left And the woman you with she got a bigger ego More clout More money And more men checking for her than the woman you left So if you were unhappy with the woman you left You give it five to ten years You're finna be unhappy with the woman you the went to And that's what your butt get Because the bible tells you not to divorce a woman just because you feel like it The bible tells you you can't divorce that woman unless she cheats on you In with adultery So Leave her because you bored because you tired because you don't like how she talked to you Guess what the next woman you finna get the same thing And that's what a lot of men don't understand about divorce That you're going from one problem to the next And one thing I have learned from being a coach and majority of my clients are women When I coach women It made me happy to be where I'm at Because I realized every woman got a set of problems Every woman got a set of problems and the women who ain't got no set of problems She just ain't telling me about them Because I know every human got problems And so I'm like, okay, I haven't been here 15 years. I'm learning how to deal with my wife problem I do not want to start over and have to learn how to deal with another one problem And my wife to learn how to deal with my problem I do not want to have to start over have to have a whole another woman have to learn me all over Because nine ten times it ain't gonna work And so 50 percent of marriages are failing 60 percent failing within the first five years between the ages of 21 to 25 But now the second marriage the rate of failure is even higher It's going up to 60 to 80 percent Because when you get it wrong the first time It's highly likely you're going to get it wrong the next time Because what you don't realize Is that it's going to be hard for any two humans to coexist So if you don't have the discipline and the sacrificial mindset to learn the human that you chose the first time You're not going to have that mindset on the second time and the second time you're going in bandaged and damaged and scorn and torn And jaded so you're going to have even less patience And the only thing that's going to make you hold on to that second marriage Is embarrassment You are afraid to fail twice Because you care too much about what everybody thinks So you become a prisoner in marriage number two or marriage number three Now there is a remnant of women who they will leave every man who will not be faithful to them So I coach a lot of women Who are on a second or third marriage And or a lot of women who are divorced and and when I say well, why did you get a divorce? They say well, he kept cheating. He wouldn't stop cheating That's what I hear the most. That's what I hear the most Maybe Once or twice I've heard a woman say I divorced him because he put hands on me Once or twice I've heard and this out of thousands of people Once or twice I've heard women say because I love because how he talked to me 9.9 out of 10 times a woman say that she divorced because he would not stop cheating And so I want you to understand this this what's happening in a lot of these cases And then these couples the specialists will never get out there with these lies. Oh, nothing was wrong We just decided we're better off as friends. We love each other for infinity infinity And we just best friends that everything is great. Stop that line Stop that line. You're doing that for the press. You just don't want your kid to have to heal body Stop lying Because if it because y'all with that best friends y'all would not be going through no divorce Shut the mess up and tell the truth But that's what it is. That's what becomes irreconcilable differences So listen to me. I want you to understand. I want you to be very clear The marriage is extremely hard How how well do you get along with your co-workers How well do you get along with your same gender with the opposite gender? How well do you get along with any human? Any human you got to be around You get stressed out and you get fed up But the humans that you love you are making a conscious effort And a conscious choice to love them and to see the good in them And the only ones that you don't see bad in And the only one that you don't get tired of is the ones that you don't have to be around every day But anybody you got to be around every day They're gonna tap dance on your last nerve at some point or another And that's what marriage is. It is work That's why I say Love a relationship love is a job you cannot retire from You got to wake up and show up every single day The day you you try to retire from love you're gonna lose it You're gonna begin to lose it and eventually it's gonna be gone If you get complacent, you will be replaced If you get complacent, you will be replaced. That's a little slogan I made up If you get complacent, you will be replaced So marriage is work marriage is selflessness in order to stay married. You got to die out to self And sometimes when you die out to self you take a loss What I mean by that is sometimes when you die out to self The other person appears to have the advantage But then you have to express to them and you got to express and be very clear with this person And sometimes this doesn't happen Sometimes divorce has happened because of a lack of communication But if someone would say if women would say Directly and expressly If you do not change I am going to divorce you Most men will change But a lot of women never say that They cry They argue They complain They go to therapy, but they do not say I will leave you If this behavior does not change Those words rarely exit the lips In a clear and concise way. Well, yeah, I told him I was tired of it Well, yeah, I told him he needed to change Well, yeah, I told him it hurt me. Well, yeah, he seen me cry Well, he saw me. Well, we went into therapy. Did you tell him That if he does not change you will divorce him And did you say it cool calm and collected not in the heat of the moment Not on a text message But in a time of peace After the fight After y'all don't come down on the other side of that argument Did you express that to him because you know what he has heard From his parents he heard if you don't Get right up in the wagyo behind eye What he heard from his coach if you don't get right you will not play You will be kicked off this team. What he heard from the police If you don't follow this law, you will rot in jail Men respond to ultimatums Men respond to direct communication You can't beat round the bush with a man You can't sign language and cry and mope and complain and go into a depression And expect the man to read into your depression and to read into your moping and to read into your crying And to make a change you got to look him in the eye And you got to tell him straight slap like a man I will leave your butt and i'm telling you right now I'm telling you right now and if you don't care about me If you don't love me Then try me And watch and see and i'm guaranteeing you right now on everything i love on my child head On my mama head on my brother head on every head you'd have ever met that come from my side I'm guaranteeing you right now. I will divorce you in a heartbeat If you don't tighten up and get this thing situated and what a lot of women don't understand That's the only thing a man going to respond to But he is not going to respond to screaming He's not going to respond to crying He's not going to respond to moping and complaining. He's not going to respond to counseling and therapy He's going to respond to you He's going to respond to you And guess what if he don't respond to you he just did you a favor He just showed you He just showed you And I had to tell my wife this I say if you want me to hit you you got to tell me directly You can't shrink you can't go into no no shell like a turtle I don't understand it. I'm gonna respond to that. You got to look me in the eye You got to put your big girl panties on and you got to tell me How you feeling and what you need from me Straight up And i'm a gi that because I love you and I don't want to lose you nor do I want to lose my family But the nature of a man is to conquer The nature of a man is to devour The nature of a man is to win So if a man do not respect you If a man can't feel you He's gonna run all over you He is going to run you into the ground. He's gonna hammer you Like a a hammer on a nail If you can't be and so many women come to me and coaching And they say well, how can I tell him this and how do I tell him this? I say you just tell him What you want a permission slip What what like what you what what like what you what you what you what you want a search warrant what you want a A subpoena Like you tell him The night when you sit on the couch Or you sitting in the bed you tell him You're not talking to god You're not talking to a king You're talking to a man You are talking to a human being Tell him the same way you told your mama what you don't like The same way you telling your daddy what you don't like about him The same way you telling your friends what you don't like about him Stop ripping and running around telling your business to everybody else and tell him Tell him directly Look him in the eyes and tell him straight up with your chest out Stop crying wipe your tears. He can't hear you through that slot See when a man see tears It's like it's like a a dog that is trained to sick and attack sense and fear An animal sense and fear you could back a lion down You could back a bear down Because god gave man dominion over every creature on the earth You could back anything down if it know you don't fear it But see when we when this sense an inkling of fear you finna get wore out the frame You finna get wore out the frame And so that's what a lot of people don't understand a lot of women don't understand So so a lot of time people got to get so drunk up A woman got to pull out the knife to say what she want to say She got to get the hot iron. She got to get the boiling water She got to be screaming. She got to be boo who crying She got to have her brother tell him got to have her daddy tell him God won't want me to tell him. No He ain't gonna respond to nothing but your voice Because he told you He's sleeping with you Talk to a man a man don't care about no another man telling him what to do who he don't know We barely listen to our daddy We barely listen to our daddy How many men you don't listen to the daddy my man ain't gonna listen to no another man on the inner neck Not in every facet Not when on one of the legs get open He could be listening to me right now because they know open legs in front of them But let a piece of open leg be open what i'm talking about don't matter no more He could kill less what tone and gas not talk about when i'm led open And so listen to me You got to understand this You got to understand this it's the Lila That got saps in the cut his hair That the people in the men couldn't get saps in the cut his hair Man you ain't finna get me to cut my hair play boy Oh, oh, but the Lila for the hell good monkey Got the head laying on their monkey She gonna put this thing on me That don't finna go to sleep child cut all this hell Child you have all this hell That thing was so good. Oh my goodness They didn't man ain't listen to no man Oh Honey asking me to talk to me He not listening to me long as you on your back But if you listen to me and stay off your back Then he got to listen to me. You know when men come to me. Let me tell you what happened when men come to me When men come to me on their own It's because they want me to send them That's the only time That a man hired me to grow as a man is when a woman sent him I could count on one hand out of the thousands people out of coach Men who came to me to grow as a man Every other man that hired me is for business He saw that I looked like money He didn't saw a couple things that looked like money He saw me get on a private jet He saw me with a suite at the NFL stadium. He saw me court sided the NBA He saw a Rolex or Audemars and he hired me for business No men hired me to grow as a man I could count on one hand Men who have hired me to grow as a man on his own And one of the men that did it was because he was gay And he wanted to get close to me And I sensed it in his spirit and I asked him on call number one or call number two is you and the women or men And after I asked that question he forfeited the rest of his sessions and I ain't here from no more Because I called the spirit out on You see what I'm trying to say are you Men do not respond to the voice of men unless it's about money A man ain't finna list what a man finna list to is an open set of legs And that set of legs that he want to get in Whatever she willing to put up with and whatever she won't put up with that's how he gonna adjust if he want her A man who won't change for for you. He don't want you But he will change for that next woman That's why women say, oh, I'm getting them ready for the next woman. You didn't get them ready for the next woman He was never yours You weren't trained account. You didn't get them ready for the next one. She whipped them in the shape because that's who he wanted That's who he wanted. He didn't want you He didn't know what he was looking for yet. But when he met her She didn't put up with the boy She didn't put up with the nonsense because she done been through too much But see you let him treat you like a floor mat and that's exactly what he did He wiped his feet on your head every day because you calling it submissive and you Catering to him and you doing all this and you let him treat you like crap And so guess what when a man could treat you like crap, eventually he gonna get tired of treating you like crap He's gonna leave you because men don't like weakness We'll take advantage of it and milk it and benefit from it for a while But eventually a man gonna leave a weak woman So the new girl the woman that is the rider died. She eventually gonna die Or she gonna have to ride alone because men want a woman that's gonna hold us accountable Oh, it's as hard as we push back as hard as we fight back Men want a woman that's gonna stand her ground That's gonna stand her ground and speak up mind and when a man don't adhere To the respect that she is asking for She get off feet the moving and that's all a man gonna respect The only time men come to me Is when a woman show him her back And nine out of ten times when those men come to me they do not come to change They come to manipulate me With the hopes that I will tell their woman to stay with them Because they feel like she values my voice over his voice And don't realize that she don't care nothing about me She don't care nothing about me And one time I tried it a man hadn't got into it with his woman She told him she was gonna leave he did not change So he came to me and pretended to get help And he told me verbatim You gotta tell her That i'm doing good You gotta talk to her for me You gotta tell her on my side And guess what? I did not do that But I told her but I asked her do you want to stay if he'll commit the coaching if he'll work and she said no i'm done i'm done He punched me in the nose I'm done I will never go back to him I say did he really punch you in the nose? She was like yes he punched me in the nose Because he say it was he say he didn't punch her He say they got into it it was tussling his arm hill Now he probably hit her in the nose but I know if this man intentionally hit her in the nose she wouldn't have had no nose This man know how to hit now this particular man he know how to hit She wouldn't have had a nose so he highly hit her But it wasn't something to where he tried to break her nose or tried to really Knock her all the way out, but it was enough contact for her to say Know to read And I absolutely you know is are you gonna stay I wouldn't fit in force of the state I want to finish trying to convince her to stay and I told him I say brah I call it straight down the middle. I don't know I can't be bald I'm like I can't be bald and I don't think just because you know, I know you or this and that that that I'm finna Tell this woman what you want her to hear I am here to help And whoever wrong I'ma call it out and whoever right I'ma call it out And so What happened with that? I say Okay I said okay She said uh, I'm going And I let him a brush he done. He done too much So guess what don't but see the man think that if I tell the woman To stay she gonna stay that woman don't care nothing about me She want to see Him change She want to see him grow and if he will truly grow Then she will be there and stay with him. She'll submit and all And so guess what the same man Who fake change? And then he bought other men see some men could be bald So some men who got power or money or influence They buy their pastor They'll get a path to that 10 and then they'll go do counseling with the pastor and the pastor tell the woman What the man want her to hear They'll go and pay the counselor or the coach or the therapist more money than they've ever been paid And he or she will tell that woman What he want her to hear Some men with money power and influence can get a woman Coach or therapist to be on his side See, I can't be both And so when the man come and men who fake change Guess what the woman leaves them and they next relationship They go through the same thing And the men tell the woman that they know me And they tell the woman that i'm their coach And then the woman comes to me And come to find out he doing the same thing he did in the last relationship or the last two that I knew him through And now in this relationship he end up in the same way Because men do not change for men A man is only going to change for god Or a woman And it's sad that it's that way It's sad that most men cannot change for themselves just to be a better human being That it gotta be for god or a woman And a lot of times it ain't for god I really don't see men change for god. I see men change for a woman That's what I see the most some men now when I say this i'm not talking about every single in the world now I'm talking about the majority And so this what I see what I want you to understand It's not that men are evil It's not that men are Just horrible It's spiritual warfare It's an attack on the body It's an attack on the family unit It's intentional because if you could break the man down you could break the family down Hey, I'm tired. Y'all see I'm taking a long blank. I'm tired. I gotta go Oh man in midnight man. I'm gonna feel just the serving I'm gonna watch running only think I'm burning these calories because it's 81 beats per minute But the thing is that I'm burning 600 calories only to call That apple white be lying to you boy. Oh, yeah, I don't burn calories. I forgot you do burn calories all day, but Thanks. I don't burn 600 calories I've been on here eight eight. So listen if you missed any part of this live go back to it and listen to it again Go back to it and listen to it again Listen to the whole thing so you can understand the dynamics this this live is explaining the dynamics Between men and women and why these marriages are failing and the work that need to be done And somebody say what's on and what can we do? If you are raising children Raise them the right way Get out of your way Teach them what you did not know Train them up in the way that they should go so that when they are old they will not depart from it That's what the bible says And if you are a grown woman or a grown man You we have to hold people accountable So if this message needs to be inverted for you and you need to focus on the woman in your situation versus the man Humans have to be held accountable So what women are doing today women are reinforcing toxic behavior women are reinforcing toxic mindsets And so there's women agreeing to polyamory There's women agreeing to respectful cheating There's women agreeing to absolute nonsense. There's women agreeing to sex on the first night There's women agreeing to let the man live with them letting the man use their car Loaning the man money. There's women reinforcing so much stuff That if a man don't want to change he just go to the next woman And until women wake up and stop getting mad at men giving y'all the game And stop seeing it as an angle Or as a scam or a play or a ploy until women Stop seeing it like that until Women stop looking at it like oh, you just telling them what to do. Oh, you just all you want to talk to the weather You don't want to talk to the weather Until y'all get the knowledge and this is the thing about women. This is the problem with women And it's equally just as worse as men It meaning So many women that hired me for coaching Tell me they've been watching my video for years And they they has hired me for coaching because they did the exact opposite of what I said do That made me want to charge double I'm finna charge charges double. I'm like man, you wasted my time then Like my goodness like you grown. I won't be talking no child That's what I expect from a child now I'm up here giving you the game I'm giving you the whole game What you mean you slept with him on the first night? Come on now I talked to that in kindergarten of this channel What you mean you let him move in with you? I talked to that in first grade of this channel What you mean you loaned him money I'm like come on now What in the world he even cheated on you two three times He refused to stop talking to this other woman Okay, what you still there for? I'm like come on It's too many men in the world It's too many men in the world To be reinforcing nonsense So let the man know That that is unacceptable And you're not going to be there to tolerate it Make it expressly clear Make sure he understand it through and through When he try to get up and walk away when he try to tell you to shut up when he try to tell you Okay, I get it express it three more times And say I know how men are I know how you think And I know you think That I'm bluffing Please don't make me show you If that man If you mean what you say If you mean what you say my wife taught me that today Because it was something I was doing in business And she say do not put that line right there Unless you were 100 meaning So if you want to deal If you want if you want to deal with this right here Be in the reaction Don't put that and if you put that Make sure you really buy it So listen, don't y'all come on here Taking my tactics And you ain't really bought that life No, come on here And then hear what i'm telling you and then you go tell this man that this behavior that he exhibited Is not Acceptable and you will divorce him or you will break up with him if y'all not married Don't go say that to that man And then that man try you Because one thing about me is we read people One thing about me and we read people We know when you bluff him and we know when you're serious A man knowing you ain't bought it A man know it when he got you So don't go out here running off at the mouth The one who sold the wolf who cried wolf now Because when you tell that man that you're a lead Someone's gonna try you Because that's just how me and are just like how your son tried you you didn't tell your son over and over Know what they're doing he keep trying you that's how men are your male students your male clients Every man, you know push buttons and try you Because that's how we are So when you get that ultimatum you better be by that life because if you ain't by that life You gonna lose all respect he gonna lose all respect for you When he try you again And all you do a yell cry and stay All your respect gone All your respect gone It's a route It's a route you'll never get the love from him that you want It's done. It's over with But me told Men don't respect men do not respect weakness Men do not respect weakness In in no sense of the word A man got big egos Men will push you all the way that's why people come to me for coaching Because the woman say she was fed up or the woman telling him she tired But he will push her all the way until she leave And then try to beg her back And sometimes what men don't realize is that that last push That last straw Was the straw that broke the camera back and ain't no coming back from it You should have listened to it when she told you So if you a man who happened to just tune in And you got a girlfriend or a wife and you ain't doing right and she is expressing to you That you at the end of the road she expressing to you that she's fed up. She tired I'm telling you my boy. You better listen to her because when a woman fed up It ain't nothing you could do about it. You hear me? To let them talk about it You hear me? When a woman fed up it's a wrap So you better tread lightly and you better really read them signs now Because that's how a lot of men die. They can't tell when their ops done playing with them They can't tell when their ops done playing with them and they keep poking about poking about And their ops come and get them That's the same thing some men can't read the signs So listen read the sign now Read I know I I know my wife fed up I know I don't use all my grace. I know everything I know anything I can get away with I don't already got away with it's done. Now. I got to be on a straight narrow So I really I realized I've been a straight narrow rest of my life rest of my life and I remember We was going through we was struggling and I used to always take that tactic that abuse of tactical Threatening divorce. Well, I'm I'm I'm back done And we we was you know, we growing learning You learning a human and she said one day You're gonna mess around and say that and you're gonna get it I'll say all right, she never said that I'll say so the fact that she said I'll say all right Okay, my wife ain't no bluffer now She ain't no bluffer and she don't say too much and she don't say nothing that she can't back up So when she go to say stuff, I was okay All right, because I know who I'm dealing with I know who I'm dealing with and some women Some with cotton candy so a man don't respect you So hey, God bless y'all. I'm him must get the pole cat So when I do this my body be releasing, you know, all are different You know, I mean Speaking You know how somebody body go to internally Inflame or internally heating up When that spirit get to move and so I need to go in here hop in this shower and watch that halon Go ahead and Get on the bed And and yes, somebody say I got a great wife, but see she she see the difference is this is what people gotta understand Some people look old tone it up ladies out of midnight here on the video But our life is different. So me and her had our netflix and chill in the middle of the day And so now i'm working But we was netflix and chilling for two three hours in the middle of the day and while we was doing that I pushed one of my calls my client if she was on here to tell you I pushed one of my calls back Because we was in having such a good time watching this show. I didn't want to cut it short To end that so so if I hang out within the middle of the day I work at night If i'm working during the day Then I hang out with her at night. So so so I say that to say This why we have to touch our nose When we're looking at somebody else's business Because people have to do what work for them So when I used to work in the group home with the developmentally disabled Men one of my clients that was in the house He had a saying touch your nose He's a touch your nose And my wife always tell him I need to pay him royalties because I'd be using the man line This why we have to touch our nose Because a lot of time we on the outside looking in we trying to read into somebody marriage and we trying to speak problems on their marriage and we trying to See what's going on with their marriage and and be wrong is two left shoes Be wrong as an upside down gps and just got all the discernment and be just the loud and wrong One time Ply said that by me. He subliminally tweeted me Because I tweeted the worst thing you could be is uh guilty by association Because at Ply I added them because he had an album called goon affiliated And I say that is done Why would you be affiliated with goons because when they go down you going down And he and he tweeted and he did tweet it after that the worst thing you could be is loud and wrong And meet me or did for that too. I be I used to call them rappels I he did that to meet me or tweeted for about one time if you ain't god don't say s to me Hey god bless y'all We'll talk soon And uh, make sure you're gonna visit tonigasacademy.com That's where I put my that's my serious face over there Now that's the corporate side of me tonigascademy.com over here. I'll be cutting up a little bit over there That's where it's just the lessons probably 30 courses on there And some of them is replayed from live zoom calls So the next time we're gonna have a live zoom. I'll let y'all know but hey god bless you and we'll talk soon I'm gonna go and make sure to see if my wife's sleeping. She's sleeping. I'm gonna leave her sleep All right, go ahead I'm going here. She's asleep Tomorrow i'm gonna tell her where I work. I went to work because when I text you about what I text you about Felt like you curved me, but that's why I went to work Hey god bless you