 that people tend to infantilize a lot, their autistic partner, like infantilization being treating them like the younger are treating them like they're not an adult, you know, and that's that's something that I've that I've had to advocate for in different different scenarios in different circumstances quite a few times. It's not inherently something that's always bad. It could be that the other person does a lot of the organizing of things and a lot of the cooking and cleaning and things like that. And for me, I like to have that aspect. I like to have some level of control over my life because if we were to break up, then I'd be left on my own with all these skills I haven't practiced.