 Hey guys, Mary here with the 21 Convention with James. He did his talk a little bit ago and wanted to get more footage We already talked to you once and we want to get more of it And you were talking about date planning. Now, is that really important or does that seem kind of fake? I don't know whether you should plan your date. How important is that? That's a great question Most women I would expect want a guy who sweeps them off their feet That's what's in all the romance novels and what most girls dream about If you're nervous and you're not that confident The way to do that is to pay a lot of attention to the experience you give a girl when you meet her for the first time When you're going to date with a girl, it's like a job interview It's like a job interview for in many girls cases is this guy the one if she's going to date with him Now if it's just seamless enjoyable romantic fun with lots of times to get to know each other and find out What each other's interests are then it's a very good chance It's going to work from the man's perspective of means it ends up in bed and from the woman's perspective Often means it ends up in bed and it's a really beautiful experience. So any time you have, you know, even 10 seconds of Silence and uncomfortableness the girls like oh, she's just looking for a reason to um Say no Like men really look for a reason to say yes and women look for a reason to say no Most women there's a Few guys that they just won't sleep with there's um a lot of guys they might and there's only a few guys that go Yeah, I want to sleep with him and you know, that's like Mick Jagger Robbie Williams and a few other you know Brad Pitt type people Not the regular guy So what you want to do is you want to convert as many maybes to yeses as you can and the best way to do That is to plan out your date Okay, and it's the best way to do that when you're planning on your date with some honesty on it Okay, yeah, um, I think my speech was entitled the ten reasons men fail with women. I Rushed the last few but I didn't fit in honesty and to be honest. That's probably the number one I just I know a lot of people disagree with me particularly in the dating seduction community But you're just not going to get girls Adder about your level If you try to deceive them one of the biggest themes of my talk was men are stupid we are really stupid We have so little intuition and intelligence. It's not funny women, you know There's so much more in tune than us and if you try to fool them You know, you're just slitting your wrists And it's not just your chance of getting a date with them or even getting them to bed The best way to make a woman fall in love with you is to fuck her better than anyone else ever has I it's you know, it's so important and You can't do you can't do kinky things like tie them up and all this I won't say too much now But you can't fulfill all those sexual fantasies if they don't trust you because we'll never become that vulnerable to you so if your first step in seducing a woman is Misrepresenting yourself for telling an outright lie Even if you do get a girl such as self-esteem that you end up in bed with her It's just never gonna amount to anything so and Yeah, honesty so honesty honesty honesty honesty I should say in case you've all got a mate who lies to women and tricks them If you've slept with a huge number of girls and you're really good at this, you know, there's plenty of examples who are dishonest There's plenty of guys who are dishonest to girls and it works Sometimes those girls have slightly low self-esteem Sometimes the guy's like a nine or a ten and he's sleeping with a lot of eight It's just so you can say how many girls you'd slept with so like most rules are exceptions to it But for most the guys who have tuned into 21 convention who want to improve their lives with women Just try never ever to lie to them. It'll be you know in the long one I'm the best thing you ever do and then you try and integrate that honesty philosophy in your brand Which is social coaching and you have mostly female coaches I understand and just you as a male coach So how does that work? You obviously like the females and you have them working with you What is the philosophy of your company? Our philosophy is we don't we're not really game or pick up I mean last time I won that stand was like six years ago And it's because I'd have to pay 250 euros to get the room again I didn't want to do that because I was leaving in the morning. Anyway, I'm just not into one night stands Most the girls I've slept with have been above average intelligence most them high intelligence Must have been sweet with good values. That's not I'm not about I'm not a pick-up artist I don't need to sleep with a thousand women. I've slept plenty, but I don't need a thousand I just want to help guys You know depending on good looking now they might meet You know meet date and have sex with and get to know have sex with three four five six ten times You know 20 girls Preferably 40 or 50 and then once you've got that sample size Sorry, that's not very nice way to put it once you've got that experience You pick the best one and you you you're almost guaranteed of having a wonderful wonderful girlfriend And the thing about that is she knows you're a man. She knows if She's a bad period or she has a bad time at work And she comes home and consistently takes it out on you you've got options Because when you go out to dinner with her and there's a cute waitress who's Checking you out and you hold her eye contact and flirt a tiny bit with her while you're holding your girlfriend's hand under the table You're sending a message that you know, hey And I'm one of the huge takeaways of my speeches women do not respect men Who can't go out and meet date and sleep with women of their quality. So yeah, please really That's one of the big takeaways and there's so many wealthy successful Even you know just decent income guys who just ends up marrying the hottest girl they could get and you know It just ruined both their lives and as I said Much more than half the time. It's not the girls fault. It's because the guy wasn't a man to begin with So then what's the typical client that you would get is it different than normal people? Is it if you find that they're people with a real passion to learn? I Tend to most our clients are absolutely wonderful. I mean we have one difficult one a year We have a lot of guys who are nervous and Friday night is a struggle They tend to be good people they tend to be quite a bit above average intelligence We have a lot of business owners. We get on a lot of white collar professionals And we also tend to get guys who are a bit more, you know, I want to travel I want to see plays by Shakespeare. I want to read great novels. I'm not just sort of sitting home From the TV and just wait patiently to die. They don't really are market We have people who are willing to improve themselves and really work hard after bootcamp, which is where you know the guys who go from Virgin to dating models having threesomes in 15 months and one of them's done that a few of them A lot of them are having threesomes now as we've got three bisexual trainers It's quite easy to learn how to get other bisexual girls if you're trained by them Yeah, so my approach to dating is You've got to develop your social skills Hopefully to quite a high level and a couple of clients I coached, you know, five years ago now You know in some cases millionaires and other cases, you know being promoted out of sight social skills social intelligence being able to Being able to see what's going on in a situation and knowing how to respond So crucial. I don't think you're really ever going to catch up with most women, but say Say you've got ten times more social intelligence than the average guy, but you've only got you've only got three times more than me That should all the things equal make you much more attracted to me than the average guy So social skills social intelligence and just really understanding women pick away beautiful women thing and particularly about dating and seduction So that's a three cause of our philosophy social skills social intelligence understanding women In this thing I last question you have a lot of what girls like which is conversation skills Did you always have this or did it was it something you had to learn and do teach that to other people that's I often say that my course we could sell 70% of it as a business skills for a business skills course because if you go to a Business conference or a networking function if you're one of the one guy out of 20 or 30 who meets most the people in the room has a little bit of small talk with them finds out whether they're interesting to you No, okay. I was lovely to meet you might see you at the drinks talks to someone else And you do that ten times you might find a person who's going to quadruple your income And that's been the experience of many our client of our clients with the social skills have been taught and again at the risk of sounding conceited You don't get that by learning lines and you know trying to manipulate women It's it's all about it's initially all about social skills and which includes touch and eye contact and try to be seductive Fantastic so you've just spoken at the 21 convention you'd like it you told me you'd love it and Where can they find you if they love you and want to be coached by you if you go to socialcoach.com and Lovely Rebecca and I we just spent a good part of last month Shooting a series of coaching videos which gives you an idea what we do at the boot camp We've we've given a 12 part training program. It teaches you from Opening conversation What to do on a date how to touch that sort of thing everything up to what you do just before you take a girl by the hand and Take her to your bedroom and we've done it with four or five of her female trainers and Yeah, there's just one professional model in there. There's a there's a girl who's a very highly paid IT consultant Who just works with me because she doesn't get that much money that she's loved doing it she's so passionate about it and But also we got a couple of girls who graduated psychology So you get to see guys approaching them and and just I was coaching them on what to do So I think that's one of the best pieces of free giveaway that I'm aware of Fantastic well, I go to your website I like it and I'm sure you guys will like it and this is Mary from the 21 convention see you next time 21 convention I know you haven't spoken here before how are you finding the group of guys and you know The architect Anthony dream Johnson Um, I absolutely love it. Um, James Marshall who's spoken here a number of times Has said really good things about it and I've looked at sort of the branding and online. I think it's great But actually coming here. Um, I'm just so glad Anthony is in the world. I think he's done more for this Dating pickup seduction industry And you know almost anyone else he's made it something you'll be proud of he's brought in Fitness training business entrepreneurship. I'm nutrition It's something a man can come and be proud of and see the 21 convention show up on his website It's not pick up strippers and stuff. Um, yeah, I can't speak highly enough of him. I can't fucking believe that guy's 24 I don't know what he's gonna be when he's 40 the next Tony Robbins or something and um, he's just Again, I don't know him really well, but in the the hours I've spent with him Just so much integrity so much honesty so much passion so much commitment. Um, yeah Donate money to his website That guy deserves to be really really rich because Every guy I've talked to here has just been so so happy he came. Um, so yeah, um Yeah, vote Anthony for president. Um, he's doing wonderful wonderful things for the world and he's got More calm than any 24 year old I've met so go Anthony I love why he started this whole convention in the first place He Loved these speakers and he wanted a way to get them all together. He wanted a way to get everybody together So he could enjoy him He did it very selfishly and and it turned out to be this fantastic thing because he wanted everybody together So that he could see him He could gain so much knowledge and experience and then it just went out to everybody It just shows what happens when you do something You know, I want to build a car because I want it to run really really well And then you build the most fabulous car in the world and that's what he's done here And it's all come out of just this fantastic sense of self and that's I think what you get here Just this fantastic sense of self So bye guys