 George Bruno at the 21 summit in Orlando, Florida. The year is 2020 We're having a great event and I'm talking with Steve the Dean Williams in the studio today. Welcome Steve Always a pleasure, man. Absolutely. How's it going here so far? Wonderful as always Anthony Jonathan just kicking butt the studio the people the atmosphere is a lot of positive energy and And I'm this is one of my best points parts is to sit down with the great George. Oh, thank you. Thank you You've been on two stages already, right? Yes, sir. Yes You spoke to the men at the 21 convention and the men in the patriarch convention Let's talk about each one of those speeches start with patriarch. What did you talk to them about? Well, I let them know that you should not walk out your door looking for a relationship Or marriage you you need to walk out of your door just going about your day And then when you meet a woman, it's a process I always like to teach processes and and not only teach processes I also wanted them to understand how to manage a relationship with the woman Don't look for marriage. Look for compatibility You look for things in her and just because she might be a different religious Religion or a different political affiliation Doesn't mean you still can't live with her be with her because it's more about the man leading her and her understanding the last name in the ring Yeah When it comes to fatherhood, how does that apply to fatherhood? Patriarchy and leadership in the home. Well, it applies because she's she's really looking at I'm I see a woman as an application well now again for me I was ready to look for a wife and I wanted kids That's why I kind of retired from the the things that we're doing before So I knew what I wanted But I wanted a process to say okay when I met her or met the mother without a married the woman I married Not the mother the woman I married Okay, tell me about schooling Uh a pta meetings. We have to have discussions about halloween christmas discipline religion All the things couples don't talk about now. They just meet and get married or meet and live together without Setting a standard or understanding of okay You're allowed to have your expectations and I have mine now We have to meet in the middle and if there are some disagreements we could if we can iron these things out We can but if we can't we just have to realize that marriage counseling or anything is not going to fix it So as the man you have to understand I'm going to lead you I'm going to lead our family And that's what I'm just teaching the guys to be leaders and say okay You know, this is what I want for my sons. This is what I want for my daughters But this is also what I want for my wife So my sons and daughters can see mommy and daddy interacting So the girls can see what kind of man to look for and the boys can see what kind of woman look for Do women find it harder to follow? Do you think Like you want to be a leader and you need a woman to follow your lead I like to say follow your lead Do women resist that or do they welcome that depends on the man They will welcome a man and as a leader just like in the just like in nature If they see a man, they will follow him because they know their security There's a certainness there's dominance and there's there's somebody that's looking for and protecting and going for it now the average guy I'm not going to say he can't find a woman But it's going to be on her terms when she realizes he's not really a man in her eyes when he's a passive Emotional apologizing it's not to say that they won't have a relationship But it'll just be on her terms meaning that she may want a child She may want to get married but the marriage is not really going to work itself out because She wants to be led. She doesn't want to be the leader and she's emotional Which women are but she doesn't need another emotional male to be part of a household All right, you mentioned three things passive emotional and apologizing. Let's talk about the passive man What's the problem with the passive man? He has no direction. He has no compass See we Grab all those and say this you out of the you're either the father in the house Or the father of the house or excuse me the man of the house or the man in the house See if you're a man in the house, that's where the passive comes in. That's where happy wife happy life Don't make mom mad. Oh, no, son. Don't worry about it. I'm on the couch. You know mom's upset, you know Just because dad's in the house doesn't mean he's a man And a lot of young men may see dad getting walked over yelled screamed at by mom, which again I'm all about drama free. I I treat women well But respect my name because that's what you're going after So when you're passive, you're not really Dictating guiding you're just waiting for life to happen. Hmm A man who is emotional. How is that a liability or a bad thing? It's a bad lie. Okay I always tell men if you want to cry Get in the car Go to the countryside pull over and boohoo. Just get it all out Never let us see your elder commercials. Never let them see you sweat A woman doesn't need to see a man at his weakest moment Now I can see amongst men a man can feel bad and things like that, but a woman needs a rock She needs to see king, you know, she needs to see the man as a as an authoritative person that says, okay I'm going to lead us even into the storm and the storm may knock us down But I'm not going to cry I'm not going to complain about it And I don't want you to see because I don't want you to worry about me on that level Now as a woman you can cry and all that and I'm going to be the rock for you And I will hold you and I will care for you and I will love you and I will do what I need to do But I need to be a solid rock So if I need to cry or I have a problem I want to go to another man that I trust or I will go and cry in a quiet area Wipe my tears put my spine and my balls back on one Go back home and be the king that she knows me to be In the third thing an apologizing man. That's not a good thing. Is it no it's um Well, um, baby, I don't need you to baby. Uh, I said no. Oh, baby. I'm sorry. Uh, I I didn't mean to hurt your feelings I mean, it's just baby. You got to understand I always have what I call the four s's and I talked about it submit serve sex and And what I mean by sh is not her being quiet is that I have my own time. There are things that I like to do and those things are my things You're not to take those things from me. You can be a part of those things But don't question what I like because those are the things that made you like me in the first place Those are the things that made you like me in the first place. So When I say sh you've got to understand what I am Don't question what I'm doing if I'm watching the football game with friends And you want me to take the trash out I'm going to tell you look I'm watching the game. I'll get it later. Now. She may pout and she may get mad but passive or Apologizing Guys, give me a second. Oh, baby. Why are you mad at me? Oh the track? Oh, well, okay. I'll do it She doesn't want that. She wants someone to say listen I love you. I respect you but please Don't try to make me look like a a female dog because don't try to make me look weak. Yeah In front of people Don't make me look weak in my home Because We should have an understanding I love you, but I do love you enough to check you at the door and the behavior I'm not going to yell and scream or grab or do any harm to you. But if I'm watching the game with you We're watching the game I don't mind you coming in george. Would you like something to drink? Uh, can I get you guys something to drink? But don't come in testing my manhood around other men or in my domain Maybe you gotta leave. I'm watching the game I'm not gonna apologize to that and when you're at or said I'll walk in and say listen Don't do that again And I'm gonna tell you why because I'm spending quality time with somebody You have all my time and if you need me for the kids if you if you need something just ask I'll go but don't test or challenge my manhood In front of other men. I don't a man should never be seen weak by another man, especially in his home and his castle These three things are almost to me. That's like the real pandemic right here the passive emotional and apologizing man but There's no medication for that What what does a man need to? Cure himself of this virus. He must go against the current He must what I call die every day and I mean by dying is evolving he must Be sad. I always tell guys 1159. I'm sad it's the saddest day of my life because I've got to get going to the person I love admire stalk and that's me Because I don't who I am today Is not who I was yesterday Because I'm always growing I'm always evolving as a man and the cure to those things Or the man understanding what the man is. What am I to me not to before I can be something to you I must be something to myself. Yeah, and until I know what I am I can't tell you what what I am to you because I don't know me and a lot of men They don't know themselves. So what they do is because of mom A lot of guys will take the ability court out of mom and they'll look for a man on youtube or someone like that To attach the ability court to that reminds them of mom So when somebody's saying something about that youtuber, they come as a defense because attack on him is attack or what mom So the first thing is cutting that ability court. You must make that cut and say to yourself, you know what? I need to know my definition of me And as I said before I need to learn what respect is I need to fall in respect. I'll tell you like before I need to fall in respect before I fall in love You have to be your own guru. Yes Yeah, you you have to be your guru and we'll see what a lot of guys do is they look I call it looking out of the window If you look out of the window the day or the night, you'll see an image of yourself But it's not a full image of yourself It's a light image of yourself But who's ever on the other side of the window can see you as who you really are You see a man should always look in the mirror Look at himself to be the guiding compass to who he is Understand why you are but in order to cure that you must learn how to own it Stand by it You must know why you're saying and doing what you're doing and you must call die for with and I don't mean die as a death but This I'm going to hold fight this position and it's in everything you do and that's a problem with a lot of men They say things and do things and they don't even know why they're doing it. They're not even calculate that way Wasn't there a song called the man in the mirror? I'm Michael Jackson. I'm in in America. Yeah Men are not real big on admitting they're wrong. Are they they usually wait till there's a crisis Until they make a change It's okay. You see We're all going to be wrong We're not perfect. We're all going to mess up I will be perfect in your eyes But I may be a mess up on the back end But even if I mess up, I'm going to hold it As if I've got everything under control because if I lose control in front of my woman She's going to start to lose control herself and not fear securing me Even if I do the wrong thing She's again, never see your sweat. She's not I've done terrible not terrible But I've done the wrong things and made wrong and bad decisions But in those decisions I will go back because again, you can always fix those things You can always come back around and fix those things But one thing I always do is I make sure that she's taken care of I would love to read between the lines and that's something men don't do is when it comes to marriages and relationships I I don't mind. I mean, I'm the guy that will go 30 minutes to go get her favorite apricot bread Uh saturday morning. I'll sneak off Get her drive 30 miles in get her favorite apricot bread because you know what she had a bad day or or If she's tired, I will get dinner taken care of even though she wants to do that I will take over and do that now if I mess that up, of course, I'll clean it up But I'm never going to say sorry for the moves that I make. I'm sorry to myself I'll make the adjustments myself, but she will never see me sweat You work with a lot of men. Yes in your line of work Who is the ideal client for you The person that is stuck on this hypergamous Going your own way Purpose it's the young man that has no idea who he is He thinks he knows who he is But he's more emotional and feminine and he doesn't realize he's emotional and feminine now I take anybody in but I want them to understand the person that wants to learn how to think for himself That's what I want. But it's uh It's kind of like a do-it-yourself like those do-it-yourself tv shows They buy the house. They want the cosmetic. Okay, so I want to spend a hundred thousand dollars on a cosmetic I want it to look beautiful nice kitchen Nice bedroom, but once you tear down the walls They're structural damage and sometimes you've got to cut the cosmetics to fix the structural And that's what I have to do. I've got to pull out all the Crying complaining or lost guys first. I've got to do structural work See everybody wants the fun part. They want the cosmetics. They want the women. They want the life, but They forget their structural And that's what I want. I'm not surface. Most people are surface level. I've been over doing this for over 30 years So I've seen it all I've seen the puas come in and making where fingernail polish and Goggles and all that I've seen what we're seeing today And a lot of these young men Have mom issues. They trust the youtubers, but they're still the same person because there's no structural replacement, man There's so much we can talk about but you have A website that people can go to. Yes. Tell the audience where they can find you They can go to www.TheManMindSet.com And when you get there, I tell you two things Don't trust me. Don't believe me see it for yourself because george. I'm always saying to them Don't listen to my message Don't worry about the messenger become the message and once you become the message you will begin to learn yourself more george That's what i'm all about excellent steve the dean williams teaching men who are emotional passive apologizing To kind of man up a little bit be the man in your home What did you say be the man of the house not the man No, be a man it be the man in the house Not of the house because see when you're of the house that means that you're there But you're not running the show got you when you're in the house Wait, you're confusing me now Don't be the man. He was right. Don't be the man in the house. Be the man of the house. See that's why white chocolate's gotta be going to be right What I love about the message is this is that so many men have They're operating their life not knowing the power that they have and you basically help men You inject power into them that they never thought that they had George they've already had real quick. They already have the power. They don't know it. I always tell men they're a winner When mom met dad What they had in them got them to the egg. There was no youtube no instagram no facebook No hypergamy not going your own way. No purpose. It was just them getting to the egg Something happened along the way where they forgot who they were and they that feeling they called fear They named it wrong They that feeling I always tell guys the feeling they have is the lion That's trying to come out of them and say get out of my way. Let me lead you don't suppress it Embrace it. So yeah, I'm trying to get them to embrace what they call fear because that is something that got them to the egg man There is a lion inside every man That wants to get out and steve the dean williams Can help you do that Thank you. I'm always it's always been a pleasure, man. I love this guy the best in the biz